She Needed FDS a Long Time Ago

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-01-18T01:29:15+00:00

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Platipus6 · 2022-01-17T23:31:19+00:00

Classic :(

Baby trap, exhaustion, back-to-back pregnancies, not married, isolation from support and looming massive purchase.

He neatly avoided following through on anything by being a scumbag. No wedding, no house, no splitting assets.

Her mom sucks too. Terrible emotional support.

E: oh it's his mom. Explains everything.

_mooness · 2022-01-18T04:32:31+00:00

Why are women still having children outside of marriages?

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2022-01-18T00:01:52+00:00

If he didn’t marry her after the first child, then he didn’t want her. I can’t wrap my head around women who pop out multiple kids for loser men who don’t even care enough to legitimize them.

Lost_Kale90 · 2022-01-18T01:01:32+00:00

Having kids with a man is so much more serious than marriage. Why people have kids but not actually marry is boggling. It's like you're still tied to that man forever now, and additionally have a kid to take care of.

PollyannaPenny · 2022-01-18T02:55:24+00:00

Ugh. Of course he's a mommy's boy who was coddled and grew up being told that NOTHING is his fault.

I hope this girl gets out. This guy has "Chris Watts" written all over him

Khentiamentiu42 · 2022-01-17T23:44:53+00:00

Ah and the enabling mother that raised a monster to throw even more women under the bus

Free_Acanthisitta446 · 2022-01-18T00:50:21+00:00

Women: please stop having babies with losers. You don’t deserve a loser, and your kids especially don’t need a loser for a Dad. Yes, it’s old fashioned, but make him put a ring on it.

StatusPop- · 2022-01-18T01:32:03+00:00

Scrotes tend to show their true colors when you’re vulnerable and pregnant with their child so that you’re trapped.

Idk why she would do this to herself, the first child should have been the last. I thank the universe for introducing me to FDS 2 weeks ago since I am still young, childless, and unmarried.

lansburysoda · 2022-01-18T00:51:15+00:00

✨Normalize not having children out of wedlock✨

moopy_schmoopy · 2022-01-18T03:28:35+00:00

Any advice on what to do after ending up in a situation like this? I know too many people who feel trapped after having kids

kindly_light_ · 2022-01-17T23:52:28+00:00

and to think this womans life altering suffering was probably based on a few charming lies this scrote said without thinking to get his dick wet...

preppykat3 · 2022-01-17T23:47:59+00:00

Another big reason I’ll always be child free. I don’t see the appeal of popping out their spawn when they act like this.

LetMeLiveImNew · 2022-01-18T00:28:06+00:00

Typical. She was taken advantage of by a scrote and he doesn't care in the slightest about her feelings. The age gap alone screams low value, but I have no doubt in my mind he has several other despicable male qualities

Japanese_Lasagna · 2022-01-18T04:17:32+00:00

6 weeks in... I hope she gets herself an abortion. 2 kids is bad enough in this situation. 3 just will make things worse.

jardala · 2022-01-18T02:54:17+00:00

Whoa..I am sorry. VIRTUAL HUGS. I hope you have someone you can talk too. Damn man, this is why early 20s have no business dating 30 year olds. They just want to fuck up your life.

Anyway girl get a lawyer for child and spousal support. Come we stay does count as marriage in some states.

SayNad · 2022-01-18T09:51:44+00:00

We are HAPPY

And yet she says nothing about how HE makes HER happy - the typical response would be that "he is amazing and great! He works and pay bills!" but never nothing specific about making the wife happy.

And after digging deeper - he is basically doing the barest minimum while the wife almost go crazy from working too much. But they are "happy" you see!

It is a projection - the wife gaslight herself into thinking that she is "happy" - and forcefully project that into the relationship and create all these ideals about her husband in her mind. But if you go and observe them face-to-face, you can see how he gives no shit about her and is just waiting for the opportunity to leave.

myheartisfulloflove · 2022-01-18T14:47:17+00:00

See, this is why I don’t understand why so many men are against FDS. Women who are pickmes are incredibly unattractive once you get with one up close and personal. Men are not attracted to women who are too easily satisfied with being the forever girlfriend and bangmaid without the wedding ring… they’re attracted to women who has her own thing going on and can hold her own. This is why you nearly always see men cheating with women who have careers, or their single secretaries, or any other woman who seems exciting because she doesn’t live for the compliments of other men.

FDS quite literally are helping to create women who men can actually both respect and be utterly smitten by. Why oh why would you want ALL OF US to become pickmes if you’re not going to be attracted to that shit?!

I do feel bad for her and all but she should not at least have had children without paperwork’s and a ring to protect her. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh.

Mcccy · 2022-01-18T00:07:57+00:00

The second I saw the age gap I knew it'd go downhill tbh.

Interaction_Anxious · 2022-01-18T05:22:14+00:00

His mum is trashy.

I feel so sorry for woman.

PrettiKinx · 2022-01-18T03:09:01+00:00

You know the son is a POS when even his moms don't take his side. Smdfh Why would you move, have children with a dude who has not committed to you?

Jimtaxman · 2022-01-18T00:34:01+00:00

Oof. Low blow by the mom but i get it. She's protecting her little boy. Unfortunately its this type of behavior that led to this pos thinking he can do whatever he wants without consequences. Guy was probably never told no growing up.

eleaena · 2022-01-18T06:34:27+00:00

This is seriously so depressing to read I feel horrible for this woman holy shit. I feel bad saying this but if I were her I’d just abort the pregnancy and get tf away from him and move back with family :(

So important to not have kids with anyone you’re not married to… and especially not to someone so much older than you :(

this is literally a nightmare scenario, it actually feels horrible to learn from her mistakes

Trickle92 · 2022-01-18T09:49:44+00:00

Pains me to read this. She’s a single mother with three kids, and she’s not even 30. Of course he’s going to cheat. A man who leaves a woman pregnant three times without being married doesn’t respect women. He’s probably holding out for something better. It would be laughable if it wasn’t so sad. The cheater probably won’t even be able to provide adequate child support.

FDS works. It prevents women from falling into traps set by substandard men. Who a woman chooses to have children with is one of the most important decisions she’ll ever make. Stop wasting yourself on men who don’t deserve you.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2022-01-18T03:10:08+00:00

I bet his mom knew what a scumbag he was and tried to warn her, but she wouldn't listen. I bet her friends and family also never liked him, but she thought they were jealous. There are always red flags, always!

Davina33 · 2022-01-18T11:23:27+00:00

Yes I commented on this post. The age gap told me everything.

BxGyrl416 · 2022-01-18T00:08:01+00:00

So perplexing. The counterpoint to these men is the women with rock-bottom self-esteem.

jijitsu-princess · 2022-01-18T01:00:04+00:00

Jesus H Christ.

qazzovuoi · 2022-01-18T08:30:46+00:00

Marriage is dangerous All scrotes obsess about are the money/status symbol they gonna lose in the divorce so femicide is always an option Also legally it's not a given the mother gets custody of her offsprings some narcs get off on the idea of hurting the exwife by proxy manipulating everybody against her even her own children and even in that case infanticides "happen" I could not go thru painful childbirth & breastfeeding only to lose my kids at the hand of some psychopath enabled by the patriarchal judicial system

lonesocksss · 2022-01-18T20:00:52+00:00

31 y/o dating 23 y/o wow sus

Ok-Appearance5982 · 2022-01-18T21:14:52+00:00

Too many red flags. Even though the MIL’s delivery was harsh, she’s totally right .

oscine23 · 2022-01-18T22:19:56+00:00

This is so sad. Three kids at 29? JC. Poor woman. Idk what to say. 🥲

The_Cat_Empress · 2022-01-18T16:45:52+00:00

Beatrice: "Oh so she got herself pregnant?"

Besides that stupidity, this is heartbreaking to see...

thenew-supreme · 2022-01-18T19:40:22+00:00

Yikes

Specific-Composer300 · 2022-01-21T12:56:16+00:00

Nothing good ever comes from they type of man who will have kids with a woman before marrying her

Title	She Needed FDS a Long Time Ago
Author	BxGyrl416
Upvotes	884
Comments	86
Date	January 17, 2022 11:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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