I am 25 years old working as software dev, I met her at friend's Christmas party, she is a good friend of my friend and his wife. After one month they got to together and my friends wife told her that i was a virgin, i don't fucking know why my friend told her that or why she told my gf. Anyhow i was labelled as a liar, i told i had 2 girls and my frame went to bust, i really did great job before that. She slept with 2 guys, one she tells me raped her as a boyfriend and she stayed with him none the less 4 years, which i find infuriating, other thing is that she slept with another one after 3 months only once because the relationship was falling apart. She is the most empathetic, smart and knowledge person I have met, she works with autistic kids, managed charities and write tons of letters for sponsorships, and write publications, she is 27. I can't find any reason or flaw in relationship other that this , but all it does it makes my feel frustrated and inferior.

Every time we talk about it she goes little insane, she tells me that i shouldn't talk about or i should find another girl if i don't want to wait a year, and that i shouldn't pressure it and that i waited my whole life without sex so i can wait a little bit longer. She also have huge paranoia over having kids now, but want it in few years, i don't want to.