Many users here like to suggest that women who want men to make the first move, plan, pay for the first date etc, are entitled. I disagree.

I do not think this is entitled. It is true that it requires more initial investment from the man, but this is simply a consensual relationship dynamic between two partners. If you do not like it, you can choose not to date the woman. It’s better for you not to, such a relationship is bound to be full of unhappiness.

What is unfair though is, it is much harder for a man who does want an equivalent relationship, i.e. for the woman to make the first move, pay for the first date etc, to find a willing partner. Since equivalent behaviour from a man and woman results in different outcomes, it is apparent unfairness to me.

I believe most men see this unfairness and are unhappy about it, but go down the path of trying to shame women’s preferences instead of making it possible for men to demand the same.