How to win against physically attractive guys

Jironasaurus · 2025-06-06T15:39:31+00:00

Confidence. Manliness. Sense of humour. Basically, a lot more personality.

Temporary-One7968 · 2025-06-06T16:40:47+00:00

Become attractive yourself

MeorOtherMe · 2025-06-06T15:44:51+00:00

Win?? Like mortal combat? Don't even entertain this thought young buck. Get to the point of not caring about what other people do in front of you, or not in front of you.

blaineisawarlock · 2025-06-06T15:44:17+00:00

Often a losing battle unless you're willing to do 10x the work. At that point is it really worth it?

The guy could probably walk up and say "doughnut holes" or something and they'll all fawn over him.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-06-06T15:56:41+00:00

Avoid competition. Find your own women

Physical_Cattle7261 · 2025-06-06T17:51:34+00:00

A physically attractive guy can open his mouth and turn out to be a big dummy. As long as you're not a big dummy you might as well stay in the game.

Khower · 2025-06-06T16:35:48+00:00

Why are you even looking at it like a competition to begin with? L mindset.

Looks are cool but girls care about looks far less than men do.

Firm_Birthday_3364 · 2025-06-06T16:59:01+00:00

The way that I have done it (and how it has been done on me too lol) is to just acknowledge the guy (say hello and fist bump first) and them to “zone him out” by making the conversation 1-1 with the girl leaving him outside (also physically).

Sometimes you can just take the girl and leave to a different area of the venue, if he follows it shows he’s reactive and needy.

The issue with amoging is that it is 100% matter of who has a stronger frame between you and him and if you start getting anxious because the amog joined you then you are already losing because you get drawn into his frame (of “I can get the girl from this chump”).

So the solution is to feel entitled to get the girl and BELIEVING you are her best option so that you won’t budge when the Alpha Chad joins because you don’t feel the need of validation neither from the girl nor from him

ePlayablez · 2025-06-06T16:11:11+00:00

Believe that you are the best in the competition. Source your women differently (i.e, avoid clubs, bars, dating apps). Those women need companionship and often cannot survive without male attention. There really isn’t as much competition when it comes to women elsewhere and they’re often a lot more comfortable being single.

VelvetSinclair · 2025-06-06T16:52:41+00:00

You ARE one of the attractive guys.

Physically or otherwise

If you don't have that mindset it's already over

Yes_cummander · 2025-06-06T16:42:44+00:00

Confidence is the main one, next is more socially dominant, lead every conversation, sexualize convo's without being try hard or desperate, be easy going, if you're being turned down or she shows another guy attention give zero fucks and move on to the next with the same energy as before.

PM_Teeny_Titties · 2025-06-06T16:50:01+00:00

Like chess?

Existing_Progress_76 · 2025-06-06T17:29:02+00:00

I mean be confident, social and or intelligent. Here is the thing that happened to me way back in college. I sat next to two girls is a plant biology class and I would just talk to them while in class and they were like a 6/10 then I would also talk to another chick across from me who is a solid 8 with a bit more work she could be like a model in my opinion. The two chicks sitting at the table with would talk about how smart I am and all that stuff and talk very positively about me the other chick across would over hear it and she was surrounded by more fit and attractive guys than me. Near the end of the semester that hot chick invited me to go smoke with me in her car. So ya that’s how I won against physically attractive guys for further context I’m a 300 pound 6ft tall dude. Lol 😂 btw surprisingly I do get women’s attention back then but it was mainly more in a romantic setting than hook up setting. I would always respect women and it would be refreshing to them since I don’t treat them like a piece of ass. hook up culture cares more about looks but in a romantic setting you can bypass it if you are decent looking and have a good personality and confidence.

topher_atx · 2025-06-06T18:57:10+00:00

Become one of the physically attractive guys.

As a man, when I go out I see lots of hot chicks. I don't see 1 hot chick, I see many, and I put them all in the same category for the most part.

I suspect women see us in a similar way. There are the attractive guys, and then everybody else. You want to make sure you are lumped in with the attractive guys.

Think_Reporter_8179 · 2025-06-06T16:55:46+00:00

Be 6'5". Works for me

king_of_nogainz · 2025-06-06T17:31:16+00:00

Charisma, your style, confidence, personality, career, and what you can provide.

Mobius_Inverto · 2025-06-06T19:10:21+00:00

Looksmax and personalitymax

BrycePrestonHayes · 2025-06-06T21:00:11+00:00

Having the confidence to talk to an attractive girl will beat out 99% of guys.

I get laid a lot, but I was not the most attractive guy in my friend group. I had one friend who was in good shape, had tattoos, was 6'3", and earned good money at his job. I had another guy in this same friend group who was 6'5", in similarly great shape, and was extremely likable.

However, I was the one who had the most success with women because, unlike them, I was willing to approach women I liked. The first friend didn't have this confidence and entirely relied on the women who came up to him. The other had to be blackout drunk to have a conversation with a girl he liked. Meanwhile, I'm there having the time of my life. I may get rejected, but that just means I go and talk to whoever else I find attractive.

I did this enough that it was never too long before I found a woman who was similarly attracted to me. And then I just kept doing it.

Existing-Big-3039 · 2025-06-06T16:21:13+00:00

AI girlfriends

Vaca_Alada · 2025-06-06T16:21:34+00:00

Have the greatest attribute, the one that beats them all: CONFIDENCE.

Newtabs9 · 2025-06-06T17:14:50+00:00

get even more physically attractive!! (or, for a more serious answer, get famous!)

'game' (which everyone already knows nowdays. So mainstream. Literally on tiktok now!) ain't gonna cut it lol

Abadflirter · 2025-06-06T16:29:23+00:00

Just be yourself, nothing's more attractive than that.

No-Wolverine7793 · 2025-06-06T17:05:28+00:00

Confidence and money

Exotic_Shallot_5860 · 2025-06-06T17:19:20+00:00

Just let them be, thats the most confident way to handle it. Ur not competing ur looking for the right women, women who will choose u over them. Just let them be.

Chicagoj1563 · 2025-06-06T17:51:28+00:00

Have better game. Be her type.

reallystupidbf · 2025-06-06T18:31:21+00:00

Why do you feel the need to compete? There’s plenty of women who will like you for your looks and personality

Atibana · 2025-06-06T18:46:45+00:00

I’ve never had success head to head. But I’ve had plenty of success in general. Generally not worth it in my opinion. There’s an 8 that you would love to be with any day of the week, except when there’s a 10 in the same room fawning over you. Very very hard.

Seductive_allure3000 · 2025-06-06T18:49:52+00:00

Genuine confidence, you really need to love yourself (don't mean that in a vain way). Don't try to compete for attention, it'll just make you look needy.

Tatleman68 · 2025-06-06T19:41:25+00:00

Being rich and clothing style

Rowka · 2025-06-06T20:07:36+00:00

Can't beat um, join um.

FuckingQWOPguy · 2025-06-06T21:18:01+00:00

This isnt a vs game, its like bowling, you either did well or you didnt

unevendopamine2 · 2025-06-07T00:14:45+00:00

Money, and charm… but they will always get the first shot. If they miss, you’re up

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2025-06-07T01:19:21+00:00

Biggest one is likely sense of humor.

I feel like humor has become a LOT more attractive since the pandemic or the last few years. Not sure why 100% but it just absolutely seems to be a much stronger advantage than it used to be previously.

If you're witty or good with your words and fast on your feet when it comes to thinking of funny or sarcastic/funny AF shit on the fly, that's huge.

Also...

Style. Being emotionally grounded and not reactive. Being able to move with a girl or adapt to her emotionally is huge and a lot of men can't do this for shit. Being great at banter.

Demonstrating knowledge and intelligence and not giving a fuck what chicks think about it is huge as well. Like be into what you like and be exploring your interests. If you find something you love absolutely go deep into it....a lot of physically attractive men can be dull as SHIT and having depth and being able to show your passion in something you care about when talking about or doing it, is insanely attractive as well.

Be relentlessly curious about life.

A man with depth and that is genuinely curious about different things and open to trying them and not giving a fuck whether or not they're cool is a huge attraction factor.

Being a damn good/decent dancer or doing some social dancing and getting fluidity of your body would be vastly beneficial as well.

A dude that's a 7 with depth to his life and experiences and knowledgeable of a variety of flavors is WAY more dangerous than a physical attractive dude that's dull as shit and hasnt had to do as much to get his success with women.

You ONLY need to be a certain level of attractiveness in order to have a chance with higher caliber women and it's likely lower than you think....

But your game has to be on point and you CANT be making mistakes or insecure or playing games.

A man that is direct, grounded and a genuine dude even if he isn't the hottest one has WAY more chances than y'all likely think.

amlextex · 2025-06-07T06:24:55+00:00

Carve out your own niche so you’re always the most attractive. Develop your personality during the mean time.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-06-07T08:04:33+00:00

Confidence and having something interesting going on for yourself, like a sexy hobby. But lets be honest here, hot guys dont suffer the pitfalls of hot women, they dont get everything handed on a silver plater and they probably have some decent personality, play a sport or other sexy hobby, etc. So your chances are not good.

GrimSqueezer · 2025-06-07T18:35:19+00:00

Humor. Some girl hotties are over boy hotties and need safe humorous arms to jump into. It’s not always temporary.

ComprehensiveTask10 · 2025-06-08T05:07:30+00:00

Make sure she’s blind.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-06-08T06:17:10+00:00

Better vibe. I’m an attractive guy and been blown out lots. Usually by guys having more fun and a better vibe than I do

Adorable_Zombie_6959 · 2025-06-08T17:21:35+00:00

So yesterday I went out with a bunch of girls and obviously they were approached by hot tall dudes and to be honest, they were not impressed, most guys dont know how to talk so if you have social skills and make girls feel confortable half the battle is won. Most guys talk about themselves a lot and dont know how to read the room, so if you have that kind of skill you are set.

Yolosweg133769 · 2025-06-08T18:36:18+00:00

men overestimate they competition by so much, i am good looking and tall 6'1 but i have confidence, outcome independence, and i progress the conversation, fun to be around, and sexually escalte and i still get rejected. But i know what im doing and i hit the numbers game, someone else who has everything like me but not the looks would have great results BUT he would have to hit even more on the numbers game.

If i sit and home, dont approach or ask girls out, you know how many girls i would have sex with in a year? 0.

How you win? you put in more work then them, AND NOT WORK INTO 1 GIRL but more work by spending less time per girl but approaching waaaay more girls till finding one which is truly into you.

I still believe the biggest downfall of men dating today is they don't know when to stop pursuing a girl because she not really into them.

gptamynk · 2025-06-06T16:10:30+00:00

Be the best version of physically and definitely work on other aspects of seduction.

But hey if it’s PSL GOd then obviously it’s hard but not difficult

_naji · 2025-06-07T06:47:01+00:00

You're cooked big dawg, no amount of game or personality or humor is saving you. The 6'2 male model is taking your girl without the need for any game, he'll give her his phone and she'll instantly type in her number, it's over 😢 jfl

Secure-Outcome8687 · 2025-06-07T12:52:08+00:00

I'm a good looking guy who's in good shape and not short. I'm also lousy with women.

Yes, looks help but guys like me cannot depend on their looks to save the day with any woman that's at least moderately attractive.

I'd gladly give up my looks for a two things; a) love and respect for myself and b) a strong and playful heart.

I think everything you need to succeed with women, or anything else in life falls into one of those two categories.

tigerwoods92 · 2025-06-06T17:55:47+00:00

this attitude will ensure you won’t lol. be collaborative, not competitive. always something to learn from others

Hyphalex · 2025-06-07T11:31:16+00:00

In order of effectiveness:

The best way to win is to bully them with not significant push back and she sees it. Beat them up make sure they get a black eye and she’ll cringe at the thought of being involved in ANY way with them.
Work on your charisma, then spread a rumor that the guy is a virgin.
Be her friend that whispers in her ear for advice. Make sure the plant seeds of doubt.

She’ll ask you out and pay for the date.

I’ve seen it happen too many times and it has yet to fail.

Title	How to win against physically attractive guys
Author	Kindly-Tough-2091
Upvotes	114
Comments	89
Date	June 6, 2025 3:36 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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