N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD

DelusionIncarnateXD · 2025-06-14T04:12:11+00:00

People way over complicate why men are unattracted to high n counts.

I'll repeat IMO Stacy with high n > Becky with low n

BUT I'm a straight man. Dick is gross to me. I don't want to do anything with other men's dicks. If dick touched her, dick is gross, she is now gross.

It has nothing to do with insecurity lol.

CleanPerception581 · 2025-06-13T21:11:32+00:00

How is inexperienced men's preference for inexperienced women keeping them single when experienced women don't want them?

Cultural-Ad-8486 · 2025-06-13T16:06:56+00:00

I probably have to say again that it doesn't work to try to attack someone you don't like because they are "insecure".

Being "insecure" is fine and completely correct if the situation you find yourself in literally makes you feel that way.

It's just a natural mechanism of your psyche and it allows you to correctly assess your strengths and abilities depending on the situation. If you don't have this, then in nature you would be dead.

Super-Ad-8731 · 2025-06-13T14:48:15+00:00

women are free to not care about bodycount, men are free to continue caring about bodycount. in fact, i encourage all women here to not care about their future/current partner's bodycount.

the ideal couple is a high n man and a low n woman. legbearded, low value sluts are not worth committing to.

ThatBitchA · 2025-06-12T23:07:07+00:00

So....what's your number of sexual partners?

Do you expect your romantic partners to have more or less than you?

PurplePillDebate-ModTeam · 2025-06-12T10:17:23+00:00

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Lift_and_Lurk · 2025-06-11T18:09:10+00:00

This thread should be renamed “the debate over insecurity from inexperience” because no one’s even talking about numbers or experiences in this N-count discussion thread anymore

Cultural-Ad-8486 · 2025-06-11T06:15:07+00:00

It's funny, but in this discussion, even the "lack of self-confidence" argument is not significant.

In most situations, lack of self-confidence is a completely rational and correct feeling. It is formed when circumstances tell you that the situation you are in is a losing one.

When I cross a mountain river and in front of me there is only a flimsy old suspension bridge without half of its boards, it doesn't matter if I am unsure of the bridge or of my skills to quickly and confidently cross it.

The bridge is shit anyway, so I will try to find another way.

jay303x · 2025-06-11T06:10:09+00:00

Let's be real for a second.

Slutty women have all that sex because it's the only time they receive male validation. And why's that? Well, they never got it from their father and they're not attractive enough to get it from men they aren't fucking (and studies confirm this- the more attractive the woman, the less likely she is to have a high n).

And men are really supposed to believe she'll stop that validation seeking because she's in a relationship? Lol. Lmao, even.

Remember: a promiscuous woman's place is in the casual sex zone, NOT a relationship. And that's okay! We all have our roles to play. ♥️

MikeRadical · 2025-06-11T05:18:48+00:00

Coming from somebody who had to overcome caring about it, I can assure you its based in insecurity. It can be really difficult to see that so I understand why that gets dismissed.

The hypothetical situations people leave in the comments are always at opposite ends of the extremes and are kind of useless. But in reality, under normal circumstances with normal (to an extent) numbers, its based in insecurity.

Embarrassed-Gap-3373 · 2025-06-11T04:09:50+00:00

Every time I’ve dated someone with a casual or promiscuous sexual past, I ended up getting cheated on. So I’ve decided to stop pursuing serious relationships with women who have that kind of history.

I know this’ll probably get me labeled insecure, bitter, or worse but from my perspective, it’s just a pattern I’ve noticed and a boundary I’ve chosen to set.

I get that people can change, and the past doesn’t always predict the future, but when it comes to emotional risk, I feel like I'm just choosing not to play with fire anymore. It’s like everyone around me is trying to hand me a snake and saying, “Go on, pet it. It probably won’t bite.” And when I hesitate, it’s, “What’s wrong? You scared of snakes? Insecure much?”

I don’t hate anyone. I’m not angry. I just know what I’ve personally experienced, and I’m adjusting accordingly. People make decisions about compatibility based on all sorts of criteria. Lifestyle, religion, ambition, physical attraction so why is it suddenly taboo if someone's criteria is informed by patterns that have been experienced in the past?

Is that really insecurity or is it just learning?

ThatBitchA · 2025-06-11T00:12:02+00:00

They always say something about "consequences."

I've yet to see or experience any consequences from enjoying sex.

If a man isn't interested in me because I've had sex, that doesn't really feel like a consequence. Feels like a win-win for everyone.

ViolentShallot · 2025-06-10T16:43:36+00:00

There's something beautiful about this topic:

Promiscuous women feel there are no consequences. Very few men will say "nah I'm not going stable with you because you are promiscuous"

Why go through that fight?

You fuck for a while, you keep her in the situationship zone, you keep saying you don't know what your life will look like in a couple months, and when you find someone worth committing to, you move on.

So you will find plenty of women that really, really don't see any correlation between having an n-count nearing triple digits and the fact "no men want to commit nowadays".

It's cute.

PSXSnack09 · 2025-06-10T12:06:04+00:00

is curious how everytime someone criticizes this preference they give the most insanely insecure lashouts, bad faith arguments and double standards ever rather than an actual argument while calling everyone else insecure, could use a bit of self reflection perhaps?. I dont see whats the deal though, collecting a lot of partners is not conventionally attractive just like being fat isnt, yet landwhales can still find partners usually with other fatos too, and someone who sleeps around doesnt really wants a conventional relationship anyways, so whats the problem here? 🤣

the only undisputable one is the fact that if a guy cares about this then he should hold himself to the same standard otherwise is hypocrisy

Ultramega39 · 2025-06-09T19:14:55+00:00

As someone that does care about N count, I do find it interesting how people view caring about this kind of stuff as being a symptom of insecurity rather than as wanting someone who has shared values and lifestyles. Like for example, if I had to choose between someone who:

Has had sex on the first date and is open to doing it again, goes out to nightclubs often, drinks alcohol frequently, is a extrovert.

Or someone who:

Is not willing to have sex for the first year of a relationship, goes to the library to read books, drinks Starbucks coffee frequently, is an introvert.

I'm choosing the second girl because she's more similar to me and more compatible with my current lifestyle than the first girl.

Popeoath · 2025-06-09T19:00:41+00:00

There is nothing wrong with being promiscuous.

There is nothing wrong with being chaste.

There is everything wrong with criticizing chaste and promiscuous people for not wanting to date eachother. God forbid partners align on personal perspectives.

fiftypoundpuppy · 2025-06-09T18:11:19+00:00

The men who fuck the most care the least, and the men who fuck the least care the most

Perfectly balanced 😌

ThatBitchA · 2025-06-09T16:30:22+00:00

One of the funniest parts of this recurring conversation is how a woman becomes promiscuous.

The fan fiction about a promiscuous woman cracks me up. It's always the most unhinged and way out of left field.

attendquoi · 2025-06-09T15:44:00+00:00

If you care about body count but didn't date in high school, you need to get better at anticipating the future.

Cultural-Ad-8486 · 2025-06-09T14:37:40+00:00

Can someone explain to me why the only answer to male sexual insecurity (like about penis size) is "improving your sexual skills"?

It is always assumed that a physically gifted guy is always an imbecile who knows nothing about sex and is not interested in pleasure from his partner.

This strangely reminds me of the fact that many of these people are outraged by the fact that "nice guys" often refer to "bad boys" as freaks, although they may be nice.

Isn't it similar?

Muscletov · 2025-06-09T13:53:33+00:00

Men should collectively stop justifying themselves about their n count standards. They here, they're valid and the gender who proudly rejects us for the smallest shit has no right to question our preferences.

It's even stupider when you consider that no one questions a woman who avoids players, womanizers, jocks and the like.

Motor-Buy-6991 · 2025-06-09T09:07:35+00:00

Back here once again to tell gen z men that care about body counts to just give up. Women have simultaneously told each other that body count doesn’t matter and that any man who cares is insecure and it’s ok to lie to them. An insecure man is worthless and his feelings don’t matter, “just man up bro.”

The funniest part is the whole “body count doesn’t matter” goes out the window when a woman finds out a man has been with another man before, even if he was just curious. Women are giant hypocrites but it doesn’t matter because what insecure men think doesn’t matter because we are worthless in the first place. “Man up” and have a delusional confidence when a woman finally settles for you in you in your 30s.

Spicycloth · 2025-06-08T23:44:08+00:00

It makes sense for a man or woman who doesn't participate in casual sex to hold the same standard for a potential partner. As in, compatibility is more than just values, it can also be about lifestyles. If a person only wants to have sex in a committed relationship it would be in their best interest to find a like minded individual who believes the same. cultural ad 8486 is right when he said that n counts give info on peoples values. High n count is usually taken as a sign a person does not view sex as something confined to a committed relationship. This is perhaps the best justification, i can think of, for having an n count preference.

jay303x · 2025-06-08T23:42:20+00:00

Weekly reminder:

Men who pretend n count doesn't matter have no self respect. They'll take whatever scraps they get; they've never had a choice between high value women (low n) and low value women (high n) anyway
Women who screech that n count shouldn't matter are just mad that their actions might have consequences

Thanks for reading!

Popeoath · 2025-06-08T13:06:32+00:00

A concern over N Count is pure insecurity. There is literally nothing to it except the fear that you won't measure up.

"Oh, but they view sex in a casual way and not an expression of true love." - Stop masterbating. That kind of pleasure is purely for your partner and not something that should be taken lightly, right? Or is it actually just a big rush of chemicals that feels awesome?

"They have an increased risk of STI's." - You should ask all of your partners for a test if they're not a virgin. After all, an STI can be passed on by anyone at all. In fact, the most rampant communities are the elderly.

"It won't feel special with me if she's fucked other guys." - You're worried you can't satisfy her, its not rocket science, we're not actually a different species from Venus... if you can't satisfy a woman then you're clearly lacking mentally, it's pretty simple, we all know where the clitoris is and you should be able to pick up on verbal/physical cues that you're doing something right.

Sex is a perfectly normal human experience, you can fuck whoever you want as long as everyone involved is enthusiastically consenting to it. If you're concerned about the number of partners your GF has had then don't date her, it's really simple. It's not her fault you're jealous of her past because you weren't able to do the same.

It's far more important if your partner has previously cheated than if they've had casual sex in between relationships.

Cultural-Ad-8486 · 2025-06-08T08:49:19+00:00

Question for people here.

Why is it so hard for some sexually promiscuous people to understand that not everyone shares their views on sexuality?

Well, you know... Not everyone is interested in the topic of cuckolds and cuckold queens (or whatever it's called, gods forgive me)

And not all normal people should like to see or know that our loving boyfriend/girlfriend is/was fucking and loved someone else and God forbid more than he loved us.

Well, it's just... We respect your interests, but you are not mainstream and never will be (fortunately). Just accept it

Colt_Master · 2025-06-08T07:47:19+00:00

Q4 men who think promiscuous women are proner to deadbedrooming and/or settling: Which is more of a green flag, a woman who wants to sleep with you on the first date, or a woman who wants to wait until commitment to have sex?

If she sleeps with you early and before commitment, she probably kinda sees you as Chad because hook ups are proof of raw sexual attraction. However, it's likely proof that she's promiscuous in general as she also likely sleeps with a lot of people early on. Which means, she's likely fucked someone who's taller, hotter, bigger-dicked, more alpha than you. You'll never be her best. Probably also been alpha widowed by him. She's probably also been basically addicted to hook ups from having too many of them and now basically can't get aroused from monogamous sex, she'll actually deadbedroom you. And all the other problems related to promiscuity. Sounds pretty bad.

If she wants to wait though, maybe she's chaste, but how do you know for sure? Maybe it's because she's not attracted to you that much? Would Chad have to wait? She likely has already had her fun in the past, now wants to go slow with you and vet how steady and reliable you are. What if there's guys around she didn't make wait? Guys she had raw desire for, but now she's decided it's time to settle down with the "husband material" guy, so you'll be getting the less adventurous less enthusiastic version of herself, basically Chad's sloppy seconds? Also sounds pretty bad.

Maybe women who sleep with you on the third date or so are best? Or maybe it's the worst of both worlds: she neither has enough raw attraction for you to sleep with you on the first date (like she would with Chad), nor is that chaste to begin with.

Ylduts · 2025-06-08T06:57:51+00:00

N count’s are a great indicator of morality. Over ten, move on, very few have beet the stats.

StupidWhiteBoi · 2025-06-07T23:18:01+00:00

N Count matters for the younger generation more than Gen X, Boomers, and some Millenilals.

I used to feel bad for Gen X and older Millennial men for marrying promiscuous women that deadbedroomed them, but then I forgot those were the same guys who said the "past is the past", and "she chose me"

Those guys were desperate to date and marry promiscuous women who saw sex as meaningless scratch and something they got out of there system, and then these same guys want to act Pikachu surprise face that a women who doesn't care for sex after multiple men comes into the marriage with the same mentality.

Intelligent-Insight · 2025-06-07T21:20:36+00:00

Don't forget, it's about the D count, not the N count. It's not about "pArTnEr CoUnT" or "BoDy CoUnT" as if the sex of the partner/body doesn't matter. Sex with men and sex with women are two different things. They are measured in different units. Apples and oranges.

ThatBitchA · 2025-06-07T19:28:46+00:00

It's my favorite biweekly thread!

As the sub's premier expert on promiscuity, I take my duty very seriously.

In my expert opinion, the only people who are overly concerned about previous sexual partners are hypocrites and unsocialized people, both of which are rooted in insecurity.

Generally, adults don't care because most people assume someone has had sex previously.

Unless, of course, they are very religious. And even then, they might be doing other sexual acts.

Lastly, people who are very religious don't often date people who are slutty sluts. People who are inexperienced or lacking socialization aren't in the same spaces as the promiscuous social butterfly.

Stop worrying about things that don't ultimately concern you. Instead, focus on socializing and planning your next travel adventure.

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