Patriarchy 🤮

squaremarshmallow · 2020-11-13T23:22:23+00:00

A woman in my church called the police during a domestic violence incident at church. The guy got deported. The next Sunday my Pastor announced in church that women shouldn't call the police when such things are happening, they should call him. After some months he said no one should call him anymore because he is now "overwhelmed " with women calling him. I've I've never been more disgusted.

libralia · 2020-11-13T23:44:20+00:00

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Pahapan · 2020-11-14T01:42:33+00:00

I was molested by a family friend who preached at our church. Fuck churches and fuck organized religion.

505ithy · 2020-11-13T23:58:25+00:00

Tajes me back to my cousins wedding when the pastor told them not to confide in their family when they fight, because when they make up everyone will be mad at their partner. Everyone awkwardly shifted their eyes because he has just beat her the month before.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-11-14T00:26:57+00:00

Plus women take the womb with them when they go. No more numbers growing. And the men in the congregation would revolt and run that guy out of town because he lost them their slave and rape toy.

TheEldritchHorror · 2020-11-14T02:20:03+00:00

A family friend went to her pastor because her husband would get drunk and beat her. The pastor told her that she needed to stay and support him because he was struggling with his alcoholism. Shameful and disgusting.

hexchromosome · 2020-11-13T22:25:10+00:00

Church is an enemy of a woman. Always have been. Please forgive me ladies who go to church, but they don't have your best interests in mind.

Ok_Ad_67 · 2020-11-14T01:51:16+00:00

I’m so glad I’m an agnostic atheist now. I went through both a new age spiritual phase and a Christian phase. Both disempowered me and made me feel controlled. Ironically the new age phase was worse despite preaching equality and acceptance. Both encourage people to stop thinking logically and take “leaps of faith” or have blind faith. It makes you more susceptible to manipulation and believing things without evidence. I would make choices I thought god/spirit wanted me to make against my own will. And at one point I didn’t believe I had free will. I gave up real opportunities- like getting a job or going to uni because I thought spirit didn’t want me to. It’s gross as fuck.

It’s like waking up from a nightmare and slowly realising I’m okay again. It’s gonna take a while to feel like myself again. I’m still in aftershock, and things still trigger me.

Jaymite · 2020-11-14T00:04:43+00:00

I'm not religious but one of my Christian friends, when I said I wanted to leave my husband he told me that my child would 100% going to commit suicide because of me. That I'd ruined my son's life and should just stay because my ex wasn't hitting me. I cut him out of my life but I still worry that maybe I have ruined it. I just couldn't bare to be with my ex any longer

jp2117515 · 2020-11-14T01:01:46+00:00

When I found out my ex was cheating I was gutted - just devastated. I was a new mom with our sons - they were just 2 and 4 at the time. I was only working part time then so I could be with them and my head was spinning. Was just overwhelmed thinking about divorce and being a single mom. So I went to church for counseling and the pastor gave me a book - “Saving your marriage by yourself.” Some kind of - look the “other way” “ stand by your man” BS I look back on that now and think how scared and vulnerable I was and sought out advice and got nothing but more gaslighting and dismissal. Unbelievable - actually just awful.

Later when I got my head on straight I got a private investigator and that was the best money ever spent. Nothing like exposing someone and seeing it first hand. Makes everything crystal clear - decisions became very easy at that point. I still wonder to this day why someone would counsel and encourage someone to stay in an abusive disrespectful situation.

just-peepin-at-u · 2020-11-14T00:36:05+00:00

I can say from the experience I had with weirdo men at some churches, there are people within some churches that encourage this as a way to keep a problem contained. They offload some freak on a woman and let her deal with him, instead of them having to handle all his problems.

Deadgirl1888 · 2020-11-13T22:37:37+00:00

Religion oppresses women.

NorthrnSwede · 2020-11-14T08:00:44+00:00

All of the Abrahamic religions are based in patriarchy and require maintaining an abusive relationship with an imaginary being. Hard pass.

NotSoBunny · 2020-11-13T22:49:45+00:00

Agreed. Met my ex husband at church and it seemed me and all the other ladies were being beat by these "good, church going men" including the pastor's wife.

curlygirl507 · 2020-11-14T05:52:15+00:00

No idea why any woman still attends church, gets married or has children (unless in a rare true love hvm scenario).

guacamole1987 · 2020-11-14T03:30:20+00:00

I left religion a while ago and have no desire to go back.

Lionoras · 2020-11-13T23:08:16+00:00

This reminds me so strongly of the song "Leave Luanne"

Basically it's about that. A woman gets treated like shit by her husband, everyone knows it but nobody helps, while the church happily talks about how "it could be worse".

In general, there is a lot of representation of the religious pressure on women to stay with their shitlords. Good song, "good ending", but dammit how depressing

VickyPL · 2020-11-14T05:58:49+00:00

I never believe the church is an accurate representation of God. It’s man made not God made so it will always be filled with sin. I saw this Instagram post from a female pastor that said something along the lines of “ the church is a bride but also a whore...” I think it refers to these instances right here. You will find salvation and grace but also lies and abuse. It’s the greatest oxymoron of existence.

libralia · 2020-11-14T04:16:12+00:00

Thanks for the award kind stranger! I love posting here! Even things that push the envelope. It’s so nice being among my kind of people. Leveling up can be lonely because others haven’t had their moment of “woke”.

Keep pushing on Queens! 👑

redpandanation_ · 2020-11-14T00:09:52+00:00

I screamed! The terrifying truth.

typeadhd · 2020-11-14T07:19:40+00:00

In the wake of recent infidelity of Carl lentz aka Justin Bieber’s pastor, I’m not surprised by people saying she should forgive him for cheating and that god hates divorce and they should just pray I-

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2020-11-14T03:23:34+00:00

💯

zombiessalad · 2020-11-14T04:41:56+00:00

And that’s on organized religion💁‍♀️

koolaidmanbodyslam · 2020-11-13T22:32:55+00:00

NAILED IT

MT_061619 · 2020-11-14T05:37:52+00:00

Thank god I left both. Unbelievably toxic

ragingcapri19 · 2020-11-14T06:15:22+00:00

pastors themselves constantly cheat on & abuse women. so gross.

gagger_of_lolly · 2020-11-14T14:19:54+00:00

This needed to be said!

notabell88 · 2020-11-14T21:55:19+00:00

I don't believe this is always the case. My father was abusive and my pastor was nothing but supportive. He advised my mum to leave because safety is paramount. He was like an father/older brother figure to me as a teenager too and one of my main supports during those times (him and his wife). My mother tried her best to stay on good terms with my father and he disapproved of her allowing any unnecessary contact or time together because he was afraid of her going back to that.

To this day, 10 years after she finally kicked him out, his wife and him regularly check on her and on me (I've been married to a HVM 9) but they still make sure we are ok and recognises the trauma it has caused us.

Title	Patriarchy 🤮
Author	libralia
Upvotes	1791
Comments	90
Date	November 13, 2020 10:01 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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