Men formulate their questions correctly

Superannuated_punk · 2025-11-14T07:53:43+00:00

Speak for yourself. I spout any old shit.

Siukslinis_acc · 2025-11-14T08:40:33+00:00

A relationship is more than sex (what percentage of the whole relationship sex takes up 1%?). So you give advice that incorporates stuff that is outside of sex and then you immediately get comments like "that won't get me sex".

If you want advice that focuses on the sex part of the relationship - ask for sex advice in relationship.

It's like you ask "what is a sun?" I give you the astronomical definition and then you say that your question has implied a cultural definition of the sun. as you can talk about the sun from multiple perspectives/aspects. Like, culture, astronomy, biology, physics, etc.

If you want a concrete answer - ask concrete questions instead of assuming the other person knows your implications. Have a spine and ask directly what you want. I mean you can assume, but instead of being frustrated that they didn't get your implication - elaborate. Like when you ask relationship advice, you can then say "I was more interested in the "how to initiate sex in a relationship" part", instead of accusing them that they answered incorrectly.

For us, our questions are always correct. Thing is that people have different lives and interpret the same thing differently. You should be aware of that be ready to elaborate or explain it differently.

Axis_Control · 2025-11-14T08:28:50+00:00

Most men will likely not be able to have casual sex tbh.

Lemon_gecko · 2025-11-14T08:27:40+00:00

"In any case, when men ask for advice on how to have a relationship, it automatically implies a request for advice on how to have sex, or more precisely, how to be sexual in the context of a relationship."

NO. Just no and it's complete lack of awareness and gaslight. Men spelled it out for us, in no uncertain words that they don't want to be in relationship, don't want to be liked enough for relationship, some want to be assholes but still get sex.

Your whole point crumbles because you don't know men. I want to steal this opportunity to illustrate why women's advice and perspective matters, because men know themselves, and they know men they know, but they don't know what women facing from men, how their act are perceived and they don't know how those men that you "know" act with women at all.

lesliecarbone · 2025-11-14T11:08:29+00:00

Does asking for advice about how to have a relationship automatically imply a request for advice about how to have empathy or, more precisely, how to be empathetic in the context of a relationship?

Diplomatine · 2025-11-14T11:57:51+00:00

If relationship implies sex, giving you how to get into a relationship equates to giving you an advice on how to get sex.

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2025-11-14T12:42:35+00:00

It makes no sense why anyone would ask online strangers for dating advice. Ask people who know you. All you’ll get from strangers is generic “wash your ass” advice. Ask friends and family to give you specific “the way you chew with your mouth open is off-putting” type of advice.

Pathosgrim · 2025-11-14T13:28:40+00:00

Men's mistake is asking Women for that kind of advice

wtknight · 2025-11-14T13:31:03+00:00

There is no reason to separate sex and relationships into separate types, because sex is a basic and essential part of a romantic relationship.

People have sex all of the time without a relationship commitment, whether casually or just as friends, so that is why they are often broken down into separate categories. A commitment into a relationship often requires the giving up of sexual freedoms in order to commit to that relationship, although this is not the case in “open relationships” (which in my opinion are a very nebulously defined concept).

b0f0s0f · 2025-11-14T08:01:09+00:00

Sex is an essential part of a relationship but there is definitely a whole separate world of strategies and advice for people who want casual sex vs those who are looking for a real relationship. Some women give perfectly good advice although I must admit that this sub has lowered my opinion of female rhetorical capability on average lol

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-11-14T13:34:35+00:00

no they dont. man ask "how do I get a girlfriend?" and "how do I get girls to like me?" , when they mean "how do i get hook up sex". then they get mad when women tell them how to get a girlfriend

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SexCrispies · 2025-11-14T18:35:00+00:00

It absolutely makes sense to divice the advice. Just a sexual relationship requires a different approach to maximize results than when you want to maximize relationship outcome results.

Emergency-Sell-6713 · 2025-11-14T21:22:00+00:00

Women get this confusion because many women seek a relationship, not sex. They project their own thoughts onto men.

EugeneCezanne · 2025-11-14T15:22:02+00:00

expect the same clear answers it automatically implies

Clarity and implication are somewhat conflicting concepts. In fact, men will often protest that this is not what they mean.

because sex is a basic and essential part of a romantic relationship.

It can be, in most relationships. But to be clear, sex isnt actually a necessary condition for a relationship.

More commonly, it is easy to see that a romantic relationship is nowhere near a necessary condition for sex. From your argument, it sounds like men probably should be a bit more clear.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-11-14T15:25:25+00:00

Nope. You mean sex, as soon as possible, and with as little effort as possible, guaranteed. Anything else is “useless” and “a waste of effort”

Not a “girlfriend” or “to be less lonely” or “to have someone listen to your problems” or “to have someone understand”

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attendquoi · 2025-11-14T14:18:39+00:00

If you ask me for advice on how to have sex in the context of a relationship, I'm going to assume you already have the relationship.

James_M_Croft · 2025-11-14T15:48:00+00:00

Men are problem solvers. Women are not.

ResponsibilityAny217 · 2025-11-15T05:27:18+00:00

any case, when men ask for advice on how to have a relationship, it automatically implies a request for advice on how to have sex, or more precisely, how to be sexual in the context of a relationship

Y imply ? Just ask what u want to ask.

Sex, relationships, love, lust, attraction and desirability etc are all different things they can go really well together but they are different.

This is y TRP has sexual market value vs relationship market value. To help make sense of all the different categories.

Specialist-Age9387 · 2025-11-14T16:48:22+00:00

Ok…. Be good at sex with someone who is def positive? Problem solved?

The_Forgotten001 · 2025-11-14T09:08:27+00:00

You are correct. The only difference between a friendship and a relationship is the sexual aspect.

Inb4 sex isn’t intimacy.

It depends on the person, but thats not something you do with your friends unless FWB… in which case the only difference would be starting a family.

chocobolamo · 2025-11-14T11:27:04+00:00

Mens issue is they assume rationality. They aren't dealing with rational people and rational women. They're dealing with women.

Title	Men formulate their questions correctly
Author	Cultural-Ad-8486
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Date	November 14, 2025 7:17 AM UTC (8 months ago)
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