1. this why dating in your social circle can be as much of a 'numbers game' as just approaching women in public venues and asking them to grab a coffee sometime. At the end of the day no amount of "oh, if only I'd done X, I wouldn't have gotten put in the 'friendzone,'" will make any difference. She already knew.
  2. It is not some unknown action on the part of the man that somehow, mysteriously, gets him put there. Men twist themselves inside out trying to figure out how to avoid it. You can't. If a woman doesn't feel that way about you, it's just the natural order of human chemistry. You didn't "do" anything wrong.
  3. The only irony here is that the people who don't believe in "cold approaching" often times don't believe in "the friendzone" either because, they say, that attraction either is or isn't there. But by this loigc their own advice how men should tap into their rich extensive social circle to meet women doesn't really make any difference if attraction is non-negotiable anyway.