23 years ago, my girlfiend sabataged a condom and made me a father, against my will.

Loumier · 2022-02-20T15:57:39+00:00

I totally believe you because I have known a few guys that ended in the same situation, except that the women didn't actually want the children. They just wanted to hold the man in the relationship. Which means, not only they were manipulative but they have put a new life in the world for the most egoistic reason. And how they know? Because the women have confessed.

BrodieS11 · 2022-02-20T14:10:57+00:00

Always bring your own condom, Don't let her touch it and Flush that shit when your done or Carry some hot sauce with you and put it in before you tie it, they'll only make that mistake once.

Tayaradga · 2022-02-20T20:03:06+00:00

Tampering with a condom like that should be considered rape... You didn't consent to that

Slow-Brush · 2022-02-20T16:14:13+00:00

I remembered this shit happened to me, but I did a "coïtus interruptus." Man you should see look on her face, every cuss words were thrown at me, later I found out that she wanted to get back at her husband by getting pregnant with a little bit of help from someone and she picked me. Funny, we never spoke to each other again after this incident.

R-human · 2022-02-20T16:25:29+00:00

I should have taken this advice "never stick your dick in crazy" more seriously.

But I was a horny virgin. Not really any bad consequences tho, just a bad break up. She isn't able to have babies, as this would have ended in her death due to medical conditions.

But it just shows that, remember kids; don't stick your dick in crazy.

TraehNoil · 2022-02-20T17:37:29+00:00

Mine lied and quit taking her birth control. Admitted to it later in life

OldEgalitarianMRA · 2022-02-20T15:08:09+00:00

That's why, in my forties, after my son was born and I was divorced, I got a vasectomy.

How often to you have custody of your daughter?

cdcollector23 · 2022-02-20T15:25:19+00:00

How isn't this illegal?

MrPernicious · 2022-02-20T17:18:36+00:00

most condoms have a 98% + 'survival rate'. But not this one. Busted wide open.

The only condom that has ever torn open during sex was one my then gf provided for me. This was shortly after she had cheated and I didn't know at the time. Fortunately, I could feel it and I replaced the condom with one of mine before any "accidents" could happen. I have always wondered if she had tampered with it so that any pregnancy could be plausibly mine.

GreatGrizzly · 2022-02-20T18:33:25+00:00

Women have virtually complete control in terms of dating, relationships, sex and children.

Legally, culturally and practically men are just sperm donors and walking ATMs when the choice to have a kid is involved.

Men's only options to fight back? Condoms or vasectomy... and even condoms are not a real option either.

I am sorry that you went through that OP.

WhereProgressIsMade · 2022-02-20T17:20:45+00:00

Just a tip for other guys out there. You can use a condom and spermicide together. It’s only 72% effective by itself so shouldn’t be used alone. Always use it with a condom. It’s the only other birth control that I know of (other than a vasectomy) that a guy can bring and apply. If a woman is ok with a condom but won’t let you apply the spermicide (into the vagina 10-15 minutes before intercourse) that should tip you off that you’ve got a crazy on your hands.

It does kind of suck to be all ready and then have to wait 10 minutes so you need to have a plan to not make it awkward.

Fun_Flounder5968 · 2022-02-20T17:06:30+00:00

I've had one condom fail and it blew out. Didn't notice until after. It was with a woman who wasn't explicit about kids but looking back, yeah, she wanted a kid.

Luckily she didn't get pregnant. But fuck, it could have messed my life up. Imagining dealing with her is a nightmare.

Sorry for what happened to you, man.

Njaulv · 2022-02-20T14:35:19+00:00

I can't speak to how your daughter would react, but I personally would rather be told the truth. This is also a great way to teach the lesson about not getting with crazy people and noticing the red flags for your daughter.

usehername6969 · 2022-02-21T00:55:12+00:00

I would advise every young man to get a vasectomy, one of the best decisions I ever made.

AkatsukiGaara · 2022-02-21T04:06:03+00:00

My honest advice to anyone who has a girlfriend, a wife, a smash buddy, or ur lookin for a hookup.

Carry your own condoms, keep them stored safely with you and never, ever use condoms that arent from a secret stash of yours. Hide ur condoms, somewhere where u partner will never find it or even think to look. When u do the doodah, u pull one out from ur pocket. U make sure the condom u have on is safe and in good condition. I don't give a flying noodle yeehaw about whether u trust ur partner more than God himself, protect ur condoms, keep them hidden from ur girlfriend. The moment u see ur condom stash slightly adjusted (take pics of it everytime u take from it or save to ur memory how u place it), throw the stash away and buy a new one and find a new location. Or keep that stash there and buy a new one and find a new location and take from ur new stash while the old one stays decoy.

Kids are great to have, but horrible when ur not prepared to have them, or when u have them with the wrong person.

If u like to go raw, and u see that ur partner has been having baby fever for a while, dont go raw lest she traps u just before you bust. Alot of women realize ur gonna bust and trap u because u dudes make it too obvious by accelerating your orgasms and getting slightly louder and even goa s far as announcing ur gonna cum and they trap u. Never ever make it obvious. Pull out well before u bust where she cannot stop u, if shes already got u trapped and u feel it, pretend to bust when u havent so she lets go and end the session there and walk away with blue balls but baby-free lmao. Use ur brains

Ummm_OK_65 · 2022-02-21T05:17:02+00:00

I'm a three time loser in the Needy/crazy/manipulative sex partner sweepstakes. and now i have 7 kids

McFeely_Smackup · 2022-02-20T18:03:15+00:00

A condom failure does not mean it was sabotaged.

Condoms sometimes blow out, it happens. This is why condoms should NEVER be a sole form of birth control. This is where sex Ed agenda has totally failed. They tell kids and adults "use a condom for safe sex", and it's factually not true.

Condoms are safer than nothing at all, but they are so far from perfect that it needs to be talked about more. In real world use, condoms are almost exactly as effective at preventing pregnancy as the pull out method.

The message should be "use condoms but if you're only using condoms you're playing with fire"

anonyree · 2022-02-20T14:47:33+00:00

Why would you ever tell your daughter that.

MRMRising · 2022-02-20T17:04:28+00:00

LPS pt.1) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRdq2zqGxgY&list=PLbA7X2U_AzlKrtYwnFnOqZ4Aeb00rnqMR&index=2

LPS pt.2) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UFYxlmRRnkw&list=PLbA7X2U_AzlKrtYwnFnOqZ4Aeb00rnqMR&index=1

LPS pt.3) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z3UmXu97yRQ&list=PLbA7X2U_AzlKrtYwnFnOqZ4Aeb00rnqMR&index=9

LPS pt.4) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50UCPLmNdnM&list=PLbA7X2U_AzlKrtYwnFnOqZ4Aeb00rnqMR&index=8

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2022-02-21T00:52:37+00:00

Excellent story. I can confirm that condoms DO break from time to time.

needalife94 · 2022-02-21T03:16:21+00:00

Hey OP , how did you know she sabotaged your condoms ??

awksomepenguin · 2022-02-21T03:24:56+00:00

As a rule: never have sex with someone you are not willing to have children with.

Beltox2pointO · 2022-02-21T07:44:10+00:00

Not to doubt your story, but I had a run of similar "exploding" condoms. I bought them new within a week of usage, and brought them myself to the occasions.

That 2% does happen, and if you don't notice (or choose not to) and it's bad timing, then you get lucky.

I don't think it's healthy to focus on what very much could have been a defective condom.

Ghriszly · 2022-02-21T12:18:06+00:00

This is the exact same reason I exist! It happens a lot more than people like to admit

sofiaankhan · 2022-02-20T18:59:25+00:00

Bring 3 condoms. 1 for her, 1 for you and 1 for Jesus.

CttCJim · 2022-02-20T21:15:02+00:00

sadly it's not provable unless she admits it. I've had condoms snap in use without sabotage, it happens. especially if you put them on wrong, but even if you do it right it can happen :/

blueXcat · 2022-02-21T02:29:31+00:00

Feminists are angry if we tell women how to protect themselves from rape, saying we shouldn't be potential victims at all...

But couldn't care less if men have to take so much precautions for something women just have to get an abortion for

PressFtoGiveRespects · 2022-02-20T14:37:10+00:00

Always pull it out

TimeToLoseGains · 2022-02-21T00:47:49+00:00

Busted wide open, and you didn't notice?

AAAAAGGGGHHH · 2022-02-21T08:42:46+00:00

Thats fucked up what Her mom did, but your daughter is 22 now right? If she took a sex ed course she would understand that what her mom did was fucked up.

How do you know the condom was sabotaged? Did she tell you after the fact? Or are you just making the assumption?

5fingerdiscounts · 2022-02-21T12:01:34+00:00

I’m sorta in same position only had a little fling with a girl who lives across the country and she decided to keep the child tried moving to the place I live and I had told her from day 1 I don’t want a relationship or anything with you. Everyone says she tried to trap me. Now there’s a kid I can’t see cause her mother is batshit crazy.

ThisNameWillBeBetter · 2022-02-21T00:12:23+00:00

I'm confused. The condom broke? You should have noticed that and not ejaculated inside. That's on you dude. A pinhole I can see as you are unaware but when a condom breaks you know, sometimes you just go into denial because it feels good and you don't want to stop.

frecklearms1991 · 2022-02-20T17:52:14+00:00

I would tell your daughter the truth. That you didn't want to have any children back then. But now you have changed your mind when she came into your life.

lordtyp0 · 2022-02-20T23:36:59+00:00

Don't tell her. Ever. Seriously she never needs to hear that. Just say that things didn't work out. Leave it blank.

Truth matters. But it doesn't always need to be uttered.

Runtyaardvark · 2022-02-21T03:21:00+00:00

How did you know she messed with it? I’m so sorry that happened to you. No one should be forced to have a child they don’t want

Please for the love of god do not tell your daughter. Nothing good can come from her questioning her entire existence

pikleboiy · 2022-02-20T16:44:47+00:00

That's illegal, is it not?

23Enigma · 2022-02-20T17:38:59+00:00

Now is your time to shine

DrunicusrexXIII · 2022-02-20T16:59:43+00:00

Chances are your daughter knows her mother pretty well by now, and has figured out how she was conceived. There's probably no need to tell her.

CryingMadGirl · 2022-02-20T18:18:35+00:00

You have to tell her the truth, I would have appreciated it maybe she does too

ajahanonymous · 2022-02-20T19:01:29+00:00

I don't think a single condom breaking is proof of anything, it happens occasionally especially if the condom is old/expired.

MydnightRose · 2022-02-20T21:19:04+00:00

You really didn't prove anything here. You just have a weak suspicion and the only circumstantial evidence is she said she wanted kids.

doggosrbabies · 2022-02-20T18:04:35+00:00

oh my god that's terrible

CrunchyNutFruit · 2022-02-20T20:53:12+00:00

WWDD (hot sauce)

AitoNikishumi · 2022-02-21T09:06:29+00:00

And it’s legal in some states… next time put hot sauce in it lol she wanna steal your sperm she gon learn her lesson from it at the very least🤷

DemonizedHuman · 2022-02-20T17:05:33+00:00

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Gamernator-GX · 2022-02-20T17:11:23+00:00

I always brought my own condoms, kept them sealed until moment of action, and wore 2 at a time. Yep. One condom over the other. It's like double-bagging your groceries. Get extra large ones, and you can tuck your testicles in them. I never got anyone pregnant nor got an STD.

ThrillaDaGuerilla · 2022-02-20T15:40:26+00:00

Don't ever....ever.....tell your daughter any of this.

Its ridiculously unfair to unload your bullshit on to her.

Hell, the condom may have just failed, and not been sabotaged....you have no idea what happened. Why you need or convince yourself that she did it is your issue, but recognize that you don't actually know.

I feel bad for your daughter...hopefully she doesn't know her own father resents her existence.

Fucking ridiculous.

Physical-Pie748 · 2022-02-20T19:23:45+00:00

oh god. its better to not stick it in anyone

YouDontKnoMeBitch · 2022-02-20T19:38:50+00:00

Don’t tell your daughter she’ll figure it out all on her own in due time

TonguePunchMyPooHole · 2022-02-20T22:27:36+00:00

Don’t tell your daughter. She’ll be able to twist that as you saying you don’t want her.

Support her, and love her. NEVER bring the bullshit between you and her mother between you two. It’s just stooping to her mothers level of crazy.

You’ll almost always come off worse.

BasedAlliance935 · 2022-02-21T00:32:26+00:00

why didn't you just opt for an abortion or divorce

comment-stalker · 2022-02-21T16:57:07+00:00

My mom did this. Dad found the BC pills in the trash, next thing you know, honey I'm pregnant!

Mac_McAvery · 2022-02-21T19:33:41+00:00

Same, I was blacked out drunk and 100% believe she knew what she was doing

Hot_Beach5401 · 2022-02-22T08:12:49+00:00

isn't that rape?

LearnDifferenceBot · 2022-02-20T15:59:35+00:00

i appreciate the fact that instead of going "my wallet my choice" your actually providing for your daughter despite the unfairness of the situation.

Samurai-Andy · 2022-02-20T22:08:26+00:00

Message to the kids... Three W's... Withdraw, Wank, Wipe.

c0ncentrate · 2022-02-20T23:58:54+00:00

Nothing like being a man and dating these day. Having to guard your condoms and carry around a packet of Taco Bell hot sauce is great!

MegaAlex · 2022-02-21T00:58:54+00:00

Mine is a similar story, except she was on the depo provera (the shot) and on the pill (do you really expect a kid to know doctors wont give both to girls?) and it's been a shit show ever since, I tell my son everything. he knows alot of girls lie about this shit. I had no idea. I wanted to fall in love, build a home and raise a family. I feel this was taken away from me. Have you ever hear about a single guy with a child in his 20s? no girl would want to date such a person.I remember dating a girl and as soon as they learn I had a kid, they immediately asked me to drive them home. This happened a lot. None of this was my choice. I had absolutely no idea some people where that manipulative. I could go on but I don't want to start a pity party. I learn to keep this to myself.

renthefox · 2022-02-21T02:13:54+00:00

Same thing happened to me. Worst thing is having a connection to a unscrupulous pathological lying psycho. It’s been 22 years.

RJR79mp · 2022-02-21T05:33:05+00:00

Sucka you got played.

Can confirm. My eldest is now 25 and guess what. I got played too.

Nothing like 18 years of unexpected child support and co-signing college loans for some sh*t-ass school up in N Dakota to run the salt in hard

Title	23 years ago, my girlfiend sabataged a condom and made me a father, against my will.
Author	RabidusRex
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Comments	193
Date	February 20, 2022 1:23 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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