What's your Blue Pill success story?

Gravel_Roads · 2026-01-20T18:49:51+00:00

I met my partner online, on a writing site. We didn’t even know each other’s gender, much less what we looked like, but after talking for years, we fell in love entirely based on personality.

We eventually moved to live in the same area and we’re engaged. We’ve known each other and been BFF’s for over 25 years!

SocrateandAthena · 2026-01-20T20:28:48+00:00

My man has an average look, average height, not muscular, not a model face, slighly underweight. He had already started to discretly lose his hairline when we met. But he was always driven, smart, successful in his (academic -> broke) field and very passioned when talking about it. He plays multiple instruments, has a band, reads tons of novels and philosophy, scientific litterature too related to his job. In an other word : he's interesting to talk to. When we met he put a lot of efforts into our relationship. Told me he was falling in love very early, always eager to come and see me, very comforting and supporting. He never played games. All my friends were jealous of our romance. He was a catch and his main charm was not lying in his look according to the standards running here, or his finance. 10 years later, our relationship is loving, we are far from a dead bedroom situation, especially considering how tired we are with 2 young children. You guys would see a betabucks in him and you would be very wrong. Apart from the hit we take from life, he truly lives his best life.

kmb218 · 2026-01-20T18:36:34+00:00

I improved my social skills, worked on my social anxiety and became more extroverted. I started volunteering and going to events where I could meet new people. Finally started getting some dates after that.

Also, I know a lot of friends who were single for a long time, changed absolutely nothing and eventually got into a relationship (both male and female). I think people underestimate the role of luck in dating. Sure, there are things that you can do that will improve your chances, but luck plays a big role too. In my social circle, most people spend years single in between relationships. It’s not like they are doing something wrong and then after 3 years, they change something and get into a relationship. They just keep being themselves and acting as normal and eventually meet the right person.

JSpady1 · 2026-01-20T19:19:15+00:00

Had terrible success dating through high school and college. I was introverted, rarely exercised, and spent a lot of my free time playing video games.

Sometime in my early/mid 20s, I realized that I didn't want to be 80 someday looking back thinking I never hit my potential, and never tried to hit it. So I made self improvement a hobby. Started working out every single day, spent less $$ on games/fast food and more on clothes.. Got into skincare, cologne, etc.. Then I joined a few hobby clubs in my city.

It was extremely uncomfortable at first. I'd be exhausted and defeated often. But I improved over time. About a year or two in I realized that I had made a ton of progress. That's around the time I started to see more success with women.

Think_Reporter_8179 · 2026-01-20T20:44:27+00:00

I've been with 3 women, who are best friends, for 14+ years now. I'm "unapologetically me", I'm real, I treat people with respect, and don't take shit from people. It works fine.

To the Red Pill's point, I am 6'5", but just being 6'5" doesn't give you the life I have. So, there's definitely way more to whatever it is I'm doing, which I think is just not pretending to be something I'm not.

Solondthewookiee · 2026-01-20T18:30:26+00:00

In college and for a few years after, I couldn't get a date to save my life. I was on multiple apps, even a couple paid ones (Match and Chemistry for people who remember those sites) and nothing. I flirted with the PUA community for awhile, but there were too many obviously "I hate women" dudes there, not to mention the "bootcamps" that you were supposed to attend to get the real training and advice that cost thousands of dollars.

My post-college years is when Tinder got huge and I was still struggling to get matches and the few dates I did go on didn't go anywhere. I finally was hanging out with one of my female friends and she showed me her Tinder and what struck me is how similar all the male profiles were. Very generic text, the same kinds of photos, always messaging "Hey". Basically, they had all read the same generic advice I had and were casting such an incredibly broad net that they blended in with each other, which meant the only thing that could distinguish you was how good looking you were.

So I started tweaking my profile. I took tons of photos, had friends take photos, dug up any pictures from recent history that others hand taken and I started experimenting with different combinations. I probably rewrote my profile blurb 30 or 40 times over the course of year and I couldn't even tell you how many photos. Instead of trying to be as generic as possible and avoid even the slightest chance of turning off a woman, I just posted me and showed who I was through my profile.

Eventually, it worked. And it wasn't a gradual thing, either. I posted my new set of photos one day, and within hours I was getting matches. From that point on, I never struggled to get a date and the dates I did go on were more successful, I got three serious relationships from it (including my now wife) and had a number of hooks up, casual relationships, and a FWB.

mashedturnip · 2026-01-20T18:59:03+00:00

I stopped being a sour, mean introvert and put effort into my appearance, aka giving a shit about what people thought

Alakazam! Normalcy! Whodathunkit?

EugeneCezanne · 2026-01-20T19:07:05+00:00

I tried answering this last time, but I'll make it simpler.

At 18 I was struggling. By 20 I had a girlfriend. By 25, I had girlfriends, a handful of hookups, even a couple threesomes. By 30, I'd lost count of those things, except upon prolonged, systematic reflection. I did all of this without significantly changing anything but:

Being more myself
Making friends with women
Reading broadly
and, at least initially, not looking for it so hard.

AngeAware · 2026-01-20T19:13:16+00:00

I don't know the last time I've been asked or tried to give a man advice for dating. Similarly I met the love of my life by ignoring 95% of the unsolicited advice men gave me.

On my sweetheart's end it's a different story. He's not particularly close with his father and while he has male friends he felt weird asking them about dating advice. So he talked to his mother and his female friends about it instead. Together they gave him two of the most stereotypical pieces of BP advice ever: be yourself, and put yourself out there more. That is how he met his fiancée while having no romantic experience at 25 and changing basically nothing about himself.

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wtknight · 2026-01-20T18:19:37+00:00

I still try to tell people that passport bro-ing is not Red Pill because it involves no looks improvements or game improvements but only a location improvement, but many people don’t seem to buy it.

Even Blue Pillers here will tell less than successful men that they need to improve somewhat. There are very few people (none I’m aware of) in this sub telling them to keep doing the same thing that they’ve always been doing and that, eventually, they will meet someone.

torytho · 2026-01-21T03:23:02+00:00

"success" for us doesn't mean you get a girl, it means you stop being a hateful, bigoted, misogynist.

AlarmingArm9919 · 2026-01-21T03:36:41+00:00

I was broke as shit. and then I was nice. and then I got like 7 relationships/hookups and eventually married.

I'm still broke as shit. y'all try too hard.

make people laugh, be a bit self deprecating, share some secret bedroom activities just for each other, and wipe off the toilet seat pee

Title	What's your Blue Pill success story?
Author	Ok_Cook_3098
Upvotes	17
Comments	217
Date	January 20, 2026 6:11 PM UTC (6 months ago)
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