My girlfriend hates men more and more with each passing day and it's making me feel uncomfortable.

goatismycopilot · 2018-05-08T15:17:11+00:00

Why doesn't he just break up with her? Why date somebody who makes you feel bad? It doesn't really matter if it is feminism or something else if you are in a shit relationship, get out.

BirdManBrrrr · 2018-05-08T16:44:27+00:00

Enter the White Knight/Ally mating strategy.

He's an enthusiastic, self proclaimed feminist and respects women so much so he'll go to his wits end of rationalizing his support of her and her ideals before growing a pair and terminating the relationship.

And when he eventually does, no doubt she'll poison their shared social circle about how he's a misogynist and bigot at best, accuse him of abuse or sexual assault at worst. He'll be the oppressor, she'll be the victim.

Poor chap has no idea whats coming for him.

Yahuhuhuh · 2018-05-08T15:08:47+00:00

I say she should go all the way, down the rabbit hole. Let her go full blown "hairy legs and armpits". She's no loss to anyone.

The men who have dated her are pathetic, btw.

paccount112 · 2018-05-08T14:56:58+00:00

Welcome to the wonders of co dependency in men and abusive tendancies in women.

my favourite line:

I am a feminist. I hate the patriarchy passionately. I hate how asshole men are coddled and defended and allowed to be assholes in our culture. But... I love men. I love my dad, my brothers, my husband, and many friends. Toxic masculinity is fucking disgusting. But men are human beings and worthy of love. If your feminism makes you prejudiced against individual men, you're doing it wrong.

Ok, I'll put my soap box away now. I agree with the top comments here. If a calm, sit-down conversation doesn't solve the problem, this is a deal-breaker situation.

Hate men in aggrigate, like them individually. reminds me of the old GOP/DNC saying:

Conservatives hate minorities in theory, but like them in practice, while liberals are the opposite.

Electra_Cute · 2018-05-08T14:54:52+00:00

I would say hating or liking men is irrelevant to being a feminist. If one believes in a structure that dictates people based on ideas of gender roles, if one believes in gender equality by means of erasure of ideas of gender, institutional changes or discourse or if you believe in the liberty of women(and in some cases men) from certain roles imposed on them by these structures, you are most likely a feminist.

You can hold these beliefs and still hate or dislike men, I do not think believing in female supremacy works with most strains of feminism because: 1) it assumes that one gender by teleology is superior 2) it maintains the idea that gender is a binary. These 2 ideas are something that almost all relevant contemporary feminists; both scholarly and "practically" are usually advocating for.

AlexDr0ps · 2018-05-08T17:50:03+00:00

Pretty simple in my experience. Girl is feminist, acts like she is above the evil, cis men. Can't reject her own biological craving for a partner. Seeks one out. Is bitter, spiteful, and generally unpleasant around man. Man either deals with emotional torture (like in this case) or gets the fuck out. If the former, she loses even more respect because she is dating a beta bitch. If the latter, it reassures her view that men are trash because they won't stick around. Cycle repeats.

Mr_Smoogs · 2018-05-08T16:28:58+00:00

$1,000 says he was raised by a single white mother

TDRPiller · 2018-05-08T15:36:40+00:00

This is a prime example of why many men can benefit from Red Pill philosophy. If he lifted, demanded respect and had options with other women, he would drop this crazy woman like she's a hot grenade.

Instead he is a male (femenist) ally and it's ruining his life and sapping his emotional energy.

VermiciousKnidzz · 2018-05-08T15:57:04+00:00

i live in a house of people that regularly talk about how much they hate all men, how men are inherently less attractive than women, all men are evil, etc. they screw with men and do shit like lead them on just to ghost them 'cause they think its funny and then they applaud each other. makes me pretty uncomfortable and really changed how i view feminism.

in relation to manosphere, feminism and the manosphere are suddenly two sides of the same coin for me. people trash talk the opposite gender to make themselves feel better.

doesnt change how i view things like gender equality and gender roles, just revealing to the fact that men and women are both insecure and use the same avenues to validate themselves.

for everything my roomates say about men i can pretty easily find an equivalent post that's the reversed genders on /r/braincels or /r/theredpill. not so much things about strategy but moreso things about how they view the opposite gender.

the real eye opening thing was when one of my roomies talked about how dicks are inherently gross and men are less attractive for it. like shit, that was super transphobic, body-shaming, and short sighted for someone that builds herself as this inclusive proactive feminist.

AstuteBlackMan · 2018-05-08T15:46:47+00:00

Most women who are feminists are misandrists. They don't want equality they want preferential treatment. This has been shown multiple times over and over again. Yet people somehow believe feminists don't have penis envy.

I've never really met a feminists who like/love and appreciate men and mens issues. Thats like meeting a KKK member interesting in seeing the black man prosper. I'm sure they're both out there but they don't go hand in hand.

wtknight · 2018-05-08T14:56:02+00:00

Does misandry or a belief of female supremacy disqualify you from the feminist label?

Not at all. It just makes one an extreme feminist, but I can see why non-extreme feminists don’t identify with them.

Five_Decades · 2018-05-08T15:47:10+00:00

pansexual & hates men = probably a sexual abuse victim.

Nothing wrong with being a sexual abuse victim, but if you deal with it by hating all men then there is an issue.

RMWristclutch · 2018-05-08T17:01:13+00:00

Q4All: Does misandry or a belief of female supremacy disqualify you from the feminist label?

I would argue that feminism is anti-male as a basis, otherwise it would be called something else instead of fem-inism.

Feminism has its places but it doesn't have too many places anymore in most western cultures where it isn't trying to push women ahead of men instead of equal to them. It's as much or more about denying men choice, getting revenge on men and taking male advantage for themselves as it is about equality.

But I do think there's distinctions to be made between the group blob and individuals. Feminism is the combination of everything feminists spout whether it's good or bad, an individual feminist can still want actual equality of choice and action and be sympathetic to the shittier parts of being a man that women don't have to deal with without being a shrieking man-hater trying to stick it to an imaginary patriarchy.

That specific girl is a cunt, and if I was her boyfriend, I would probably either tell her fuck off, or have a glorious hatefuck the next time we got around to doing anything sexual

SmeggingRight · 2018-05-08T18:53:06+00:00

Q4All: Does misandry or a belief of female supremacy disqualify you from the feminist label?

Yup. The definition of feminism is a belief in the equality of the sexes.

This woman is something else and she's using him as a punching bag for her extreme beliefs. The longer he stays with her, the more vindicated she feels that she's right.

carefreevermillion · 2018-05-08T16:50:06+00:00

I think misandry in feminists is just like the misogyny in incels (edit for the exceptionally literal: and anger phase red pillers and others of their ilk) - it's all sour grapes. What they don't realize is their views make them more repugnant to the very people they so badly desire, not less.

The most male-hating SJW in my family was seriously alpha widowed in her twenties, is now overweight / near obese, is in her early thirties, and doesn't dress well. She got way deeper into her ideology after being alpha widowed. Because she is undesirable, men must be evil.

storffish · 2018-05-08T14:56:38+00:00

anyone can label themselves whatever they want, if she wants to call herself a feminist cool. who cares.

what's more important is she's definitely earned a "crazy bitch" label from the rest of the world.

apube · 2018-05-08T16:05:00+00:00

Interesting to note is that this guy often posts in depression and anxiety subs. I simply feel bad for him.

he may be a troll, or a liar. 27 days ago he was posting on suicide watch... I wouldn't take his thread seriously since it is the internet and easy to lie in order to get attention or just troll.

wekacuck · 2018-05-08T15:38:39+00:00

What is this. /r/relationship_advice? Lol.

Yahuhuhuh · 2018-05-08T17:58:38+00:00

She sounds unbearable. Surely he can do better.

[deleted] · 2018-05-08T21:14:27+00:00

Back in the 50's both racism and sexism were common, socially acceptable, and directed towards people with dark skin and women. Despite being widespread and socially accepted, it was still wrong. Today racism and sexism are becoming socially acceptable again but directed towards men and light skinned people. It's still wrong.

Chaddeus_Rex · 2018-05-08T16:37:34+00:00

Female supremacy is the definition of feminism. Those who try to 'disqualify' female supremacists from feminists are decievers - they seek to try to make feminism more palatable for the masses - but the fact remains that feminism was based around lies, yes even first wave feminism.

exit_sandman · 2018-05-08T18:02:17+00:00

Q4All: Does misandry or a belief of female supremacy disqualify you from the feminist label?

Lol?

Lots of no true scotsman stuff going on too.

Okay, let's be honest. Only a tiny minority of feminists is so transparent with her hate (I'd wager that even a certfified cunt with a royally punchable face like Big Red wouldn't utter the stuff that guy's GF says), so it's pretty easy to distance oneself from that.

Still doesn't mean that when you really go down to the core of their somewhat more moderately voiced views (which isn't that difficult tbh), you won't find a bone fide misandrist and female supremacist beneath it.

Mattcwu · 2018-05-08T16:21:55+00:00

Does misandry or a belief of female supremacy disqualify you from the feminist label?
No, hating men and wanting to empower women are not mutually exclusive.
Luckily for this guy, feminists are so irrational. If she was rational and she hated "all men", that would mean she hates her boyfriend too. I absolutely would not date someone that hated me.

[deleted] · 2018-05-08T17:42:58+00:00

Feminism becomes a platform for women with their own psychological problems to project them onto others and blame other people for it.

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Chaddeus_Rex · 2018-05-08T16:23:20+00:00

My question is, what is wrong with White Supremacists and Rapists?

Thats fuckung intolerant and bigoted. I am fucking disgusted

mistercheeez-o____O- · 2018-05-08T19:27:45+00:00

Q4All: Does misandry or a belief of female supremacy disqualify you from the feminist label?

Not really. The feminist have to enact the labour of disqualifying those notions within the academia of their orthodoxy. If they truly want to be seen as egalitarians, they'll have to alter the state of academic feminism.

[deleted] · 2018-05-08T19:27:58+00:00

Man, I feel bad for OP. If the gf is having a lark or expressing frustration I guess he could tell her how he feels and ask her to knock it off, but if she's totally serious he should just dump her. It makes no sense to date someone who hates your gender, implicitly or explicitly, or who makes you feel bad.

prodigy2throw · 2018-05-08T19:28:44+00:00

Your girl should adapt to your beliefs. This guys an idiot

lost_jellyfish · 2018-05-09T00:10:20+00:00

You should edit your link to

https://np.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/8hq3mp/my_girlfriend_hates_men_more_and_more_with_each/

The np wil prevent any accidental brigading of the other nub

rainisthelife · 2018-05-08T22:03:31+00:00

Feminism is not any more misandry than RP is misogyny. Funny how the same men that are apparently disgusted by her behavior turn around and endorse a group of circklejerkers who titillate themselves to nothing more than fantasies to see women suffer and payback for whatever awful crimes they’ve apparently committed.

Sure, the boyfriend has a reason to be concerned, but the others here recommending RP as a replacement for the feminism ideologies that he’s assimilated, are hypocrites that are only fine with “hate” when that hate is directed towards women.

Pope_Lucious · 2018-05-08T22:07:41+00:00

Someone needs to get him out of there!

DXBrigade · 2018-05-08T23:47:58+00:00

The problem with feminism is that it's a large movement that contains a lot of currents/waves/sections (whatever you call it). The feminists that are usually hated by men are the radical, misandrist ones. But this type of feminist is also hated by other feminists who are moderate. So yeah...

LeJacquelope · 2018-05-09T00:31:08+00:00

"Does misandry or a belief of female supremacy disqualify you from the feminist label?"

No. That is all.

Neoprime · 2018-05-09T02:45:10+00:00

Well whaddya know, your average "Fake Feminist".

justhanging92 · 2018-05-09T06:31:34+00:00

The irony here is that the gf’s behavior is very similar to what you see in the manophere, but nah feminism is cancer, it’s only bad when women do it cause they are not the builders of civilization so their concerns can be largely ignored cause who cares.

When it comes to your questions, many feminist realize that how can they preach equality while wanting to demean men? Many feminist seem to believe this and it sounds just so of course they will say that. Whether that’s the reality is another story, red pilled would say they don’t hate women yet many would say othewirse because of their philosophy and how they speak

DrySpellCel · 2018-05-09T07:50:59+00:00

Feminism needs to burn. It needs to burn to the fucking ground with nothing left in its wake. They are literally as bad as the nazis were. Feminism must be destroyed! For men and women alike!

WolfgangBreitweit · 2018-05-09T08:59:14+00:00

Never be with a feminist unless you are a sissy boy or a masochist.

1UPZ_ · 2018-05-09T09:14:49+00:00

ditch the bitch.... as harsh as that sounds...

But she will justify hurting you down the line, maybe leave you for another girl or some new gender type. She will also just look down on you and under estimate you because you are male.

She's wacko just like all these hardcore types. There are some decent feminists out there, the ones who "gets it" and actually fight for feasible things and peacefully... but the wackos?... geez... its as bad as having crazy, psychotic male friends who could snap one day and stab you.

qx4758 · 2018-05-09T19:49:25+00:00

Either misandry/gynosupremacy is a disqualifier for feminism, or feminism should be fought tooth and nail, beaten and chased back into the overgrown forest of unshaven pubes whence it arose.

In either case, your girlfriend is deeply emotionally disturbed, and you should leave her.

pinkalligator333 · 2018-05-10T19:30:20+00:00

Well if feminism is for womens rights and womens rights only, then any ethical misgivings should result in exclusion from said group.

Womens rights being the overcome of objectively unscientific barriers to womens progress in designated society. Ie exclusion from colleges.

HydraRuler · 2018-05-10T23:39:42+00:00

My bullshit meter is going through the roof. This sounds like a troll trying to make rad feminists look bad. I'd know because I'm a troll myself and I've done exactly what OP has.

Title	My girlfriend hates men more and more with each passing day and it's making me feel uncomfortable.
Author	Mr_Smoogs
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Date	May 8, 2018 2:48 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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