Less attractive women don’t date more attractive men

Looksmatch: According to people on the RP at least from What I understood, less attractive women tend to be in relationships with more attractive men, and refusing to be so with men that are their ”looksmatch”. Women date more attractive men, men date uglier women or equal. This might be a misunderstanding on my part.

First of all, I find this weird. And I say this as someone who belive that women are fairly ugly and perceive this to be the case (i.e. the man is the more good looking) in my subjective female heterosexual opinion.

Who are the looksmatches of these attractive men dating then if these men are ”taken” by the uglier women? Even more attractive men? At some point there are no more attractive men left to date for attractive women, so I don’t see this making sense at all!

Second, as far as studies are concerned, most couples are equal in terms of looks. I don’t remember exactly why but it’s even so that we feel more drawn to those people.

If anything, men aggressively care about female beauty in LTR, so this idea that men date down is weird. Maybe the case if you think of people who both do STR and LTR or only STR, but even so he will couple up with the best he can get and only sleep around with uglier women. You can see this in terms of men messaging women on OK-cupid. On the X axis from 0 to 10 it is a linear increase until maybe 8 or so and then a slight dip for 9 and 10 (but not much).

Third, women care about resources insofar that it is more likely that a woman will date below her ”looksmatch”.

Four, according to studies women show more variation in who they find attractive than do men, and honestly I find that men seem to have quite varied tastes anyway. Again, this would make it more likely that an attractive woman dates someone other people perceive as less good looking.

I find women pretty ugly and I see so so so so so many couples where I think that the man is more attractive, probably most, but I know that this is my biased view as a very heterosexual woman. Men by nature would probably perceive it as that women tend to be better looking than their partner, so I don’t really get how someone can come to this conclusion neither based on feelings nor based on reasoning.

In terms of STR this probably makes sense, but that’s because women have higher SMV than men, men aren’t as in demand and more attractive women (or just women in general) might not be as up for STR. Those that are are in high demand.