What is wrong with being a "pickmeisha" and what disadvantages do men have who date them? Is it just female jealousy?

mangolover97 · 2020-04-19T21:46:17+00:00

Pickmeishas aren’t douchebags, they’re the female equivalent of a simp. There’s no real disadvantages for men who date pickmeishas, just like there’s no real disadvantages for men who date simps.

The disadvantages are faced by the simps/pickmeishas. They get exploited. They give everything to their partners at the cost of their self-respect and personal lives and often get nothing in return, not even love or commitment.

SaBahRub · 2020-04-19T20:57:54+00:00

A pickmesha is just a woman who enables bad and lazy behavior from men, just like simps and orbiters do for the opposite sex

And, like TRP does for men, FDS tries to wake these women up and make them change their behavior

Mimoxs · 2020-04-19T21:28:15+00:00

I used to be one of those!

What does a woman lose

You realize really fast that being that way attracts men who are going to hurt you, physically, sexually, and mentally. When people see a doormat they're going to step on it.

The issue is that they project the "not like the other girls" mentality while doing so - therefore, the idea that women with an ounce of self respect are inherently bad and that they're better, that "good" or "real" women allow themselves to be stepped on, hurt, and treated like animals. Consequently, men come to dislike women with self respect because how dare they not be doormats like the last girl.

I don't hate them, though, bc I was there and understand why it happens, I just feel bad for them, especially bc the men that attract are usually very bad people

intersIn · 2020-04-19T21:31:17+00:00

Women aren't jealous of other women who are being treated like shit by men. That's like saying men are jealous of the ugly dude who is forced to sleep with the obese in order to get some.

And what if these women are with one of these TRP men who think focusing on only their pleasure will magically make women hot and bothered. They exist, which I discovered last night after stumbling on a post on here about this very thing. These women are more likely to entertain one of these men out their in the wild. If you come across one of these, say something. We all need to do our part to make the world a better place!

OXOzymandias · 2020-04-19T22:21:26+00:00

Being a 'pick me' or a 'cool girl' means putting up a charade to impress a man. It entails projecting a false image of yourself to impress a man and ultimately means that he does love 'you' just this fictional version of 'you'.

Women who generally like sports, gaming and porn star sex are not pickmeishas or cool girls.

From a guys perspective - it's not going to last because no one can keep up a charade forever, and this sort of behaviour exemplifies mental health issues which casue all kinds of problems.

SplushkaMcOwlFace · 2020-04-19T21:03:37+00:00

Picmeisha in my understanding is a woman who has no boundaries, who allows to treat herself badly, who allows men to use her. She is a plate, fwb, woman who forgives cheating and everything. She has emotional issues, probably had abusive parents, has fear of abandonment, thinks she's not good enough. She is unhappy person. No decent man would want his woman be this way but she's a victim not an evil.

-Sweet__Potato- · 2020-04-19T20:47:30+00:00

I was one. I was treated like pig shit. That’s pretty much it

WastingOrchid · 2020-04-19T21:15:59+00:00

pickme's are more like a female simps. this is like asking what disadvantages would women have for dating a simp.

TheOGJammies · 2020-04-20T00:37:28+00:00

Pickmeishas worship dick beyond all common sense. They’re the type to knowingly let their boyfriend abuse their kids because she’s so “in love”. They’ll move men in they just met and pay all his bills and let their own kids have nothing. They’ll defend sexual predators and blame the girl. They’ll fight with women their man cheats with and take him back anyways. They’ll willingly become mistresses and side chicks to married men. They target and sabotage other women at work they’re jealous of. We hate them for good reason.

ukraniankranium · 2020-04-19T21:32:30+00:00

The fact that it's pinned on "jealousy" every time is do goddamn funny to me.

Here's a little thought experiment for the fellas- were you bluepilled at some point? A nice little beta? Doing anything and everything you could to earn m'lady's favor?

So how did those women treat you? Probably not very well, otherwise you wouldn't be here, would you?

Being a spineless, appeasing doormat doesn't work out for anyone.

Barneysparky · 2020-04-19T21:22:45+00:00

I was one. I wasn't treated very well or my own needs were not met, I ended up not developing my own sense of self. I've been diagnosed with dependency disorder twice, some men absolutely loved me.

Don't be me.

HellenicLady · 2020-04-19T21:15:08+00:00

I was like this. I used to sleep with men when I didn't want to in order to "appear cool" and I did all sort of shit to suck up to men. I used to cook for my ex-boyfriends, pretend to be interested in their retarded video games etc.

It didn't get me anywhere. All of my boyfriends either left or they were such pigs that I had to leave them eventually. Meanwhile, I have a friend who is a total bitch and she got married to some steroid user that it not bad-looking at all.

The truth is that a woman's behavior does not matter at all. The only things you have to do to get married are a)be good-looking, b)be manipulative. As long as you're good-looking and manipulative you can get married whenever you want, it doesn't matter if you're a good girl or a bitch. The problem with me is that manipulation doesn't come naturally to me, I am slightly autistic.

Dariatired · 2020-04-19T21:20:24+00:00

It’s a behavior. If women were jealous of it, they’d change their behavior

Illustrious_Drive · 2020-04-19T21:22:38+00:00

Pickmes = beta simps

Men who want pickmes = women who want beta simps

Teflon08191 · 2020-04-19T22:54:23+00:00

"Pickmeishas" introduce the idea that maybe it isn't solely the man's job to "prove" himself worthy of a woman's company. That she should put in some work to prove herself to him as well.

Which is why they receive so much animosity from women who are trying to guard the unilateral "he has to prove himself to me" status quo.

LittyKitsune · 2020-04-19T20:53:51+00:00

Act in ways men like

From my understanding of pickmeisha's they act in ways remote Internet dudes and maybe extreme fundies claim to like. And not only that, but they're willing to give up who they are and any sense of self-interest in order to become that.

As someone who hangs out in religious tradcon circles I have never met a man who expects that level of subservience and agreeableness. Where do they find these people?

Iamthegirliam · 2020-04-19T21:16:26+00:00

Because being a doormat is bad for the person. And pickmeisha is a perfect example of a doormat. It's a kind of girl who forgets about her needs to please her man. She wil, for example, let him do anal even though she hates it and it's painful only to be a "cool girl". She will not want anything in return to not sound "entitled".

What would a man gain

A servant.

What does a woman lose.

I think that I, as a woman, would lose everything what's important to me.

If your friend was a doormat for a woman, would you say that it's a good situation for him?

goatismycopilot · 2020-04-19T22:04:40+00:00

Pickmeishas let men treat them like shit and make excuses for it and tend to be the not like other girls type. There is not much to be jealous of.

siberiansummer · 2020-04-19T21:43:13+00:00

Healthy relationships are built by healthy people. Pickmeisha is a woman who lacks self-respect and confidence. Most people have insecurities. Insecure men will take advantage of her. A woman that is secure won't let a man lead her on, neg her, use her, ghost her. She sees fuckboy traits and she bounces. Pickme will sit there trying to prove herself to a man. And it's funny because men will date a pickmeisha but don't marry her, or marry her after dating her for 15 years. And she is okay with settling with whatever bs he is putting her through for the sake of having a man

flamingoinghome · 2020-04-19T21:31:42+00:00

First of all, the whole 'pickmeisha" term is a fairly localized one/ I think primarily a twitter thing? I've never heard anyone IRL use the term.

That said, the idea that such women are the equivalent of "Chads" is absurd. For all men on here say they'd just loooooove a woman like that.......watch what they do, not what they say. Men don't like doormats any more than women do.

What a man "gains" is someone he actually gives a fuckabout--don't ask me why, just reporting what I see.

What a woman "loses" is being treated with respect and affection.

Joey_Lopez · 2020-04-19T22:42:27+00:00

I think shitty females hate "pickmeisha's" (aka good women) because they don't want men to have any other choice but to settle for shitty females like themselves.

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bonusfruit · 2020-04-20T00:22:41+00:00

Pickmesha is the ultimate woman that all should aspire to be. However, they raise the bar for women, which is discouraged. Men are thirstier and more accepting of despicable female behavior within relationships than ever before. The presence of pickmesha in the dating market jeopardizes womens position

nosynobody · 2020-04-19T20:53:33+00:00

Mostly"pickmeishas" are previous reiterations of our past selves. Like a child reaching for the flames, you deride them because you know they are going to get burned.

ukraniankranium · 2020-04-19T21:59:37+00:00

Still getting familiarized with the concept of pickmeisha.

This is my study guide: https://i.imgur.com/NygBuu0.jpg

It's not good nor bad, depends on how it's implemented.

A casual relationship where the money component is divided 50/50 is not a bad deal all around, is it?

Nevidimka- · 2020-04-19T22:52:16+00:00

The disadvantage for men is that the behavior is fake and she cannot keep it up forever. If she's pretending to be a gamer girl just to get a guy, she's obviously going to drop that after she's secured him. You basically have no idea who you're actually dealing with when you date a pickme.

12112019 · 2020-04-19T23:16:06+00:00

The women who are continuously pumped and dumped because they fuck men with higher value get resentful pretty quickly and try to find rationalization for their failures, since they are unable to fathom that this is simple market dynamic in play.

So they project what they themselves find attractive in men, dominant and assertive behavior basically.In reality men find women with feminine and submissive traits attractive, but this gets lost on these women because Tinder had artificially pumped their value way beyond where it should be and this together with 70 years of feminism had mostly deconditioned them from any behavior that men find remotely attractive.

Women had learned that they don't need to do all that much, they can just relay on the sexual market in balance to generate a seemingly endless amount of pursuers, but this works in theory only since the few top tier men that do get to fuck are presented with a huge opportunity cost if they settle down with just one woman in their prime years.

In reality though, I am sure most men would rate annoying/controlling/loud feminists at the very bottom, then pickmishas and then at the top would be feminine non slutty women who like to take care of their men and obviously expect things in return from the man.

arcticshqip · 2020-04-20T06:00:46+00:00

Maybe they start genuinely liking her and then feel sad when she commits suicide due to depression.

ukraniankranium · 2020-04-20T08:44:41+00:00

Women who don't respect themselves. Such as, having sex before commitment, splitting Bill's 50 50 or dating tabs. Doing wifey stuff for men who arnt their husbands.

It doesnt hurt men as it hurts the woman long term to be used. But it isnt high value behaviour these women tend to be cheated on or kept as side things to be used.

Meydra · 2020-04-20T18:20:14+00:00

My gf is a pickmeisha to a degree and I don't see why I would want to be with a woman that isn't one. There's literally no appeal.

ChadThundagaCock · 2020-04-20T19:30:11+00:00

Who the hell comes up with these idiotic names like "pickmeisha"? Give me a fucking break.

Severe-Peach · 2020-04-19T21:39:57+00:00

taking care of your appearance, being laid back and easy going, not wanting a 10/10 chad is enough to get labeled a pickmeisha

ItchyHealth · 2020-04-19T21:43:53+00:00

Pickmes are the free prostitutes at bars, clubs and on tinder that hand over the pussy to Chads on a whim

Some women don’t like this because it skews the SMP in favour of the pickmes

Most high value guys don’t commit to women at all in 2020 because they don’t have to. FDS wants to give high value guys a 90 day rule, but most of the time the Chad will next them because they can just fuck the next pickme on tinder.

This is why they bash pickmes and advocate that women don’t be pickmes.

Ironically they’re advocating that women become more “tradcon” without even realizing it.

My message to the women who bash pickmes: blame the sexual revolution and feminism

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2020-04-19T22:05:34+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/e24974/pick_me_and_cool_girl_are_just_the_new_slut_in/

ukraniankranium · 2020-04-19T22:09:09+00:00

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bluefiremagic · 2020-04-19T20:40:14+00:00

Please define a pickmeshia.

2020-04-19T21:14:28+00:00

I have never seen a pickmeisha irl at all .

cuckspace · 2020-04-19T22:51:09+00:00

Is this the new slut shaming, flipped on it’s head? They bully “pickmeshas” because they are nice and loyal but not bitchy and slutty like the “woke” modern women. Pickmeshas give away female commitment too easily, without the standard procedure of throwing endless shit tests at men and hoops to jump through.

keepcalmandhydrate · 2020-04-19T23:34:36+00:00

I’m not jealous but the whole persona seems disingenuous. Truth be told, it seems like a FANTASTIC way to trick someone into marrying you. Not saying that all of them are trying to trap a guy but if that was what I wanted to do, it would be an easy way to do it.

Step 1 - Say/do all the things they want to hear/see to convince them that you’re marriage material

Step 2 - Get married

Step 3 - Drop the facade and show your true self

Step 4 - ????

Step 5 - Profit

To all the Pickmeisha’s out there, good on them. I’m not gonna shit on someone else for having a different outlook on life. Clearly what they’re doing is working, otherwise they wouldn’t do it. I hope they stay far away from the men in my life though...

wtknight · 2020-04-20T01:23:35+00:00

I think in some cases it is female jealousy. In other cases, the women go way too overboard in trying to appeal to a man who is just going to take advantage of her. Every pickmeisha accusation should probably be examined from an individual basis rather than condemning any kind of female behavior designed to attract a man.

asdf333aza · 2020-04-20T04:05:26+00:00

Pickmeisha betrays the colony mentality.

B I T E

ontherailstoday · 2020-04-20T09:44:03+00:00

Attempting to form any sort of significant relationship with someone who is manufacturing what is largely a false self for you and has that false self as their primary relationship strategy always has pitfalls.

2020-04-19T22:29:46+00:00

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2020-04-19T21:13:12+00:00

FDSers are just mad that them acting like bitches ain’t gonna get anyone but the most desperate of guys, who are usually desperate for a reason. Someone on one of the incels subreddits actually went through several of their profiles and found their selfies, and they all look like what you expect; a bunch of pass their prime chubby to overweight white woman who clearly just want others to be as miserable as they are.

Anthony-waltzs · 2020-04-19T21:56:43+00:00

I think it is female jealousy, it’s like when women make perfect arguments against other women and their behavior is called out for it is. The women will call them traitors and pick meishas. They know how other women think so you can’t pull the wool over their eyes as easily.

romodoc1 · 2020-04-19T20:50:44+00:00

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What is wrong with being a "pickmeisha" and what disadvantages do men have who date them? Is it just female jealousy?

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Title	What is wrong with being a "pickmeisha" and what disadvantages do men have who date them? Is it just female jealousy?
Author	ukraniankranium
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Date	April 19, 2020 8:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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