What was your first real world experience that really made you swallow the pill?

hatethiscity · 2018-12-18T16:54:32+00:00

My ex wife was my first love. We met at 19 and got married at 21. I was naive and insanely insecure. Our relationship was insanely codependent and I derived a lot of my self worth and identity from the relationship. We had our ups and downs but always were committed. When I was 24, she started hanging out with an old friend from high school (guy). Like a light switch, our conversations about the future changed and she was increasingly more disrespectful. 2 months after her reunion she left me for her friend and tried to screw me financially in the divorce. Icing on the cake is she needed me to move out so her boyfriend could move in.

I'm certain she doesn't even reflect on our marriage or even consider how her actions affected me. She most likely is still the same superficial selfish insecure bitch.

russiantrolldoll · 2018-12-18T18:15:55+00:00

Started dating an extremely beautiful and sexy 10. Everything about her was perfect, her voice, personality, best sex of my life even to this day.

Before dating her I never knew what borderline personality disorder was. I don't even have to describe the nightmare of the next 5 years to anyone here.

audiotrack · 2018-12-18T17:09:14+00:00

I look at Red pill more from a self improvement perspective than the game and woman.

Still i am amazed how mainly dominace, leading, keeping frame, confidence and abundance works perfectly.

My relationships at work are better. With family too. Personal happiness is much higher since i am not nice guy anymore. For other People is better too for me to stay how i am right now. Disarming shit tests from women makes them giggle. Dominace in bed is So cool i would have never thoght. And they like it. Teasing girls is fun and they like it. Talking to random People is fun because i make it fun. Today i worked out with girl who did heavy squats and she said my presence is fun and weight is lighter. And Yes lifting ftw

When i think about stuff i wrote down every Time i take Red pill

jakethesnake5000 · 2018-12-18T15:12:18+00:00

Got dumped by a plate and chased. Ignored and she came back but i said I didn’t want her and she got obsessive.

Most recent is divorce: wife said she would never take my money now the bitch is getting caked off my hard work

ghcortez352 · 2018-12-18T16:42:27+00:00

I never really had to swallow anything. Reading TRP philosophy clarified a lot of issues I didn’t understand, but it it wasn’t a bitter realization. I was motivated to learn because I dated the girl I loved and she LJBF'd and blew me off for another guy because I acted like a beta faggot. I played “friend” for three weeks until she announced she was fucking someone else in front of me.

vullnet123 · 2018-12-18T16:38:37+00:00

My ex girlfriend. Showed me nature of women. Changed me for the better.

FlexGunship · 2018-12-18T17:44:22+00:00

For me it was cumulative.

I noticed that reality was nothing like what people kept claiming. If I listened to all of the good and decent people in my life (and there are plenty of them) I could predict about half of my future... Something had to account for all of the huge discrepancies.

The "nice guy" thing was the first to go. Then the respect for "political correctness". For a while, I became completely disillusioned with females, and just kind of got whatever I wanted and moved on.

I found "the red pill" well after I had single-handedly recreated many of it's "teachings".

Useful set of rules. I have my own brand that I live by. I want a family and have a great girlfriend. TRP was just one quick stop on a lifelong journey of personal-reinvention.

WillSalt · 2018-12-18T15:23:44+00:00

No specific event. Mostly curiosity. I see red pill as a useful perspective and not something to follow religiously.

I_Dont_Type · 2018-12-18T16:50:50+00:00

Acid red pilled me. The differences between men and women were clear as day when I took it. Afterwards I remembered something about a sexist subreddit that attempts to explain women, and here I am today.

rubenescaray · 2018-12-18T16:11:17+00:00

Met a girl in college, started hitting it off but I my BPD old self ruined with too much attention.

Later I found out she was sleeping with a guy in my own building, one night I heard a women yelling, crying and calling for her mother.

The same girl was being forced into more sex with this guy (both drunk, she drunkier), she wanted to leave, he didn't want to stop.

I went out and asked what whas happening and she only looked at me, and went back to the apartment of the guy and they both ignored me.

Since that day I stopped looking at women like princesses that can do no wrong, a few weeks later I found out the main sub.

AWALT.

renfsu · 2018-12-18T17:22:15+00:00

Was extremely beta with a girlfriend for 5 months, who waited until I got sent to do disaster relief for a hurricane to dump me over snapchat. Turns out she had a plate during the relationship and chilled with him as soon as I left. Felt broken but after reading on trp, I don't blame her. She shit tested me many times a day and I failed every single one of them.

pimptendo · 2018-12-18T17:59:08+00:00

I was a blue pilled cuck. I was engaged to my highschool sweetheart, which almost destroyed my connection with my best friend. We were together for four and a half years and she left me to fuck a friend of mine 2 hours away. Talked to my best friend about it and he turned me to the red pill. It helped me get over how badly I was burned.

_Tactleneck_ · 2018-12-18T18:30:19+00:00

Was in an LTR for about 2.5 years at the time. We were struggling but I believed I was doing all the normal things to make things better. Was mowing the grass outside after cleaning the house all day and she came back from lunch and started yelling at me for eating her leftovers.

I knew life wasn’t supposed to be like that, so I started digging and digging until I found TRP. Sidebar posts and books was like a revelation. That was 3.5 years ago.

desistrategist · 2018-12-18T18:49:21+00:00

my aunt plotted to murder my uncle (and she did, ordered a hit by someone else) so that she could control all his assets once he's gone. True story. My family witnessed the whole botched up alibi / drama unfolded for more than 20 days as my uncle (a true gentleman, RIP) was reported missing by us, until the cops recovered his body dumped in a nearby village (his throat was slit). Luckily, the assailants who dumped my uncles car at a secluded spot were captured on a CCTV and one of the accomplices in that footage was my aunt's very close friend.

If hate / money can drive a woman to insanity while being in a relationship with a sane guy (RIP uncle), then I don't wish to get married at all.

ttann71 · 2018-12-18T15:21:49+00:00

Had oneitis for a LDR, believed in that Disney b.s, now she’s engaged. My mistake, won’t happen again.

AntiSharp · 2018-12-18T21:29:35+00:00

Gf went for a girl’s night out to a Halloween party at another college. Cheated on me. Wanted to kms. Came out with thicker skin

kingoldmaster · 2018-12-18T16:29:08+00:00

Got cheated on the night I told her one of my family members passed away. This was by the same girl who dumped me 6 months prior because of 'commitment issues', but later came begging for me to take her back after not being able to score with anyone else - which I stupidly did.

I was such a fucking blue pilled idiot during that time. Honestly I was overall more optimistic but I was young (18). Now, I have a single plate at university which is completely for the purpose of stress release, I spend a lot more time with my bros and have made massive gains in the gym over the past ~3 years. Red pill is the way bros. Live for yourself, not some life force sucking leech you think you love.

Wolveryn · 2018-12-18T15:53:59+00:00

I would say reading ‘The Game’. By Neil Strauss was the spark...

xKo17 · 2018-12-18T16:49:11+00:00

When a plate said she liked me after a few months and I responded basically with Im not sure if I want a LTR. She proceeds to fuck Chad later that week and the entire dynamic falls through. I sort of had oneitis and was sort of butt hurt but absolutely amazed at her behavior. I told myself I would never get so invested in a woman that only aroused me sexually EVER again.

Hazkinz · 2018-12-18T18:51:50+00:00

Girlfriend of over 5 years left me on Mother's Day. I basically took care of her, helped her out a lot, put up with more shit than I should have, she hardly helped me with anything, and a few other things. Basically, I put way more energy into the relationship than what I got out of it. I am not great with women and usually shy so this was my first relationship. Where I had always told myself if I ever had a girlfriend, I would do my best to treat her the best I can and to try to avoid arguments and try to discuss them like mature adults (basically avoid yelling/screaming, but this obviously backfired).

After dealing with all of that, she moved out at her own convenience and then left me. I always wondered why would this happen to me after all I have done. I eventually listened to the audiobook "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Dr. Robert A. Glover. That helped me open my eyes. I haven't swallowed the red pill entirely, but I am still learning.

snaptogrid · 2018-12-18T18:11:22+00:00

No need for me to "get red-pilled." But I'm an old guy who did most of my growing up pre-feminism, so I never had to wake up from the "men and women are the same" lie. Also, I grew up with a popular older sister, so I was seeing first-hand and up close what girls are really like from the day I was born. When I look at Rollo or Heartiste or others, I'm often amused and entertained -- they're smart, funny, observant guys and writers, and god knows they have a knack for making their points vivid and striking in fresh ways. But the substance of what they're saying doesn't come as news to me -- it's just the wisdom of the ages, what all guys used to know back in the pre-feminist world.

Freedom__Fighter · 2018-12-18T19:04:27+00:00

When an ex LTR went out for her friends birthday, they both said would be back home early that night by 11. No text “running late”, or “change of plans”..... ignores my messages.... comes home at 3AM wasted and a raging cunt. I made her friend drive home, she was not staying here.... I def lost frame and freaked the fuck out. Turns out they met some practice squad Patriots NFL players went back to their place to hang out, her friend “passed out” and my LTR was doing lines of coke with them, but swore she didn’t do anything with them. LMFAO. I bet you $1000 that lying cunt fucked or blew them. Needless to say, even tho I had no idea what RP was I had too much of a backbone to accept that kind of behavior. Hard next. Led me to finding TRP.

NotoriousSnake · 2018-12-18T18:09:18+00:00

Oneitis at 19, she cheated with her ex

Never went through an anger stage - I was just grateful AF that I learned the truth when I did

22 now and I'm so glad I swallowed the pill

bigflame123 · 2018-12-18T19:31:31+00:00

Can you please elaborate about how she came crawling back to you after a few years? I love it when this happens, looks like pure karma.

Also I’m sorry to hear about it messing with your head for a few years, stuff like this is just depressing

paperclip_of_doom · 2018-12-18T17:20:23+00:00

Had probably the worst case of oneitis in human history. Stumbled upon the sub when I was "trying to win her over." I was intrigued by the content and kept lurking for a while but it didn't quite hit home yet at that point. She fucked me over bad and after a while realized that she is the perfect embodiment of everything that TRP says about women. Told her to fuck me or fuck off. Well she fucked off for good, and that day everything made perfect sense and I could remember myself literally physically running out of fucks to give and I haven't given a fuck since. I also bought my gym membership that day. It was a good day...

dtyler86 · 2018-12-18T18:13:26+00:00

I discovered the red pill mentality naturally, entirely by experience ranging from little things with every girlfriend and me doing what I thought was best as instructed by my older sisters. Of course they told me to do stupid shit like she’s the best girl,write her love note, send her gifts, it worked out for everybody but me. After being cheated on in a long-term relationship, learning to basically just fuck and Chuck girls and seeing how the less I cared the more addicted they became it became completely obvious.

Only then at the age of 27 did I discover TRP.. now without even really trying there is a serious deal of dried game going on in every interaction I had with girls that are interested in me. I went from being dumped or cheated on to being the person that has to break it off every time.

D3athN0te101 · 2018-12-19T05:55:46+00:00

My first gf dropped red pills down my throat.

I was super clingy. Hell, post breakup I actually stalked her until I got bored.

She told me I was clingy af, and to hit her up when I grew up.

In hindsight, I appreciate her honesty.

That said, appreciation wasn't my initial reaction. And I went through every stage of the Red Pill Awakening prior to even finding TRP.

Denial - Immediately upon being told to grow up and stop being a clingy fuck, I became defensive. This lasted for about 3 months.
Anger - Then I reached the NiceGuy phase. I had a legit hatred of women, and just looking at them made my blood boil. I was a stereotypical NiceGuy, and even had a literal beard on my neck. This lasted about 6 months.
Depression - I felt powerless and confused. I'd wonder how I could improve when I didn't even know where to start. It was a catch 22, and asking for help got me "just be yourself" responses, and internet searches yielded legions of pua scams & feminists giving crap dating advice. I've never been the brightest bulb, but I know a hustle when I see one, and I knew i couldn't just keep being my old self if I wanted different results.
Hope - I found MGTOW, which led me to start focusing on myself. However, it also fed my anger towards women that the frustrations of being socially inexperienced caused. 6 months ago, I left after realizing this.
Acceptance - Having been working on myself for a while, and having been working in construction (initially for the lack of women), I was now physically fit and had a decent amount of F.U. Money, so I decided to go out and learn how to socialize (a milestone I'd been putting off due to fear of rejection and/or being percieved as an idiot). Upon doing so, I realized that rejection wasn't so bad. It wasn't fun, to be sure. But it wasn't the stab in the heart it used to be. What changed was thart I'd now had a sense of self worth. I had eliminated women from the equation in my MGTOW days, which led me to replace my source of validation. I now rely on my financial achievements and self development for validation. This is good, because I can control how I live my life and how much I strive to achieve. The same can not be said about women. I've accepted that rejection is just part of life, and have stopped taking it personal. Took me 3 years, but looks like I finally grew up.

All I can say is, I'm glad I stopped being a bitch by the age of 22. Some people spend their whole lives swallowing blue pills.

I doubt you'll ever see this, but thanks Tara. I owe you an apology, and my respect.

enterim · 2018-12-19T10:23:46+00:00

LTR of 1,5 years, was planning my future with here. Bluepill as fuck. Having a family with her was literally the biggest source of my motivation for everything.

My mother got ill with depression and suicidal thoughts. I Took care of her 24/7 for 3 months. Business income went downhill because of this.

My LTR used the free time without me to cheat with one of my business clients ( Found it out myself, she kept denying it ) . Right before christmas. Kicked her out of my appartment immediately.

Blamed her cheating on me being distant ( Family First ) and stole around 8.000$ as well.

I had no one to talk about it, my family was already suffering because of my mother, so I just told them the relationship ended because there was no future for us.

She did not ask once afterwards how I am doing. Or if my mother is good again. Instead went straight into the relationship with the guy she cheated with.

This fucked me up quite bad and I am still struggling to cope with this. But this is how I ended up here - so I guess I am kind of thankful. Learned my lesson.

robgymrat87 · 2018-12-18T18:17:17+00:00

Fell for a hot fitness chick, had the onenitis. Definitely learned from it

the1pope · 2018-12-18T23:09:35+00:00

Discovered TRP a couple months now, and I'm in a LTR with this chick now, she just told me she's going to be a Sex Worker because I can't satisfy her emotionally, physically and financially. Totally gobsmacked , but I have hope everyday as I read through the sidebar and top posts from here lol. Thanks to everyone here for truly and passionately contributing to help noobs like me become the best version of their selves. Looking forward to any suggestions on any books/posts that I can read.

ramokaly · 2018-12-18T16:37:37+00:00

I always had TRP tendencies due to my middle eastern upbringing but living in western EU for a long time beta-ized me. I woke up after I found myself chasing a girl with a bf who strung me along like it was her profession. She did me a favor though so I ain’t salty.

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2018-12-18T19:16:29+00:00

I'm not bragging but I always new this was the way. I grew up in Ireland was was not fed any garbage via media. Maybe I was but I was always very present - it all comes down to presence and ignoring society's BS

BitingInsects · 2018-12-18T20:44:20+00:00

AWALT concept just clicks and makes sense after you think about it and it makes life easier to manage. Understanding women don't think the same way you do = win. Don't argue with them (or anyone) = win. You see guys fighting with their wives or girlfriends constantly over dumb shit. I'm sure those women wish their men had sense enough not to argue back with them and had even a little bit of this belief ingrained in them.

Auvergnat · 2018-12-18T22:32:00+00:00

To me, and I suspect a lot of people discovering the red pill later in life, it’s more the other way around: I got a whole bunch of life experiences that I struggled to make sense of (Why did this girl leave me? Why did that girl got attracted to me? Why did that girl did that?) and that you’d usually brush off as “I don’t understand women”, and then one day you stumble on the redpill and get reading and this is like someone’s just switched on the light: everything I ever experienced with women suddenly made sense.

TheBigPone · 2018-12-19T20:03:43+00:00

I was 16 and suicidal. Cried in front of my mom because I was stressed with everything in my life and was looking for a friendly shoulder and she straight called me a pussy.

319Skew · 2018-12-18T20:36:21+00:00

I've wrote this story so many times I'll just put the cliff notes:

Fell in love with a 'good' girl that was: devout, good with family, kind, saint in the streets and whore in the sheets, virgin, strong religious moral compass, great with family and friends, attractive (picture Alicia Keys) but not insanely hot.

For awhile, things were good but every so often things would get hard. Ups and downs. Sex and me keeping frame kept it going for so long. Without knowing I was doing red pill things like creating dread (I dress well and fairly attractive so girls hit on me often - especially when married), was reserved (initially with my emotions), and worked on my dreams advancing in career and my passions. Also after fights or arguments, I made her submit to me sexually and practiced a lot of the sex god methods.

So as all things are good, I decided to have a baby with her. After almost 11 years. I figured why the fuck not. I don't trust anyone else so let's bring a child in.

I also got laid off after she got pregnant.

Now, I'm no fool and put aside around 33k for this eventuality as well as stock options and shares. At first things were OK but we're going through a recession so I don't find work right away.

It's like a switch went off. Despite the fact that I brought that money in and I found work right away the damage was done. She started to bring up things that took place 10 years, used the whole 'I just gave birth' to get her way, family and friends were on her side as she made more and more irrational things and she grew further and further away.

No sex turned to no intimacy (any form of affection) because she didn't 'trust that I loved her' and she would constantly criticize me.

Eventually, I went through a depression as I didn't want to cheat and she was giving me a no win scenario. I also was concerned because I felt like I was going crazy since society expects the woman to be right by default.

I told her that I needed some time to reflect on our marriage where she let slip that she already clocked out. I said fine and left.

Within less than 2 weeks, she went from cold to crazy. I "abandoned her" and our child and she spent the next 2 years trying to destroy me in any way she can. She tried to play mind games but I was already out and trying to make my life so she went after me through my son.

Took half of my earnings and savings and alleged that I had terrorist ties and that I beat her.

She still plays bullshit games but not as much since she looked insane from the last time she went to court. Now she's all friendly wanting to divorce without hard feelings because it's best for our son. I know she's probably found someone but isn't mature enough to admit it and instead hides behind our child and blames me for everything that happened to her.

CassWCD · 2018-12-19T01:15:35+00:00

Not the catalyst, but this happened at an Xmas party over the weekend. A pretty, but thicc HB 6 was there trollin for dick. I (34) engaged her properly, mostly ignoring her, fucking with her, or treating her overly entitled mannerisms like that of a 5 year old child. My purple pilled buddy engaged her with a good old fashioned “so, what do you do?”

After proudly proclaiming that she was 28, unemployed, and that she didn’t think any man there couldn’t get her off, it peaked my curiousity.

Me, slyly: what makes you so sure?

thot: because I’m better than you

here I am, war veteran, 6-figure income, 9 smv, marathon runner, mtn climber, etc. etc. blah blah

me: oh yeah, why’s that?

thot, dead serious: “because I have a vagina”

It hit me like a ton of bricks my dudes. I knew it was important to hold frame here, so I made some smart remark and kept fucking with her, and at the end of the night as I’m getting in the uber, she came sauntering out to get my number.

*The important lesson here guys is that girls nowadays believe they are entitled to the very best hypergamy has to offer, regardless of what little they bring to the table. * Suburban Southern California, if it matters. And yeah, I’ll probably fuck her because I’m a trash monster and I don’t care. haha

Imperator_Red · 2018-12-20T01:34:55+00:00

Cumulative for me. I just had a series of events occur in college in which women's behavior made absolutely no sense to me and I could not understand what was going on. Advice from friends was absolutely worthless. They were either natural alphas and could not relate to the average guy's problems at all, bought into society's narrative and parroted the same useless platitudes, or were angry and frustrated like me. I just kind of figured out TRP on my own.

Oh it seems like the more I show that I'm into a girl, the less she's into me. Guess I'll just pretend not to care.

Oh it seems like girls constantly say they like certain things but their actions dictate that they like something else. I guess I'll just stop listening to what they say.

Oh it seems like if I ignore this girl's text for 5 hours then she goes insane with lust for me when she comes over later that night. I think I'll ignore her texts more often.

By the time I discovered TRP and the manosphere, it really wasn't a big shock for me. I'd already internalized most of the principals. TRP just gave me the last 25% and the theoretical framework around which all the data fits (e.g. hypergamy).

bf1bro18 · 2018-12-19T00:53:35+00:00

I'm not proud of this. But when I was 18 (25 now) I went to a nightclub and had about 20 minutes until my friends arrived. I bought a drink and went outside to this smoking area. I didn't smoke but you could still be out there for fresh air because the area was huge. Anyway this 10/10 girl comes over and asks for a cigarette, to which I reply I don't actually smoke and was just waiting for friends. She spat on my face and called me a cunt so I went to security with a thick piece of throat grease on my neck area and said what happened. They went and talked to her and after about a 15 second conversation that I observed from about 15m away she was giggling and the security guard was as well and I knew I was fucked and they asked me to leave, and when I went outside and called the police to explain (she spat on me and the nightclub would have clear footage in that outside well lit area) they arrived and when I explained it all they basically said it wouldn't be worth their time and that I needed to leave the area immediately and that I need to pick better places to hang out at if I am "looking for trouble".

My blood boils just thinking about this.

I 100% hope that 10/10 blonde CUNT dies in a car fire while on loudspeaker to her whole family. No regrets. Society does not need someone like that in it.

Notenthy · 2018-12-18T20:08:02+00:00

Had a crush on a girl in high school, we started to hang out, a lot, after a while she told me she had a boyfriend. However, we stilled hanged out, she hange out more with me than her boyfriend. I was a needy blue pilled trainwreck. She was a 100% borderline girl, but boy what she could turn me on. She said she was turned on by me. She used me as her emtional tampon. We never had sex, even though we talked about sex like 40% of the time. After me trying to suicide a few times because she fucked me competely up I found the TRP. Everyday where like, one day we where high on life, the literally next day, she got mad and sad on me for always made up things, and all hell broke lose. She demanded that we negiotade terms and conditions all the time. Now I know genuin attraction cannot be negotiated. During the worst period we sended like 180 000 texts during a 4 month period. That is sick amounts.

Finally after the suicide attempt I got myself out of it, later found TRP. Dissed her. The fucked up thing, she with no hesitation started doing the same thing with the next guy, with no guilt for what she did to me, after a while he realized what she was doing and dissed her, then she moved on to the next guy, she is still using this guy as a emotinal tampon, they go to the same univeristy. Poor guy.

That was the sickes ride of my life, it was like being high and suicidal every other day for almost a year. 0,2 inches wrong and I would have died. So glad I missed.

T-P-T-W-P · 2018-12-18T20:16:09+00:00

Watching my wealthy father’s life and marriage fall apart because he is very blue in combination with being an asshole. Also I just graduated college and the whole social scene is a TRP case study. I’m a tall white athlete so my SMV isn’t the worst. Sophomore year I was introduced to a pretty hot chick at a party my friends and I were hosting by a fairly distant mutual female friend under the assumption that this girl was down. Lo and behold, a couple hours later and without much hesitation, she’s bent over the edge of my bed. She seemed respectable and would’ve definitely been interested in making that a consistent thing but I learned shortly after she had a boyfriend of nearly a year. Dude was in a frat and seemed well liked but was about 5 inches shorter, unathletic, and not as good looking. Think they dated for a bit more after this so I assume he either didn’t find out or was crazy blue which would make even more sense. This girl seemed genuinely affectionate and honest prior to intercourse but really was just a cheating sloot who got a hankering for a better dude after a few drinks. Won’t go into crazy detail about her vibe but the moral I took from it is if chicks who are seemingly the way she was can do what she did, then they all can. Also throughout college I witnessed instances similar to this happen to my friends on both sides of the equation. Found the sub junior year of college and things sort of clicked into place. Men and women are very different, emotional connections are primal trickery, and it’s important to stay on top of your shit because women have options and are often open to better than the ones they’ve currently got.

Thisismybot8 · 2018-12-18T22:30:57+00:00

There was no major event for me tbh. Probably why I'm less butt hurt than a lot of guys here.

shango130 · 2018-12-19T06:48:01+00:00

I was in a morbidly codependent realtionship with a BPD girl. Once I figured out that she was a lunatic I ended it but thats not what did it, it was the lack of support from family, and people telling me I could have "fixed her" and that "you could have been her rock" like it was my job to raise a grown ass woman. Thats when I realized that our culture is fucked and that women are treated like victimized children that need rescuing and special treatment.

RPinthemaking · 2018-12-19T13:12:44+00:00

Met this girl on reddit. Got into an LDR with her, lost my virginity to her. She asked to move in with me, I said yes. Sex stayed consistent for half a year or so, then crashed. Combination of her scaring me multiple times that she was pregnant and her consistent bickering with my mother, which was enabled by me, led me to breaking up with her. Got oneitis for her after that and then somehow stumbled upon TRP. Wish I knew exactly what it is I googled to land here.

Sad_Sleeper · 2018-12-19T18:02:03+00:00

Well it was in june this year. I am late bloomer and was total blue pill. I am now 27 and the ex is 29. So she is trying to lock her best option before she hits the wall. She started fucking her best male friend 2 weeks after she ditched me.

I blocked her and deleted her number. And started improving myself. I know i can do way better. So i am working on me. I feel great, but still it is just the beginning.

From time to time i am getting back to the anger phase.

Even though 6 months have passed, guess who called me on my birthday 2 weeks ago, The Ex.

Sooner than expected she will hit the wall. She started smoking intensivly, decided to loose weight but with fatburner and cardio. Not eating properly and ofc not sleeping properly.Drinking alcohol. You get the idea.

Builtblind · 2018-12-18T19:10:02+00:00

Oneitis

in love with girl for 10 years. Once I actually got her I beta'd so fucking hard I pushed her away and killed all attraction.

In an attempt to get over oneitis I came to TRP and started reading the sidebar. Most of the concepts are things I do naturally but when I get invested in things and lose frame I am the biggest Blue pill ever. Now I try to read at least a few minutes of the sidebar everyday

I cant say there have been any moments yet where I think "Holy shit TRP just saved me". Like I said most of these things come naturally for me as I am a total asshole and they kinda go hand in hand. But being apart of the community definitely helps to remind me to keep frame and not let these bitches or situations break me.

I am the god of my own little world

Goals

Lift

Fuck these bitches to sleep

Repeat

frontyer0077 · 2018-12-18T18:41:35+00:00

It started when i read about PUA. I got good at game and could easily hook up with girls. But I was still blue pilled and wanted my unicorn to settle down with.

Well it started by me catching oneitis for a red flag, she literally was a red flag and she had most of the bad qualities you guys could list up. She fucked lots of dudes and I acted like a bitch about it. Until we decided to get exlucive. She fucked a fb 1.5 weeks later. At that point I ghostet her and found "Entrepreneurs in Cars" on youtube. He gave lots of truths and I recognized myself and the chick in everything he said. I then progressivly became more and more redpilled after consuming the material on the Internet.

HumptyDumptyFellHard · 2018-12-18T19:58:54+00:00

I was in a LDR(I know stupid), started out wonderful(beta as they come) and as months went by, I started to get vibes from her that she was checking out.

At the time my SMV was low, so she had the upper hand. She hooked up with a dude, I gave her another chance(I know even more stupid), months later I found out she was talking to other guys and getting attention from them. Then she dumped me because I found out..

Know I can see that AWALT, LDR are shit, bitches will go get attention from other dicks if you aren’t giving it to her, the one that cares less in a relationship has the most power & there will never be a unicorn.

DadOnDabs · 2018-12-18T21:16:17+00:00

For most guys here it's the realization that unicorns aren't real

Suqat · 2018-12-18T21:23:21+00:00

First gf. Was a great girl, but I really learned the medium is the message, even though I was holding on to AFC conventions at the time. For example, had a conversation with her where I basically came to the conclusion that "love is conditional with you." She admitted this was true, even though unconditional love is what we should "strive for". Got dumped after trying to conform to her every desire for me, she got disgusted and dumped me. Gave me some hard thinking to do. Found the rp while looking to spice up the relationship again (Before dump), and it really made sense the first general read through. Of course it didn't register in time, but it has changed my live in a way I can only be thankful for.

nummas · 2018-12-18T21:45:20+00:00

For me it was most girls I liked contacting me to get in touch with my better looking friend. This was well before I discovered TRP, but I had basically laid the groundwork myself with my thoughts on women and when I stumbled across TRP, it confirmed some of what I already thought and I gained much more valuable information.

prrraveen · 2018-12-19T01:39:48+00:00

Bad case of ONEites, she started giving me shit. Somehow found redpill. I got to know how beta I am.

I started lifting, dress better, day game, hold my frame. Life is so much better. I turned from a weak person to strong person

kybervoid · 2018-12-19T02:12:34+00:00

My story is I was a freshman in college on a track team. I am now a Junior in college, but 1.5-2 years ago I doubted my ability and wasnt confident at all in myself. I chose to sit out a year(or redshirt) so that I could be focused on building the team up. Well I shouldve realized that the teammates I had were driven with different goals.

It was tough, not being able to run and have guys that you would beat in practice look down on you because you werent on the traveling team(or non redshirt/practice squad). I understand its college and you can go out and party but did they really have to do that every weekend? Dont they want to be successful in other areas of their lives too?

This caused myself to have many dark thoughts, some of which "am I good enough" or "I should just kill myself". I essentially felt like a failure as a man, because my own father(parents divorced when in 6th grade) had not been there for me. I, the eldest of my family was forced to grow up and help my mother. Sure my Dad has always been around, but its complicated. He doesnt want to help pay for my school and he hates the fact that I am athletic and not as smart as he was.

During this time I went onto youtube and began to search videos about mens fashion and lifestyle and discovered channels like alpha m, RMRS, and Jose Zuniga. That led me down another rabbit hole to text game and learning about what it takes to talk to women/what women want, etc. Eventually I went on reddit and typed in alpha male and saw what popped up. This being one of the first sub reddits.

send_it_for_the_boys · 2018-12-19T10:29:13+00:00

My experience I met a hot 26 year old on my 21st birthday, she made out with me because it was my bday. set up a date the weekend after, mind you I hadn’t had a gf or anything like that in a while. We hit it off great, fucked her a lot for like a month, Then I started sending sweet messages and being “nice” and failing shit tests “in which I had no idea existed” her attitude changed and I had no idea what was going on had no idea anything about a shit test or anything. It ended with her telling me how nice of a guy I was and that she wanted to be friends. Ended up googling some things which lead me to the shit test, later found TRP. Always been a lifter and a good worker so I had that going for me, but little did I know that slut was one of the best worst things that had ever happened to me in my life. ps....she also taught me the value of wrapping your dick.....chlamydia...

whostonedtx · 2018-12-23T16:31:50+00:00

Female here. I would say some red pill stuff is true and some blue pill stuff is also true. I take what I can learn from both.

I was in a 4 year relationship with a guy who basically consumed my life. He was really needy and I ended up distancing myself from friends to avoid conflict and became overly reliant on him. Once he realized I was hooked he flipped the script on me - started cheating, became addicted to porn and stopped having sex with me and that messed with my self esteem. For both men and women I realized it’s important to have friendships and a social life outside of the relationship because if not you run the risk of one person becoming “too comfortable”

I realized I was attracting those type of relationships because I sucked at socializing. So I use TRP more for social advice and am forcing myself to be less introverted.

ValuePrestige · 2018-12-30T00:21:24+00:00

Nothing special. Read the stuff and realized how it applied to the reallife. Not one special Moment but a long term process

Bluefishermen13 · 2018-12-18T22:32:00+00:00

Being 5´4 i was born with the red pill in my dna.

DarkPillWolf · 2018-12-19T05:28:28+00:00

Off and on with my high school girlfriend throughout university. She bangs some 28-year old co-worker of hers (19 at the time), this kills me on the inside but I don't say anything. Find out she's hooking up with her sister's friends, texting exes and a bunch of other guys. Mind you I was doing the same things, so eventually I forgive her and we try to "work on things". Whatever, I detach myself and start down a path towards things I give a shit about. So, in my third year of school I head off to Australia for 6-months for a foreign exchange. Things are alright now in the relationship, 2 weeks in to the trip she's being her typical psychopath self again. I decide I'm just gunna lay low in the relationship, do some self-reflection, focus on personal growth, and hit the gym more to occupy my time. In this self-improvement phase I stumbled across a few things:

Jocko Willink (Youtube his tedtalk)
Jordan Peterson
David Goggins

And last but certainly not least, TRP.

Growing up, I really couldn't understand why Chad was cucking everybody and the nice guys were left to clean up the mess. TRP punched me straight in the face and told me exactly why.

do_glatem_livE7734 · 2018-12-19T12:22:43+00:00

I wondered why "bad boys" get pussy and I don't. Realized people worship wrong version of the story. Also in friendzone with oneitis.

EdvardMunch · 2018-12-18T23:35:42+00:00

Do guys ride the carousel too? Cuz I definitely feel I missed out on good ltr's for running around. Now the worlds gone nuts and too many women are getting insane behaviors validated by 4th wave feminism. At this point I don't see how its much different than people who support trumps insane behaviors. Where did objectivity go.

Title	What was your first real world experience that really made you swallow the pill?
Author	TheShearerComplex
Upvotes	268
Comments	163
Date	December 18, 2018 3:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/a7busf/what_was_your_first_real_world_experience_that/
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