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MistahUndaCova001 · 2021-03-06T10:43:22+00:00

When you said that you two had "fun" before parting ways, did you mean that she put on a private slam dunk contest for you?

Alpha-Charlie-Romeo · 2021-03-06T12:38:48+00:00

5"8 is short? Isn't that like average or something?

I'm 5"3 and I'd say I'm short. 5"8 ain't nothing.

But I agree with the sentiment of your message, yes.

likethemonkey · 2021-03-06T17:46:59+00:00

I once showed up to a Tinder date to see a woman 6 inches taller than me (I'm 5'6). We went on the day date (classical music on a barge — we snuck in whiskey coffees). We held hands while walking on the sidewalk, away from the dock.

As we walked past a building with steps leading up, I gave her hand a little tug, walked up a couple steps so I would be her height, and we kissed. She was very smily and said she was impressed.

I've dated a number of women who are taller than me. Height can be an issue, but it doesn't have to be.

m_happy · 2021-03-06T12:06:10+00:00

What were the shit tests?

Zenis · 2021-03-06T16:48:30+00:00

I’ve dated quite a few taller women. I think most of them prefer taller guys, all things being equal, but it’s not a dealbreaker.

What IS a dealbreaker for them is a guy who is insecure about his height. She needs to know you’re not going to be an asshole about her wearing heels, or start fights with people about comments, etc.

I would have skipped the self-deprecating comment about heels until she brought it up, but it’s a decent line. Here are some of my go-tos for taller women who say bring it up, depending on context.

“I love taller women. It’s always been a fun treat when I’ve dated them”

“I know, right? It’s a good thing I’m so fucking charming.”

(If we’ve exchanged nudes before the date) “I know, all I’ve got going for me is this huge cock. It’s so unfair.”

And now I’m stealing: “shit, should I have worn heels?”

(For the record, I’ve never once had a woman show up and comment in an insulting or negative way. Only a handful have said something about it being a no-go online, and I just end the conversation with a “pleasure meeting you, good luck out there”)

AltruisticFireandIce · 2021-03-06T11:50:43+00:00

I think ‘I’m quite short indeed’ is a super confident thing to say. No reason to break anything off just because someone says those words..

SadKnight123 · 2021-03-06T13:43:48+00:00

Nice post. I'm on my own way of self improvement. A bit slowly but advancing in certain areas. What did you did and do to improve yourself to achieve this confidence.

I still can barely talk to people without sound boring. Still struggle to talk with girls (being them attractive or not), let alone flirt with them and "escalate". But at least I'm not the overweight pig I used to be and people are starting to compliment me and some girls I think are starting to notice. I don't feel completely invisible and worthless anymore.

moose_102 · 2021-03-06T16:46:27+00:00

We’re all the same height laying down my friend

Bravo823 · 2021-03-06T18:58:03+00:00

I’m 5’5 and I’ve been on multiple dates with tall women, some go really well compared to others and the current woman I’m talking to is about 5’11. I just really enjoy tall girls for some reason.

My favorite line I use to break the ice “height doesn’t matter, we are all the same size in the bed room”

Alonso81687 · 2021-03-06T12:36:53+00:00

True my guy. I'm 5'7. I see a lot of dudes post that they can't find girls to match on OLD because of their height, but my gnome looking ass has been on 3 dates in the past two weeks and it's because I've been charming, funny and confident. Confidence is very important to them, so don't ever put them on a pedestal.

DJGammaRabbit · 2021-03-06T12:42:59+00:00

This post is pretty... rocky. Everybody with healthy opinions gets downvoted. Women get downvoted. You’re playing yourself.

SaltNPepperfrost · 2021-03-06T15:53:10+00:00

I’m 5’8” and rarely get accused of being short. But I tend to wear some type of boot. Be it business casual boot, or my biker boots. Which gives me an additional inch. So does that one little inch make that much of a difference I wonder how many people think 5’9” is short ?

ModernManLevi · 2021-03-06T12:48:19+00:00

This is exactly what I talked about in my post from yesterday, own your shit. Good report brother.

problydoesntcheckout · 2021-03-06T15:38:10+00:00

Some girls care, some don't. My new gf is way better looking and taller. When I mentioned before or first date she was more worried that I had a problem with it.

esaul17 · 2021-03-06T18:05:09+00:00

Man imagine a girl making a post. "I went on a date with a guy. I was fatter than he thought I would be. He obviously made a comment on my weight and insulted my field of study. I passed his tests though and got to fuck him. I'm just so confident!"

Sultmaker_9000 · 2021-03-07T02:48:08+00:00

Excellent, reminds me of my exact transformation and change in mindset. I do not give a fuck about being 5'6 (5'9 in my big Cuban heels with insole) and approaching 6'0 women in heels in bars, when I'm in state. I usually get them randomly blurting out something like "I could date a shorter guy if he's interesting to me".

Always funny the next morning when I'm no longer wearing my shoes and they ask "How tall are you".

dipthrowit · 2021-03-06T11:35:33+00:00

Good for you bud, true confidence is certainly key.

As for “dipping below your standards”, sounds like you’re afraid what others will judge you for. If you’re into a woman, you’re into her. Date who you want to date, bang who you want to bang.

2021-03-06T10:39:25+00:00

Lmfaoooo

Jack_Khorver · 2021-03-06T11:57:35+00:00

Ahaha! Go get em brother!

ScrollingForHours · 2021-03-06T12:53:28+00:00

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txscope · 2021-03-06T14:06:28+00:00

Whay you do for self work? Gym?nutrition..

HisRoyalAwesomeness · 2021-03-06T15:20:04+00:00

You had me at ‘And I didn’t give a fuck.’

Well done, man.

Signed, a fellow ‘short’ guy (5’6”)

CarbonaraQueen · 2021-03-06T17:28:26+00:00

Shit tests ?? What does that even mean?

ScrollingForHours · 2021-03-06T17:36:07+00:00

You guys are getting dates? I just get numbers and snapchats lol

Fecund_Sweet · 2021-03-07T00:58:37+00:00

Remember, confidence is the key to success.

No, it's not. Because you're "confident", and wholly unequipped. You have no clue that women are people, and it will probably take you years to get that.

There is no key to success. Because success implies an end. And people aren't ends. No one "wins" because interpersonal relations are not a game.

There are relationships that thrive, and relationships that die.

Mistygirl179 · 2021-03-07T02:48:29+00:00

She threw a bunch of shit tests my way, judging what I study, and of course making a remark about how she thought I'd be around 6ft. I passed her shit tests, went to 3 other bars, and without going into too much detail, had quite some 'fun' before parting ways.

Isn't it a normal conversation to have with anyone ? what you study and all! Also, why is this seen as shit test and how do you evaluate you have passed. How does it matter what we study and whatever test the other person doing - wouldn't it be just tell what you do like a normal conversation ?

My tinder date turned out to be taller than me.

Honestly, why this is matter of concern ? Like if height could be deal breaker for her, aren't you already incompatible with each other ? I understand that we are all conscious about stuff but taller or not, shouldn't we strive towards making no places for these insecurities ?

broomhead · 2021-03-07T18:08:57+00:00

Asking questions is not a shit test, holy fuck this sub is retarded these days

MyName_isLame · 2021-03-06T18:52:16+00:00

Tall woman here 🙋‍♀️ and there’s nothing sexier than a little man owning his height and approaching me, regardless of his “shortcomings”! He won’t always have luck with me but some do and it’s their confidence that most likely won me over. Short guys approach me more than tall guys. I’m a short guy magnet. I don’t care much about height in a man it’s their face that I have to look at all day. Its their personality that I have to deal with. That’s what matters most to me

c2kink · 2021-03-06T22:18:08+00:00

Our society is so fucked up when it comes to height between men and women. Height isn’t a personality trait and sadly I wished I had realized this in my younger years. Glad you didn’t let the height difference discourage you. I had a great date with a guy a good 1.5” shorter than me... but who cares how tall someone is when you’re having fun.

Fecund_Sweet · 2021-03-07T00:54:27+00:00

Christ, you kids and "tests".

I barely got through this post. This is some sad, insecure crap. I mean, you actually talk about "getting laid", are you serious?

And for the love of something holy, please. Just stop referring to human beings as a number. People cannot be quantified, and that you try to? Shows how emotionally immature you are.

TerrorBollea · 2021-03-06T20:36:18+00:00

I’m actually insecure about this. I’m 6ft, and have always wished I was like 6’3 or 6’4. I don’t like it when a woman is taller than me. I know it’s stupid, ridiculous, and petty, but we all have those aspects of ourselves. Nobody is perfect, we might as well embrace our flaws (within reason of course) rather than trying to get around them and always having an issue that keeps you from being truly happy.

cyberpunksymphony · 2021-03-06T22:41:27+00:00

What is the point of this post? To assuage your insecurities?

Some women will date men shorter than them, but there is generally something wrong with them because it's a suboptimal pairing.

There are plenty of girls shorter than you to hit on.

_donkenstein_ · 2021-03-06T16:04:35+00:00

Should have negged her about her height instead of self-deprecating when greeting her.

"What's up, Lurch?"

Hope you end up bedding her.

gucciwillis · 2021-03-06T12:10:45+00:00

I’m 6ft 3

andrenery · 2021-03-06T15:00:01+00:00

Feet...

TAA180 · 2021-03-06T16:41:24+00:00

How did you pass the shit tests?

Cragwalker · 2021-03-06T16:50:00+00:00

Talking once we meet, im okay at. It's the whole getting matches thing that I'm not so great at

sessoms09 · 2021-03-06T17:55:07+00:00

Man that heel joke was gold bro you gotta teach me a lil sumn cause I know I couldn’t pulled that gold out💯💯

TweetieWinter · 2021-03-06T19:02:24+00:00

Tell us about the self work that you did!

Creevy85 · 2021-03-06T19:05:56+00:00

Well played sir

Creevy85 · 2021-03-06T19:05:56+00:00

Well played sir

icantjustchooseone · 2021-03-06T19:37:35+00:00

My man with all that swag ayy

NSmith777 · 2021-03-06T20:19:21+00:00

One thing to never loose sight of is...we’re all about the same size laying down. Lol

TheChernarussian · 2021-03-06T22:36:46+00:00

I'm 5ft 9 (177 cm) which is average but still had problems because of it. Matched with a girl who wrote in her bio that she's 175 cm. Had a good conversation so we set up a date. I thought that things will get a bit awkward if she shows up in high heels - which she did - but it turned out that even in heels she's much shorter than me - like around 160 cm. The date was good we had fun but I've never mentioned this to her (probably should have) . I don't get why people lie about their height.

Plebe-Uchiha · 2021-03-06T23:30:56+00:00

Yup yup yup! I’ve learned this from my time being physically fit as hell and barely getting any attention from the opposite sex to the time I was super overweight but had girls tryna come home with me. Confidence is key 🔑 [+]

Program_538 · 2021-03-06T23:57:40+00:00

69 inches tall but damn

PECOSbravo · 2021-03-07T00:20:45+00:00

It's not so much about the looks but once I begin a conversation- it's a lock.. even just for simple friendship

But I tend to overthink everything

morchorchorman · 2021-03-07T00:59:51+00:00

Curious what the tests were

AlarmingJellyfish696 · 2021-03-07T03:49:00+00:00

If you packing, it don’t matter your height, or lack thereof, the man obviously learned how to put it down, now he reaps the rewards..

6AeyBee9 · 2021-03-07T05:11:36+00:00

I am 5'5 and a little insecure about my height. The last para is so relatable as I am a recovering incel. Now, how did you handle the shit test for your height, because I get a little angry (even though I do not want to as am I am insecure and do not know how to handle it)

Alleoz · 2021-03-07T08:17:27+00:00

There is nothing less attractive than a whiny guy who wants you to mother his insecurities from day one. The fact you made a joke and showed how comfortable and confident you are would probably turn me on irrespective of how physically attractive you are. Self depreciating jokes are great too, as long as they are light. A man who isn’t hell bent on proving masculinity and just has it in the bag makes me way more comfortable than a guy I think is acting odd to prove something, they make me feel uneasy.

No_Influence4779 · 2021-03-07T08:52:54+00:00

what did you do to build your confidence?

Tinkerdudes · 2021-03-13T01:41:34+00:00

I wish I was 5 8 just so I could date taller girls. I still can but they are pretty much unicorns and I am not even that tall.

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