Do heterosexual women have good reason to be “hypergamous”?

With current dating and relationship trends, it doesn’t seem unfair to me if some women want a partner who would bring a little extra to the table.

Women who out-earn their husbands spend more time on housework than women who make less than their husbands.

Men are more likely to leave their sick wives than women are to leave their sick husbands.

Single, childless women are happier than married women who have children

Men are often scared to commit when they do not feel like providers, which can also be tied to difficulties with income inequality and the fact that it takes longer to do things these days like buy a home.

If women are being rational actors, it would make sense that they stay single unless a really great guy comes along. They can be happier on average alone than with guys who don’t respect “through sickness and health”. The studies also show that men feel emasculated if they can’t feel like they provide more materially than their wives, which usually ends up hurting women more in that situation. It would make sense that women would be pushed by society towards relationships with men who earn more than them.

When I think about what I want in a partner, I want someone who won’t make me feel pressured to do extra housework, won’t be too intimidated to commit to me, someone who stays with me whether I’m healthy or not, and someone who improves my life rather than detracts from it. If I’m in the top 97% of women who won’t leave their spouse if they get sick, I feel like I’m allowed to be “hypergamous” in that way and only date the top 79% of men who won’t leave their spouse if they get sick.

If men are upset that women have such high standards, maybe they should change how they treat women who are earning more than them and improve how they treat their wives and girlfriends in general to make being in relationships worth it. It makes sense to me that a lot of women don’t want to be with a man unless he’s extra cute or makes a lot and won’t feel emasculated by her success. We have a lot less to gain from heterosexual relationships than men.

Does anyone else have any personal examples or statistics that agree or disagree with my opinion?