TL;DR- A newer plate has issues with an older plate and tries to cause problems.

“…And Lucy Tries Harder”

I ...had a plate named Lucy.

Bright blonde, blue-eyed definition of submission.

One of those “quiet as a church-mouse" types. The one’s that speak real soft and always look at their feet when they speak.

Lucy was jealous of Fine China (another plate).

To be more specific, Lucy was jealous of how FC looked.

Lucy'd seen one of FC's racier pictures on my phone. Fine China’s better looking and she knows it.

So she gets insecure. Comfort tests increase. “Am I enough for you?” “Why me?” Etc. etc. My plates know about each other so whatever. They just never bump into each other (Except Candy and FC but that’s something else).

At least until last night.

Fine China makes Katsudon (my favorite). She comes over and we eat. Lucy texts and asks if I’m available.

Om: no

Lucy asks why.

Om: busy

She begs. She pleads. Says that she has to see me tonight.

Om: chinas here

More begging. More pleading. I put my phone on silent. Me and Fine China get busy.

Not 10 minutes in there’s a knock at the door. Already know who it is. We ignore it. Another knock. We ignore it again.

By the third knock I’d had it. I answer the door. Guess who.

She just stood in the doorway. She just stares at her feet. Like a guilty puppy-dog. Doesnt say a word. Maybe she was cold.

”I’m busy.”

She asks if FC’s still here.

”Yes.”

She pours out this long. winded. schpeel. about some hoorrible thing some sleazy guy had done at the party just left.

The "horrible thing" was vague and ill-defined. Still don't know what it was.

Question 1: Does the oddly-convenient the timing of this “traumatic incident” and how it just so happened to take place immediately following her knowledge of FC being over fall under mere coincidence or as a means of justification of action?

a) Justification. It would be difficult for anyone to rationally believe that level of coincidence in timing and to overlook such an obvious plea for validation.

b) Coincidence. You weren’t there so you never know.

c) Neither. She just thinks you’re stupid.

(the correct answer was A.)

She makes a comment about Fine China.

“She’s pretty.”

Translation: She makes me feel insecure. Not used to being outclassed I guess.

“And?”

She asks to come in. Says she won’t say or do anything. That she just doesn’t want to be alone or at home.

Truth is she wants to cunt-block Fine China. I tell her

“No. Go home.”

Gaslighting comes next. She tries to guilt trip. “So you would leave some poor traumatized girl out in the cold when she needs you?”

…I close the door.

Standing there and talking to her would be giving her exactly what she wanted: giving her attention over FC.

And I’m not pissed nor surprised by it. Just sort of… done.

She knew what she was doing was crazy. No need to reaffirm that for her.

I come back and Fine China makes some snide remark, something about thirsty bitches and not enough Gatorade. I don’t respond.

We finish where we left off, she leaves after. I check my phone. 12 missed calls. 8 text messages. All from Lucy.

The first few texts were pretty aggressive and “gaslight-y”. Yadda yadda, I thought you were a better man than that. Blah blah, a real man wouldn’t treat a girl like that.

Then the comfort tests.

“…but I always know how to fuck shit up. Cuz that’s what I do. That’s who I am.” “I’m a pain in the ass and someone that no one wants. Someone that is worthless and replaceable.”

What killed me though (although it didn’t surprise me) was how not one of her texts gave any inkling of an apology. No “I’m sorry for showing up unannounced, but..” or “sorry for interrupting, but…”.

All she did was play the “victim”:

  • I’m a pain in the ass

  • someone that no one wants

  • Someone that is worthless and replaceable

  • some poor traumatized girl out in the cold

  • doesn’t want to be alone

Question 2: Why didn’t Lucy admit or acknowledge guilt over her reckless, impulsive and sporadic behavior? (Experienced RPers, please don’t answer.)

a) Because she’s crazy.

b) Because she’s menstruating so it’s okay.

c) Because what she did was okay. Women should get a pussy pass because women are special and should always be treated with respect and chivalry.

d) Because she doesn’t feel guilty. And that’s the point. She felt justified. She felt bad not being the prettiest, she didn’t like it, she’s the most important person ever (to her) and so she was gonna do something about it and sort it all out later. So she came over with the specific purpose of cunt-blocking the girl that made her feel bad, failed, saw no fault in her actions but fault in us for not “sympathizing” with her.

(The correct answer was D.)

I step outside to smoke.

Surprise surprise. Lucy’s still in the parking lot.

I don’t look in her car’s direction. I finish my smoke, lock my doors, ignore my phone and sleep.

Lesson Learned

“Treat every woman like a loaded gun”.

All it took for Lucy was to know that the another woman being “prettier than her” for shit to get psychotic. You never know how light a gun’s trigger will be. You never know what might set it off. And we’re not Neo.

The only way for us to dodge a bullet is to point the gun away from us.

Consider Lucy nexted.