There is nothing wrong with being a kind, generous, or caring person. But deciding to be a nice person should be a choice that you make, and not an automatic defense mechanism.

Some people act nice just because they are too weak to withstand even the slightest amount of conflict or confrontation. They are too scared to stand up for their beliefs. They only feel safe when they feel that everyone else likes them.

Don’t become a push over, or you will be taken advantage of. People at work will take full credit for your contributions and girls will use you for free dinners and favors.

When preforming favors for others, ask yourself the question: Am I doing this just to try to make others like me or do I really want nothing back in return?

The actions of a so called “nice guy” are often extremely dishonest. By pretending that you are not interested in a woman, and that you are only being nice, you are effectively lying to the woman. There is incongruence between your thoughts, words and actions. This incongruence shows the woman that although you like her, you lack self-confidence, crave her validation, and want an intact ego more than you want her.

In the long run, being a kind person will get you farther than being a jerk, as long as this kindness comes from a place of strength and abundance rather than weakness.

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