"I have a boyfriend" responses [feel free to add your own]

thaeds · 2010-12-01T03:39:07+00:00

"Then why are you hitting on me?"

apocalyptic · 2010-12-01T03:09:06+00:00

"How many?"

Usually gets a laugh out of the girls.

thedancingbear · 2010-12-01T03:54:46+00:00

I find that women rarely actually say this, but when they do, my response is always the same:

"Cool. So does my girlfriend."

If she really does have a boyfriend, it's face saving. You can continue to talk amicably for a few minutes and then leave the conversation gracefully, and leave a positive impression.
If she was lying/kidding and doesn't, then the response is cheeky enough that she'll assume/hope (same diff) that you were kidding too. Sometimes, you'll get the "LOLOL I was just kidding" when you say this which is basically as green as lights get.

TheCoochinator · 2010-12-01T02:39:11+00:00

"Fuck You!"

moparnut06 · 2010-12-01T01:29:45+00:00

Stolen from another Sedditor:

That's good, at least I won't have to do the dishes.

impotent_rage · 2010-12-01T03:30:08+00:00

just a thought from a girl. Remember that the goal here is to disarm her by giving the impression that you aren't trying to date her, and thus drop her barriers. That's why you use false time constraints, negs, etc - it all conveys that you aren't trying to win her over. And if she says "I have a boyfriend" she's clearly responding to perceived romantic interest on your part, which probably means you aren't doing it right - you're putting her on the defensive by making her feel that she needs to decide yes or no whether she wants to return your too-obvious romantic interest. And she's justifying why she can't return your interest.

But yeah as I said, I'm a girl, and if you want to piss me off, then insult me or mock me for having a boyfriend. Thing is, I really do have a boyfriend, I'm not saying it to blow you off, I'm saying it to be a good person, both to him (not cheating) and to you (not wasting your time and giving you false hope). And if you throw it in my face, I'll consider the gloves thrown down and I'll have no problem being quite cruel. (normally if a guy approaches me, I'm inwardly proud of him for playing the game and getting the courage to go out there and try, and I want to be nice and positive and generally encouraging him to keep trying even if I can't flirt back because of said boyfriend). But you start being nasty or mocking to me when I don't deserve it, and believe me, I'll find a way to cut you down to size.

However, what I think a lot of you are missing, is that the "I have a boyfriend" line is a perfect opportunity to re-establish the barrier-dropping pretext that you aren't romantically interested, which gets her to drop her guard and open up to you. I'm not going to give you lines, but you want to say something which reassures her that she misread your intentions and you are only being friendly. Then she'll be much more open because she already got it out there and out of the way that the boyfriend exists (which means she can be open and friendly to you without worrying that she's leading you on or wronging her boyfriend), and you've dropped her guard that she can be your friend without defending against you as someone who's just trying to get with her. That's your "in".

CamoBee · 2010-12-01T01:25:20+00:00

In my town? "Cool! So do I."

2010-12-01T04:46:49+00:00

"So does my girlfriend."

dudeinachair · 2010-12-01T04:31:42+00:00

If you pick up a girl who is currently in a relationship and she ends up leaving him for you, what makes you think she won't do it again?

daveying99 · 2010-12-01T02:34:15+00:00

How is it like being in a perfect relationship?

AveofSpades · 2010-12-01T04:36:10+00:00

I have a gold fish.

TheCoochinator · 2010-12-01T02:38:04+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/c4mwb/what_is_your_best_i_have_a_boyfriend_retort/

youshallhaveeverbeen · 2010-12-01T14:26:37+00:00

Dammit! Sorry I'm late to this. My favorite response is: "It's cool, I'm not gay"

2010-12-01T03:24:59+00:00

"What's his name?"

If she hesitates, yell "LIAR!!!", then throw water in her face and run out of the bar before a bouncer beats you up.

All joking aside I like asking this since if it gets to that point in the conversation you don't have much to lose, and if she does have a boyfriend you can know not to waste your time when there's more profitable girls out there.

MrRisky · 2010-12-01T08:48:48+00:00

OK, to everybody saying "if she says she has a boyfriend, move on"

You are missing the context

If a girl says she has a boyfriend in the first minute of conversation, yes, she's blowing you off, move on.

However, if her body language indicates interest, and we've been flirting for a bit, it's quite likely the "boyfriend" isn't quite what it seems.

onebit · 2010-12-01T03:41:30+00:00

"I understand. If I had ever had a girl friend I'd probably feel the same way. Tonight when you are at home, snuggling with your boyfriend, I will be eating cheetos on my couch, watching the Daily Show, then I will masturbate and fall to sleep in a puddle of my own jizz. God bless you miss. God bless you and your beautiful life. Cherish every moment of it."

Any suggestions before I try this one tonight? It feels like a winner to me.

Enthusizer · 2010-12-01T02:58:53+00:00

"I like boyfriends!"

horacekent · 2010-12-01T09:31:15+00:00

My take on this is twofold:

If you get that response it's best to let go, BUT the good news is you can set something up for later.

If a girl tells you she has a BF, then either 1) she's not interested, or 2) It's actually true! Statistically speaking, it's quite normal for an attractive person to be in a relationship.

BUT, with that said, statistically speaking it's also true that a lot of boyfriends are deadbeats and assholes.

What that means is, if you know you will see this girl again on some sort of calenderized basis -- if it isn't a random chance meeting -- you can set something up for down the road.

"Oh, I'm sorry, I have a boyfriend." (She says genuinely)

"No worries -- you're so cute / gorgeous I had to try on general principles! How about this, if you guys ever break up send me a smoke signal or something."

She laughs... remembers you as funny / laid back / warm... then a couple months later, when she actually HAS broken up with il douchebag for whatever reason, she remembers you as the easy going guy who was nice before and decides to actually "signal" you as requested!

tl;dr Don't fight a war that can't be won -- if she says she has a BF be cool / respectful but set something up for a "future opportunity."

2010-12-01T04:44:32+00:00

Soccer has a goalie; doesn't mean I can't score

ALLroadsleadtoARSON · 2010-12-01T04:24:16+00:00

"Name?"

Imreallytrying · 2010-12-01T07:41:12+00:00

Do you attempt to pick them up if they really do have a boyfriend or is this just an attempt to find out if they are being standoffish?

diamond29 · 2010-12-01T14:36:39+00:00

Normally I'd say something like "Okay, what does that have to do with anything?" But then continue to be nice and friendly. This leads into her considering you friendly (girls with boyfriends are looking for dudes to hang out with at parties so they still seem attractive/cool). You can use this temporary relationship to your advantage as other girls will find you attractive/she might have cute friends.

hammertime1070 · 2010-12-01T18:42:29+00:00

you:and I have herpes her: WHAT?! you: Oh, I thought we were talking about shit that won't stop me from taking you home tonight

luc1fer12 · 2010-12-01T03:24:50+00:00

what's your man got ta do with me? I'm not tryin ta hear that, see?

No_Kids_for_Dads · 2010-12-01T03:30:10+00:00

Well, he's not invited

amarine88 · 2010-12-01T02:33:41+00:00

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Imreallytrying · 2010-12-01T07:39:39+00:00

"Oh, ok. Best of luck!" "Ok. Sorry to bother you!"

CuilRunnings · 2010-12-01T14:47:55+00:00

"Have a nice day"

Why do you guys insist on bothering people who are clearly not interested? There are so many hot girls out there that won't give you that response, and it's probably a sign that you're coming off as a major creeper. Take a hint and do some homework.

absolutebeginners · 2010-12-01T03:17:09+00:00

God you guys are fucking assholes.... How would you feel if you finally got that girl that you loved, and here comes some little prick trying to snatch your girl up. Just a thought my friends...

or1on · 2010-12-01T06:47:55+00:00

Just let her be and stop giving guys like me a reason to worry about my relationship.

bubblemac · 2010-12-01T08:50:43+00:00

I'm a tad confused. Why would you want to continue hitting on a woman when she already basically said she wasn't interested? I'm not trying to be rude; I actually just don't get why you wouldn't move on to one who didn't say she has a boyfriend.

TheMob · 2010-12-01T11:03:50+00:00

Yeah - rack up a few lines for the situation in which there's a boyfriend and try to get her onboard any way! At least that way you know that either a) she's the kind of girl that goes for guys even when she's attached.. she's just as liable to do it when attached to you, or b) you know she's that kind of girl, so you have a bit of fun with her and shut her out in cold - leaving her single and regretful.

Look, there's seduction and there's entering a situation in which you are nothing but a dick.. seriously.. how many women in the world?

If she says she's got a boyfriend just bloody move on.

ArMcK · 2010-12-01T13:07:07+00:00

Usually, I just ignore it. If she really isn't going to bite, then I say something like, "When you're ready for a deep connection with someone amazing, get in touch," and leave it at that. I didn't think it'd work until I'd tried it a couple times. Now I get call-backs fairly regularly.

RedErin · 2010-12-01T14:06:08+00:00

"That's okay, so do I. I was just being friendly, you didn't think I was hitting on you did you? lolz"

sockthepuppetry · 2010-12-01T14:17:13+00:00

"Cool, is he around? I need another opinion on something."

If you can deliver this without pausing to think about it, this is a great disqualifier IMO. It conveys that you see nothing dishonorable about what you're doing, and have no need to sneak around. It also shows that you've let go your outcome - if you're willing to bring a hypothetical boyfriend into a conversation, you're willing to pretty much kill your chances of "sneaking off" with her.

Chipocabra · 2010-12-01T14:32:37+00:00

Well [pause] have you tried setting traps?

Hilarious!

Gregman · 2010-12-01T16:50:20+00:00

◕◡◕.

Than kino.

frogma · 2010-12-01T16:53:36+00:00

This is a very simple concept that is overanalyzed way too much. Whenever a girl says she has a boyfriend, regardless of whether or not she's being truthful, it is technically a shit-test. Treat it as such and move on. A simple response is "that's cool," then change the subject. You don't want to spend any extra time talking about a (possibly nonexistent or unsatisfying) boyfriend. The only way you'll know if she's truly unavailable is when you see the back of her head as she walks away. Otherwise, escalate that shit.

Andy_Greatbeef · 2010-12-02T07:28:19+00:00

"Fun fact!"

2010-12-02T16:25:50+00:00

Favourite ones: Well [pause] have you tried setting traps? Snap! So does my girlfriend.

I put them in that order because the second one is a bit risqué I feel, it could go down terribly wrong even if delivered perfectly. But the first one is just smooth :D

2010-12-01T02:20:23+00:00

"Cool, he can join in."

Out of your list, I really like #3

Kancho_Ninja · 2010-12-01T05:23:47+00:00

"I have a boyfriend"

Oh, that's cool. Do you fool around?

anonymous_hero · 2010-12-01T03:42:52+00:00

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SweetBabehJesus · 2010-12-01T09:43:39+00:00

Really? Your boyfriend is very lucky then!

prophetfxb · 2010-12-01T04:06:54+00:00

Me> I'm sorry to hear that.

Here are some of my honerable mentions(use any of these depending on mood of convo):

So?

Well he isnt here now is he :)

Seems like a personal problem

When do you plan on dumping him?

ihaveabu · 2010-12-01T01:37:21+00:00

The 3rd one is quite good. Turn it back on her, and make fun of her for it.

kryptobs2000 · 2010-12-01T04:07:10+00:00

"What's his name?"

"His names herp derp"

"Sounds like a faggot"

Title	"I have a boyfriend" responses [feel free to add your own]
Author	NoxiousAphrodisiac
Upvotes	77
Comments	184
Date	December 1, 2010 12:59 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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