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My GF won't have any sex with me after 3 months because I am virgin.

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April 10, 2020

I am 25 years old working as software dev, I met her at friend's Christmas party, she is a good friend of my friend and his wife. After one month they got to together and my friends wife told her that i was a virgin, i don't fucking know why my friend told her that or why she told my gf. Anyhow i was labelled as a liar, i told i had 2 girls and my frame went to bust, i really did great job before that. She slept with 2 guys, one she tells me raped her as a boyfriend and she stayed with him none the less 4 years, which i find infuriating, other thing is that she slept with another one after 3 months only once because the relationship was falling apart. She is the most empathetic, smart and knowledge person I have met, she works with autistic kids, managed charities and write tons of letters for sponsorships, and write publications, she is 27. I can't find any reason or flaw in relationship other that this , but all it does it makes my feel frustrated and inferior.

Every time we talk about it she goes little insane, she tells me that i shouldn't talk about or i should find another girl if i don't want to wait a year, and that i shouldn't pressure it and that i waited my whole life without sex so i can wait a little bit longer. She also have huge paranoia over having kids now, but want it in few years, i don't want to.

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Title My GF won't have any sex with me after 3 months because I am virgin.
Author Interius
Upvotes 73
Comments 174
Date 10 April 2020 11:43 AM UTC (10 months ago)
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1) She slept with way more than 2 guys.
2) The guy didn't rape her; women don't move in with their rapists for another half-decade.

he is the most empathetic, smart and knowledge person I have met, she works with autistic kids, managed charities and write tons of letters for sponsorships, and write publications, she is 27. I can't find any reason or flaw in relationship other that this , but all it does it makes my feel frustrated and inferior.

Your ability to romanticize this whore suggests you are at TRP level -5.

[–]RPOpenUp141 points142 points  (11 children) | Copy

Speech: -100

[–]babybopp147 points148 points  (10 children) | Copy

Why is a 25 year old dating a wall sniffing 27 year old for starters

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“Wall sniffing” love it lol

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Should I Google it?

[–]weicheheck41 points42 points  (5 children) | Copy

Women hit a wall around 30 where they begin to lose their beauty at a much faster rate, a 27 year old is approaching the wall and can sniff it.

[–]jack-910110 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy

Got it. I see this behavior in a girl who used to say "she'd never get married".

[–]Ill_mumble_that7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Awalt. Rings true every time. Women aren't unique except for their looks and average IQ across their demographic.

[–]idevastate0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I'd say after 21, the perishing of beauty has already started to set in. They'll never be as beautiful as that age. In the mid to high 20's the compound effects start being more evident.

[–]Carlsontrill0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Sadly, this is true. It starts at a younger age than many suggest. You see it particularly in the fashion industry with models, NYT posted a surprisingly brutal piece on how models begin to feel old at 25.

[–]idevastate0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly, I’ve seen it firsthand as well.

[–]muricanwerewolf112 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because he’s a virgin

[–]antariusz1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because I can read the beta desperation in his posts.

[–]Endorsed ContributorUEMcGill149 points150 points  (18 children) | Copy

As u/redhorndog pointed out, Iron Rule #3, is absolutely in effect here. You might also want to read his post on, "Saving the Best"

Women will paint themselves in a light that makes them feel better about themselves, but they'll do it in a way that appears to be for your benefit.

So she says she slept with a guy after only 3 months? It was probably way sooner than that. She knows that, but she's said it enough she actually now believes it was 3 months.

She says she was raped, yet she moves in with him? She probably had no intention of fucking the guy and he was smooth and got her to fuck on the first date. So she tells herself, even though she said 'yes' she meant no (save those next morning thank you texts, fellas!)

Add to it, once your friend's wife gave up your body count, you lost a serious attraction tool, namely social proof. Knowing a man has slept with other women is instant vetting material.

Now, you want to know how fucked up all this is? Ghost this chick, tell her that you are moving on and have other irons in the fire. Spend a few months getting back in the game. Go bang some fatties, or ugly girls or whatever it takes to punch your v-card. I bet $100 bucks once you got that off your bucket list, if you run into her at a party (pretend she's a lamp; that shes just another fixture in the place), she'll completely change. "Oh, I don't know what I didn't see in you." and "I don't normally do this but..." You'll be disgusted how fast she switches gears.

I can't find any reason or flaw in relationship other that this , but all it does it makes my feel frustrated and inferior.

The fact is, it's not a committed relationship. At least it shouldn't be. Men hold the keys to commitment, and women the keys to sexual intimacy. You should never trade one before the other. Don't sweat it dude. Think of it this way, just like code, a relationship will take garbage in and put garbage out. She was older than you (red flag 1), she was saving her best for you (red flag 2), she had a supposed rape (red flag 3), she was making you wait (red flag 4). Your data frame was fucked and she should have never been let in for processing. She is not LTR material. Build a relationship code that filters out only the best and highest quality women for LTRs. Then when you hit your peak, you'll be money.

[–]babybopp46 points47 points  (1 child) | Copy

You have the words. It is a good thing you had the patience to break it down to him. OP is a very prime candidate for TRP. He is doing the opposite.

Dating a post wall

Dating someone who claims to have been raped and still spent 4 years with dude

Dating a girl who obviously finds him to be a beta billy boi

Revealing his lack of sexual prowess.

Developing a oneitis...

And lol... she’s only fucked two guys .... hahahaha

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Great answer. Goddamn

[–]MrAnderzon6 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy

I learned some from his post.

Even it’s been asked before I’ll still click to look for an EC’s comment and try to learn something.

Women hold the keys for sex Men hold the keys for relationships

[–]bonersNlaughs-2 points-1 points  (6 children) | Copy

Keep being there for her, remember she's not for you & her rapist long term lover is an arsehole, OP is an incel n women don't hold any keys to sex, apart from simp like op chastity device on an ankle bracelet aha

[–]MrAnderzon2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

I’ll give OP credit for asking for help. But at the least he will have heard the correct answer. TRP is not for everyone.

TRP can show you the way but it won’t walk it for you.

[–]bonersNlaughs0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

OP asked nothing, not taking away anything from crys for help & intuitions in line with claiming ones balls or reclaiming manhood or dignaty w ever

But let’s b honest apart from jus fucking the bitch, I’ll no appease op pussy behaviour, ye lad shel make love when she’s ready no doubt along with the realisation she doesn’t like blowjobs as if bla bla.

Keep asking for consent, if u don’t yer no better than her ex that time he didn’t make sure his woman consented to fucking her man.

Get a pro op

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[–]bonersNlaughs0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Don’t torture yourself man aha. I woulda explained or elaborated if you hmu. I’m abso bolero n was high then.

Take it easy maman don’t stress ye

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[–]bonersNlaughs0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking right no worries perspective to OP amirite, Jesus chrystler

[–]helppc4938385 points6 points  (6 children) | Copy

He should be dating chicks way younger than him. Shes not his girlfriend LMAO hes her slave.

News for you OP. I use to be inexperienced as you. I've only fucked 2 chicks until I met my current Gf

My GF lets me fuck her whenever I want, and begs me to tie her up and fuck her. Begs for my attention, pays for all my meals and treats me like a king, and Cuz of quarantine sends me pics that make her remind me of my cum. I'm always on her mind

I respect her and naturally i don't take advantage of her since she seems like ltr material and I have morals, but negotiating sex? FUCK NO

Meanwhile my girl is begging me to tie her up after quarantine is done, yours wont even touch you.

Go find other woman

PS. Nobody is trying to criticize you. But this woman seems like bad news for you and you'll regret it Date someone younger

[–]optionsprofiter-1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy

Are you poor? I would find it emasculating if a woman paid for me (back in high school I used to bang this rich chick who would give me money after we banged, it felt weird but still took the cash as I had no income)

[–]helppc4938381 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Nah. Shes not rich rich but most of the times offers to pay. We usually rotate on who pays when we eat

[–]optionsprofiter1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

“pays for all my meals” made it sound like she was a sugar mama

[–]helppc4938381 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Lno were both young but she forces me, she'll tap her card before I get a chance to pull mine out. It's a little annoying

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[–]helppc4938380 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No were indian

[–]redhorndog161 points162 points  (4 children) | Copy

Tell her when you have a car you expect the engine to work. Sex hold your relationship together. She is trying to make you enter her frame by controlling the sex.

GF: No pussy for you tonight

ME: No pussy from YOU tonight.

Unfortunately she knows you dont have other options and wont actually dump her. Go ahead tell her it isnt working and move on. No contact and I guarantee in 2 weeks she'll fuck you. But by then you need to actually drop her and find someone else.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #3

Any woman who makes you wait for sex, or by her actions implies she is making you wait for sex; the sex is NEVER worth the wait.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #7

It is always time and effort better spent developing new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship. Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

[–]AlgaeEater31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. Yes it's scary to do this, but it works. She knows you wont dump her and is basically controlling you to stay. Shes acting dominate over you.. almost like a mom saying, "If you do this then you'll get this."

You're the man. Not her.

[–]DerpJungler10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have the Iron Rules of Rolo Tomassi framed on my wall.

[–]mr4kino35 points36 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mate drop her like you would drop some crappy code. In short, your post is full of red freaking flags.

Also, you need to work on yourself and understand what is going wrong. At the moment I can tell you that you have that sidebar to read and apply to real life. So dump her and concentrate on yourself.

[–]Zapche37 points38 points  (1 child) | Copy

Mother fucker if you don’t drop that bitch I won’t feel bad for you later.

[–][deleted] 34 points35 points  (0 children) | Copy

Drop this girl. Why would you want an LTR with her? There are a number of girls who don't have that kind of baggage. You're a software developer. You have some smart genes that's worth a lot and a career that can go really far with some good income. Why would you want a girlfriend like that? Why would you take a girlfriend like that. Know your worth because clearly you don't.

You're fresh out of the oven and the first thing you do is LTR a girl that's about to hit the wall in the next 3 years and those stats? You dumb fuck. I'm sorry but there is so much better in life than what you're seeing in front you right now.

Spin plates until you're 30 - 35yrs and then look for an LTR. If you don't want to be looking for pussy every night then get a favorite plate and make her hold the place but don't make her your gf. Until you spin plates you wouldn't know what to avoid and what to look for.

I wish someone told me this.

[–]Senior EndorsedMattyAnon21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

t. She slept with 2 guys, one she tells me raped her as a boyfriend and she stayed with him none the less 4 years, which i find infuriating

Well she's lying of course. The reason you find this infuriating is that you are being lied to as a beta in order to secure your white knight provisioning/protective instincts. It SHOULD infuriate you.

other thing is that she slept with another one after 3 months only once because the relationship was falling apart.

Again she's lying.

And there are other men she's fucked.

I can't find any reason or flaw in relationship other that this

I hate to break this to you and this is gonna hurt:

You are not in a relationship with this girl. She is not your girlfriend and she doesn't think of you as her boyfriend. You are there because you are useful (for security, possibly more). She does not find you attractive enough to want to fuck you, even though she has others before you.

Saying it's because you are a virgin is another lie. She wouldn't sleep with you before she found out you are a virgin, remember?

It's easy to lie about motives and she is doing. She is engaging in a PR war against you and it's easy because you believe her.

Every time we talk about it she goes little insane, she tells me that i shouldn't talk about or i should find another girl if i don't want to wait a year

A year??

And after 12 months this magically turns into the awesome monkeysex fucking round the clock of your dreams? Dude... wise up. It's not gonna happen.

Find a girl who likes you and appreciates you and wants to fuck you. Don't fall for the lies of this one. Don't believe her.

If there is one thing I can teach you, it is this:


Believe her actions. Ignore her words.

She also have huge paranoia over having kids now, but want it in few years, i don't want to.

Read the sidebar.

You're her reliable fallback beta option. She fucks hot guys, then fucks you once and magically gets pregnant and you are in a dead bedroom for life.

Wise up. Read the sidebar. Lift. Walk away from this girl and chalk it up to experience. Don't believe the lies any more.

[–]BusterVadge16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

You know... There is such a thing as OTHER WOMEN.

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

"Raped her" run dude

[–]myfirsttimecoding3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s always that ex boyfriend who is manipulative and abusive isn’t it. What she’s not telling OP about is how hot the consensual poundings with her ex was. He just broke her heart and she withdrew her consent afterwards

[–]phisch1314 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lol I didn’t even have to read past the title. Leave her.

That’s a dumb fucking reason and I don’t really care what her justification is.

[–]PinacoladaSauce11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude... Cone on mannnnn. First off this girl sucks. she’s lying and you’re head over heels for her. she’s a slut and while you’re here complaining about her on the internet, she’s probably getting fucked in the backseat of a car, begging him to take the condom off. Sucks but it’s true.

But most importantly. Stop fucking lying. You NEED to work on yourself

[–]Ill_mumble_that10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Glad you are here. You desperately need trp

[–]tenrag389925 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy

Work on yourself. Your confidence is the issue here.

[–]tudor0710 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read Iron Rule of Tomassi #3. Never break iron rules.

Wait 1 year for sex? You are fucking crazy if you think that's gonna get you anywhere.

She stayed 4 years with someone who "raped" her? HUUUUGE red flag my guy.


[–]btrpb8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

OMG. You are so wrong about her. She is the one lying to you. Leave, fuck a hooker, move on with your life.

[–]MinCad9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm not going to waste my time reading your full story, but here's what you should do.

Dump her. Find a different girl. Don't tell other girls you're a virgin. If your now ex-gf offers sex to try to keep you (which will probably happen), either tell her to fuck off or pump and dump.

For everyone else: this is a graphic display of the principles of abundance and preselection.

(Edit: read your post. Tell your 'friend' to fuck off too. He DLVd you hard. He's either retarded, a terrible friend, or both.)

[–]hibloodstevia9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

I see this guy married to a woman 10 years older than him who already has 4 special needs kids from various poor decisions.

[–]alphakari7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

Whenever a girl suggests you find another girl, even in jest, the only available move is to walk away and do it. There is zero alternative. You walk out the room and go do it.

Sex is like a fork at a restaurant.

It's not special, but it is essential.

That she doesn't want to fuck you says she doesn't desire you sexually, but values your company. Girls are totally willing to lock themselves down with a teddy bear as an alternative to being single, so that they have someone to make them not feel lonely.

She probably doesn't desire you because of YOU btw, don't put that on the bitch. You probably don't know how to tease a bitch and get her into the idea of fucking, especially cause I'm not seeing you mention anything about how she's willing to suck your dick or some shit. Have you even seen her naked?

[–]redhorndog2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sex is like a fork at a restaurant.

It's not special, but it is essential.


[–]wowkwo7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are what they call 'beta bucks', if she doesn't want to fuck then she doesn't really like you the way you need her to.

You should probably eject, but more importantly read up Rational Male, The Book of Pook, 3% Man or dive into youtube Red Pill.

There are as many red flags as a commie parade bro.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

my friends wife told her that i was a virgin, i don't fucking know why my friend told her that or why she told my gf.

First, it is not the business of your male friends whether you have had sex or not.

Second, your 'friend' broke confidentiality by yapping to his wife. This goes to show you that, once you release information, you no longer control it.

Third, your friend's wife is a cunt. WTF business is it of hers? It isn't, but interfering in other people's relationships is the female national sport.

Anyhow i was labelled as a liar, i told i had 2 girls and my frame went to bust, i really did great job before that.

You never argue with women. In this situation, you simply should have denied everything and said your friend's wife was fucking with her.

She slept with 2 guys, one she tells me raped her as a boyfriend

This is called "bullshit."

She is the most empathetic, smart and knowledge person I have met

My guess is that you're not all that social, Skippy.

she works with autistic kids, managed charities and write tons of letters for sponsorships, and write publications

So she's a martyr. These bitches have LOADS of compassion for other people but often not for the men in their life.

she is 27. I can't find any reason or flaw in relationship other that this , but all it does it makes my feel frustrated and inferior.

Well there's one problem. And her age. And that she's not having sex with you.

Every time we talk about it she goes little insane

Oh, look. We're on red flag #7 or so.

she tells me that i shouldn't talk about or i should find another girl if i don't want to wait a year

Wut? A fucking (or "not fucking") YEAR?! Remind me how she's the most empathetic person you've ever met.

and that i shouldn't pressure it

Translation: "Please be an obedient little Betafag, orbit me, and take what I give you."

Also, that's not going to go away. Assuming you are retarded enough to stick around until she deigns to 'bless' you with pity sex, sex you get after that - if any - is going to be on her terms.

and that i waited my whole life without sex so i can wait a little bit longer.

What a selfish cunt!

She also have huge paranoia over having kids now, but want it in few years, i don't want to.

LOL. You, my friend are the back-up to the back-up plan. If you are dumb enough to stick around, she's going to pull the goalie on you. Or, worse, she's going to get knocked up by some guy she actually desires, and then tell you it's yours.

What to do:

A. Dump this bitch. Your relationship is toxic.

B. Sidebar =====>

[–]Saladin192 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking Poetry

[–]dominicthetiger0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This reminds me of a comedy video where a dude got pegged because he wanted anal. The guy was so beta I almost barfed in my mouth a couple of times. Literally. The only reason I stuck around (and clicked on it) in the first place was because I thought it would all just be a joke of some kind and I could get out a few laughs at a supposedly beta but not really type of guy. It wasn't and I didn't.

[–]strainer1235 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Let me guess, you pay for all her shit. She's taking you for a ride my friend, wise up before common law kicks in and you end up having to pay for her shit FOREVER.

[–]catsdontsmile4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

one she tells me raped her as a boyfriend and she stayed with him none the less 4 years, which i find infuriating, other thing is that she slept with another one after 3 months only once because the relationship was falling apart

ASD at its finest. You sound blue pill as shit. Have you read the sidebar?

She is the most empathetic, smart and knowledge person I have met, she works with autistic kids, managed charities and write tons of letters for sponsorships, and write publications, she is 27. I can't find any reason or flaw in relationship other that this , but all it does it makes my feel frustrated and inferior.

  1. You have Oneitis 2. She's a slut, just not with you.

she tells me that i shouldn't talk about or i should find another girl

That's her having frame over you.


You are literally text book blue pill. Seriously dude, read the entire sidebar.

[–]3chazthundergut6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hahahaha! Thanks for the chuckle

[–]RobbyHagan8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Find another girl. Don't put her pussy on a pedestal. If she won't give it up after 3 fucking months, then what do you think she'll do after you wait that year? She's holding the pussy hostage and you do not negotiate with terrorists

[–]Project_Zero_Betas7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's also clear she straight up doesn't actually like OP.

[–]bert_cj4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hit the weight room bro. Workout 4-5 times a week. Eat a lot of protein carbs and veggies.

Example: Fish rice and Brussel sprouts Chicken green beans potatoes Ground beef with fajita veggies and rice

Eat eggs for breakfast. Drink protein shakes.

Go to the grocery store once every single week. Every single week.

I can tell you don’t workout, so don’t say “I workout already” I doubt it.

Get swole and have a 6 pack. I promise she’ll start acting right.

Everybody is telling you to drop her. I wouldn’t. You’re a 25 year old virgin and your confidence is zero because of that. If I were in your shoes I’d use her to lose my virginity and gain some experience while I invest in myself, but that’s just me. Everyone is saying to drop her, I don’t see why. If you invest in yourself for 3-6 months she’ll be an easy way to lose your virginity and gain some sexual experience. She already knows you’re a virgin. If you leave her you’re gonna have to fake it with the next chick, it was already hard for you to get this one so I’d say just use her for experience. Everyone thinks it’s easy to fake confidence but it’s not. You’ll be way more confident knowing you’re not a virgin cause I can tell the fact that you’re a 25 year old virgin is destroying your confidence and that shit can’t be faked.

You’re clearly not attractive enough for her to WANT to fuck you, so get attractive. Hit the weight room and get swole, fix your fashion, fix your face.

[–]cfbovernfl4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don't understand how men can be as cucked as this. And this is probably a good 75% of our current male population.

[–]seducter3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Don't do it man, ten years back I got into a year long relationship and she made me wait for sex. We never had it and I finally smartened up and dumped her ass. Oh and I lost my virginity at 27, and sex is not worth waiting for. Fuck it's actually infuriating how not worth the wait sex is. Fuck people who hype it up as the be all end all. I wasted a lot of good years focusing on how to get laid instead of pursuing hobbies and careers that actually matter.

[–]cruzalta1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Listen to this, when i had my first sex and nutted..its like, what? That’s it? Sex isnt all there is to life, your hand felt better than those hall of meat

[–]circlingdispair3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

From one software engender to another: rm -f her ass from your life. I went through something similar and It will never get better. If a girl has not put out by date 3 she never will. You'll just end up hurt, heartbroken, and broken in more ways than you can count. Leave while you're not a broken and insecure mess and find someone else.

[–]helppc4938382 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're her beta bitch. Shes not attracted enough to fuck you.

Iron rule, if she makes you wait for sex, it's never worth the wait.

You're seriously that much of a pussy that you're going to not only tolerate waiting, but try to negotiate for sex? Jesus fuck your sad. Go read the sidebar, lift and forget about her

[–]alex_de_tampa2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Break up with her. She will be chasing your validation in a couple weeks

[–]RiderHood2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

She said it herself. Find another girl.

[–]Unzipthosegenes_042 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The medium is the message. She overtly told you to find another woman, so do exactly that.

[–]entrep42 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Anytime I see a question on asktrp where the guy is dating a woman older than himself, he's basically a simp. Break up with her or you'll end up the beta provider she uses for resources while cheating on with a guy she actually finds sexually attractive.

[–]mugatucrazypills2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

>I am 25 years old working as software dev,


[–]PutlockerAndChill2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re beta bucks bro you have no control over the relationship you need to end it, hit the gym and spin some plates after the pandemic fucks off.

[–]skriker252 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can organize a funeral for you if you decide to stay with her.

[–]redbananaboard3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Next and side bar please.

[–]Herdsengineers1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She's giving you the run around. No woman that does this is worth the effort. Women that do this are generally disingenuine, dishonest, and manipulative. Currently she is manipulating you.

Leave her, go find a woman that is not manipulative like this.

The "friends" that undermined you - you don't need friends like that either.

[–]Quo2101 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have a ounce of self respect and drop that whore cold turkey, go read the side bar.

gatekeeping is a shit practice, move on

[–]TWDfanuk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Huuuuge red flags, you should dump her man you're getting played

[–]MindlessCalendar1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read the fucking sidebar and handbook.

[–]bakachelera1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dude you are being manipulated hard. That's a hoe. She was not raped. There have been more than 2 guys too. You need to fuck more girls, and that is even if you want to stay with that one. Get laid more.

[–]naroadi1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You haven't read one bit of the sidebar and you come here with your fucking unicorn to get some answers. Go fuck yourself cuck

[–]LeEbinConchShell1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

i know so many girls that claim to have been raped. they basically use rape to absolve themselves of any responsibility for fucking a guy that is damaging to their social reputation or solipsistic self perception. I passed around this rave slut who had a boyfriend and when we were all done with her and she felt used, she told her bf that she got raped when rumors were spreading about her being a hoe. women are second class human beings.

[–]Sketch1234561 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm not shitting you. The description of this girl, including her job, age and qualities sounds exactly like this girl I met last summer at a country music festival.

I fucked that girl a few times within less than a day of meeting her.

Frame and having abundance is everything my friend.

[–]mugatucrazypills1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ghost her now. Jam her signal on all frequencies.

She's not a nice person and she doesn't care about you. Actually she's done you a favor without you knowing it. There are warning flags mixed in with alarm mixed in with fucking explicit warnings with this one. She's willing to go to the bar every day of life for fucking autistic kids(god bless 'em), charitable foundations, and everyone else on EARTH ... but she won't fucking touch your dick, ... your dick is cancer to lady Ghandi . She will not exert 20 calories of energy on your MOST IMPORTANT needs. Think about it. Do I care if she is or thinks she's MENSA ? She has no respect for you and opens her legs for all other comers (it ain't 2) because of "reasons" and feelings.

She's star in her own passion and Martyrdom drama(bullshit rapist whose VIP penises she had to stay with for most of her sexual life) play and she's cast you as Tom of Bedlam or the Fool out in the mud getting nothing. She's been run through by Chad and buddies hard and put away wet. These creatures cannot pair bond. I predict you will ignore my advice and ruin your life on this one. And here's another law of the universe, when you do have sex with this person because wall lady has given you scraps, you will never in the next 50 years have it as many times as she had with Chad-4 year (aka Eroll Flynn 3.0)

PS It's not your friends fault or his wife. Women talk, if your friend knows you're a V, then it's gonna leak out. It would be like being angry at her for having a V. The only frame no matter what your status is DGAF. Since you'll likely decide to gimp up and crawl back to her for more humiliation, when she tries to frame you as a liar for not saying you're a virgin, tell her you have morals but only said that to keep her from FEELING LIKE A TOTAL WHORE.

That is all.

[–]Annapolis_Silence1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

lmfao you're a fucking beta. She's not your girlfriend. You're her provider.

[–]beginner_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

one she tells me raped her as a boyfriend and she stayed with him none the less 4 years I can't find any reason or flaw in relationship

Go troll somewhere else. You can't really be this dumb.

[–]W_O_M_B_A_T1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You spelled "chick I used to hang out with" wrong.

[–]communistcontrolact1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dump this bitch of a “girlfriend”. She actually doesn’t like you. She will break down and go crazy trying to keep you. If she offers sex take it and still dump her. Let her know she’s a bitch.

You also need to dump your shitty friend. He’s a cockblocking fag.

Before you dump ur girl though you should use her as preselection and hit up hotter bitches

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[–]J-Unleashed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So she was raped by a guy and continued to live with him afterwards? Do you really want to be associated with someone who is complicit with rape?

But in all seriousness, run. She can just as easily go around and tell people you raped her. Then, suddenly, you're no longer a virgin anymore. The fact is, when women say they had sex with a man, they're believed. When men say they had sex with a woman, they're met with skepticism. When women says they didn't have sex with a man, they're believed. When a man says he didn't have sex with a woman, again skepticism. Run, bro. You cant be a virgin and a rapist at the same time, but if you stay around this woman, she will convince people you are.

[–]fannyfire1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You remind me when I was 20. I was dating a textbook whore who made me wait for sex. I told myself the same lie you did. She hasn’t had sex with you because you’re a fucking timid pussy. It has nothing to do with you being a virgin and everything to do with you. You you you.

Own your shit.

[–]tyrantgrey1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You’re fucking done with this ride homeboy. Get a new one. And don’t fucking tell her you’re a virgin. Tell her you’re a psycho and watch her fuck your brains out.

[–]Dustin_Bromain1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You social circled your way in and then she decided that you’re too low value for her. That’s why you always self improve. That’s why looks are everything. You want a girl to actually do anything for you hit the fucking gym unless your face is beyond busted

[–]RedPillAlphaBigCock1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm not one of the guys on here that says DUMP HER, RUN NOW to every post.

But for you my friend - GET THE FUCK OUT NOW - There are red flags out the WAZOO


[–]BlueWin1001 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Listen to her. Find someone else to have sex with and also RUN.

[–]Taipoe1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Software Dev

making you wait for sex

You tell me thats a red flag or not. Just dump her go next shes using your virginity against you and seeing you as a beta male. I promise you theres nothing special about her pussy

[–]lekkiplayboy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Run my n$gga run, the bitch is crazy. the sex won't be worth it at the end of the day. also, chances are she is banging several dudes on the side.

[–]Besthater1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

If someone is trying to communicate to you that they are a fucking landmine. You must pay attention. Listen to the message.

You may think she is nice now, but there is signs that clearly indicate she is going to rip your heart out if you give her a chance to.

You think you want this because you believe you don't have other options, but you have lots of options. You just need to learn how to apply the right energy towards the right people. Stay the fuck away from this psycho.

[–]Lateralanouncer1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

She is not your gf. She is your friend. Your best to have male friends to do cool shit with.

[–]AncientDragons1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fuck running. FLY away from that bitch at WARP FUCKING TEN.

[–]Plasmaa761 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

As soon as you walk away she will try to drag you back in get rid of her

[–]beingamannotadayjob1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Damn, you will get cheated on.

So, the only reasonable thing is to pull back at least 10 steps.

You’re not in frame, you went a huge mistake by going into a relationship before fucking that bitch.

She doesn’t value your sexuality and she lies about her own.

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[–]SerialATA_Killer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

she tells me that i shouldn't talk about or i should find another girl if i don't want to wait a year

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What a train wreck.

[–]wyota0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

This bitch has psychological issues. Lol she cant even talk about your virginity/former virginity or whatever. Leave her and move to SE Asia.

[–]rickit3k0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Leave her as soon as humanly possible. This chick sounds horrible!!

[–]Luis_McLovin0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol bullshit she’s slept with two men. Maybe you need to move a zero over.

[–]Glennus6260 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow, what a sucker. Read the sidebar. What reason is there to wait a year for sex? To get all the dinners and gifts your high paying job can afford while making you a subservient pet. So she can get knocked up by an alpha and have you raise the kid before divorce-raping you.

[–]myfirsttimecoding0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So many of us guys here were in a relationshit just like this and wish we could have just ended it way earlier than we did. We are pussies. Because we are pussies we delayed the breakup over a longer period of time, contemplating it with a fucked up mind instead of trusting billions of years of evolution in our gut feelings. Trust your gut feeling and never look back. Otherwise you will end up rereading this post in months to come wishing you left now rather than wasting more time and energy

[–]helppc4938380 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tons of red flags. How do you not see it? The fact that she had a 4 yr boyfriend is a disqualifier.

[–]__TheDon__0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Please read the side bar, and leave this chick.

[–]AxP30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh God, if you continue this way, you will only be falling further and further into her frame and losing yourself more and more with time. Don’t you see she only wants life on her conditions? She is actively rejecting yours.

Also, why would a woman remain single until 27 years old and then look to get in a relationship with a younger guy? She definitely has control issues, which stem from insecurity and neurosis, and you did not do much to set the tone early on. I’d save myself the trouble of investing years down the line in something like this.

[–]OrphanedVigilante0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do NOT ejaculate, just evacuate!

[–]Cvevea30 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What the fuck did I just read?

[–]Nergaal0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She is DISGUSTED with you. When a girl at 25 says she does not want to have sex for a full year, she is either fucking somebody else, or she is crazy but not even in the fun way.

[–]usr000nm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I waited a year for a girl like that once. After the year was up was super rare, occasional, boring sex - but mostly just more made up excuses not to fuck. Don't waste time on this girl. Find a girl attracted to you who will jump your bones. You're just being used.

[–]mickenrorty0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

A lot of advice here to go bang some fatties to punch your vCard...

It’s fair advice but just make damn sure you’re protected with a Condom, if the fatty sees an opportunity to have a baby with someone of perceived higher SMV (even if you don’t feel high SMV) she may just get swept up in her biological calling and trap you with a baby.

You could always get a hot escort or sugar baby to fuck your brains out til your v card is well broken in just to get it out of your system

[–]pdiggs15000 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She's not your Girlfriend. You've given her power by indicating that this is acceptable behavior.

Lay down YOUR needs and if she doesn't comply, then a) ditch her or b) accept your blue-pilled nature.

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[–]cruzalta0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Damn reading that love letter i dont think u even have a frame lol

[–]tb1510 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure it's been said enough...........R U N

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[–]JohnnyOmm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Leavveee dread game. talk to her only for sexual purposes

[–]RahLyt0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Lol guys you all being to harsh on him by his response he won't even understand what you're telling him, the best way this can go assuming he doesn't marry her is for to cheat on him or break up with him. He will learn then.. my guy is in "love" nothing you're saying will make sense to him..

[–]UnKnownSurviving0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Find another girl that respect your value. AND find a younger girl. Those that are older, near 30, are wanting a child within a few years, because they waste their time chasing Chad and Tyrone.

Best advice for you is to dump her and find another younger girl/woman, and have her value to be similar to yours. I wished I kept my virginity. So I applaud yours if you didn't lose it. If you want to keep your virginity, for a very long time, that's alright with me. Just find another girl with similar value. Better yet remain a virgin Bachelor. You don't need women if you're young, if you're in your 20s. If you want to be single and plan your goals either with a woman or without. It's recommended if you try without. IF you want to remain single and still be a virgins, try looking up MGTOW on youtube or reddit MGTOW (though it's quarantine you can still find it.) It would be much easier to plan your goals and keeping your virginity, should you want to keep it without a woman. Being single is much easier but it's my opinions.

You can keep women as friends, but without them taking your virginity.

I wholly support your decisions and goals as a man. if you want to find a woman, then I suggest finding a women without any red flags. A man should have standards. Message me, privately if you want to continue.

[–]Tambamwham0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

She’s so empathetic but can’t understand why you might want to hide that you’re virgin? Ok....

You’re latching on the excuse that her learning of your virginity is why she’s acting this way. When in reality she’s latching onto this excuse as a way to shut down the possibility of intimacy before it even starts. This is about her not being into you bud. I’d let her go.

And I can’t, for the life of me, think of a reason that your virginity was being discussing by them without it being ridiculed. Why was it even brought up? What was the context of this conversation with your friend and his wife? Actually, why weren’t you invited?

[–]thrwy754790 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Every time we talk about it she goes little insane, she tells me that i shouldn't talk about or i should find another girl if i don't want to wait a year, and that i shouldn't pressure it and that i waited my whole life without sex so i can wait a little bit longer. She also have huge paranoia over having kids now, but want it in few years, i don't want to.

Jesus. Fucking. Christ. She is heavily manipulating you, and wants to keep you under her thumb.

Ghost her ass. Block her on everything.

Also, I would encourage you to fuck a few escorts to realize that sex is only important if you're not getting any. It will also teach you to detach love, and sex. Always be safe though.

If you don't want to do that, then hit the bars, or clubs, wait till around closing, and take a few sluts home.

Once you have a couple of notches, hit the gym, and max out physically. Focus on your career, and chase wealth.

[–]Snowboard180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Here’s the fact of the matter, she’s not sexually attracted enough. Especially since she was told your a virgin.

[–]Greaterbird0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Oh my sweet summer child. She doesn't want to fuck you because she's not physically attracted to you. I bet you buy her whatever she asks for.

[–]SanatanaDharmic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Let her go and run. Block her and resolve to never ever think about her for the rest of your life.

[–]sbp19910 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, nah, whenever a girl tells me that she was 'raped' or 'abused', I take that with a huge sack of salt.
This one is manipulating you emotionally.

[–]PuppyPulverizer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You've already lost. Don't be held to a lower standard than she has already set for herself. Run.

[–]RaidenDark0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

You've already gotten solid advice but I have more for you.

Never EVER tell a lie unless it is for the long-term benefit of someone other than yourself(see: Jews in the basement). That shit will always find a way to bite you in the ass no matter how menial you think it is. Telling a lie is easy. Lying is hard. It takes an IQ of 300 to lie successfully. You don't have that.

It's always better to eat the consequences of being truthful now than the truth escaping later.

However, this is not to say that you should always be forthcoming. Learn when and how to withhold information. For example...

From now on, I want you to discuss your body count with the following phrase whenever asked: "I don't kiss and tell" or if you're feeling cheeky and flirting with some chick: "a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell" can work when done right. Should be matched with an amused expression. Stick to the first one if you don't think you can manage the second without coming across as cringey. Know your limits.

Keep using that line even after you've accumulated a body count. How many girls you've fucked is nobody's business.

[–]HurricaneHugues0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Dude, what the fuck?

Have you even read anything on this sub, at all?

[–]RepresentativeMood20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Power hungry psycho. She wants to use the pussy as a carrot to control you and use you until she gets bored.

[–]ReverseUI0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds the relationship is in her frame, she's giving you rules what to do and gives you reason! sex is never worth the wait, especially with this one, you're in her frame

[–]heavy_lies_the_crown0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I feel for you... But you just leave her. No pussy is worth the wait.

By the time you be at your SMV peak she will hit the fucking wall. Don't waste your time

[–]MarylandLion0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Just drop her like she means nothing to you bro, start going out with other chicks

[–]BodomDeth0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

 i should find another girl if i don't want to wait a year 

Theres your answer. Do it in front of her and shell be sucking your dick right after

[–]clickherebaby-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Id drop the bitch so damn fast. And shed never even hear from me again.

[–]hatefulreason-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

i can't believe people actually bother to respond here. especially ec's.

let the guy have his happy marriage, just keep assets separated

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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