Are women as sexually attracted to personality as much as looks?
Most women except demisexuals accept that they're sexually attracted to very good looking men. But most women also say that they are sexually attracted to men with great personality too ( provided that the guy is not repulsively ugly ).
Which makes me believe there are actually two aspects of female sexuality.
Good looks are sexually attractive.
Personality ( with reasonable looks ) is equally or even more sexually attractive.
This is a hypothesis by me, but if this is true this explains why when looking for a LTR, women take things slow, so that they can get to know the personality of a man, which is sexually attractive and when looking for casual sex, they go for best looking men.
But there are a lot of women who are not demisexuals but are not at all into casual sex even when extremely attractive men pursue them for hookups and will have sex only in commited relationship, some try it once or twice due to fomo and decide it's not for them, some women feel bad after having casual sex, some women like it and enjoy hookups but most agree that sex in a committed relationship is far more better than hookups.
And a lot of women don't ride the cock carousel and then finally settle down with a guy they don't like, hookups happen in between relationships. They have normal relationships and if it doesn't workout, they break up and may hookup a few times before finding the next boyfriend.
Redpill believes that looks are the most important aspect of sexual attraction and if a guy is not extremely attractive, women are not sexually attracted to him, blue pill believes personality is the most important aspect of sexual attraction and looks play a minor role.
As evidence blue pill shows how average looking and below average looking men being in relationship with equally or sometimes more attractive women.
Redpill shows how easily good looking men get casual sex than average looking men.
I believe both can be true.
I don't believe dead bedrooms and are good proof of lack of sexual desire for average looking men with good personalities. We don't know if it's only the non Chads that are getting dead bedroomed. Chads can be dead bedroomed. And there are almost equal number of women who complain about not getting enough sex from their husbands. Same with women initiating divorce, we can't know the reason, ofcourse some of it might be because they got bored with the average man but most divorces can have other reasons too. Remember, even Robert pattison, Johnny depp and will Smith can get cheated on.
But there are defenitely exceptions where a woman can be a gold digger. There's a way to circumvent this problem, after establishing a commited relationship, look for signs of disinterest, how frequently SHE initiates sex ( if she liked sex so much before being with you), if she puts as much effort into the relationship as you do. If you're convinced that she's actually sexually attracted to you, your personality, take the relationship to next level but if not back out.
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You're close but you're wrong.
Women are attracted to personality but a man she's going to fuck or have a relationship with has to pass a certain threshold for looks and status.
This is where the Blue Pill falls apart. Blue Pill posits that any man can "be attractive" with some basic hygiene, getting a social circle (being where single women are), "being more interesting" (vague reference to hobbies). Shave off the neck beard, lose a few pounds, get some new clothes, new friends, Voila. You're a fucking Chad.
No, you're not.
I've seen Chad. Back in a 12 step program. No job. Shit untucked. Blathering on about some conspiracy theory regarding how hard his life is - how the police and judges are so mean to his anti-social crime-breaking ass. Yet, this guy slayed pussy the entire time I knew him despite being one of the most callous, manipulative, lazy, pieces of shit I've ever had the displeasure of knowing.
Now that's a fucking Chad.
If you think you're attractive, physically, be a loser. If you still get laid, you're a Chad.
And then, if you've improved every aspect of your life. Your career. Your appearance. Your weight. Your social circle. You travelled. Took the cooking class. Learned a language. Gee, I know one other guy who did all this and he's still a fucking virgin. He's got this "I will never fuck you" stink on him that has to be genetic because no friend of his can even explain it anymore.
With women, it's not always about the assets you have, it's about the deal breakers you DON'T have. Some guys have round faces. Some guys are short. Some guys are skin and bones. Taller guys with mesomorphic frames and broad shoulders and good jawlines will always have a clearcut advantage.
An average looking dude needs MUCHO assets to overcome his averageness.
A great looking dude can have a surprising number of deficits and get 100x the success.
Saying "looks AND Personality" is a really poor way to describe it.
I've seen guys with the personality of a badger get laid like tile.
I've seen interesting, well rounded, cool and affable guys literally repel women.
Here is what I think:
Looks have always mattered for woman as much as looks have mattered to men. The "men like looks and women like personality" is just an age-old veil on female sexuality and social conditioning for her to pursue a good man rather than a pretty man because historically women needed the former and not latter if she was going to be dependent on a man in a traditional marriage. Now that she "needs no man" guess which man she wants and gets? The fucking pretty one. And she'd rather share one pretty man with 4 other fucking women than have one average dude all to herself.
Take that to the bank.
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What about the other guys you've hooked up with? The RedPillers care about that more than who you chose for committed relationships.
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Religious women are less likely to divorce rape? I don't think so.
Religious women get bored of marriage and parenting just as quick as non-religious women - and they have a church full of people there to support them when they are "forced to leave a cold uncaring husband" or "forced into the arms of another man".
TL;DR A cunt in a church is still a cunt. And I saw plenty of single moms with kids in tow before I stopped going to church, too.
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Nyyyyyyaaaaaaa no.
Most religious women today "just go to church". Truly devoted religious ones are a rarity. Most conservative religions do not condone promiscuity or sex before marriage or cohabitation before marriage. "Devout" women do this all the time.
90% of "religious" women are just there for show. They don't live the rules of the scripture or the church. As such, they're just as much of a divorce rape flight risk as a less religious woman.
Trust me. I used to fuck all kinds of "religious" girls. One Jehovah's Witness I was slamming told me how she could be excommunicated for sucking my dick.
I didn't stop her.
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The only truly devote women in North America are Muslim.
Boom. mic drop.
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And when average women make sex really easy to get, they can "pull" guys far above their weight class. Then, they feel above average dudes, despite being unable to get the commitment (and monogamy) out of the pretty dudes.
Pretty people should date and put up with other pretty people. After all, they're in demand and can be actually kind of shitty to people who are not also pretty.
But, more average men and women BOTH pull stunts to get with the pretty ones.
And then, they get fucked over.
There is a guy across the street from me with a slender, pretty one. He's an average dude. I have a $100 bet with a friend that before I move (or die) she'll be in that house and he won't be. She's already out jogging this spring - it's 10C outside. That's 50F. I've never seen this guy wear anything but sandals.
He's fucked. And not in a good way.
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Yeah, but if you're fit and ean, you're good enough for a LTR even with an ugly face or whatever.
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