Do women find being daygamed by betas as annoying/repulsive as straight guys would find being hit on by gay men?

decoy88 · 2019-11-25T23:52:08+00:00

Usually in the daytime, adult women have shit to be doing, noone likes being interrupted.

Also the negative experiences stick out more than the neutral ones.

Ex. Gf hates going out on a busy Saturday in the city because niggas get aggressive. In the short space of an hour, she was approached by 3 guys, one physically removed her ear piece because she wasn’t responding to him, another grabbed her arm to just “talk to him for a second”

This shit isn’t rare and for me would be annoying AF

Ofourkind · 2019-11-25T23:34:07+00:00

I don't know how straight men feel about being approached by gay men, because I'm a straight woman.

I know how I feel when random men approach me. Mild annoyance at best and absolute disgust or even intense fear at worst. I have never felt flattered by a random man's "compliments". That's like feeling special for getting a spam email.

Barneysparky · 2019-11-25T23:53:25+00:00

i'm a guy who's hit on girls during the day/night/train/bus/wherever i see a hot girl and i just wanna say that it's a great way to meet women.

do not be discouraged by the comment section. the internet is not real life.

ALSO pretty much all the "what if i creep her out or annoy her" worries can be quelled by this very simple instruction.

Take. rejection. gracefully.

that's it.

i'm not afraid to talk to a girl during the day, or at night, or anywhere for that matter. cos i know for a fact that if i get rejected (which i get plenty) i'm gonna say "no worries have a good day" and leave no worse than when i started and it's all very light no big deal. i'm yet to get slapped/punched/ arrested/ raped/imploded/destroyed btw. so yeah.

women don't like (or atleast say they don't like) being approached because most the guys who approach them either don't leave when she's made it apparent she's not interested. or the guy says or does some creepy shit. or even just takes rejection angrily or in a way that either intimidates or angers the girl. so basically women are conditioned based on experience to assume that a guy approaching her will most likely be a net negative interaction. and due to the fact the internet exists and we are much more autistic and less resilient etc. etc. these days + womens tendecy to be melodramatic. these minor inconveniences appear to be some blanket statement implying any man who approaches a woman is doing some sort of damage to the divine feminine. atleast that's how women on reddit make it seem lol.

real life women IME don't give a fuck, they are used to it lol, or they're not but just get on with their lives.

if you just introduce yourself and try to have a decent convo, then leave gracefully if she tells you she's not interested then you have nothing to lose. (and frankly... you might even make her day, i say that cos girls have told me exactly those words).

magasunday · 2019-11-25T23:25:45+00:00

Yeah except you're probably thinking the gay guy is decently good looking. Which society often portray gay men as, just look at James Charles.

Imagine the gay guy hitting on you looks like a neck bearded incel would you still be flattered? And let's say he won't take a casual "no" for answer, he'll try all TRP tricks before he'll accept your no and move on

2019-11-25T23:41:59+00:00

i dont feel repulsed so no. i feel more like "oh great, this shit again"

Million-Suns · 2019-11-26T00:21:02+00:00

They're more offended by the fact that they feel they have been downgraded from a league or several, if they are hit on by someone they deem as belonging to an inferior one.

On the other hand, being hit on in the middle of the day by someone who they deem has high status is usually not a problem. It's even flattering and reassuring regarding their own SMV.

findingfemininity · 2019-11-25T23:52:44+00:00

It's not repulsion it's just annoyance. I realize this is going to come off as ~ humblebragging ~ but attractive women get hit on all the time and it gets tiring to have to nicely reject men when you're just trying to buy some milk at the grocery store.

Men shouldn't approach unless they're getting IOIs.

ohheyhi99 · 2019-11-25T23:31:14+00:00

Strictly speaking, you're talking "Cold Approach" more than "daygame" and I will say this: Warm Approach is fine (and is also "daygame"), but "betas" will never know what it's like because they never get IOIs.

Nevidimka- · 2019-11-26T00:58:04+00:00

If I need to explain it to a guy I usually compare it to being approached by sales people. Not the end of the world, but pretty annoying if it happens at every streetcorner. Not repulsive though.

CainPrice · 2019-11-25T23:46:29+00:00

Women hate it when ugly, socially awkward creeps talk to them in any situation. They just have less of an excuse to be bitches about it when they're in a meat market trying to meet guys. But at the grocery store? That's one more thing they can complain about. And women love complaining. It's an Olympic sport in women groups.

NockerJoe · 2019-11-26T01:07:46+00:00

Have you ever been approached by a 1? Like not a 3 or 4 like most red dudes think is disgusting or only good for a quick nut. Not even a 2 which is as low as the scale goes for normal people. But a 1, the kind of woman so ugly you use her as a reality check to calibrate the entire scale. The kind of person who has every possible thing wrong with them while from an aesthetics perspective, but is still somehow walking and talking among normal humans and not confined to a wheelchair or an asylum somehow. Even in the thirstiest, horniest guys, your balls dry up immediately. It's like you skip straight to post nut clarity and you realize you have standards you never knew you had.

Well look at this. That describes a little over one in twenty women at the absolute most. But that describes more than a quarter of the male population.

AggravatingTartlet · 2019-11-26T02:59:41+00:00

Yes. You have to be like to be a Swiss Alp dragonfly and play dead until the pesky male goes away. You do this of course by stating you have a boyfriend/husband.

source

Joey_Lopez · 2019-11-26T06:34:16+00:00

No. Remember that females need betas. Imagine how hard there life will be without them.

MaryContrary1999 · 2019-11-26T00:35:36+00:00

I only find being hit on gross/creepy when guys I dont know or barely know become extremely sexual or if guys are overly aggressive/coercive.

Or if it's by old dudes.

QueenCousland86 · 2019-11-26T02:40:10+00:00

The only time I find it irritating is when some dude won't take no for an answer. Don't get mad, don't be obnoxious, just take the L gracefully and fuck off.

goatismycopilot · 2019-11-26T00:21:04+00:00

Nah, women just tune it out. Even when it is social and somebody you aren't attracted to hits on you, you just act completely oblivious on purpose and forget about it. It ranges from whatever to super annoying depending on how it is all playing out. I never in my head think beta/alpha that is man division.

For some reason here the dudes think if an ugly guy hits on us we are gonna freak out and call our GFs and cry or some bullshit. Come on homeless guys hit on women in large metro cities.

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2019-11-26T02:39:33+00:00

It's pretty awkward and terrible. If they are sweet about it I'm quietly polite. But a lot of time they walk up to you in the worst moment like when you are bent over at the store comparing products and invade your space....those guys get the Putin face as I walk away.

Coldinhear · 2019-11-26T03:34:39+00:00

Ok there are only certain times when a woman is open to being approached. They don't realize it either. Now women, all women, for some reason both say and believe they do not want to be approached by a stranger. Yet most of these women have gone home with a stranger who approached them.

As you are running day game you don't just start asking every girl out. You start talking to every girl. I would make a comment about something they were wearing. How they respond would determine the rest. Girls who were in that phase where they were open to approach would engage. This is when you tell them to come get some lunch with you. Sometimes they go along, at which point you only lose if you fuck it up. Most women will not be open to being approached right then. You can't tell until you engage with them but there's no real reason not to press the issue and try anyway. Maybe ask her how she thinks those shoes go with that shirt or whatever. That bracelet doesn't match your eyes, there you go. Your purse looks like you could fit everything I own in it.

If they engage then you proceed.

Not so bad being hit on by gays. Gay dudes have some bizarre fantasy about being taken by a straight man and if you are friendly and outgoing person you'll meet some gays and they'll end up hitting on you. No big deal why not enjoy the attention?

Heck bro back during my day gaming time I had this weird autistic gay dude who made best friends with my sister to try to get to know me. I was pretty depressed at the time so I enjoyed having someone to chat with. And he was always buying me things. He bought me CDs, he made me food (I just threw it away when he wasn't there), and would give me books to read. We'd chat about the music and the books and stuff when I was around. Then came the day he started telling me about all the guys he'd fucked. I told him I didn't care and did not want to hear about it. Then he told me, and then begged me, to fuck him. I kept repeating to him I am not gay. I'm not gay. Sorry friend, I like you as a friend, but I am not gay.

A few days later he had my sister tell me he wanted all his books and CDs back. Whatever I gave them all back to him. At which point he told me he had been following me around and knew all about me. That he had been taking pictures of me and I was so much better than I thought I was (lol) and he wanted to prove it to me. Ben, I'm not gay. Stop following me around

He stopped being my sisters best friend after that.

MikepGrey · 2019-11-26T03:42:35+00:00

Ya I just tell gay guys "Thanks for the interests but women are more my thing"

salami_inferno · 2019-11-26T04:48:51+00:00

I love it when gay guys hit on me. Its flattering and I just politely tell them I'm straight.

cxj · 2019-11-26T05:25:05+00:00

I don't find gay male approaches repulsive unless they grope me, then I'm pissed and rightfully so

Def had gay guys say wild shit to me out of nowhere (hey baby do you like Mexican food? If you do you'll like me because I will destroy your asshole!") and if they have your number and get drunk?? OHH BOY

DaphneDK42 · 2019-11-26T06:04:51+00:00

It'd probably be annoying if it happened ten times a day.

SpinachIsYummy · 2019-11-26T07:09:23+00:00

Unless the dude is being overly pushy, sexual, touchy, or cant take no for an answer, I dont really care about guys hitting on me.

LotBuilder · 2019-11-26T07:38:04+00:00

The right guy can do no wrong and the wrong guy can do right. The difference between Christian Grey and a horrific Dateline episode is that one is a good looking billionaire. That’s not an excuse to be creepy but it’s the facts. Shoot your shot and move on quickly if she’s not interested.

anitapk · 2019-11-26T09:34:46+00:00

I find it flattering but if he doesn't understand rejection immediately when I say no thanks it gets awkward or scary. It rarely happens though.

I don't know how straight guys feel being hit on gay men, many said they'd react bad but a few of my friends were actually flattered haha

Willow-girl · 2019-11-26T13:30:07+00:00

Mother always said, "You can't blame a guy for trying!"

To which I would invariably reply, "No, but you can thank him!"

And she would backhand me across the mouth with her bony little knuckles ...

2019-11-26T14:14:26+00:00

100% yes.

2019-11-26T14:54:23+00:00

No, because men don't mind compliments from people they aren't attracted too. Compliments and being hit on are great, women are the only ones that are so spoiled they put a attractiveness requirement from someone chatting with them.

CosmicBioHazard · 2019-11-26T14:58:28+00:00

Well as far as the straight men go, I suppose you mean being ‘nightgamed’ by gay men, which would be an environment where people are trying, actually trying to hookup, which in my experience invites persistent people who continue longer than they should.

Now, anytime I’ve been daygamed by gay men I’ve felt fucking appreciated, and gained some confidence to show for it.

SmurfESmurferson · 2019-11-26T16:38:25+00:00

I’m late to the party, but it’s different

I’ve been hit on by a ton of lesbians in my life. I’m straight, so I’ve never been interested in them. But the dynamic between a lesbian hitting on me and a guy hitting on me is just different

The lesbian is more likely to be about my size. I’ve never been physically intimidated, whereas men who hit on me are almost all bigger and stronger. On a pure lizard brain level, I’m more on my guard around the men

ResponsibleCharacter · 2019-11-26T16:46:13+00:00

I don't give a shit if they're hot or not (although they never are, lol)

If I'm at the grocery store I'm not trying to be hit on, fuck off. It feels like entitlement. "I LIKE HOW YOU LOOK I TALK TO YOU NOW YOU NEED TO TALK TO ME"

Nah bro

dylang92 · 2019-11-26T18:07:38+00:00

I think this has been sad before, and many women have said that yes it is

spawnofthedevil · 2019-11-26T19:20:13+00:00

I’m repulsed and annoyed being hit on by any man on my day to day, whether or not I find them attractive.

I just want to be able to go about my day and mind my business, end of story.

lilacluna548 · 2019-11-26T19:39:27+00:00

No, it doesnt bother me. I feel bad when I have to reject guys and I do feel flattered. I dont get hit on a lot though so maybe that's why it's different for me. I hardly go to places that are designed for flirting so men flirting whenever is encouraged

Kos_-_Omak · 2019-11-26T18:03:25+00:00

personally I would be flattered if a gay showed interest in me as long as it's polite.

if every guy hit on women in the same way that you're imagining getting hit on by a homo, they wouldn't have any problem with it. like some gay dude being "oh wow you look so awesome!" and then being super cool about the fact that you have absolutely zero sexual interest in him.

now imagine if you knew a gay dude who was 100% aware of the fact that you're not gay but he was always trying to flirt with you and saying or texting weird shit to you and wanting to hang out 1 on 1 and physically touching you and even occasionally trying to make out with you and shit like that. much less enjoyable and flattering right?

now imagine if that shit happened constantly

Title	Do women find being daygamed by betas as annoying/repulsive as straight guys would find being hit on by gay men?
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Date	November 25, 2019 11:20 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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