How should I answer when a girl asks how much money I make?

TehGibbZz · 2020-06-16T16:01:25+00:00

“ I do well” and do not go beyond that.

HumanSockPuppet · 2020-06-16T18:38:55+00:00

"I mostly live off the sponsorship of my sugar mommies."

Rkingpin · 2020-06-16T16:32:52+00:00

Avoid these types of women who unashamedly seek beta bux

Don_Draper27 · 2020-06-16T16:39:19+00:00

Treat it as a shit test. AA, pressure flip, etc.

You should rarely answer a girls question directly that you are trying to game.

Also, this is most likely a red flag. If a girl wants to fuck you she won't care how much money you make.

I've only ever had 1 girl ask me a question like this and this is how I handled it.

(I was at a backyard gig on a Friday night and I was texting this girl who I DM'd on IG. I'd asked her to hang out earlier in the day and she hit me with the "i"ll let you know")

Her: Ok I'm available, but what car do you drive?

Me: Don't worry, it has seat warmers. (it was like 50 degrees outside).

Her: No seriously, what car do you drive?

I stopped replying after that and neither of us ever followed up. Major red flag.

But if it's a shit test you can just reply with something like, "enough to once in a while add guac at Chipotle.

MGTOW_BEASTMODE · 2020-06-16T16:58:56+00:00

"Why!?!!?!?!?!! Are you expensive!?!?!!?!??"

EDIT: Importance of proper punctuation.

ComplexProjection · 2020-06-16T16:35:32+00:00

Actually, I invested my last dollar in this pants. You'll have to pay for my drinks.

Rolfenstien · 2020-06-16T17:12:57+00:00

“Enough” that’s what my parents always told me to say when asked about anything todo with money

redhawkes · 2020-06-16T16:47:33+00:00

'enough' or 'depends on how much you charge'

curvedbymykind · 2020-06-16T20:12:24+00:00

Tell her exactly how much you make and then go to the bank, withdraw all of it and give it to her. Then text her obsessively because she will love you now. If she doesn’t reply she’s probably busy

IXseed · 2020-06-16T16:02:24+00:00

"Uh oh. Looks like I got another gold digger on my hands."

Real talk tho if she's asking about this it's kinda a warning sign to what she's about.

willslick · 2020-06-16T20:06:23+00:00

"It's not about the money, it's about the smile on peoples' faces as I haul their trash away."

axiscontra · 2020-06-16T16:41:22+00:00

I tell them Im broke with a SLY SMILE. Or I say Im broke until I have 1million cash, not just capital or investments.

Usually they manage to find my occupation and my education and they can figure it out, unfortunately lol (its not hard to google me. maybe I should delete linkedin or use a code name or my middle name haha)

I technically am broke, because I budget myself like a broke person when really im doing better than most people.

peacemakerzzz · 2020-06-16T19:36:40+00:00

People here are literally answering the question it’s funny but at the same time not great advice at all. It’s a joke.

The best way to respond is to not answer and not take things seriously. Always agree and amplify or put the pressure back on her. Obvious shit test.

If you really aren’t making as much as you’d want to fake it, at least act like you’re not bothered by it. Shit tests are there for a reason. It’s a subconscious way of identifying whether you’re insecure about a certain thing or not.

If you truly are insecure about your financial situation, which a lot of guys are, compensate for something that is perceived as high value.

Always remember, play to your strengths and never to your weaknesses. Covertly improve those weaknesses until they become strengths. Simple art of deception goes a long way to alluring people’s interests to your way of thinking.

Sauce: personal experiences

Blazer808 · 2020-06-16T18:18:00+00:00

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vandaalen · 2020-06-16T18:30:49+00:00

"How much do I need?"

BluzzKill · 2020-06-16T17:35:09+00:00

What's the context? 1st date, next. Serious relationship it's an honest question I want to know too I'm not supporting no broke ass bitches.

AlexanderClosing · 2020-06-16T18:59:31+00:00

Its a shit test...a &a, d& a, pressure flip, ignore while starimg at her, ignore and change subject.

Theres an article about shit tests in the side bar that you should read itll give you aproriate ways to answer this question....and many more shit tests to come

wyota · 2020-06-16T19:44:21+00:00

I would just laugh in her face. A socially retarded question doesnt merit a serious response.

Nergaal · 2020-06-16T18:21:40+00:00

Enough

-ThePathIsTheGoal- · 2020-06-16T20:04:58+00:00

Yeah, it really is a major red flag if the girl is asking you something like this early. If you’re in an LTR for upwards of 6 months or so I can understand it. But keep your guard up for girls that ask about how much you make, what kind of car you drive, etc.

catsdontsmile · 2020-06-16T17:25:50+00:00

"Why? Are you interested in working in my field?"

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-06-16T20:02:46+00:00

"How big are your tits?"

^ It's the same question, asked in a different way.

The GTFO, because that girl is trash.

confusedpirate666 · 2020-06-16T22:41:08+00:00

I remember traveling to south east Asia and that question was what all the hookers always asked, since then that question was my guide to find out if she’s a prostitute or a normal person.

G0rv · 2020-06-16T18:58:14+00:00

All these brushing-off game responses in the thread, are you actually able to play it?

You'll likely come off as butt hurt and insecure by avoiding to answer. And isn't that the key take away from her point of view? Yeah sure, she might be interested in an actual number, but if she's vetting out fragile egos in the process then that is even better. The setup is a win-win for her.

Never mind her intentions, remember you should be the prize, you are vetting her out. So the only valid reason to avoid a truthful answer is, as a gentleman, to avoid for everyone else to look like a moron and failure at life when hearing how ridiculously much you bank.

You shouldn't next women because they're golddiggers, everyone is looking for quality (and indicators for that), males also. You should next them because they resort to gaming and shit tests, because that's a red flag.

So, in essence...

I have no real problem to answer that, but it is my experience that it is always a problem for everyone else to hear it.

That should be the truth. And consider the question answered and gracefully transition the conversation into something else.

chargeinyungest · 2020-06-16T19:39:52+00:00

A small loan of a million dollars

Unknockable · 2020-06-16T21:22:24+00:00

‘Not enough’

mrrooftops · 2020-06-16T23:32:16+00:00

In all seriousness, if she has to ask that then you aren't communicating through your presence your capability to earn a good salary. I'm not talking about flash cars and branded clothes - anyone can rent and buy those on sale. It's the same as if a girl has to ask if you go to the gym, you clearly don't (enough).

FawnBrambles · 2020-06-16T23:34:54+00:00

I only date women who make more than me

akihonj · 2020-06-16T19:42:32+00:00

Three options here

None of your fucking business.

I make enough for me to be comfortable

I do ok.

The fourth option is to immediately stand up and walk away without a single word.

Your choice though but if anybody asks that, then you need to know that number one priority is your wallet

reddysettygo · 2020-06-16T18:20:36+00:00

Her: “So. What car do you drive?”

Me: “Are you really interested in my car, or do you want to know if I make good money?”

Her: awkward backtracking, etc.

Me: I explain that I hardly drive because I live in an exclusive apartment building where the only parking option is valet parking.

Her: after some awkward conversation, lands on the question, so how much do you make?

Me: “Obviously much more than you.” Then I walk away, and talk to other women.

WIA20XX · 2020-06-16T19:53:39+00:00

This one is easy. It's a question of how you want to play it.

380 base, 180 bonus. (walkaway)
Too much to answer anyone asking that question. (walkaway)
What are you? A fed? (walkaway)
My girl brings in 12k on her onlyfans every month. Trying to get her cousin to start doing it to (stand there and wait)
I did 18 mill in revenue last year, but 2020 is fucking my money up with this recession shit.
I'm a janitor/I live with my Moms.

If she's asking about money, she's poorly showing her hand. Her interest could be carnal or financial, but she thinks she has leverage over you. Either you're poor and not worth her time, or you're rich and she can use her feminine wiles on you.

Because the behavior is predictable, you can manipulate her.

cphpc · 2020-06-16T17:58:37+00:00

It depends. If you make good money then just say I make good money and if you dont just say you scrap by. Own up to what you make. If you’re not making bank now have plans and goals to do so later. Having a goal is an attractive trait. A girl shit testing you like that is only short term anyway.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2020-06-16T22:09:26+00:00

6 Million

kclanton80 · 2020-06-16T22:34:30+00:00

Do not answer, and quickly move to the next.

Or...." I don't know, how much do you cost?"

wheeets · 2020-06-16T23:25:43+00:00

You should ask why that matters. Your value comes from your personality your values your character and who you are as a person, not your wallet

comcain · 2020-06-18T03:25:31+00:00

Loud Voice: "Are you on your period?".

In other words, ask THEM something uncomfortable and personal in response.

Cheers

throwaway9012489123 · 2020-06-17T03:01:16+00:00

The only chick I ever dated who asked that question was a 3-week fling. I told her I made 12 dollars an hour and brought her to my shitty temporary apartment just to fuck with her. In reality I was pulling over six figures. I now have a very nice house, a rental property, and still make six figures. I continue to live well below my means as the best possible way to avoid shallow, gold-digging losers.

If any girl asks that, it's an instant dump. End of story.

ThenIJizzedInMyPants · 2020-06-16T16:38:33+00:00

Enough to buy a few hookers if you don't suck this dick

gopalvinay · 2020-06-16T18:57:38+00:00

not enough man, why? you got an offer?".

yallapapi · 2020-06-16T18:23:19+00:00

What women are asking you how much money you make? Isn't it more like "what do you do?"

MonxtahDramux · 2020-06-16T19:38:05+00:00

"Enough"

adviceseeker2018 · 2020-06-16T20:25:25+00:00

LOVE THIS QUESTION!!!!

DanAffid · 2020-06-16T20:30:55+00:00

I tell them I'm a medical clown, they ask "really?", I say no and switch the subject

IV-IVm-I · 2020-06-16T22:22:10+00:00

about tree-fiddy

_sup_bro_ · 2020-06-16T23:12:52+00:00

"Enough to afford plan B."

or

"Why, are you a gold digger?"

or

"Im supported by my sugar mommas. Wanna sign up?"

hibloodstevia · 2020-06-17T00:15:40+00:00

Ask her how many dicks have been in her.

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2020-06-17T00:24:35+00:00

You’ve already Googled me haven’t you?

fourhundred20sixty9 · 2020-06-17T01:25:35+00:00

I haven’t been asked this question directly or exactly, but I’ve answered similar questions with either “I’m unemployed” or “enough for my wife and a girlfriend.”

third3y3guy · 2020-06-17T02:16:25+00:00

about three fiddy, oh you meant yearly?....... about three fiddy

superomar13 · 2020-06-17T02:17:32+00:00

"I earn 2 dimes for every for every time someone asks that question, so you do the math"

dani098 · 2020-06-17T02:44:57+00:00

It non of her fucking business. Lol. Why is everyone trying to call this a “shit test” or try to come up with some clever?

That’s all weak shit tbh

deadstick_it · 2020-06-17T02:52:44+00:00

As much as it takes

JaydXThomas · 2020-06-17T03:49:45+00:00

'Enough'. Why does she need to know more, is she doing my taxes?

stripedtanker · 2020-06-17T04:47:54+00:00

That's usually a pretty big red flag for me so I immediately start viewing her as a fling unless she redeems herself. I normally side step the question and say I'm really poor (to reframe how she views me) or just call her out and be like is it a deal breaker?

ASTRA-LUX · 2020-06-17T04:55:28+00:00

Asking how much money you make is the biggest red flag to keep away. Why would anyone ask you how much money do you make. Right, I don't live in the US.

Forsaken4321 · 2020-06-17T05:26:55+00:00

How much do you weight?

skyrunner22 · 2020-06-17T05:45:33+00:00

"Im broke baby"

Mufasavader88 · 2020-06-17T05:57:02+00:00

chapter 11

thatbadrogue2 · 2020-06-17T06:26:42+00:00

"well, i'm supposed to be getting promoted to burgers instead of fries soon...so that's kinda cool i guess"

spartan_samurai · 2020-06-17T07:46:34+00:00

Answer: "How much money do you want from me ? "

Keith_Valentine · 2020-06-17T11:33:27+00:00

Say "i have a big dick"

Blazer808 · 2020-06-17T14:09:19+00:00

I make most of my money trading updog.

2020-07-17T15:44:42+00:00

Why... can you taste it? 😂

thehoodlum88 · 2020-06-16T21:37:03+00:00

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jsphere256 · 2020-06-16T16:07:34+00:00

More than you think

thesatellite23 · 2020-06-16T16:49:56+00:00

"Enough."

Powerfucking5000 · 2020-06-16T15:55:42+00:00

"I make enough money to compensate for my small dick."

roughback · 2020-06-16T18:05:48+00:00

I usually say "I do alright, not enough to push a hummer but you know I do my thing." then play it off with some stupid saying or phrase to change the subject, depending on what we're doing. If we were at a dairy queen I'd say something like "enough to buy you one of EVERYTHING in this motherfucka!" in a silly bravado voice.

AngTheEphemeral · 2020-06-16T23:06:51+00:00

"How much do you cost?"

Seriously though, if someone flat-out asks that, you do NOT want a relationship with them, and you might very well be dealing with a cluster-B woman / individual.

trppr · 2020-06-17T00:46:34+00:00

I only tell that to girls who have given me an orgasm.

Oooooh, I actually don't pay for sex.

Ooooh, are you a...hooker?

319Skew · 2020-06-16T18:18:17+00:00

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Pleasenodrugs · 2020-06-16T15:52:00+00:00

MORE THAN U!!!!!

Abeham10 · 2020-06-16T16:42:48+00:00

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MemphisBro · 2020-06-16T19:38:39+00:00

can I just put this out there without being downvoted? you should tell her how much you make. it's a good opportunity to brag without trying. if you are not proud of what you make then you need to make some changes in your life and that's a hard pill to swallow for some people but that's why we are here

hornyblackmama · 2020-06-16T19:46:11+00:00

It’s a bit gross that some women ask that. On behalf of us good ones, I apologize. I would say “enough to be comfortable” but in your head say “it’s none of your damn business”

strongerthandeath97 · 2020-06-16T18:48:46+00:00

"You will never find out",and walk away

peacemakerzzz · 2020-06-16T16:02:10+00:00

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Title	How should I answer when a girl asks how much money I make?
Author	TehGibbZz
Upvotes	108
Comments	173
Date	June 16, 2020 3:50 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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