"Just to be clear it's not a date haha"

BestOfPUA · 2017-09-01T15:41:56+00:00

First of all, let me ask you this. Why did you offer free ticket to a girl that you never met? Do you expect this to be a date? If you expect something out of this, you are going to burn really bad in this case. It is very clear this girl is very interested in the ticket, not you.

If you are expecting something out of this, you will get very frustrated in the end. Also, offering something in the hopes of trying to get girl is very weak in my opinion.

cryogen · 2017-09-01T13:40:21+00:00

"Good, because I'm not having sex with you."

TheLimitlessMale · 2017-09-01T17:35:18+00:00

Why would it be a date? Look at it from the girl's point of view. It's gonna be weird for her to hang out with some dude she met on fb. Most girls are going to say something along those lines.

What do you say?

Nothing, just totally ignore the statement and say you'll meet her where ever before concert (or whatever the event is).

If it was in person, you could say one of the cocky funny lines other people have posted here. But since it's over chat and you've never met her before it will come off as try hard.

She already agreed to go to the concert (or whatever) with you so your job is done in this department. Focus on having a fun time with her in person. This is much more important then some stupid line you say before hand.

Ragondux · 2017-09-01T13:01:15+00:00

Her frame is that it's not a date because she doesn't know you. Your frame should be that it's not a date because you don't know her, so you don't know (yet) if you want to date her.

a_terrible_sound · 2017-09-01T12:54:35+00:00

It's a date

essexaspie · 2017-09-01T13:12:13+00:00

I'd maybe either try to 're-frame' it as if her saying ''just to be clear, ths is not a date'' is whishful thinking on her part and actually a question instead of statement and be like ''No, it's not a date, but don't let that discourage you. I don't know you yet'', or maybe just agree and amplify, and be like ''You said it! I'm gonna bring a big bunch of pillows to build a barrier and place them between us''

recyclablebanthas · 2017-09-01T18:59:11+00:00

.....she also said that she wanted to make clear that we don't know each other and so that we are going there not like on a date.

Well, this is to be expected when you ask someone to join you for something as intimate as what you asked her to do. Why did you offer a ticket to someone that you didn't even know? I wouldn't recommend a move like that in the future.

You're offering a ticket to whatever it is. Which is a date thing. So it's going to be easy for a girl to feel pressure or to feel like you might have expectations of her because you gave her that ticket. So it's natural for her to draw lines like this.

Just carry on and get to know her.

nobody2000 · 2017-09-01T18:21:03+00:00

You're not a bad person if you reneg and say "well I think I'm going to hang onto it for an actual date."

It sounds like a really good opportunity for you to get used and ghosted, even if you lay down some of the world's best game.

Don't do it.

MagnumBurrito · 2017-09-01T17:54:01+00:00

She said that because you could be some pussy, and she owes you nothing sexual for the ticket.

I would tease her for that text. "Oh I know.. I'm too pretty for you anyway."

Something dumb like that. Frame her as the chaser.

GameAndGains · 2017-09-01T13:26:28+00:00

It's a date or at least she likes you. Just normal anti slut defense she is employing.

She wouldn't join you, if she didn't like you. If you go with her and treat it like it's not a date, and fail her test, you won't be fucking her.

Radicalmattitude1 · 2017-09-01T16:03:31+00:00

You don't need to say anything. She is just saying this to maintain plausible deniability. it doesn't need to be an explicitly stated "date" for seductionto happen.

hello_im_phil · 2017-09-01T16:22:56+00:00

"Good, I'm partial to raisins myself"

Luis_McLovin · 2017-09-01T13:06:05+00:00

Honey, it was never a date. Don't get ahead of yourself.

Huskerheven1 · 2017-09-01T15:57:30+00:00

If you want to make it a date it's a date. Make her laugh, be yourself, and make her enjoy your company. If you do this and she finds you attractive she will want to see you again.

BakingBatman · 2017-09-01T16:45:31+00:00

"Sure", no need to overcomplicate things.

Crashlands · 2017-09-01T19:31:06+00:00

"Okay" and then just go about the date exactly like she never said anything.

UoAPUA · 2017-09-01T20:52:18+00:00

Pretty much every line in here is cringey and needy. If you want to go with her then say "cool see you at blank o'clock" and go, if not, then ask someone else. If you go and have a fucking awesome time, you can go get a drink after and say, "now that we know each other let's go on that date." You don't need a special line for every scenario. If you're not a needy boi it doesn't matter if it's a date or not. You do what sounds fun and if you shave and do your hair, go in with a positive attitude, tell some jokes, make eye contact, and kino a little; with a little luck she's going to develop feelings for you anyways. Passing shit tests isn't about having the right line. It's about having the right attitude, and that stems from having solid inner game. Lines are for posers and fakers.

DrBalance · 2017-09-02T04:16:59+00:00

Why are there so many cringey responses? Cmon guys, you should know better.

There is no magic 'pickup line' or response here. She is just saying that she knows the OP is trying to buy her affection and she's making it clear that it isn't happening.

It's no way comparable to the usual 'we aren't having sex tonight'. She doesn't know you, she can't be attracted, so this isn't an 'objection', its just 'you are free to give me a ticket if you still choose to knowing that I'm not interested'.

Interested in how anyone has come to any different conclusion...

Yankee_Fever · 2017-09-01T16:08:18+00:00

"i know, you weirdo"

ajayhemant · 2017-09-02T04:07:15+00:00

Just tell her 'Ah it's okay, you are going too fast. I just wanted little company since my girl friend was bit busy and I didn't want to waste this free ticket.'

You are basically refuting her idea yourself and by saying yourself that its not a date, you are gaining back your lost SMV.
Slipping a girl friend into discussion you are effectively friend zoning her.
By implicating that tickets as free you are further cementing your value proposition that as if the ticket was not free you might have chosen someone else.

Secrets to modern woman's heart

_valtiel_ · 2017-09-01T21:52:20+00:00

If it wasn't an event you need a ticket for I would bring a side chick

Vistian · 2017-09-01T22:18:47+00:00

It's always a date.

didled · 2017-09-01T23:13:34+00:00

I mean just make a friend and try and hang out with her again. Maybe Fuck one of her friends down the road?

Kenic_In_MD · 2017-09-02T06:25:05+00:00

Tell her this "Just to be clear if it's not a date then you aren't coming with me haha"

DavidGolani11 · 2017-09-02T08:20:08+00:00

She thinks you might be a loser. Go out with her and prove her otherwise.

ultimatewpierdol · 2017-09-03T20:34:34+00:00

She owes you nothing

Notarandomencounter · 2017-09-02T00:33:28+00:00

THIS IS BETA!! IF SHE SHOWED INTEREST- MAKE HER BEG, FOR IT!! Example: -say 'okay, you can come, but only if you play nice (said with alot of intention in mind) and make sure to bring x/ do x for me there / wear x...' If she objects do a take away - If she really wants it, she will agree to demands. AND THEN YOU HAVE POWER, SHE IS ALREADY SUBMISSIVE BECAUSE YOU ARE HER PERMISSION TO THE EVENT!!

That post was BETA from the start OP

RunItGunIt · 2017-09-01T21:23:48+00:00

Find someone else to bring

genresliceoflife00 · 2017-09-01T23:22:08+00:00

Whatever just go have fun try and hit on her and who gives a fuck what happens because you're approaching lots of girls all the time anyway. Right? Also if it was me, and a girl said this to me, I'd take it as flirting and hit on her. If it fails I'll just move on to someone else no biggie, happens.

bilabrin · 2017-09-01T17:41:27+00:00

"I'm glad this is understood. Also, we're not going to be making out tonight either."

w_r_t · 2017-09-01T17:05:34+00:00

Run far away as fast as possible.

TheoreticalFunk · 2017-09-01T17:40:55+00:00

It's either a date, or she's going to immediately ditch you after you arrive.

AR-47 · 2017-09-01T17:16:28+00:00

I'd call it anti-slut defense. Just try to escalate shit like normal and see where it goes.

reddexx · 2017-09-01T16:09:47+00:00

"Believe what you want."

Aristox · 2017-09-02T00:09:20+00:00

"Oh shit haha im sorry, i was def planning on it to be a date, you seem pretty cool and i thought we clicked and whatnot, which is why i asked. Hope you don't mind if i just hold on to the ticket for an actual date then 😅"

Lambdal7 · 2017-09-01T19:54:38+00:00

So much bad advice here.

Just say "Sure :)" and then make her real horny on the "date".

Title	"Just to be clear it's not a date haha"
Author	SheFreakingFlakedMe
Upvotes	122
Comments	96
Date	September 1, 2017 12:07 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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