My feminist wife age 44 who used to complain about abuse of male power at work is now having sex with her 29 year old employee while breaking our marriage vow Women somehow assumed that if they were in power they wouldn’t act on their libido?

Current_Finding_4066 · 2023-09-13T08:35:57+00:00

Or maybe file for divorce and then get her fired. After the alimoney is set. Otherwise you might get burdened with higher payment due to her unemployment.

And radical feminists are just entitled pieced of shit without any empathy towards others and her actions are only manifestation of this fact.

PUMA-420 · 2023-09-13T10:28:08+00:00

No. File for divorce first, else it will affect your alimony payments.

Also no offense, but why the fuck anyone in the world would marry a feminist? We know these things would happen.

IceCorrect · 2023-09-13T10:27:16+00:00

Feminst lack empathy so each of their accuse is projection, when you realize this then everything make sense. When they say that men do "something" that mean if they would have the ability they believe those men have, they would definitely do it.

rb577511 · 2023-09-13T09:21:35+00:00

Get your finances prepared. Then do what you think you need to do as far as her job is concerned. Keeping in mind that her losing her job will affect the divorce settlement. The guy at work will probably dump her if she becomes single and clingy.

Realistic_Practice16 · 2023-09-13T08:26:42+00:00

Give her hell.

Legitimate_Phrase_41 · 2023-09-13T08:56:29+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you, if you have children I feel sorry for them for what she's done.

Kwen_Oellogg · 2023-09-13T08:48:58+00:00

Get her fired after the divorce. But if she gets difficult during the divorce proceedings you can let her know you have evidence. That might make her be more reasonable during the settlement.

Once you have the signed divorce decree go ahead and nuke her career.

KrazyJazz · 2023-09-13T09:31:09+00:00

You should fire her from your life first then eventually from her job, as some kind of icing on the cake. if she doesn't know that you know, plan meticulously your exit with a competent lawyer and strike.

ElectricalSoil546 · 2023-09-13T11:05:14+00:00

Once again, “empowered” women feeling entitled to not taking responsibility

B1uefalc0n · 2023-09-13T10:08:02+00:00

They are in power, and they are the gstekeepers to sex. And they do act on their libido as there is little no challenges to get laid for them. Thays why men high five when they get laid and women call each other names when they do it.

Huge_Buddy_2216 · 2023-09-13T11:51:45+00:00

Talk to a lawyer.

If your wife makes more money than you, there's a chance that you can get alimony from her. This of course depends on the state and judge, but I'd honestly just take the payout.

Furthermore, even if you make more than her, getting her fired will significantly affect her income which may make you have to pay more in alimony.

EsqueStudios · 2023-09-13T18:09:15+00:00

A feminist, cheating? No WAY!!!

On a real note, I'm sorry this happened. You definitely should divorce and get her fired. Middle aged bosses sleeping with their young employees is gross regardless.

Langland88 · 2023-09-13T10:58:40+00:00

I think the consensus is to get the divorce first and then get her fired.

mr_j_12 · 2023-09-13T14:31:16+00:00

Lost me at "feminist wife". Sorry. But what did you think was going to happen?

madman47 · 2023-09-13T15:02:44+00:00

Make her homeless and take everything

sixtysixpixistix · 2023-09-14T03:27:22+00:00

A hypocritical feminist? I'm shocked.

JoeyBellef · 2023-09-13T14:51:25+00:00

What those type of women really want is special privileges, not equal rights. Maybe a better way to say it is that they want the rights, not the responsibility.

eldred2 · 2023-09-13T17:33:29+00:00

Divorce first, then get her fired. Otherwise alimony/child support will be calculated with her contribution being zero.

Sitheral · 2023-09-13T18:31:06+00:00

I feel like the question is, why on earth would you have a feminist wife?

AR12PleaseSaveMe · 2023-09-14T02:21:56+00:00

Don’t do something drastic like get her fired. You take away her income, then you’re going to have a huge problem, especially with children in the picture. Get divorced. Give evidence to the lawyer only. Don’t make a huge scene out of this. Keep it all in the courtroom.

djc_tech · 2023-09-13T12:58:57+00:00

Oof I'm sorry. I recently had a conversation with a very feminist family member who used to argue men should have to pursue and pay for all the dates. In her therapy she "discovered" men don't like that...she said her therapist told her it makes men feel "used" and with gender roles being what they are nowadays she should woman-up and pick up some of the slack...I'm like it took you until your 40s to figure that out eh?

Now to your point - feminists aren't about equality, they're about gaming the system to benefit them. They seem to forget the "system" that holds them down supposedly also holds back 99.9% of men too. It's not like most of us are benefitting from this supposed patriarchy either. She's just acting in line with that I would assume most feminists do.

I would do the following - and I say this as a man who has been through the family court system and can tell you you're are having to come from behind already since you're a male:

remain calm, act like you don't know. Try your best to act "normal"
Hire an attorney, get the evidence you need and start documenting everything you do with the kids and have done with them
Find an outlet like the gym or something to tide you over.
Serve her with papers and a CUSTODY PEITION for full custody. Remember most states are no-fault states so she can bang the pool boy and still take half your shit and the kids. Let her have to fight from the defensive for the custody of your kids.
After papers are served, move your assets out of joint bank accounts and leave just enough for bills
In the petition or papers - ask her to leave the house...you under no circumstances leave your house.
Don't let her know you no about her affair until it comes to the table with mediation. You might get out of this cleanly without court if you play your cards right.
Document EVERYTHING going forward.

I'm sorry, this is a story I have seen play out before numerous times. In fact, after I got divorced and was more wild I slept with married women on multiple occasions. All it did was show me most women cannot be trusted. I hear complaints from female colleagues all the time about how men won't commit. Why would they? I'm banging married women so I know what women are really like.

Let this also be a lesson for you in the future.

werehound19 · 2023-09-13T08:30:08+00:00

that's all just a horrible situation I'm sure has so much hate to give lol

RafayoAG · 2023-09-13T13:47:19+00:00

Oh boy. They "fought" for them. Not equality. If abuse of "male power" affects them, they fight that for them. Not you.

How dare you critizise their abusive behavior. That's "imposible" if they are "victims". (/s)

Wewinky · 2023-09-13T14:01:39+00:00

Stopped reading at feminist, run dude.

ExLeftyNotaRightie · 2023-09-13T23:58:37+00:00

Consult a good lawyer
Protect your self. Think outside the box. What can she do to you?
Destroy the bi#ch

asdf333aza · 2023-09-13T13:06:42+00:00

Watch the news. Nowadays, there are more female teachers sleeping with their male students versus the other way around.

Ever notice how Madonna is only dating young (black) dudes now even though she is 65. Cher is like 70 something and dating a guy in his 30s.

All this to say, women have been complaining about men abusing their power to sleep with younger and less influential people. However, recent history has shown us that women do the exact same thing when give the opportunity or placed in the same position.

00Goober · 2023-09-13T14:46:13+00:00

Did you mean feminist ex-wife?

Dunkman83 · 2023-09-13T15:08:13+00:00

everytime i start thinking about dating again...i read stories like this

bilabrin · 2023-09-13T15:19:01+00:00

File for divorce first(before she does). You'll have a huge advantage outcome-wise.

sgt_oddball_17 · 2023-09-13T15:53:07+00:00

Wait until after the settlement, that way you wont pay her alimony.

TracyMorganFreeman · 2023-09-13T17:09:50+00:00

Men's greatest weakness is their facade of strength; women's greatest strength is their facade of weakness. ~Warren Farrell.

Feminism exploits both of these.

IAmMadeOfNope · 2023-09-13T17:45:39+00:00

Talk to a lawyer before you do anything.

I'm assuming you want a divorce. A lawyer will help you avoid shitting the pants you'll be wearing for what might be months.

Do not confront her unless your lawyer advises you to do so. If confrontation is unavoidable, make sure you have evidence of such. Audio AND video recording.

You can get a hidden camera that backs up to cloud storage. If that's not possible: there are body cameras disguised as pens you can purchase that will do the job. It could save your skin.

Someone who is selfish enough to cheat on you will likely do far worse to get ahead of any consequences.

Do not believe anything good she tells you. Always assume the worst case scenario and be prepared to counter them. Accusations of sexual abuse, domestic violence, a violent response, etc.

If cops are called for any reason, do not say anything to them. Your name, your address, and that you will not speak until you have been advised by your attorney. If they ask you about the fucking weather, tell them you need to speak to your attorney first.

Poopygoopyoopy · 2023-09-13T16:21:00+00:00

Hey OP listen closely you need to go to a lawyer immidiently and follow his/her advice

Also try and move out as quick as possible she might potentially get vioent

Whole_Only · 2023-09-13T13:17:00+00:00

Get a divorce and move on. Anything more and you will be known as the aggressor/villain . Once she isn’t your wife, she isn’t your problem. Definitely use the evidence you have for court though.

Financial_Economy_11 · 2023-09-13T14:01:37+00:00

I would reccomend do more research, find out about any other relationships she had before she met the 29M and then once you have a large amount of ammunition get a good lawyer, go for divorce and then destroy her career and any other things her cheating on you was connected with.

anormalgeek · 2023-09-13T17:48:45+00:00

Definitely deal with the legal proceedings first. If the court knows you intentionally got her fired, that would absolutely work against you in the court proceedings.

Of course, if the details of why she is getting divorced somehow accidentally got leaked just after the trial....

Play it cool though. Don't let her think that you're being vindictive. In fact, delete this post just in case.

MezzaCorux · 2023-09-13T18:48:16+00:00

Abuse of power is not exclusive to men and I wish more people knew that.

KelVarnsenIII · 2023-09-13T19:04:53+00:00

yes, but don't use the photo's because it's revenge porn and you don't want to go to jail.

Warste · 2023-09-13T21:20:53+00:00

They mostly complain because they dont have the chance, not about the fact itself

Isair81 · 2023-09-13T21:23:47+00:00

Take all that stuff straight to a divorce lawyer, they’ll know what to do with it better than random internet people.

Background_Break2106 · 2023-09-13T21:26:41+00:00

Sorry that you're going through this . Power corrupts. No? everyone forgets and gets high on it.

M3atpuppet · 2023-09-13T23:15:49+00:00

Atharva0711 · 2023-09-14T09:05:37+00:00

Sir, I’ve never been in such a situation and nor have I seen anything like it, but here’s how I would play it.

I would try to hire a good/trustworthy lawyer, if not at least consult with someone trustworthy, I would wait for the story your wife and her lawyer try to cook up and then use the said evidence for maximum legal impact in your case, I would simultaneously forward the pics to her workplace in an attempt to get her fired.

It’s more about timing and bearing the pain till then In my opinion, if you think this is somehow wrong then please do let me know why so I have somewhat of a realistic idea of such a situation.

MennQ · 2023-09-13T08:51:48+00:00

Give her the concequences

michaelpaoli · 2023-09-13T12:06:27+00:00

Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac?

have photographic evidence. Should I get her fired or wait?

Eh, probably just best to divorce her and get on with your life.

No need to start an escalation war or the like - often that doesn't go or end well.

But definitely save the evidence ... "just in case".

MembershipWooden6160 · 2023-09-13T20:41:22+00:00

What I don't like about these topics is somehow the insistence on label "feminist", or women apparently self-labeling themselves as such, then doing things like this.

It creates a wrong image about general situations in life. Look, whatever you might think of it, a woman might be a card-carrying liberal or conservative, she can be anything else, including next to non-existent libertarian & atheist woman (a combination of these two self-labels is indeed very frequent among MRAs). A woman may even criticize divorce, abortion (strong conservatives) or men's lack of choice (strong liberal). She may be even posting videos about male issues. But all of that means nothing, it all comes down to a personal choice. Overwhelming majority of women, when faced with a choice that goes directly against any logic, fairness or even against what they regularly preach - will do the very things you label to be "feminist" or done by "feminists".

That's why you effectively don't have any difference in abortion in practice when it comes to women who label themselves feminists, neutral, even anti-feminists. Same goes the opposite way when it comes to men's right to choose. Same goes when it comes to divorce. Or just about any other topic regarding MRA/MRM.

And that's what feminism is, and what is fighting for - so that every single woman can make a choice when it suits her, while they also fight to refrain men from having any choice on any such topic - while being burdened with women's choice. They also includes those women they don't agree with personally, politically or in any other way, even those women who actively and publicly renounce feminism and all its activism. They make sure women CAN make these choices and encourage them to do so - which brings us to a conclusion of such multi-generational efforts of feminism: it doesn't matter whether a woman self-identifies as feminist, anti-feminist or anything in-between.

You can make a safe bet that just about any woman will behave in the same way when it suits her personal desires and interests. Meaning just about any woman around you is a feminist, whether she self-identifies as such or not.

So don't forget about it when you criticize or ridicule MRAs and their fights for every man to have a choice to make in his life - even a choice you don't personally agree with. That's what MRA is, should be and should stay to fight for.

wafflepiezz · 2023-09-13T23:18:01+00:00

Yes get her fired.

ehWoc · 2023-09-13T16:55:30+00:00

What's getting her fired going to do with anything? Being intimate with a nearly 30 year old isn't something obscene. Being unfaithful is. It's a personal issue between you and her.

HotRaise4194 · 2023-09-13T15:38:27+00:00

You let your wife have a job. That’s the first mistake.

_s1dew1nder_ · 2023-09-13T10:58:56+00:00

You went from your wife cheated to “all women”. That’s a hell of a leap. And yet we get pissed off when they say “all men”.

But you should get lawyers involved if you’re going to divorce her (which you should) first. Make sure the lawyers know why (depending on where you live this could affect the divorce paperwork).

Sorry it happened to you. I know your first thoughts are with your heart and you want revenge, but use your head and get through this first. Divorce isn’t easy and the one with the cooler mind usually has an easier time.

Acousmetre78 · 2023-09-13T18:17:22+00:00

Lolol dude.

TisIChenoir · 2023-09-13T11:50:07+00:00

Ok, just a quick question here.

Your (I hope soon-to-be-ex) wife is a horrible human being and a hypocrite, and you should divorce her.

But why would having sex with her employee would result in her being fired, if it's consensual?

Minute-Masterpiece98 · 2023-09-13T09:40:00+00:00

Bide your time dude so you can allow yourself to always be several steps ahead.

Get lawyered up and sort all the legal stuff first.

Then when everything is in place, you can drop the bomb and leave that cheating bitch.

Anonymous_299912 · 2023-09-13T12:28:33+00:00

Definitely get her fired but you may have to do a couple of things before to squeeze as much value out of her before jumping the trigger. Don't be trigger happy, but don't delay, get a plan, or get someone who can plan, have a strategy, and move. If you aren't careful, or fast enough, despite her cheating on you, she can play innocent and make you guilty!

Catch-the-Rabbit · 2023-09-13T12:36:47+00:00

It won't get her fired unless there is a power differential.

And for all you know some, if not most people could be aware of it.

And we all know there is nothing more dangerous than a humiliated man.

knight_call1986 · 2023-09-13T12:52:35+00:00

Divorce first and then let share the evidence. Make sure you are protected first. Don't let her know you know either. Time to play some chess bro.

Edit:

Timing is everything with this bro. So do not overplay your hand. Do not let your emotions cause you to play yourself and give her a chance to tailor her story or whatever. Be smart, be meticulous and remove emotions from this until after everything is done. I have seen too many guys jump the gun with evidence and it ends up turning around and biting them in the ass.

hp02121 · 2023-09-13T13:31:04+00:00

If there are no mitigating circumstances in your life, such as young children, don't drag this out. You have a whole life to live, so why live it with a cheater and a liar. If you do get divorced, that is the point where you can tell HR what took place

deathlord9000 · 2023-09-13T14:22:35+00:00

You need a lot of help.

Mobile_Lumpy · 2023-09-13T15:04:45+00:00

The first three words really show you the errors of your ways huh. Man get out of that toxic relationship and go your own way. Unless you wanna follow Kevin koshner and get bitten twice from the same mistake.

NoSpinach4025 · 2023-09-13T15:47:22+00:00

Sensitive-Ad6609 · 2023-09-13T16:04:36+00:00

There are scum in all shapes, sizes, sex, gender ... and everywhere.

throweezus · 2023-09-13T16:27:39+00:00

Divorce first. Fired after. You dont want to be on the hook for alimony

tomukurazu · 2023-09-13T16:55:27+00:00

first divorce, then get her fired.

just to be safe.

stent00 · 2023-09-13T17:08:04+00:00

Contact her HR department. The will likely be very interested in This development 😃

onlywill121 · 2023-09-13T18:09:11+00:00

Sorry but your feminist wife is a hypocrite joke

dawszein14 · 2023-09-13T19:52:57+00:00

sorry bro. good luck

CursedCrypto · 2023-09-13T19:54:02+00:00

It's nothing to do with work, what's the point in "getting her fired"? Get her single, and make sure everyone knows what she did.

javerthugo · 2023-09-14T06:34:39+00:00

Lawyer, now.

Glittering_Car_9282 · 2023-09-14T06:44:07+00:00

forgiveness is your best tool. Make peace and seek the lord

ERiC_693 · 2023-09-14T06:44:17+00:00

Feminists are liars/hypocrits
Why wouldn't women abuse power like men? Aren't we equal.
She was projecting as it seems it's all feminists do these days. Guilty conscience it seems.

ChesterJWiggum · 2023-09-14T09:49:24+00:00

Hide whatever assets you can.

DrivingWheel-1997 · 2023-09-14T10:31:44+00:00

I almost thought you were talking about my 34 year old ex wife who is "woke AF" who still teaches despite the evidence that she : Slept with her former boss (possibly two of them) Pretended to be her former boss on a job application (fraud) Hit my neighbor's car in a felony hit and run Obstructed police more than once And then to top it all off, I have recorded evidence of all this AND her threatening to kill me...

And no one will do anything about it.

Good luck.

randonumero · 2023-09-14T10:37:29+00:00

File for divorce. Unless she's in the military or an executive and he's a direct report, there's no guarantee that she'll be fired. I work for a fairly large company and when a similar situation happened the lower level employee was simply moved laterally to another org. Turning her in to her employer may hurt you in the long run because the person who files for divorce usually has a huge advantage.

Is there a reason you think her affair involves an abuse of power? The whole I felt like I had to because they were my boss is far more rare than people think.

Edit: I'm NAL but when you file for divorce you get to name her paramour. At that point it's on public record so why not go to her company after the divorce?

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