Q4A - when I stopped reading trp I started doing better with women, why is that?

crackrocksteady7 · 2019-07-31T04:19:58+00:00

Is there a relationship between getting off reddit and having more of a social life and women?

yes

[deleted] · 2019-07-31T03:52:34+00:00

Yeah because you have to actually be out in the real world and not circle jerking huffing your own fumes spending all your time online on internet forums like most "Red Pillers" post 2014. Half the battle is just showing up and living your life.

SqueaksScreech · 2019-07-31T03:51:35+00:00

You stopped surrounding yourself with miserable people and decided to socialise more.

TheBookOfSeil · 2019-07-31T05:27:47+00:00

Perhaps because you're being natural instead of trying to adhere to some scripted way of talking to people and treating them like other humans rather than some conditioning machine that gives you a treat when you do something a certain way.

_Anarchon_ · 2019-07-31T05:52:56+00:00

Red pillers, just like incels are extreme viewpoints that don't correlate with reality. For example, it's disingenuous for a red piller believe that AWALT, discounting the way roles can and have changed in society. It's just as disingenuous for the incel to ignore all that he willingly contributes to the situation where a woman won't sleep with him.

Pontifex_Lucious-II · 2019-07-31T04:03:52+00:00

You actually did shit and stopped mentally masturbating.

It’s like someone going to the gym for 100 days vs reading physiology books.

diffdedbed · 2019-07-31T03:57:08+00:00

I started hanging out with my friends more and interacting with women

Can't do well with women reading online.

nezavisimaya · 2019-07-31T05:33:14+00:00

Well - have you already considered the remote possibility that TRP is sexist crap? And that women can be actually pretty nice if you treat them like equals? ;)

I tell you, I can usually sense if a dude is immersed in this whole TRP universe. He just becomes instantly unattractive to me. Guess that's the case with a lot of women who have some sense of self worth.

Anyway, congratulations to your newfound social skills.

DREADC0RSAIR · 2019-07-31T05:50:52+00:00

Because you actually got a life instead of dwelling over it

Dash_of_islam · 2019-07-31T04:25:33+00:00

1 hour of real world experience is worth 10 hours of reading something in a book since everything clicks better in your mind when you do stuff in real life

You aren't wasting time online and actually living your life in the real world where showing up to a social event puts you half way to success. Won't meet anyone in your room or huddled over your phone

When you stop thinking so much, you can live in the present rather than in your head which is necessary to "be yourself". Red pill is training wheels for weird guys that they shouldn't rely on after they get the basics down and have to figure out the rest on their own. It's like a candle for someone in the dark

[deleted] · 2019-07-31T04:50:36+00:00

let me guess, you left social media then started making real life friends?

Eastuss · 2019-07-31T08:16:12+00:00

I actually went out instead of reading internet, because I can't balance things. And suddenly it worked better with women

my conclusion is it was TRP's fault.

Really?

webernicke · 2019-07-31T06:42:56+00:00

Either you didn't need it to begin with or you tend to overdose on the pill and go off the deep end.

Needing to turn TRP is not the default situation for most men anyway. Why would you even need to ask this question, as if not reading TRP is some kind of novel innovative concept?

AreOut · 2019-07-31T07:49:56+00:00

Because you stopped reading and started acting subconsciously using TRP principles. There are numerous threads on TRP sub where people are told to stop reading and actually do something, it's a sub to remind yourself occasionally not to read it every day. And that's also one of TRP principles, to spend less time behind screen and more time out, not necessarily interacting with women but travelling enjoying nature training etc.

TheJim66 · 2019-07-31T08:24:00+00:00

Because you actually started interacting with women instead of spending all your time reading stuff online.Read all the theory you want but if you don't go out and get actual experience and start interacting with women ,you won't get laid.

All of this is emphasized in pretty much every second post on trp.

mydikishomofobik · 2019-07-31T09:57:42+00:00

Yeah and if I go to a 3rd world whorehouse with a stack of money I'll get pussy faster than reading PUA theory on the internet all day. Turns out going out and taking steps to get pussy irl gets you pussy irl faster than reading stuff online.

NeedingAdvice86 · 2019-07-31T19:45:20+00:00

90% of the dudes stumble across that site, incorporate the information on dating dynamics, make small changes in their former behavior and then move the fuck on to find a girl or seven then never look back.

The ones who hang around and populate the forum on a length of time are the most lost and autistic.

And yes, that includes most of the 'endorsed contributors' who spin fakebook like fantasies believable to only the most inexperienced dolts.

Things such as the supposed 50 something year old who claims that he is fucking roommate 19yo and when he posts his mode of operation, it is the simpleton crap that one read would read a hundred PUA websites and has no relationship to real life...such as claiming to have completely overwhelmed the one because he let it be known that he as a 50 yo was only interested fucking her and not interested in her money or personality.....or the supposed 24yo model he blew way by simply smirking and saying "what is your story".

Because don't we all know that teenage girls are just dying to meet some old suzz who is only after their pussy or that models are dazzled by guys with grade school level game.

PaintingOfJoan · 2019-07-31T04:08:38+00:00

What else changed 🙃 I’m really happy for you darling if you have a better dating life ❤️💜💕

-TheGreasyPole- · 2019-07-31T11:22:51+00:00

Sounds to me like you stopped spending time reading stuff, and started spending time doing stuff.

Of course there is a relationship between that and greater success, reading threads on reddit never (very rarely?) ends with a woman turning up at your door with a suggestive wink.

If you’re spending more time socialising and less time reading reddit RP (and anyone really) would predict more success.

Why are you surprised that interacting with women more leads to more success ?

PrehistoricPrincess · 2019-07-31T05:51:54+00:00

Probably because you started interacting more with women, which probably made you less distrustful/resentful toward us. I swear we have a sixth sense for misogynists (not saying you are one but TRP is a misogynistic philosophy) and avoid them at all costs. I'm engaged now, but in the past, anything that tipped me off that a guy was super traditional or had issues with other women gave me instant red flags and I would move on immediately.

2c165 · 2019-07-31T03:48:43+00:00

Because you were good looking and therefore never needed it to begin with

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Ofourkind · 2019-07-31T07:06:33+00:00

Congrats and best of luck

[deleted] · 2019-07-31T09:51:23+00:00

I stopped reading my self improvement book (because i finished it) and started hitting the gym, is there a correlation?

But nah, good job. Stay away from the internet if you can. Get the info you need and then log out and go implement it.

SparrowInAHurricane · 2019-07-31T10:47:41+00:00

Less talk, more action. Makes sense. Good for you.

Moldy_Gecko · 2019-07-31T11:06:13+00:00

While I think it's just you going outside with the knowledge TRP gave you, instead of circlejerking about TRP all day, helped with you actually getting some attention. However, I don't have timelines for your story, so I can't tell you exactly what's happening. I can aswer with what happened to me though. Since I'm someone that doesn't wholly apply to TRP anymore (never post or read the drivel that's currently on there), I can tell you that developing your own personality makes a huge difference.

TRP got me laid in the beginning, sure. A few times. But I also had the luxury of never being in the anger phase. So, what did I start doing after TRP (and during), I started going out more, socializing, picked up a job at a bar. Sometimes I would just go out for a quick beer down the road and run into a bunch of people I knew that would keep me there, or sometimes a girl would buy my next beer and we'd go home. I practiced my game and new techniques, not afraid to fail. People started to know me and my reputation. I became the fun guy that people wanted to hangout with. With some women, my reputation and honesty about casual sex and slaying in bed got me fuck buddies. I took the knowledge I had from the books and sidebar of TRP and game from PUA and just started to have fun. I learned what to say, how and when to say it and it made getting laid a game. To the point that I've won so much that I'm not actually so interested in playing it anymore.

So yes, go outside, have fun with friends, meet new people, build new relationships, keep up with your game, stay honest about what you want and sex will come to you.

CamoWoobie10000 · 2019-07-31T12:54:30+00:00

Its like reading a bunch of info on building a house but never actually trying to build the house. Its not going to build itself. Of course youre gunna start making progress when you actually start doing something.

A lot of guys make the mistake of trying to learn everything and iron out all the details before they start. Eventually you need to just jump into it, like a baby bird being pushed from its nest.

Its good to have some background knowledge first before you start, but dont let your fear of rejection or fear of whatever make you keep putting it off.

fatbandoneonman · 2019-07-31T13:28:17+00:00

TRP doesn’t see women as people; they focus on the divide and conquer and treat women like a battleground. TRP has always been more of a place for men to come together and air their anger at women, as opposed to a place of education (even though this is what it’s branded as). they don’t feel that women are their equal, and should be treated as such. Whenever I talk to TRP men, they basically tell me my opinion is invalid, to shut up, etc. in which I respond that I understand why they have so many issues communicating with women. Bottom line, TRP is a hate group, not a place to learn about proper relationships, so I could understand somebody having more successful relationships with women when they aren’t actively treating women like garbage.

ProteinP · 2019-07-31T13:33:18+00:00

Yeah reading what women are like(from jaded guys) vs experiencing what women are like on your own.

What trp doesn’t understand is that not everything is black and white. Yeah shitty girls exist but so do guys.

Lots of incels/mgtow/redpills are just guys who have had shitty experience with women. Whether it be their own fault or not. But as the old saying goes, if the world smells like shit, check your shoes.

JW_2 · 2019-07-31T13:33:48+00:00

Sorry I should note - when I went out and met people I wasn’t at all thinking or recalling any TRP philosophy

mental_models · 2019-07-31T14:53:37+00:00

Most probably 'coincidence'.

KikiYuyu · 2019-07-31T15:15:48+00:00

You probably were talking to women as people, not as potential problems you have to manage with techniques.

JosephZheng111 · 2019-07-31T16:27:04+00:00

Nah. Because you wouldnt have came to reddit in the first place. lol

queenofmirrors · 2019-07-31T17:57:09+00:00

I feel the old TRP community was simply better. There's still good stuff in the sidebar but not really any good content being published anymore. To be frank, at times it's almost bordering on misogeny, or at least some of the questions posed.

Best guess is, this is where the former PUAs have now migrated.

pnadlerlaw · 2019-07-31T18:09:44+00:00

Because TRP is mostly full of online armchair warriors who need to feel better about themselves by acting macho and “alpha” on TRP by disrespecting and insulting others. It’s really devolved into a fucking haven for immature man children pretending to be something they’re not. It didn’t used to be that way. Now it genuinely is just a useless toxic community of conservatives who feel like they’re being unfairly persecuted by Reddit.

we-are-men-with-ven · 2019-07-31T19:57:56+00:00

I used to be pretty shy several years ago, I literally forced myself out of my comfort zone and dragged myself to random social events here I struck up conversations with strangers.

When you have an amiable, disposition and confidence life is 10x easier. This has become very apparent recently whilst travelling.

max_peenor · 2019-07-31T20:47:39+00:00

Going outside does indeed improve your mating options.

Though sometimes there is another problem: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3dwokl/and_dont_listen_to_me_like_a_sperg_either/

adool666 · 2019-07-31T23:23:30+00:00

I mean, me too, it's cause I got all TRP knowledge I need and started applying it. After the sidebar and top posts of all time, there isn't much to look at.

Million-Suns · 2019-08-01T01:24:58+00:00

Is there a relationship between stopping reading trp (and ppd), and having more of a social life and women?

No. There is a relationship between finally practicing on the field and having more of a social life and interactions with women.

escapethesolarsystem · 2019-08-01T22:42:47+00:00

You were just spending too much time on the internet obsessing about theory and too little time in the real world doing things. TRP is a great framework, but reading about it all day doesn't substitute for actually going out there and taking action.

bluesbt · 2019-08-02T10:53:04+00:00

r/trp is a sub describing gender differences and smv differences between genders. I think you're looking for r/seduction on how to get laid, but even that has limits.

If you browse the sub you'll notice recommendations about meeting people face to face more frequently than reading/watching tutorials.

Whisper · 2019-08-04T10:33:41+00:00

https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/8pz9m3/go_out_and_test_it/

JasonPegasi · 2019-08-06T02:06:16+00:00

Extreme sentiments only work in extreme situations. Most situations are not extreme.

What happened is that you properly aligned your informational intake with your daily flow, so you noticed a better result. It's really not that surprising.

ScootsScoots · 2019-07-31T14:26:36+00:00

So once you stopped reading TRP, you enacted one of their core teachings (going out with friends and being social), and it worked perfectly.

That's what field experience is. When you stop studying and start working.

TRP is like the bible. Read the highlights then go do them. Dont covet thy neighbors ox. Life will be good.

Keep reading and reading and interpreting too much and you just get bogged down.

Anyways congrats on your success.

bonusfruit · 2019-07-31T19:18:12+00:00

Did everyone on the bus clap and then trump got impeached? This sounds so fake. As abrasive as trp is, no one is harmed by being told to look good workout and improve social skill. Efforts to discredit them are so tryhard

Title	Q4A - when I stopped reading trp I started doing better with women, why is that?
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