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If He Wanted To, He Would πŸ’

wepersisted

January 16, 2022
985 upvotes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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Title If He Wanted To, He Would πŸ’
Author

wepersisted

Upvotes 985
Comments 55
Date January 16, 2022 7:16 PM UTC
(4 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/s5j3ya/if_he_wanted_to_he_would/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/if-he-wanted-to-he-would.1097194
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[–]anothernewyorkladyFDS Newbie 182 points183 points184 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations! What a beautiful ring! I’d love to see more detail about how the dating process went for you and how you came to decide to accept his proposal. Any insight you’re willing to share is much appreciated! And again, congratulations!!

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[–]arnezuaraFDS Apprentice 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Could you please send it to me as well? I’m curious!

The ring looks absolutely gorgeous!

[–]JesusisKingisLordFDS STRATEGY COACH 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I’d also love to know to if you’re willing to share. CONGRATULATIONS!

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[–]questionsaboutrel521FDS Apprentice 95 points96 points97 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

We love this πŸ‘

[–]23eggzFDS Newbie 64 points65 points66 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Beautiful! Your ring is gorgeous and the proposal sounds perfect πŸ’ž

[–]electroloopRuthless Strategist 59 points60 points61 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I love this story sis! May you have a lifetime of happiness and I dream of having a proposal as beautiful as yours one day ❀️.

[–]Continuous7flow0 35 points36 points37 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Your story is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing this with us. I am going to share this with my sister. I want her to know, you deserves the best, never settle for less.

[–]myheartisfullofloveFDS Newbie 25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

What a gorgeous engagement story! Congratulations and thank you so much for sharing this story with us! Did he gave you the heads up or asked you your thoughts on marriage before he got the ring?

Edit: removed first question

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[–]myheartisfullofloveFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m going to have the do the very same thing as you did if I want a shot at married life again lol, thank you! β™₯️ And congratulations once more πŸ₯‚

[–]shadowkittnFDS Newbie 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Beautiful! Congratulations, I wish you a lifetime of love and happiness πŸ€—

[–]capresesalad1985FDS Newbie 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations!!!

[–]thewetdog_Ruthless Strategist 266 points267 points268 points 4 years ago (18 children) | Copy Link

Congrats. Six months ago you posted about starting to actively date again. Did you know this guy beforehand as a friend or if you met him then, how are you confident he’s not just shown you his good side for 6 months? Is he an ex or something?

Were you exclusive this time or did you have a roster these six months? What gives you confidence that you have a good measure of who this man is and what he’s capable of enough to tie yourself to him? Genuinely curious.

[–]LadiesOpinionFDS Newbie 201 points202 points203 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

You are truly deserving of your flair: Ruthless Strategist.

[–]plumeriaworld 62 points63 points64 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Lmao! Yeah we need the ruthlessness here. Thanks for your service πŸ™πŸ½

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[–]myheartisfullofloveFDS Newbie 42 points43 points44 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

(I personally refuse to embrace the "girlfriend" label.)

How did you do this, btw? Because when I want to date again, I also want to be careful in being too label-crazy because all it does is stagnate things and make men lazy, ie "I made her my gf and get to have sex with her, why should I be engaged/married to her? I already got her." type of stuff.

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[–]jupitarianriseFDS Newbie 23 points24 points25 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

This is interesting. I like it a lot… Do you know if he was seeing other women? Did you accept it? I think a lot of men who would be ok with this, wouldn’t care about me/exclusivity enough and they would see it as an excuse to have a rotation too.

ETA: by the way, congratulations!!!! β€οΈβ€οΈπŸ’ the ring is BEAUTIFUL and I wish you a lot of happiness. βœ¨πŸ’•

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[–]woadskyFDS Newbie 24 points25 points26 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

This might be too personal, but how did you manage the physical side of dating more than one man e.g. kissing, hugging, sex, etc.? Or if he wanted to date others that included sexual activity?

Congratulations on your beautiful courtship and engagement!

[–]arnezuaraFDS Apprentice 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

So, if a man dated/pursued other women (therefore, did not prioritize dating/courting you), it meant that you would block/delete them?

[–]thewetdog_Ruthless Strategist 64 points65 points66 points 4 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link

Wow that’s really interesting. I have many questions lol Regarding being friends before, did you ever find it odd did that he didn’t pursue you at first? As if he ended up settling for you? Or if he did why weren’t you into him initially?

As for your relationship, Was he also dating those 6 months, like was he faithful to you at all during that time or he was free to date/sleep with others as well? Was he okay with you seeing other men and do you ever wonder if there was a component of him β€œwanting to win” and beat the others? Is now that you’ll be planning a wedding the first time you are both sexually or romantically exclusive? Do keep us posted about the outcome!

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[–]thewetdog_Ruthless Strategist 21 points22 points23 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Well good luck in this new chapter to you both!

[–]BlackGirlKnickersFDS Newbie 40 points41 points42 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Right!? Thanks for sniffing out the fishy stuff. 6 months into dating overall and already engaged? I have to admit, when I see these posts my alarm goes off and I look into post history. Apparently you felt the same way.

[–]originallykokoFDS Newbie 120 points121 points122 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations!! The ring is beautiful and your proposal story is cute πŸ’• πŸ’—

Best wishes to you both 😊

[–]snowwhite224FDS Newbie 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations πŸ’•

So beautiful!

[–]Bonds_GirlFDS Newbie 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Wow, this is beautiful. The ring is gorgeous, and the presentation of it inside the rose 🌹 is stunning!

Congratulations!!! πŸŽ‰πŸŽˆπŸΎ

[–]ShieldMaidenLagerthaFDS Disciple 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

That’s wonderful! Congrats!🍾

[–]BaddestSeaWitch 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations OP!! That sounds like a beautiful proposal full of lovely gestures. The love letters sound like a very heartfelt touch, especially since they were so thoughtful and personal.

Your kind closing words to the community were really touching, and I wish the same to you as well: May you continue to be surrounded by people who enrich your life, and may you always be treated with love, respect, and kindness.

A wish for your engagement: May you two live happily, and may your fiancΓ© always build on the evidence that he is indeed an HVM through and through.

[–]MaingurlFDS Apprentice 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

This is so cute! Congrats!

[–]galian84FDS Apprentice 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

That is lovely πŸ₯° congratulations!!

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[–]FitGuarantee37 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations!! What a beautiful ring!

[–]lolmemberberriesFDS Newbie 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Congrats! Your ring is beautiful.

[–]NoogirlFDS Newbie 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Many congratulations ❀️

[–]extraodiFDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations! (:

[–]Junior-Lion7893FDS Newbie 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations!

[–]Freezer222At-Risk Pick Me Youth 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations. Wishing you both a happy union.

[–]Davina33FDS Disciple 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Congratulations Queen πŸ’ ❀️

[–]MyplummmsRuthless Strategist 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

So happy for you!!! You deserve the best β€οΈπŸ’•

[–]Alarmed-Seat-4664 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Congrats!! I just got engaged too, sister!!

[–]ifhewantedtohewouldFDS Newbie 16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Just curious but 44 days ago you didn’t even know how to ask what his income is tho

[–]Alarmed-Seat-4664 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I did ask him, and i was happy with the answer.

[–]ab_uno_disce_omnes_ 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations on your success! I love that you are being treated the way you deserve to be

[–]ilovegunter 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Awww congratulationsss 😍😍😍

[–]Biracial_tooth_fairyFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Congrats!! Here's wishing you both a happy marriage!

[–]EarthKveikFDS Apprentice 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations! I hope you're very happy together!

[–]pinkcorollaFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

And the diamond is FAT! We love to see it, congratulations OP!

[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations! Such a beautiful ring and proposal! ❀️❀️❀️

[–]The_Cat_EmpressFDS Newbie 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Looks like a sparkly snowflake!! So beautiful!

Congratulations!!

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