Is lifting weights mutually exclusive with being feminine?

condemnthetradfem · 2022-02-10T18:39:11+00:00

No.

Just don’t do roids and you’ll be fine.

m_owom · 2022-02-10T18:38:50+00:00

Is taking care of your body and staying in shape not feminine?

OkraGarden · 2022-02-10T19:54:30+00:00

No. Women who lift weights tend to just get more definition to their arms, legs, and waist which is usually more attractive than an untoned skinny-fat look. You will not get 6-pack abs or thighs the size of tree trunks unless you spend hours at the gym every day and build your whole lifestyle around bulking. Guys who get ripped put immense effort into getting that way, and women don't have the hormones to achieve that amount of muscle even if they put in the same level of effort. So get fit and don't worry about looking bulky. It's never going to happen spending 20 minutes with a home barbell, it's just not. Even women who lift competitively often don't look super ripped unless they use steroids.

cast-away-ramadi06 · 2022-02-10T19:29:24+00:00

It's not. Being feminine is an attitude and mindset.

By lifting, you'll probably get more confident but that has zero bearing on being feminine. As long as you're not arrogant or cocky? I would argue it enhances it.

Oneironaut91 · 2022-02-10T20:04:08+00:00

there is a massive difference between lifting to stay physically fit and competitive bodybuilding

Regattagalla · 2022-02-10T20:31:56+00:00

Everybody should lift weights. If you are afraid of becoming too muscular, it definitely doesn’t work like that. You can lift for years and just look toned.

Who the hell would be turned off by that? Nobody worth your time maybe?

StripperWhore · 2022-02-10T22:14:06+00:00

Let me start out with the obvious: Most men are going to prefer a woman in shape. Most humans prefer their partners in shape. It reflects outwardly reproductive fitness.

From what I know, behaviorally, men love a woman who will hit the gym with them.

As for looking "masculine," it really depends on how you're built and how fast you gain muscle. For example, I gain muscle really fast and I have broad shoulders, I can easily look "more masculine," if I focus on upper body. However if I focus on my lower body more, I look proportionate.

Ask yourself these questions before you start working out: 1) What are my goals? 2) What is my natural body shape? 3) How fast do I gain muscle?

And remember: 1) women naturally have a higher body fat percentage than men which attributes to a softer look. 2) it is hard to gain muscle for most people, it is especially hard with a typical female hormone profile. 3) a good portion of female fitness models (males too!) are taking chemicals to give them that look.

It is pretty hard to gain muscle, especially for women - but if you find yourself looking "masculine," you simply need to change your routine to reflect the aesthetic goals you're aiming for.

huneyb92 · 2022-02-10T21:01:46+00:00

Lifting weight helps with bone density, important as you age

2022-02-10T18:40:23+00:00

I’d say no. Being healthy and active is great and makes you overall more attractive to most guys. If the activity you enjoy is weightlifting, then awesome. Weight lifting can have many healthy benefits for women plus it can even help you build a more feminine shape by building the glutes and helping create a more ideal waist to hip ratio

Vinegar88 · 2022-02-10T19:52:24+00:00

Weightlifting at a gym is a great place to meet more red-pilled/like minded men. It's far from a turn-off to a HVM. A lot of women seem to be under the impression that if they lift weights, they'll start looking like a bodybuilder, when that's simply not the case.

AngelFire_3_14156 · 2022-02-10T18:49:42+00:00

I certainly hope not! It certainly helps in carrying small children around and carrying the groceries in. Besides, my husband likes the way I take care of my body.

SunshineSundress · 2022-02-10T22:28:19+00:00

It is definitely not mutually exclusive. Lifting weights and lifting heavy is one of the only ways you can get a more feminine, curvy physique without adding fat to your midsection. Most men like a good booty. Most men also like women who are physically fit and healthy.

If you are THAT concerned about bulking up, Bret Contreras did an extremely in-depth write up of weight training to attain a slender look à la Jessica Alba and Zoe Saldana. Note that he says you shouldn’t even worry about switching up your routine until you’ve noticed you are starting to get “bulky” or “overly muscular”, because many women will never get bulky and progressive overload will do them good. If you do start to get too muscular for your liking, you can redirect your training by focusing less on compound lifts, ab exercises, and progressive overload, and more on glute isolation, nutrition, and variety.

FirstBornAthlete · 2022-02-10T19:20:20+00:00

Man here. Weight lifting isn’t a turnoff. My wife did it before she got pregnant. You’ll just get more toned. Men and women usually have different goals for lifting, and their bodies react to it differently. Men usually put on muscle because of high testosterone levels as long as they do the other things required to put on muscle (like eating well). I’ve seen this myself the past couple years. I run instead of lifting but my legs have gotten much bigger and stronger. Women lift to get tone. Don’t overdo it, because the female body needs a certain amount of body fat to function healthily. But lifting some weights is fine

newaccttrial · 2022-02-10T23:08:53+00:00

Weights is a great part of a fitness program. It fine tunes your muscles. Clothes look better on a woman who lifts weights

magmawing98 · 2022-02-10T20:41:32+00:00

If a man thinks you will get buff by going to the gym, you can be sure he is not a gymgoer. Do not let any man dissuade you from being healthy.

mediumbonebonita · 2022-02-10T19:03:32+00:00

I think weight lifting, as long as you aren’t going super hard on it is actually very beneficial for your fitness which is very important to men. There’s a really good Instagram account called “flex your feminine” and she’s all about strength training tips along with promoting femininity. It’s also beneficial to maybe do certain workouts around your ovulation and menstrual cycles.

Practical_Sir_133 · 2022-02-10T22:48:18+00:00

What!!? Being fit and taking care of your body is super feminine! Go for it !!

JadedByEntropy · 2022-02-10T23:57:54+00:00

Ive tried to say this for years, but babies are heavy, and grow by the daily. You gotta be lifting 10lbs kettlebell babies every 5 minutes through a wide range of motions at all hours all day and night. If you expect to do that without even more extra back pain, you gotta get lifting now.

The confidence of new moms really comes from the strength of being capable of taking care of things and feeling stronger every day lifting heavier babies every day.

Not saying anything about actual kids, you can get confident and confidence is sexy...now. by lifting heavy and often.

Grow some good curves.

vetado · 2022-02-10T20:50:29+00:00

Check out /r/progresspics, /r/loseit, etc.

Many feminine women lift weights.

You'll want a good base level of strength for when you have to lift a cranky toddler into a car seat.

metajenn · 2022-02-10T21:59:59+00:00

There's not many places I feel sexier than when I'm training. You are IN your body, focused, and conscious of it. Being physical is one of the top ways to feel like a woman and be feminine.

thefuneralparty_ · 2022-02-10T23:10:12+00:00

taking care of your body is definitely feminine and attractive, go for it

LateralThinker13 · 2022-02-10T23:24:19+00:00

Short of a significant drop in body fat, no, it won't make you unfeminine.

peevesNA · 2022-02-11T02:35:47+00:00

My wife is exceptionally feminine and a beast at the gym. Do both.

dietwindows · 2022-02-11T03:09:51+00:00

Same rules apply to men & women in this case. Women usually don't want to date men who are enormous walls of muscle, like body builders. You can take the muscle too far. But as long as you don't put on 40lbs of muscle, lifting will probably only make you more attractive. One of my biggest feminine crushes has great fitness.

kazuechan · 2022-02-11T03:49:13+00:00

Men like when women take care of their appearance, especially when it shows consistency and discipline. Weight lifting is also an activity that men love to do so it can become a cute hobby between you guys. I know a lot of gym rat men that would love a woman that takes her health serious and is willing to go to the gym. Regular love to reap the benefits of a fit girl that might be toned in the butt, thighs, or has a nice flat stomach. It looks good.

It can become a turn off and intimidating when you’re showing excess muscles on your arms, back, and legs. I’ve had guys become concern about my working out regime because they didn’t want to hug a man-esque woman.

THE_HELLWALKER_44 · 2022-02-10T19:13:30+00:00

Women who lift are wifey material too just find the right bubble where you are demanding

virphirod · 2022-02-11T02:56:42+00:00

Dont worry. Go get those rockin abs and stay healthy

Underground-anzac-99 · 2022-02-11T05:04:24+00:00

The only caveat to this is if you’re in a relationship with an unfit person and start.

My ex would make horrible remarks about how I was “like a man” when I was a size 2 and not even slightly bulky. It came down to his issue as I made the effort to exercise and he didn’t, so he’d try to tear me down.

This however is even more reason to do the exercise you enjoy, you’ll only feel worse if you hold yourself back to make someone else feel good.

abacabbmk · 2022-02-10T21:11:56+00:00

kitterkatty · 2022-02-10T21:33:38+00:00

Like imo loud bossy Jillian type yelling and throwing down maybe not but being strong is definitely a good thing. I do ballet and body weight but everyone is different so just do what you enjoy.

golden_eyed_cat · 2022-02-11T05:46:24+00:00

I naturally have narrow hips and broad shoulders. Lifting weights has helped me grow my legs and glutes, giving me a more feminine look and helping me get more in-tune with my body. Therefore, I'd highly recommend going to the gym if you aren't doing so already.

daisy_chains87 · 2022-02-11T11:38:45+00:00

Weight lifting is important for women to increase bone density and prevent osteoporosis! I think it's about how you do it. If you make a big deal about 'bulking'and talk it up, that's not feminine. If you just go to a gym, do your safe weights and don't overdo traps - you'll be fine. It's actually quite hard as a woman to look manly-bulky from weights. You have to work pretty hard

SHortcutrix · 2022-02-11T21:07:58+00:00

you dont have enough Testosterone in your body to become a "big masculine woman". Me and every single friend I have prefer a woman that lifts weight.. look at leanbeefpatty she's buff and everyone is crushing on her.

wonderpets1776 · 2022-02-14T07:24:35+00:00

Too many women live lives of restrictive dieting and desperately trying to get a victoria’s secret model body, when they are genetically not made for that. And many of those women would look 100x better and feel 10000x more confident if they exercised and built muscle. Some people just have bodies made for building muscle and that’s how they look best. Sadly, too few people realize it.

yourbadformylungs · 2022-02-15T08:43:53+00:00

Not at all. Lifting weights can be very healthy for your body. My bf encourages me to do it.

And no building a little muscle will not make you ‘bulky.’

For a woman to look bulky from lifting she has to be really trying.

I lift weights probably about twice a week and I feel my posture is much better and my body handles physical stress much easier.

nathantheman · 2022-02-21T18:46:04+00:00

Noooooooo! My girlfriend is 4'11 and does olympic lifting and it looks sexy as hell. It keeps her booty poppin and her waist curved. Please do not make the mistake of thinking men wont be attracted to you for this. If they are not attracted to you it is because they are just self conscious about the way they look and you would be better off with out them. Please. Do the world of men with eyes a favor and lift. Men without superiority complexes like it.

monopsychos · 2022-02-10T21:15:17+00:00

It takes a lot of hard work to start looking like a guy. But if your bf lifts himself, he'll probably like it.

2022-03-03T00:37:46+00:00

You're wrong. Women who work out have more attractive bodies and actually look *smaller* than their counterparts who don't work out. Compare before/after photos of a female who weight lifts (I'm not talking one who spends 3+ hours in the gym every day and taking roids, I'm talking about one who goes to an after work class every day, which would realistically be what you would be doing anyway). Women who workout have more toned arms and legs, which makes them look smaller and less flabby. They will probably actually weigh more on the scale because the muscle is dense, but I guarantee it looks better than flab and cellulite. Mix in some cardio with it if you're concerned about getting "Big". You don't have to lift heavy, but lifting heavy will actually give you the best results the fastest, to be honest.

Counter_Proposition · 2022-02-10T21:57:53+00:00

Lifting and being in shape is of course good, but I personally don't like the aesthetic of overly muscular arms on women. It does not look feminine. Just don't overdo it and you'll be fine I'm sure.

pearlsandstilettos · 2022-02-10T20:46:45+00:00

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JawsOfLife24 · 2022-02-12T06:40:49+00:00

Caring about your body and health is incredibly sexy, I see women like this in the gym all the time and they look so good.

therewasguy · 2022-02-12T06:46:34+00:00

being fit looks healthy which is more desirable

go for it, don't worry

just don't take any steroids let it be natural

Philip_Dinosaur · 2022-02-13T19:41:23+00:00

Lifting weight makes women way more attractive in my opinion. Some women believe that they will get too bulky but its not that easy you cant get "big" by accident. You have to excersise for a long time to achieve a big difference. But the answer is please workout for your health, and if you`re interested in lifting weights thats really good! My answer might be biased because i lift but in general men and quite simple, we like nice "behinds" and lifting i.e squatting makes this area way better.

wonderpets1776 · 2022-02-14T07:21:18+00:00

No, it can be very beneficial to your hormones as well.

dontouchmybutt · 2022-02-16T13:23:09+00:00

I am a powerlifter but super feminine and girly and don’t look muscular at all. As a woman, it takes a LOT to look manly, and as a natural athlete lifting just makes you shapely I think. Whenever I told guys on dates they told me they thought that was awesome. They could have been lying, but they all asked to keep seeing me and were fellow athletes (crossfit people or avid gym goers). The only people to ever give me crap about it were non athletic people/ overweight people that didn’t get it.

pearlsandstilettos · 2022-02-11T06:09:50+00:00

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Title	Is lifting weights mutually exclusive with being feminine?
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