I see this one all the time. A post on the relationship subs about hubby being controlling or domineering because he doesn't like every little thing his woman does. That's bad, or something. No worse sin. You're controlling her.

Now, that word is over-used, everyone knows its over-used, but fine. That's another debate.

What's the issue of just...getting a woman that is easier to manage as a partner? I live in a bumfuck area with plenty of non-narcissist women, and they seem to get along so well with their men. They don't act like influencers or Kardashians, they have their lot in life and seemingly are happy.

Their men are happy.

I've brought this up to a couple female friends, mainly because I'm aware of the response I'll get, and they always say the same thing: I'm controlling and want a subservient woman.

No, I just want a woman that has a good, not trashy social circle, has never cheated, has few exes and partners in general, doesn't have loans or debt at a young age, doesn't go to bars often or clubs in general, isn't on 5 different SSRIs, doesn't have only male friends, doesn't post 304 stuff on social media, and certainly knows how to dress appropriately.

I would never demand a person that already exists conform to any of that, because that is controlling lol. But you apparently can't even seek someone out that has those qualities because it comes off as controlling. No, I just want a simple life with a stable woman.

There's tons of good women like that, but they're rarer. Smarter than average too. I meet plenty. They seem genuinely happy and care-free.

I'm a busy guy. I make good money and look good, I date quite a bit. I'm also low-maintenance. I'd never set foot in a strip club, have a gross bachelor party with nude women, do drugs of any kind, and I'm not abusive, whether it be physically or emotionally.

I already know the purple pill answer, I think:

"It isn't bad to not want certain qualities in a partner, but you're implying women who possess those qualities are lesser, which is misogynistic and attempting to influence women to conform to your standards"

...And none of that is anything other than an emotionally-charged answer. You're implying a woman's right to feel equal in the eyes of any given man is paramount, and not any given man's preferences. Which makes you a narcissist.

I feel like my point is pretty solid here. Have at it.