Video Games in your 40s?

Ptsdveterannavy · 2023-06-17T02:55:13+00:00

Man please, I'm 47 and I still play Madden. To each his own.... Give me my Madden.... Stress reliever.

vector5633 · 2023-06-17T04:23:43+00:00

48 here and play Call of Duty MW2 and Doom PS4.

ABBucsfan · 2023-06-17T02:09:16+00:00

You've found a long list of things you don't like lol. Surely there is something? All I'll say is a hobby doesn't need to be productive or contribute to any kind of development. Not everything needs to become some type of work. Could try joining an outdoors club where you can try a huge variety of things an maybe find one you like. Although judging by your list maybe you're not an outdoors person. Since you seem to be all about productivity you might like soemthing like woodworking, but that does require some investment in tools. Believe you can find workshop events you can explore the xraft to see if you like it. I def would not call dating a hobby. Even if you find a lady it's healthy to have other interests of your own. Don't want to be too codependent

YellowPeril666 · 2023-06-17T07:39:40+00:00

I played through RDR2, which got me into gaming again. Then, I started doing coop platformers with my daughter like Sackboy, It Takes Two, Unraveled 2, etc. we’ve developed a bond through video games though the story for It Takes Two was tough.

Neversexsit · 2023-06-17T13:19:23+00:00

Definitely don't play games for self-improvement, because not everything has to be done for improvement.

You might just want to start walking solo with some music until you get into the right head space.

No-Exit6560 · 2023-06-17T03:40:20+00:00

Lotta martial arts out there besides BJJ, MA and the tribe I found there essentially saved my life during my divorce. Can’t imagine where I’d be without them.

That being said, I used to be a personal trainer so already had gym covered and I do enjoy gaming/comics.

Just find something that you’re interested in, and give it a shot.

Just try to keep the boozing etc..to a healthy level and don’t try to jump back into dating to soon.

Seekerofzen49uk · 2023-06-17T05:07:22+00:00

Try starting a business. It's like an online game, but in real life. Experience the highs of making a profit or the lows of near bankruptcy only to snatch victory from the Jaws of defeat. It will keep your brain active, make you feel you're doing something, and give you a financial vehicle to hide your $$$$$ from your ex

Forward-Transition-5 · 2023-06-17T07:18:38+00:00

You could try tabletop gaming. Not everyone gets into it but there are many aspects to explore. Most people know warhammer but there are plenty of others. Being into rc cars maybe lookup gaslands. Anyway there’s a social aspect if you want to game with other people and it can be done in person rather than online so you’re much more likely to interact with people on a personal level. If the gaming side doesn’t appeal to you the painting and model building might. Again it’s not for everyone but just an outside the box suggestion.

savage_cabbages · 2023-06-17T09:16:41+00:00

Got a Switch after divorce and start games but never finish them, more for the kid and me to muck around with. Loving Boomerang Fu atm

Thebadmamajama · 2023-06-17T10:07:09+00:00

So those other things sounds great to explore. Video games are meditative and in moderation playing is something we all do at any age.

And get Ghost of Tsushima: you won't regret it.

UN_sensored · 2023-06-17T10:58:51+00:00

I made escorts my hobby after a week of truck driving as my job. So on weekends I'll have a shag for an hour with a new escort every week. If I find a favourite I guess I'll go with her again.

If I'm not doing that I'm sat on a desk looking at my pc. Gaming I used to do for years. I still try but it doesn't hold my attention much nowadays. I just tend to watch TV shows instead now.

folie-a-dont · 2023-06-17T04:40:58+00:00

Dating, while fun, isn’t a hobby 2. All hobbies don’t have to contribute to self-improvement. Fun for fun’s sake is cool too. 3. If you have tried that entire list of amazing hobbies and haven’t found anything you enjoy, have you considered you might be depressed? It’s not all about crying under your covers. That shit looks different for guys. Lack or loss of interest/enjoyment in enjoyable activities is a big sign you might be stuck in the shit. Just a thought. Be well brother

Only-Level5468 · 2023-06-17T02:12:32+00:00

Bought a PS5 the weekend my wife and I separated. Disclaimer: I played games about 2 nights a week with my friends on my old PS4 and was planning the upgrade for a while.

While I have other hobbies (working out, cooking, reading etc…) I’ve used that PS5 most nights as I’ve navigated this divorce and will continue once I’m on my own. Wouldn’t even consider myself a “gamer”, i really only play 2 games, one to hang with friends, the other to play alone. I think it can be a good escape!

redshoetom · 2023-06-17T02:36:50+00:00

Jits. Jits. Jits.

ramad84 · 2023-06-17T04:26:45+00:00

i find that i prefer to play multiplayer games online with people i know - and with a headset to chat with them. more social than anything

bdt124 · 2023-06-17T07:37:26+00:00

Video games are fine for all ages and a lot of fun.

I would suggest try something where you'll meet new people like .- dancing class - cooking class - climbing - Theater - improv

.really any type of class where you're around other people and pick up the beginners one and meet new people being depressed might be your answer at the moment ... I was depressed and didn't want to do anything either and that caused me the relationship (or at least that's what she blamed)

Certain-Line-6351 · 2023-06-17T08:40:42+00:00

Games are cool at night when going out isn’t an option. Also playing online allows you to stay social as well.

heartless_monk · 2023-06-17T11:55:58+00:00

you may have just picked up shitty games... the ps5 is a great escape for me, personally.. hence you’re playing games that you actually enjoy though.

I wouldn’t make dating your hobby though, unless you’re looking to be a dating coach of some sort... otherwise, you’d be basing your life around women.

instead of dating, why not men’s fashion? why not gym/bodybuilding? just to name a few.

ColdHandGee · 2023-06-17T16:05:12+00:00

I am 54 and i have been gaming since the 1970's! Got my ps5 at launch while i was going through a divorce with a vengeful 'wife'.

Worked on myself physically mentally spiritually financially. Gaming has kept me sane and i am always in contact with my kids when i don't have them. I have been playing the demo for final fantasy 16. What a game! I also have a private lobby on street fighter 6 for myself and my kids only.

I am still single since i have time only for work kids and my elderly parents. I don't need a woman making me chose her over my family.

lasher7628 · 2023-06-17T16:23:18+00:00

Director John Carpenter is 75 years old and an active gamer. The gaming industry is full of people in their 40s, 50s, 60s, etc, working full time developing and playing games.

Point is, lots of people play games regardless of age. Gaming is a hobby and the notion that one should grow out of it isn't nearly as culturally ingrained as it once was. Just enjoy yourself and get rid of any nonsense feeling of shame lol

MrEgusi · 2023-06-17T17:48:13+00:00

Get a VR headset instead. I suggest Meta Quest... Not only will you game, you will also feel like you are self -improving with the exercise apps. You will also meet thousands of people that you can watch movies with together (Big Screen), Go to concerts with (Horizon Venues).

SmilesOnSouls · 2023-06-17T21:12:49+00:00

"Time enjoyed is never time wasted"

If it makes you happy then do it. Fuck everyone else and what they may think. Now if you're playing video games to the point of it causing you to fail in other aspects of your life, then you may wanna reconsider. But if you want to sink 5 hours into a game, reading a book, going for a hike/bike ride, or whatever and it makes you happy. Then enjoy yourself. Allow yourself to have fun.

MiniJunkie · 2023-06-17T23:31:15+00:00

I play video games and paint miniatures (mostly to sell on eBay) and I’m 50 (still married right now). To me it’s the same as watching tv or a movie. It’s just downtime activity. Doesn’t make you a lesser person. A lot of video games are actually very mature content too.

windowsfrozenshut · 2023-06-18T01:02:37+00:00

Dig an old chevy truck out of a field and restore it.

jpanon111 · 2023-06-18T05:00:03+00:00

I actually used to think the same way, where I felt guilty playing games like I should be doing something more productive. What you got to realize is your allowed to blow off steam, and do something fun to distract yourself. Free yourself if the guilt and you’ll start to allow yourself to enjoy it.

polarshred · 2023-06-18T10:06:34+00:00

Language learning can be fun, addicting, and makes you smarter.

I've been learning Chinese these past 5 years for fun. I study about 20 minutes each day. I love it. You can pick any language doesn't have to be practical. Once you start just the process it's brings fulfilment.

Another one could be listening to classical music or jazz

SSG_Blockhead · 2023-06-17T23:06:08+00:00

You could try learning an instrument

1antinomy · 2023-06-17T05:55:47+00:00

Try playing Call if Duty with the game chat on lol

CB33isGMC · 2023-06-17T07:47:36+00:00

Video games reduced my indulgence in self destructive behaviors during and after divorce. I’d avoided them my entire adult life, focusing on family and career. It was good to reconnect after being wound so tightly for so long.

As for feeling guilty - fuck that. I tried the whole responsible adult thing and ended up here.

I reconnected with golf as well. Great way to make friends/acquaintances. Lots of time to think and meditate. Great excuse to travel.

Gattsama · 2023-06-17T10:07:31+00:00

I see hiking and BJJ on the list. So what about those too did you not like? Are you physically fit already? Do you just not like physical activity? What about calisthenics?

DriveByTroll · 2023-06-17T15:59:54+00:00

arcade1up

dunbarsnackbar · 2023-06-18T00:23:19+00:00

Arma 3 is a fantastic one to consider on PC. That’s where I’ve found my niche. A wide range of ages can be found on there and I like the collaborative teamwork a lot of groups have. I’ve made some good friends in that space.

Elegant_Importance29 · 2023-06-18T04:55:52+00:00

You gave up your hobbies because they remind you of your ex??

You need to work on this.

Title	Video Games in your 40s?
Author	idiskfla
Upvotes	16
Comments	74
Date	June 17, 2023 1:30 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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