One of the things they talk about in sociology is that, since some systems lie about why they exist, you can tell what a system in society is for by what it does, not by what it says it does. Incompetent people will still occasionally do things right, but competent, disingenuous people will consistently oppose their stated goal. For instance, segregation was supposed to be "separate but equal," but in reality, while black people and white people were separate, they were never equal, so the system was about enforcing inequality, even as it said it wasn't.

What does the blue pill consistently do? Why do feminism and purity culture, despite being at odds on paper, both teach that male sexuality is degrading to women (objectification vs. sin)? Why does every institution tell young men to "just be nice?" Why is it that women have such a hard time finding good men attractive, and good men have such a hard time being attractive these days?

It's simple, the blue pill is a system designed to keep men and women apart.

I think the most charitable construction is that it's only designed to keep less socially competent men away from women, since it's assumed that only men with significant mental health problems would have significant deficits, but that's not really true anymore. Social media, COVID, changing social attitudes, disappearance of third spaces, and more are contributing to the problem of men being under-socialized, and we can't keep imagining that when you say "just be nice" that what a significant portion of men will hear is "balance being nice and sexy." I understand the desire to protect women from crazy men, but that attitude is outdated and unhelpful, objectively, since it's just causing a greater and greater divide between men and women.

You could get conspiratorial and suggest that it's more sinister than that, but that's for another post. The simple fact of the matter is that "The Lord of the Flies" is not a documentary, you do actually have to instill both morals AND aggression in boys. You can't just think they're little sex pests that need to be reigned in on all sides.

I've said it before and I'll say it again, the red pill is just teaching young men how to be normal if they don't already get it. Everyone agrees with the red pill when you couch it in different terms, and the most common argument against the red pill I see when I present it for what it is, is that men should already know this stuff by high school, and that if they don't then there's something wrong with them.

TL;DR: You can't have every social institution lie about how relationships work, and then expect people to end up in happy, healthy relationships.