What's something that you have learned from getting rejected

seduction-ModTeam · 2024-05-10T22:09:47+00:00

This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.

Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?

As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.

3141592652 · 2024-05-09T20:08:26+00:00

Finding the type of girl that’s actually into you.

AlexCosta · 2024-05-09T21:13:13+00:00

It’s not rejection. You gave her an opportunity to get to know you and she didn’t take it. Move on.

Stop hating yourself, OP.

smind893 · 2024-05-09T20:29:04+00:00

Life goes on

appmanga · 2024-05-09T23:15:04+00:00

It isn't fatal.

Complex-Peak · 2024-05-09T23:49:25+00:00

The biggest multiplier is her mood and state.

hairykitty123 · 2024-05-10T02:49:25+00:00

That a girl giving you tons of choosing signals doesn’t mean shit. Half these girls just want validation and attention. Just yesterday I approached this girl that’s been stalking and following/smiling at me at the gym. After chatting for 15 mins, I ask what she’s doing this weekend and she starts talking about her boyfriend lol.

Still though any approach for me is a success regardless of outcome. I don’t care if I stutter and say the dumbest shit, it’s better than doing nothing.

brizdzi · 2024-05-09T22:24:17+00:00

Attraction is not a choice

Intelligent-Can8235 · 2024-05-10T02:02:50+00:00

Stop chasing low interest and only deal with those who show interest. You also attract more when you focus on yourself.

rux_eth1 · 2024-05-09T22:19:30+00:00

kick started me getting healthy and developing good habits. Also at some point realized instead of hoping for an easy life, strive to be a stronger man

ClitPlayaBootySlappa · 2024-05-09T22:39:38+00:00

You can get rejected by 50 women in a row, and #51 is sucking your dick in an alleyway within 5 mins of talking to her.

aFalseSlimShady · 2024-05-09T22:04:59+00:00

The best looking guys still get shot down probably 66% or the time or more. That should be an encouraging statistic. Sometimes, for whatever reason, she'll find your ugly ass endearing and decide to give you her number.

AryanzHail · 2024-05-09T23:06:42+00:00

the headlines (news, articles, magazines) usually are not the reasons among the populous!!

Atriev · 2024-05-10T04:21:44+00:00

I learned that a lot of pick-up guys just want to repeat the same thing over and over.

If you get rejected enough and you never learn from your errors, you begin thinking it’s a numbers game.

D4RK_C0D3 · 2024-05-09T21:38:42+00:00

If one girl rejects at a venue, doesn’t mean every other girl there will find out about it.

KingKekJr · 2024-05-10T01:15:41+00:00

That it doesn't really matter. Just gives you the opportunity to get laid with another girl instead. Once you learn to stop internalizing a rejection in a negative way the better you'll feel and the more successes you'll have

Chrome-Head · 2024-05-10T03:23:21+00:00

I tell myself I haven’t been rejected by every woman in the world yet.

User_1421 · 2024-05-10T04:09:13+00:00

I dont even remember my rejections only my successes tbh. That says a lot in itself.

epimpstyle · 2024-05-09T20:45:30+00:00

There is not much to learn and it depends on how the rejection looks like.

Maybe she kept walking, not wanting to stop and talk to you? Did you get a chance to talk to the girl?

You alone will not learn anything because you cannot see if you are doing or saying something wrong, it must be an observer to see you and then tell your mistakes like talking behind the girl almost scaring her, talking too weak or too strong, keep the eye contact/smile like a psycho... it can be many things that can go wrong and you will never know.

Mexidorean93 · 2024-05-09T23:10:26+00:00

In short, I'm pretty ugly by US standards and will likely die alone. Tho I will say meeting people in person and out of the blue is so much better than online. Those interactions seem more genuine while apps feel forced/desperate

Sawt0othGrin · 2024-05-09T21:27:18+00:00

That I'm not made of glass and it's not the the of the world

hydrolith · 2024-05-10T01:40:31+00:00

I learned it's not JUST a numbers game, but that may be part of it. The other part is learning how to relate. Being in the moment, finding your timing, using your intuition, learning from your interactions, these are all skills that must be employed as well. I also learned that there are a wide range of reactions and what I might interpret as a rejection might not really be because I am assuming it is. Also, I am almost always more afraid of getting hurt emotionally from rejections than I might think . Now some DO really hurt sometimes, maybe 1 or 2 out of every 10 so that is something to be prepared for, but usually I actually feel better than I did because I at least approached.

Big_Accountant8489 · 2024-05-09T23:38:30+00:00

If she rejected you, she wasn’t meant for you.

I believe what’s meant for you will come to you…and it’ll be easy.

zeltae · 2024-05-10T00:22:26+00:00

As a woman sometimes I also reject guys because I get anxious and I panic and I just want to get out of there. Not because I’m not attracted. (Hope this helps)

Tellmesecretsmyguy · 2024-05-10T06:25:17+00:00

It’s all about timing

roostzilla · 2024-05-10T07:46:09+00:00

Be more direct

FanAccomplished7407 · 2024-05-10T07:52:52+00:00

That you will never have control of the outcome of the situation I’ve accepted the fact that no matter how charming or good looking you may be you’re still not gonna every girls type and that’s ok some girls will like you and some won’t but who fucking cares life is too short to be worrying about shit you have no control over

reellust · 2024-05-10T00:57:20+00:00

Life goes on

PhaseLimp8771 · 2024-05-10T05:45:19+00:00

Not evey girl loves to be eaten out

Eu8bckAr1 · 2024-05-10T13:19:04+00:00

Saying; Is all numbers. Just makes u look like a dumb prick, no offence, but at same time I hope you actually get offended so something makes "click" in your brain and makes you dig a bit and use your brain and maybe realise how fucking neanderthal that sentence is.

I cannot understand how people is still so fucking delusional in this sub.

Persons are not numbers, and flirting and picking up are not numbers.

People are humans with their own life, reality and ideas, and whatever you want or you expect is just yours, and no one gives a fuck, the same way you dont give a fuck about them and treat them as "numbers".

The day you understand is just NOT numbers is the day maybe you'll get a meaning connection with a girl.

pectustan · 2024-05-10T15:28:33+00:00

Well, you can still have a perfectly fine and happy life by yourself without having to look for it from someone else.

kravenos · 2024-05-10T17:04:58+00:00

That it’s really not about who I am as a person, but whatever they perceive - which is usually about them and their own life experiences.

Plebe-Uchiha · 2024-05-10T19:10:37+00:00

It’s one of the kindest responses someone can give you who isn’t interested.

There are people who will never reject you and let you linger because they can take advantage of you. [+]

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-05-09T23:44:51+00:00

It's not numbers game. Numbers game is a cope guys tell themselves because they think getting laid is just around the corner. At era dating women is about who you are, not what you do or how many you approach. You can approach a 1,000 women but if you give off the vibe that you need or want to get something from them, you will get 0. You can keep repeating the same mistake hundreds of times and it will not yield a different result.

chastecreep · 2024-05-10T00:15:57+00:00

That batting .000 is not a fun thing

ChaseYourDreams · 2024-05-10T01:29:27+00:00

Simply, she wasn't the one for me. Also it gets easier after so many. I used to fear it, but now I know where I stand and move on.

Dandys3107 · 2024-05-10T07:09:43+00:00

That approaching while having lots of backthoughts and anxiety is just a waste of time.

Gwarshow · 2024-05-10T10:06:31+00:00

That I don't like rejection.

Vistaridge2016 · 2024-05-10T10:12:22+00:00

Don’t try to pick up women at funerals.

NoMoassNeverWas · 2024-05-10T10:33:18+00:00

That I've not been rejected often enough for it to hurt me as much as it does and need to suffer more to build up indifference to it.

a_stray_bullet · 2024-05-10T11:28:31+00:00

It doesn't matter

Wamiq3naqvi · 2024-05-10T12:16:04+00:00

She's wasn't as big of a deal, Neither was rejection.

Please do note this wasn't my immediate thought but after a few days i slowly realised it.

DRi012 · 2024-05-10T12:56:19+00:00

You dont have a game and character

Hungry_Ad2210 · 2024-05-10T13:53:28+00:00

It's really hard to find a partner.
Not every rejection is a rejection.
Timing and luck are everything.
Maybe the most important one, it's not the end of the world if she rejects you.
Recalibrate and try again.

AcedtheTuringTest · 2024-05-10T14:13:17+00:00

That I will have no idea what to do if someone possibly says yes (pitiful laugh)

Punkie_Writter · 2024-05-10T14:16:39+00:00

That the only place rejection can occur is in your head. The other does not have the power to reject, only to transmit information.

Only your mother is in a position to reject you. If you didn't grow up in an orphanage, you can't say you were rejected.

Never.

ElWierdo · 2024-05-10T16:05:17+00:00

What I've learned is rejection doesn't matter so move on and keep grinding

Treywilliams28 · 2024-05-10T16:05:44+00:00

That if you do t see gender you tend to relax a lot more and engage at just having fun with less pressure

lisasmatrix · 2024-05-10T16:48:50+00:00

It sucks!

dano-akili · 2024-05-10T17:17:45+00:00

Go into it knowing it’s a numbers game and that rejection is part of the deal

mona_oakley · 2024-05-10T18:14:33+00:00

As a woman that's faced rejection, I just take it as they weren't for me and wouldn't meet my needs anyways. If they had constructive reasons for the rejection, I'll them into consideration (constructive being the keyword) other than that, it's on to the next.

TuneSoft7119 · 2024-05-10T18:39:35+00:00

I have learned that I am simply not the type of guys who girls want to date.

nordik1 · 2024-05-10T19:04:24+00:00

Regret is way worse than the rejection

If you’re good looking you may freak girls out via nervousness and they will reject you even though they think you’re hot

vladiVP · 2024-05-09T21:35:58+00:00

I personally learned to never get rejected- I just sense which girl is into me

PrinceDestin · 2024-05-09T20:54:52+00:00

Try again with someone else

IAmPooh · 2024-05-10T04:38:37+00:00

You need money

Naughtymunk · 2024-05-10T06:46:02+00:00

Don't be a tool lol

Treeshere · 2024-05-10T14:46:27+00:00

That I'm doing something right. Anything that appeals to everyone is boring and not that unique, and therefore doesn't stand out.

Pegmaster6969696969 · 2024-05-09T21:48:39+00:00

I just have to keep gambling and eventually a girl who for some reason wants to bone me will appear.

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-05-09T21:59:30+00:00

How to avoid getting rejected while pushing the envelope .

fuzzytrucker1965 · 2024-05-10T11:08:58+00:00

That I’m a pile of shit and I should give up . Which I did .

Title	What's something that you have learned from getting rejected
Author	No-Wolverine7793
Upvotes	156
Comments	126
Date	May 9, 2024 8:00 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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