Why are men like this

neon_skelton · 2021-12-24T06:32:05+00:00

I used to tell my ex that I preferred silver or platinum jewellery. I bought a pair of rose gold earrings ONCE to wear to a wedding and suddenly he kept telling everyone that I loved rose gold.

He got mad that he had to get my engagement ring re-designed as he had asked the jeweller to make it in rose gold, as that was my favourite.

brylm92 · 2021-12-24T14:45:32+00:00

Briefly dated a guy who told me he always buys jewellery for girlfriends and he's really good at it, kept asking what kind of jewellery I liked for future reference. I told him every time I didn't want jewellery, thank you, I barely wear it, and I'm really picky (extra secret reason: he was greedy and stingy and I don't want shit cheap jewellery). Didn't listen. Told me that's all he gets for girlfriends and I will like it. Thankfully we didn't last long.

Another guy bought me disgusting, childlike earrings with an animal I liked and acted like I should be over the moon with them. Told me they were incredibly expensive and he'd put loads of thought into it. I was an appreciative pickme but could tell they were cheap.... Googled, immediately found them on Amazon, 10 bucks. Ew.

I often think buying jewellery is a cop-out. Men can pretend it's expensive and that they care but in reality it's a generic, route A gift. Also, they can act like you're the ungrateful one for not appreciating a piece that is blatantly not your taste but may have cost a whole 3 hours work. I know it's not the same for everyone , but for me they're basically saying they know nothing about my interests, likes or hobbies, and can't be bothered to put in more than minimum thought.

NotYourCirce · 2021-12-24T05:38:50+00:00

It’s like when I tell a man, “that feels good, keep doing that” and instead he switches positions

Eqvvi · 2021-12-24T09:12:35+00:00

You bet the scrotes would flip out if they liked pc games and you bought him a game for nintendo. Or a racing game instead of fps... Scrotes.

Myplummms · 2021-12-24T05:22:41+00:00

I just refuse to repeat myself anymore. That motherf*cker heard me the first time

aquietsword · 2021-12-24T05:25:55+00:00

I don't nag. I'd just stop dating the useless man 🤷🏽‍♀️

VintagePallor · 2021-12-24T06:53:28+00:00

As someone with a huge collection of silver and white gold jewelry who cares DEEPLY about my personal colour palette that first slide literally made me gasp in fury 😤😤😤

vbych76 · 2021-12-24T05:03:16+00:00

😆😆 and it suddenly turns out that actually all of her jewelry is not silver, but 95% platinum, because of her allergies and the rashes she gets from silver and gold. Someone give that man a 🥇 for participation.

JustTrynaSleep266 · 2021-12-24T04:54:44+00:00

Because they think from their own perspective rather than try and truly, genuinely empathize to understand the other. It’s the lazy way of trying to be “thoughtful” without actually being thoughtful.

NotMyRealName814 · 2021-12-24T13:26:45+00:00

If you go on a date with a guy who mentions a woman "nagging" whether it's his mother, ex-wife, whatever, that is a BIG red flag that he doesn't respect women. Proceed accordingly.

aoi4eg · 2021-12-24T09:09:58+00:00

I absolutely LOVE costume jewellery. The majority of my rings and earrings are of a small saucer size and I wear at least 2-3 pieces daily. One of my exes decided that my taste is "trash" and gifted me a lot of small gold pieces with diamonds. Like teeny-tiny pedants, barely visible stud earrings, miniature bracelets etc.

Obviously, I never wore any of them and eventually just gifted them to friends and relatives who preferred these styles.

Determinedblonde · 2021-12-24T11:19:31+00:00

Silver might suit her skin tone. I personally look good in both, but dude should be using his noodle.

Fun idea - he likes watches? Let’s get him a necklace. One of those gold gangster chains.

blablaisso · 2021-12-24T04:41:50+00:00

Idk but for me this behavior is one of the most off-putting and abusive ever. Like why don’t you give her something she likes? Why do they always try to change the woman ou break her boundaries like it’s some sort of game? It’s the lack of respect for me…

biwinny · 2021-12-24T23:40:56+00:00

They're literally worthless lmao

I got to wonder what these men offer their gfs/wives outside of something warm to sleep next to

sleepysiri · 2021-12-24T21:34:16+00:00

This is common sense 💀

FI-REfox · 2021-12-24T14:02:03+00:00

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spinsterchachkies · 2021-12-28T16:41:47+00:00

Yeah if you just listened the first time I wouldn’t have to repeat myself

Title	Why are men like this
Author	xehale
Upvotes	1496
Comments	40
Date	December 24, 2021 1:48 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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