🔵BP/Feminism pushes for equality in all aspects of society, EXCEPT dating, (where it arguably matters the most), shows that its destructive for society

fucksiclepizza · 2026-05-25T23:33:32+00:00

How about proposing a solution then.

Kreeps_United · 2026-05-26T00:40:36+00:00

I'm trying to stop myself from commenting on the "where it arguably matters most" line to ask, what does equality in dating even look like? In employment, you're not (or at least weren't) allowed to discriminate against a black woman for a job in a way that made it obvious you were doing so. That said, you were still allowed to have qualifications, and not every black woman was entitled to a job. How will we ensure equality in dating without just forcing women to date people they don't want to?

Feminists... will present the "male loneliness" narrative so they can push therapy.

Most feminists here don't even believe in the male loneliness epidemic, so I don't know what you're talking about.

Secret_Entry1840 · 2026-05-25T22:39:12+00:00

We do engage in the conversations. And then when we ask what solutions people propose and it gets down to “lower our standard” and “just let us before we make you”

YourMrFahrenheit · 2026-05-25T23:05:46+00:00

I think it’s debatable whether there’s a “crisis.” People are more empowered to have autonomy now than at any point in history, which is far more important than “fairness” in dating. Plus if we tried to fix this, then women would have to be in relationships and date undesirable men; is that “fair” to those women who could be single instead? You can’t punish women to make it fair for men, and being with an undesirable man is definitely a form of punishment. Is that “fair?”

growframe · 2026-05-26T00:27:12+00:00

Everyone acknowledges there is a crisis in dating

I don't.

Feminists don't even seriously want to address this issue.

Should they? Feminism isn't an omnicause. Whether or not people are having kids does not (directly) have anything to do with women's rights, so why would feminists have to care about it?

In mainstream media they push the idea that women don't need men anymore, and so if men want a partner they need to "do better"

Are you going to offer a contention to this or are we just supposed to assume it's bad because...?

But they will never seriously consider a discussion about campaigns, policies, or ideas in order to actually fix the crisis.

What campaigns, policies or ideas are you suggesting? Most suggestions I've heard regarding this topic weren't worthy of being taken seriously.

I'm not even proposing a solution here, I'm just pointing out that BP/feminists are afraid of even having the conversation.

It's very rich to complain that feminists aren't doing enough about this perceived issue when you seemingly have no interest in doing anything about it yourself, and seem primarily ocncerned with using it as a cudgel for scolding feminists.

Why should feminists seriously consider your desire for campaigns, policies and ideas when by your own admission you don't have any tangible ideas and just want to blame feminists for the sake of it?

SnooCats37 · 2026-05-26T10:26:01+00:00

How can you make dating equal? What is it you are wanting women to do?

Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2026-05-26T01:40:02+00:00

What are you talking about? The policies that would encourage women to, for instance, want to start families, are already supported by and large by feminists. Reproductive rights, maternity and paternity leave, free childcare, worker’s rights, access to property ownership, etc.

waffleznstuff30 · 2026-05-26T17:44:48+00:00

How do you propose equality in dating? Pray tell.

Because when it comes to dating it will be "unfair". You can't control how another person feels about you. You can't control what people find attractive/unattractive. You can't put two people together and be like now kiss. Dating is always going to be unfair because it's a matter of feelings and feelings can be unfair.

Solondthewookiee · 2026-05-25T23:45:46+00:00

People do not owe you equality opportunity to their intimate lives.

People do owe you equal opportunity to voting, jobs, political office, etc.

And since red pill swears they aren't entitled to women, what exactly is your proposed solution?

KayRay1994 · 2026-05-26T03:33:38+00:00

Okay. Tell me how we get equality in dating.

I know you said “I’m not proposing a solution” but also, if you just hear not presenting any substance other than “here are the problems. I have nothing else to add” it is then a rant, not a debate post.

I see this a lot, manosphere dudes asking for equality in dating like dating is a material asset. Dating is inherently discriminatory entirely based on one’s preferences. How do you make it more equal without forcing people to date each other?

Outside_Memory5703 · 2026-05-26T01:37:50+00:00

We are all equally able to date who we want, and not date who we don’t want, so no

TopShelfSnipes · 2026-05-26T08:44:40+00:00

There is equality in dating.

Both men and women have equal rights and OPPORTUNITY in dating.

You're asking for equity: equality of results.

This is essentially sexual socialism and by nature would inhibit choice, because people are already choosing freely since men and women have the same rights in dating.

People not having kids is largely about access to single family homes. Most people don't envision raising kids in a shitty urban school district that buses in people from bad socioeconomic neighborhoods who contribute to violence and disruptions in the classroom and who lower the academic standards, and most people don't envision raising kids in a tiny apartment while taking a poop and pee stained train or bus to/from every single activity. It's really tough to have lots of kids when the average age of a first time homebuyer is FORTY, and most people spend their 20s and 30s lighting money on fire in the form of rent.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-26T05:39:53+00:00

Society doesnt care about dating. It cares about making children because we are living in a system that is designed to keep growing. Id argue not having children is actually a form of resistance in a system that transfers wealth from the bottom to the top and forced people to keep producing more and more. We are living in a finite world. We can't just keep growing indefinitely.

So as long as society as a whole doesnt invest the majority of its wealth into children there should be a resistance against it.

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RelevantJackWhite · 2026-05-26T13:54:45+00:00

You title it bluepill but you never mention BP anywhere in the post except to use it as a synonym for feminists

I'm here, I exist and I think that this problem is real and that RP is largely grifting off it to make the problem worse

jorts-enthusiast · 2026-05-26T17:02:34+00:00

So why is it on the vague boogeyman of “teh feminists1!” to find a solution? Why don’t you have any ideas about how to resolve this “dating crisis?”

There is already a solution btw - make having kids affordable and appealing enough. The days of women being forced into motherhood are over, and aren’t coming back. Most new grads cannot find work, most people are living paycheck to paycheck. Most people do not have the means to comfortably raise a child and will not bring a child willingly into a bad environment. Once that’s resolved, birth rates will go up.

reignoferror00 · 2026-05-26T21:58:57+00:00

Off the title, BP/Feminism pushes for equality in all aspects of society ... and keeps pushing after the numbers are flipped and men are on the low end, and also generally ignores situations/laws/etc. where woman are the severely advantages ones. Feminism's main and often only priority is advocacy for women.

No-Hovercraft-455 · 2026-05-26T03:04:27+00:00

I agree people not dating and forming families is a crisis. But also, there really really isn't discussion to be had about it that goes anywhere good until there are solutions that we are ready for.

It's my belief we do have solutions that embrace rather than threaten anyone's autonomy, but because they all require one to actually prioritise existence of next generation over keeping the life as we are used to it, I don't believe people are ready to look at it like I do. Not even women. It requires too many changes in perspective and I think we may have to hit rock bottom as society before we discover what's actually important and can see through bullshit to protect it.

I agree fear is big factor for why we aren't able to solve it, but sometimes you have to wait until people face even bigger fear before they will drop the previous safeguards and give something new a try.

Melodic_Structure928 · 2026-05-26T03:27:56+00:00

Heavily degree that feminist care about all other equality in all aspects of society in the first place feminism is by and large a benefit women first group.

the problem is when they claim its not in order to shut down men’s group or go out of there why to shit on individuals even considered The possibly of helping said other side or shut down anyone who questions anything there, doing (or just women in general).

chobolicious88 · 2026-05-26T11:39:29+00:00

Feminism is in essence: "I dont want to be catcalled". (I only want it from hot men)
Meaning - i want to maximize my opportunities, and i dont want the world to inconvenience me.
Regardless of balance, principles, fairness.

So in its ultimate form its: i want to have the benefits of men, while keeping privileges of women, and accountability of a child.

This translates into: im happy having a man spiritual enough and in touch with his feelings enough that he can let me fuck men i "dislike" when i feel like it.

Title	🔵BP/Feminism pushes for equality in all aspects of society, EXCEPT dating, (where it arguably matters the most), shows that its destructive for society
Author	DiligentRope
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Date	May 25, 2026 12:20 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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