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[–]warinmymind94FDS Apprentice133 points134 points135 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Many of you have probably seen, but there's articles on South Korean dating trends. Currently, less women in South Korea are dating and instead focusing on their education, careers, and financial independence. Less people are getting married and having children, which was reflected in a birth decline. Some schools are even teaching classes about dating and create assignments where the students are paired up and must go on a date. I think the dating decline has stemmed from women being tired of low effort relationships and instead spending their extra time on more productive things, and going out with friends when they want to have fun rather than going on dates. I read a different article that actually discussed how woman statistically are less likely to enter into relationships when they have meaningful friendships and spend quality time hanging out with their friends. It makes sense. I'd rather go to lunch with my mom and sister or my one close (local) friend when I'm home. I know I'll have a good time. I know its safer. I don't have the pressure of getting all dolled up, vetting, or feeling nervous. I know my family and friends are reliable. Its better to spend money seeing people you care about than wasting time and money for low effort men.
[–]yolosunshineFDS Newbie57 points58 points59 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
South Korea jumped several centuries of social and technological advancements...in 80 years.
That’s a lot for a society to absorb. Suddenly you don’t have to be married with 5 kids and a husband who beats you nightly just to survive economically and socially?
The obvious result is not wasting time on shit dudes, and if the dudes were raised by someone which conditioned them into the whole wife-beating etc thing they’re shit dudes.
[–]bitch_not_itFDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I think what they can't wrap their minds around is... women would ideally like to be in a relationship with a HVM and share a life with him. If she doesn't find one..today, with women being allowed to open their own bank accounts lol, own property without a husband signature, and have equal opportunities in the workplace, they have the option to be independent, happy, and at peace
Rather than being forced legally and institutionally to be absolutely stuck with a LVM, the way it was decades ago. Instead of frothing at the mouth blaming the women for 'NOT ACTING LIKE WOMEN' why don't they think about it for a minute and ask themselves WHY AREN'T they
Having to try to work out a career and goals into a life where she has go through the physical labor of pregnancy and childbirth, then having to do the bulk of the housework and childcare, despite working the same amount of hours as the man.. who can decide he wants to have this many kids and literally his life is mostly unaffected
WONDER WHY MEN ARE SO IN FAVOR OF THIS SET UP, WHILE THE WOMEN ARE NOT. JK ITS NOT HARD AT ALL, SO WHY ARE MEN ACTING SO CONFUSED ABOUT IT
[–]chatrebelleFDS Newbie219 points220 points221 points 5 years ago (23 children) | Copy Link
Men always use this as a threat. Like: you're too picky you're going to end up ALONE with your cats ahahaha. Yeah so what? I look forward to it if it means not having to be a bangmaid mommy provider to an ungrateful piece of shit.
[–]Apprehensive_Ad_7917FDS Newbie120 points121 points122 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
My therapist once said “unless you die first, you’re going to die alone and most women outlive their male partners” and that really put my fear into perspective. Most women, even partnered, live through old age alone and die alone.
[–]throwthisawayred376 points77 points78 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
and that's AFTER having to drag a ball and chain around!
[–]spicyspaFDS Newbie35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely.
Before I divorced my husband, I asked myself, "Can I live the rest of my life alone?" Then I realized that the elderly population consists largely of women who've been widowed 10 years or more.
Of course, my pick-me sister whose husband's a cheater cackled, "You'll end up dying alone."
I just shrugged, "Whaddaya know. So will you!"
[–]GroundbreakingMess51FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow!!! Omg thank you for sharing this. So true. I don't think enough women hear this.
[–]asteria2002FDS Apprentice[S] 96 points97 points98 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. They always are like. "you are going to be old and without men with your cats" so i will not die young and will have no pieces of shit with me and with my cute cats, sign me up!
I mean I am so scared/s
[–]chatrebelleFDS Newbie94 points95 points96 points 5 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
And they always add the cats. Like oh nooo not adorable creatures!
[–]fdsonlynoscrubsFDS Newbie59 points60 points61 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol there’s this comedian Eliza Skinner, I just listened to her comedy album, she has a joke about this. “People make fun of cat ladies, but you know who does not care at all about what you think? Cat ladies!”
[–]asteria2002FDS Apprentice[S] 46 points47 points48 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Ikr, jokes on them I love cats.
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Disciple40 points41 points42 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know. Cats? BONUS!
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH37 points38 points39 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
A man who likes cats is likely a gentle spirit in my experience.
[–]what-i-dont-knowFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yes, they still have some inner demons to address like everyone. But,if a cat loves you and respect you mostly likely you are good person.
[–]ethnicallyabiguousFDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think what is important about men loving cats is that they are not controlling. Cats do what they want to do. People enjoy dogs because they are blindly loyal and are easier to “train”. Dogs will accept low effort from their owners. Cats will let you know their displeasure.
Men who dislike cats, outside allergy reasons, are suspect to me.
[–]Twolipz_78FDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
For me personally when I’m finally alone in my own place I look forward to having a big, cuddly dog.
[–]sentinelsexyFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I have a super adorable Samoyed. I think he's the only male I love (excluding my dad) 😂
[–]rightascensi0nFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Not all men” bc u/sentinelsexy’s sammy would never do something LV 🥺
[–]tossed_salad1007 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My response to this is I’m already doing it and it’s awesome. Cats are so low-maintenance. Men take so much work.
[–]Astral_weaverFDS Newbie41 points42 points43 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'll end up RICH and FABULOUS, with a flock of parrots and a greenhouse full of pretty plants.
That's the plan.
[–]disillusionedidealsFDS Newbie25 points26 points27 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If this fool ever says that to you, this is the perfect opportunity to smile and say, "Oh sweetie, that's not the threat you think it is."
[–]chatrebelleFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Its mostly members of my familly and trolls online. I don't want to respond to trolls but it would be funny saying that to father at Christmas.
[–]tossed_salad10010 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m way more afraid of being married than of being alone. And I’m pretty sure I found an HVM.
[–]Bargin-basketFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When I told my colleague I was spending Christmas with my mum and the 3 cats, he made a ‘crazy cat lady’ comment. I divorced 10 years ago and I love living alone with my cats. I’ve never been happier. Why is being a cat lady such an insult? It’s so stigmatised to be single. I think the married people are the crazy ones.
[–]strcrssdvoyagerFDS Newbie177 points178 points179 points 5 years ago (29 children) | Copy Link
Sadly, I think murders and rapes would increase.
[–]sstenaFDS Apprentice134 points135 points136 points 5 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
This. Men would go to war against women and enslave us by force. They already kind of did during the witch hunts and their aftermath.
Women's liberation from men is outright terrifying.
[–]tossed_salad10026 points27 points28 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That’s what firearms are for. It makes me so sad when I go to the range and see almost everyone there is male and most appear to be low value. The vast majority of gun owners should be female and every woman with a brain should be rushing to get educated and proficient with firearms. Women are biologically better at shooting than men so if we actually collectively got off our asses and put in the time, men could be nearly eliminated as a threat.
I dream of a world where fathers warn their sons not to get too close to women they don’t know because most women are armed and don’t tolerate being creeped on or approached.
[–]NaurathDominionSpyFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yesssss sis, this was my exact thought! The poor victims of witch hunts and past brutal acts of misogyny didn’t have access to all the weapons we do now! If we want to ditch men altogether we just need to get armed and ready😄💪
[–]sstenaFDS Apprentice5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Whenever women in large numbers successfully use a weapon to defend themselves against men, that weapon is taken away. See the illegal hatpins that women used to defend themselves against rape.
With that past in mind, I wonder if firearms wouldn't be made illegal the second all women actually used them against men instead of mostly white people.
That said, firearms aren't legal without a hunting permit or a specific job license where I'm from.
[–]tossed_salad1000 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Without getting too political, the entire purpose of the 2A is so that people are armed against tyrants. If men try to take our guns away collectively, we would need to collectively prevent them from doing so by using those guns.
That’s why it would be ideal if we all did this rather quickly instead of gradually.
[–][deleted] 32 points33 points34 points 5 years ago* (9 children) | Copy Link
This is just a threat NVM use to keep women available. Monogamy was an invention of modern civilization, most males in the hunter-gatherer era NEVER got to mate, this was an era that was much more violent too yet what you’re describing did not happen. There was no concept of love or romance, just improving the gene pool and survival. The truth is that nature has ALWAYS intended for this to be a social structure, NVMs that had nothing to offer were never meant to touch women.
[–]ethnicallyabiguousFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
The issue is the hunter/ gatherer era had significantly less people in the world, with more dangerous animals. And, we have to acknowledge men have been indoctrinated to the entitlement of women for thousands of years. Even though monogamy is an invention of modern civilization, ‘modern’ is still well over a millennia in this case. We cannot deny the rise in sexual and domestic violence that has happened on the tails of feminist movements. Statistically, when is a man most likely to be violent? When the woman he felt entitled to leaves him. Now imagine women leaving men collectively......
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
And what has happened since those feminist movements? The world has gotten better despite their threats. Personally I’m not one to advocate for all women to leave all men because I know that there are HV males out there, like some in my family. My point was that we should never surrender to their threats, if we did women still wouldn’t have the right to vote, that’s what you misunderstood.
[–]ethnicallyabiguousFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
This was a post on ask feminists that got me to thinking. I’m not saying that we still shouldn’t try. But to think it won’t be a problem is putting your head in the sand.
From one of the articles:
“Yes, the fact that women have better options to leave an abusive relationship might be one of the most serious contributors to the rise of women killed by their intimate partners. It’s well known that women are at greater danger and risk when they leave an abusive relationship—leaving is the biggest threat to the abuser’s power and control. When women feel more supported and empowered with helpful resources, they can choose to stand up to the abuse and take steps to leave. “
[–]ethnicallyabiguousFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I’m referring to the fact that you stated those are “Just threats” that men make. It’s quite a bit more than that.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I never denied the existence of those things...
[–]ethnicallyabiguousFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ok but you stated “this is just a threat NVM use to keep women available” when two women stated they think men might retaliate. Maybe you didn’t intend to deny it but it sure looks like you dismissed the possibility that men could do this.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
And if we succumbed to their threats we’d never have any progress. That’s my problem. That’s what I’m attacking.
[–]ethnicallyabiguousFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Like I said. It doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try, it doesn’t mean we should give up, but let’s acknowledge it’s a possibility. This is what I’m saying.
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Apprentice68 points69 points70 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I highly doubt it. Men with partners rape and murder, too. In fact the partners of men are most at risk.
I think the rapes and murders of women would go down, because we are not living them anymore.
[–][deleted] 58 points59 points60 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
They would seek us out. Men feel entitled to women. Sexual frustration makes men violent. Just look at incels and heck even the institution of marriage itself. Men invented it so every man could have at least one woman leading to a more productive society. Because if men don't get pussy they throw a tantrum and neet out.
[–]PurplegalaxxyFDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If they did do this it would show their true colors, and more women would want to stop dating them. The fact that not having sex would even cause this violence is reason enough to not get too involved with men.
[–][deleted] 11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
and more women would want to stop dating them.
I think most women wouldn't want anything bad to happen to them, so they'll comply like they've been doing for thousands of years.
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Apprentice33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
Predators are opportunities, most wouldn't bother with the effort. The number of men who would seek us out would remain the same.
EDIT: I meant to say "opportunists"
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Rape is not an opportunistic crime.
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Apprentice0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How is it not?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Because men plan rape, it doesn't just happen because you gave him an opportunity.
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
because we are not living them anymore.
We would need our own country. And even then they'd try their best to rage war.
[–]iaintgonnacallyouFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This. Abuse and assault would skyrocket. Men already feel entitled to us, imagine if we just acted like they didn’t exist? Hordes of angry men would take it out on any woman around them.
[–]ceramicunicornFDS Disciple4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was my first thought, and I concluded, “They’d have to roll out those government issued fembots real quick.”
[–]bonnie_no_shameFDS Newbie73 points74 points75 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think this is exactly what is already happening. Slowly, step by step. But it’s happening.
[–]thelionmermaidFDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is exactly why I love the movie "Down With Love". Aside from the brilliant costuming, the movie itself was ahead of its time in trying to address this exact question!
[–]ethnicallyabiguousFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh God! I lived for that scene when they are in yellow and houndstooth print, and twirl out of their jackets.😍😍😍
[–]AwkwardDisaster4150FDS Newbie55 points56 points57 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There would be way less children. That’s probably a good thing.
[–]EveSerpentFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hell YES. Which also means fewer boys, so fewer men.
[–]sstenaFDS Apprentice108 points109 points110 points 5 years ago (23 children) | Copy Link
The same would happen than when an abused woman attempts to leave: violence. Even more violence.
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Apprentice81 points82 points83 points 5 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Women living with men are most at risk. If we stopped sharing our living spaces with men we are less likely to face violence from them, not more.
[–]yesmmeFDS Newbie44 points45 points46 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I lived with degenerate scrotes. They were not my friends beforehand. It was a housing crisis and a lack of money that forced us to cross paths.
Never again.
I never want to share my living space or even have a landlord.
Lots of domestic violence occurred between the boyfriend and girlfriend (who were two of my housemates). The boyfriend also expected the women in the house to clean up after them. Fuck that. The housing manager allowed all this violence to continue. My two okayish female housemates and I were stuck while other LVM housemates abruptly left. My landlord was also a very violent man. Word got out that he had strangled a few previous tenants.
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Apprentice34 points35 points36 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
That is really scary. I think women are safer living alone and if you think that is think that's not enough get a big dog or a good security system.
[–]yesmmeFDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Women are hands down more safe living alone. This is why there’s a plea for safe and affordable housing. I wish the outcry for it was louder. There’s also an even more radical plea for housing to be free because even as a HVW, you can do everything right and still get stuck with abusers because you don’t have enough money to flee and rent another place/buy a house.
I’m also not a hard person to live with but I’ve moved several times over the last decade because of dangerous men. Whether they were my roommates, landlord, or even NEIGHBOR.
[–]AwkwardDisaster4150FDS Newbie26 points27 points28 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is the problem, women not being able to afford housing. I was 29 before I was able to afford a place of my own. All the time between age 17 and 29 I was living with various shitheads in various abusive situations.
[–]yesmmeFDS Newbie29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Even living with other women is a risk too because some of them are Pick Mes or are just plain naive and bring random, potentially unsafe people into your home. I’m a huge fan of living alone and emphasizing safe and affordable or even free housing.
This wasn’t a living situation but I remember when I was staying in a female dorm at a hostel and one of my dorm mates wanted to bring her guy friend in. I asked her why she needed to have her friend come and hang out in the room when there was a common area right outside our door and she got mad and really defensive. The dorm was specifically for women.
[–]throwthisawayred33 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow, I had the exact same situation with the dorms.
[–]yesmmeFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If it was a mixed dorm, it’s more understandable to sneak your friends in but there are reasons why women book a female-only dorm.
Also one time I booked a mixed dorm and this one guy woke me up at 10 in the morning and asked me if I wanted to have cider. Other times, men have masturbated in their beds not giving a shit that there were 8 other people (men and women) in the room
[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Disciple9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good god.
[–]princesspanpizzaFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don’t think so. This is an extreme hypothetical and the reaction by men would be extreme. Can you really imagine them just accepting this?
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Apprentice20 points21 points22 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
They aren't accepting the situation as it is now. They are violent now, because they are so used to having women around who put up with their shit.
[–]sstenaFDS Apprentice11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think they would barge in and batter us. They wouldn't just leave us alone.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH45 points46 points47 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I had a male friend suggest male violence stems from their lack of access to sex. He said something along the lines of the state should provide sexworkers for males! That’s is such incredible bullshit. I have beautiful female friends who were abused by their partners. I was as well. Men will be men, you can be a beautiful woman inside and out and they will hurt you. OJ Simpson just came to mind. They can be horrific creatures. I’m generally scared of men. My boyfriend is a gentle giant and that’s the only way to go ladies. First sign of emotional instability, gtfo. They DON’T change.
[–]YesPleaseMadamFDS Newbie33 points34 points35 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
he's an incel. that's one of their tenets.
[–]yolosunshineFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your friend isn’t a friend. He hates women and therefore you.
Imagine were he to say such things about immigrants for instance.
[–]bitch_not_itFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
He's an incel, he's dangerous. This is not a joke or exaggeration. If he was even able to say all that to you, this is an extremely radicalized/unstable incel. Please try to get away from him. I hope you stay safe!
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He seems to have a love/hate thing for women. He’s harmless but you are right to be concerned as so many of the incels are unstable. His situation is really odd because he’s sexy actually, very tall and fit and nice looking, just eccentric and selfish and just not interested in relationships. His thing is just hooking up apparently, although he turned me down in the middle of a passionate make out session. Super odd. He was clearly very excited but he said I needed to get rid of the guys in my life before he would go all the way. Wtf. I had a couple exes that were, at different times, coming back into my life but I was pretty much single. Super odd case study of a guy.
[–]bitch_not_itFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ok, I was def wrong about the incel part. He’s def a mgtow lol. And him saying all this to your face lined up with the mgtows. I still hope you find a way get away from him safely because it’s certain he hates women. Mgtows are just as bad as incels and you’ve described some alarming behavior from him (controlling, crossing boundaries trying to hang out when you have a bf) that could escalate. Stay safe!
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[–]shaezammFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’ve heard that sadistic psychopaths get off on turning women down when they want sex, especially if they are hot - that it gets them off MORE than actually getting sex. Sounds like he could be somewhere on that spectrum. Gross. You poor thing
[–]bitch_not_itFDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Apparently in 1975, the women in Iceland went on strike for one day and their husbands had to take care of the child and housework. That day, shops ran out of sausages ("easy to cook and popular with children")
Women in Iceland got the right to vote in 1915 (along with just 2 other countries). "What happened that day was the first step for women's emancipation in Iceland," she says. "It completely paralysed the country and opened the eyes of many men."
[–]gggggg18812 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It is happening now
[–]GroundbreakingMess51FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was just going to say, the pandemic definitely amplified this a bit.
[–]applemartinFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would like to see it happen and if it did, I'd get some big dogs and firearms and have a grand old time.
[–]HmtnswFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I'd never hear the end of it was my family. Id be told I need to grow up and be normal and do my God given duty.
I've been thinking getting an ESL certificate and turn my tutoring job into teaching and then try to teach in Korea for a year or two. I have some American and Korean friend over there so I wouldn't absolutely be alone in a new country. This will be my only time to do something like it because I'm not tied down to a man and I haven't found a good job once I graduate in this semester. So I'm trying to find a remote job that pays a bit more, work on my certification and get ready to try to make the move next fall. (I'm hoping Covid will be better by then).
I think I won't tell my family until everything is set in stone with a ticket in my hand. Otherwise they will just tell me how awful Korea is (I understand the misogyny and toxic work culture. But my family tries to tell me it is a 2nf world country...) and that I need to grow up and find a man to basically help me pay my student loans (which I'm not holding my breath).
[–]throwthisawayred312 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
find a man to basically help me pay my student loans
while HE'S also got a 120k loan? pshhh
[–]HmtnswFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right. I'm definitely not going to pursue anyone that doesn't have a degree like myself.... when or even if I decide to place myself back in the dating pool.
Exactly.. this advice is just like "dont work on education and developing a career.. just buy some lotto tickets, due!"
[–]buzzkillyallFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That sounds like a good plan, and I hope you are able to make it happen. I chose my own path in my 20s, leaving family far behind, and it was a splendid choice. I saw wonderful places and met wonderful people. I highly recommend, if COVID permits.
Thank you for the positivity. I'm in my late 20s and suffered from dogma, depression and a failing 5 year relationship. I'm going to do something for myself on my own terms for once. Both of my family has traveled the country and abroad way before their late 20s and I know if I don't act on a opportunity now while still young and free to do so, I know I was regret it.... whether I end up liking Korea or not... I think it will be good to have that traveling and other culture immersion experience.
I'm a little older than you, the most important thing I learned in the 20s is that the discomfort of having to live the way your family/society expects of you (their opinion dependent on superficial or out of touch things that aren't really meant to benefit you) is unbearable compared to the discomfort of going against them to follow your heart
You're going the right way! <3
[–]FirstdayinhellFDS Newbie54 points55 points56 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Tbh I dont really want that for myself. I like being in a relationship. But only if it's on my terms and adds value to my life instead of taking from it. But I do agree that women need to be ok with being single so that they dont put up with anything less then what they deserve
[–]bitch_not_itFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not having something bad.. is a very good thing!
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Rape would sky rocket unfortunately. More "beta male/incel uprising" (yes, this is a term they made) would start. And then they'd go full Elliot Rodgers and start killing people because they can't get laid
[–]jargon_explosionFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]RhiannonEmiliaFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is basically what I’ve done and I love it. The only time I crave intimacy and the like is during ovulation, and I know it’s just my body trying to trick me lol. I couldn’t imagine a guy coming in and screwing things up again.
[–]gcfemtasticFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There would be an extreme uptick in violence against women. More beatings, murders, rapes and forced marriages.
[–]StellarSunDanceFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sadly I think men would actually increase murdering and raping us if this happened.
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
what if women stop
Violence against women will increase.
[–]Ok_Satisfaction1911FDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No babies which would help climate change and women would have less headaches *y’all are right. Violence. :(
[–][deleted] 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
We would be enslaved like livestock.
That said, I am one of those women that does all of those things. It’s the best life imaginable.
[–]tossed_salad1005 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not if we collectively arm ourselves. We really need to be doing this.
[–]four_qFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 5 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
More rape
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[–]chatrebelleFDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Also a lot of violence against women, including sexual, is done by romantic partners. I would think sexual assault would actually decrease.
[–]four_qFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wow very interesting
[–]Tell-Me-Whyy42 points43 points44 points 5 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Yeah imagine if women stopped doing porn and trying to get male validation as well, don't think they'd act with sanity
[–]asteria2002FDS Apprentice[S] 30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Well majority of the women get trafficed and they ones who get involved thinking it is good thing can't leave when they see how it really is.
[–]four_qFDS Newbie24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Women are just plain fucked. I really think the only option is freezing a shit load of male sperm and yeeting them (in Minecraft)
[–]asteria2002FDS Apprentice[S] 13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would love to be the one yeeting them😍
[–]asteria2002FDS Apprentice[S] 8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol😂
I understand the sentiment but much healthier for all of us if we were able to apply the socialization girls learn to the boys as well.. so they can learn that (all and any kind of ) relationships are important and valuable, and it should be socially encouraged and acceptable that they prioritize effort to create and maintain relationships.. That interactions (with females) do not have to be transactional only.. that it's ok to express vulnerability and sadness. We rob each other of each other when we start thinking divisively like this
(Fyi, hope I'm not insulting you, I don't mean to! I def get the sentiment! Just want that this sub is a place where we all challenge ourselves to resist the temptation to go low when we feel hurt or pain... at the level where incels and the mgtows are. This sub has been excellent for my mental health and self esteem and I think its because we try out best to go high)
[–]asteria2002FDS Apprentice[S] 6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I would love this but sadly, it is not as simple for a women to stop doing porn.
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[–]EspionagessFDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's already happening all over the world. Little movements in South Korea and India as well as US and The Pacific. Both developing and developed countries are shifting towards women putting themselves first and men are foaming at the mouth with rage.
[–]UnstrirringCoffeeFDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some of these comments really disturb me. In every country on Earth the statistic proof that the women most at risk from are the ones partnered to one. If we stop dating men (and kill the sex industry) the murder and rape rates would go down, not up.
Men with female partners do not hesitate to kill or rape. Furthermore, who should these sacrificial women be, partnered to scrotes to keep the rest of us "safe". It is the very fact that sex and relations are easy to get for men that causes all these problems.
[–]ninetiesbaby16FDS Apprentice1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
I think men would just opt out of society even more than they already do. They’ll either just k*ll themselves or stay unemployed watching porn and playing video games in their mom’s house. They’ll literally just be stepping aside for women, since they won’t work so all prestigious and powerful jobs will go to women. I really don’t think they’ll go on killing sprees en masse, it’ll happen here and there but the majority won’t even have the motivation to get out of their gaming chairs. Men can’t do anything without the motivation of pussy.
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