Can’t do this shit while I’m broke 😭

chronicideas · 2024-10-05T15:50:05+00:00

I’m in London UK, but my best mate is always broke as fuck but ladies have said he’s a better fuck than rich guys they’ve dated. My mate said he has to fuck like his life depends on it cos he ain’t got no money to offer 😂

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-10-05T16:08:31+00:00

Last date I want on I blew $200 and my date still made me feel poor,

Simply don't spend that much money on dates if you can't afford it.

Had some lady ASK ME OUT last night, she was like “dw we can split the Uber to the bar, shots are a dollar :)”. I had to ghost her cause I don’t have $30 😭 it’s a special type of agony.

Or you could have said I'm in med school and have no disposable income at all. And then recommend a more affordable idea.

dnavi · 2024-10-05T15:32:46+00:00

Yeah I definitely wouldn't date if I didn't have enough money to support myself getting a coffee lol. Get your priorities straight. Also, there's no reason to spend maybe more than 20 bucks on a first date if the girl really likes you.

Bebe_hillz · 2024-10-05T15:31:12+00:00

"so im tryna find my wife..."
you have no money why are you looking for a wife???

Zeppelin2 · 2024-10-05T16:19:40+00:00

This is why some men marry girls that are like 10 years younger (no Diddy). It often takes time for a man to establish himself financially.

immaSandNi-woops · 2024-10-05T17:12:03+00:00

Bro, honestly, I think you should be open about your situation, just curate your communication so it doesn’t look like you feel guilty for not having money.

Say something like you’d love to grab drinks but currently in med school and not making that surgeon salary just yet. Let’s have a few drinks at your place or hers, and one or both could cook. Whatever the situation is but doesn’t have to be extravagant.

The point is, anyone who wants to spend time with you will only require your company, not your money.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2024-10-05T15:55:20+00:00

Priorities. Also, live below your means. Women are cool about your financial situation if you’re honest about it. You’re in grad school so you won’t stay broke for long.

appolonysian · 2024-10-05T16:41:12+00:00

Don’t lead with your wallet. Most of them don’t filter on money anyway. That’s an illusion

_guerra_ · 2024-10-05T15:54:12+00:00

I feel you man but don't sweat about it! if you're looking for a wife being honest about your financial situation is the test to see who doesn't care about that and stays with you for your true potential... for the women who cares about your lack of money: fuck them!! and you above all shouldn't care, it's temporary!!! also, if you don't have money don't blow 200$ on a date, change your dating style: invite her for a coffee, cook for her, be creative and don't put yourself against the ropes for a lifestyle you still can't afford... abraço

MrPound4Pound · 2024-10-05T15:32:09+00:00

I feel you. It's about $40 a night on a Saturday night for me with drinks and parking included and I'm sure it will be more once I find a lady friend to keep going out with but I'm just talking as someone going solo or with a wing and spending on myself. Would be $50+ if I went to the clubs with covers.

I am balling at this point in my life though so it ain't an issue but I'm still wondering myself how I could have ever done this during my college days back when I had to ask my friend $10 just to get into a club one night lol.

akin975 · 2024-10-05T15:53:21+00:00

Go for a picnic date or walk across a lake or a garden.

But, first, try to finish grad school, get a job, and later think about dating.

genericriffs · 2024-10-05T16:05:50+00:00

I’m right there with you bro. Always have leaned on my looks, charisma etc to get women but tbh if I did happen upon a good one it would be hard to keep her because I’ve had some job/money struggles over the last couple of years. I want to be able to provide and pay for everything and that is hard to do when you’re broke. It definitely hurt my last relationship worrying about money and being stingy, it was a vibe killer. Lesson learned. I’m trying to to change, got a new job and cut out alcohol and partying for now (that was a big expense) among other things, so trying to actively fix these issues. Good luck to you

therealwoujo · 2024-10-05T16:39:08+00:00

Youre broke because you spend $200 on dates like a moron.

The less you spend on dates the more attracted women are.

InTerZz · 2024-10-05T16:13:34+00:00

U don't need a lot of money for the game. The game is your attitude and confidence.

To meet more girls: You can apply for cheap local dancing classes, find cheaper work out options. Volunteering is free, you can meet a lot of girls that way and helping others makes you a more interesting person.

However, you absluyely need to be financially stable. Dont do it for women tho, do it for yourself.

asanskrita · 2024-10-05T16:54:05+00:00

You want a wife. Rich and poor and all that. If she won’t date you poor, is she gonna make a good wife?

You’re gonna have to date on your own terms. Just be honest and vulnerable. “Hey I’m in school and broke this week. We can go for a walk in the park and watch the sunset, or you’re getting this round tonight and I’ll hit you back next time.”

I’ve dated some women who were dead ass broke and I know plenty of women who’ve dated broke dudes. It’s fun as a guy when you have money to take someone out, but it’s definitely not a prerequisite.

AnthonyPillarella · 2024-10-05T17:00:42+00:00

I'm sorry, you spent what on a date?? Bro, this is 100% on you. A date shouldn't be fucking $200.

I've never spent more than $20 on a first date. $200 is actually fucking insane.

north42g · 2024-10-05T21:51:40+00:00

Eat pussy and fuck like the world will end tomorrow.., give em that toxic dick…, it’s FREE!

3rdLion · 2024-10-05T17:31:26+00:00

My friend moved home to live in his mum’s garage for a while and you should’ve seen the amount of women he brought back there. He just owned the fuck out of it and wasn’t ashamed.

StrongPassion4948 · 2024-10-05T15:38:32+00:00

Focus on self improvement and getting your money up. Grind school, get your degree, get to work and you’ll be good. Don’t worry about dating right now. Get your life headed in the right direction first. Rooting for you man!

Shadow__Account · 2024-10-05T22:19:16+00:00

My prime of dating, I moved back in with my mom into a 10m2 room and went on tea dates that cost me 5 euros in total. It’s all just excuses.

Biichimspiderman · 2024-10-05T15:45:36+00:00

Lmao. You’re not alone, only I stopped looking for my wife. It’s bag time.. she’ll find me

Jironasaurus · 2024-10-05T16:46:43+00:00

That's why it's ridiculous when men think that money shouldn't matter in a relationship. Unfortunately, it determines the kind of lifestyle you can lead with your date/girlfriend. And if you're dating multiple women, all the more it's gonna eat into your wallet. This shit is part of real life after all.

ProFriendZoner · 2024-10-05T22:29:28+00:00

Da fuq you spending $200 on a date for? Hell, send me that $200 and I'll tell you what to do!

haunted_champagne · 2024-10-05T17:38:08+00:00

Don’t you have anything leftover after your student loans reimburse you the difference for living expenses?

Don’t spend $200 on a date, girls are happy with a $12 margarita and some dancing. You’re doing too much. A grad student or someone in a similar phase of life could be a good match for you

playboiferina · 2024-10-05T19:15:23+00:00

If you can’t do it while you broke you can’t do it when you rich either bro

Eezay · 2024-10-05T21:25:49+00:00

any spare money to spend until I’m a doctor in ten years.

You have potential. So fuck what you own now, you have youth, you own yourself.

Last date I want on I blew $200 and my date still made me feel poor

First off, fuck that girl if she makes you feel that way. Second, why the fuck would you spend that much money on a date especially if you are in grad school? Let me tell you, I'm 30, I've been on lots of dates and I NEVER spent that much money on a girl that is not my GF. On first dates I often don't spend more than a coffee for the girl and take her on a walk. And I still got laid plenty.

I had to ghost her cause I don’t have $30

I mean, work on your money then, 30$ for a date should be feasible (if you didn't spend 200 on that other chick at least). But the bigger problem I see here is you ghosting her. Own up your shit or at least make an excuse, but why ghost her over this? Her message seems at least thoughtful to me, offering to split in advance.

Conclusion 1: You are beating yourself up over not having money. You are currently framing yourself as a broke bitch boy. But you could also instead frame yourself as a broke stud pipelayer who will be a doctor in 10 years. Trust me, girls care way less about money than many guys think, especially younger girls.

Conclusion 2: You're dating the wrong girls. Wtf are those girls expecting 200$ on a first date and then still being disappointed? There's nothing to gain here. A quality girl will want to find out who you are on the first date, not how deep your wallet is. And with most FWB's and casual stuff I've had the girls don't even want to get invited. Whether you are looking for your wife or just a hookup, either way this approach is flawed.

Don’t even see how it’s possible to date in this stage of life as a man and a student

It is perfectly possible, others are doing just fine. You can and should always have very cheap first dates for a multitude of reasons. I don't want to dunk on you, but you should definitely own up to that problem and you will do yourself good to get rid of that limiting belief sooner rather than later.

cokeboofer69 · 2024-10-05T21:42:11+00:00

$200? That’s way too much

Forefeather · 2024-10-05T17:24:41+00:00

Every woman that’s been around the block will tell you and their friends that broke dick is better than daddy dick. Just make it work bruh.

D4rkr4in · 2024-10-05T17:26:54+00:00

Yeah chief get ur bands up

Midnight_OpK · 2024-10-05T18:03:37+00:00

You didn't have to ghost her. You could have just told her that you had something going on or that tonight was not a good night.

SoulSingerMe · 2024-10-05T21:02:14+00:00

What date did you go on that you spent $200?? I don’t understand

miyass_miyass · 2024-10-05T21:32:35+00:00

Had some lady ASK ME OUT last night, she was like “dw we can split the Uber to the bar, shots are a dollar :)”.

Mate this chick was down she was making it obvious she doesn’t care about money lol you threw away an opportunity over your insecurity

throwawayPzaFm · 2024-10-05T22:16:50+00:00

If you're going over 50 bucks on a date it'd better be the payment for the happy ending. Don't do that. You're broke, act your wage. The second chick actually likes you and would have been a great 3 dollar date. The first chick you were a meal ticket for.

Thyros · 2024-10-05T23:40:35+00:00

Romance without finance, ain’t got no chance

Sandvicheater · 2024-10-06T01:42:09+00:00

As the ole saying goes don't worry about chasing women, when you chase money and get enough of it women then start to chase you.

mar0530 · 2024-10-06T05:37:27+00:00

Don’t give up hope lad. I matched with a beautiful Indian girl on tinder. She drove an hour to see me. She Bought me Yakuza 3 (I didn’t even ask and never heard of it). We played Yakuza 3. We had amazing sex then ate pizza and watched YouTube videos about the craziest drugs ever.

Small_Professional70 · 2024-10-06T05:28:01+00:00

Money and fucking are two different things! If you don’t have money you can invite them to your home to study together, watch movies, cook something at home and whatever. Just let them know you don’t have money. They will understand it if they are same age as you. Some might actually pay for you if they think you are attractive. I had male friends whose girl friends were paying for them all the time and guess what they weren’t students or anything, they were grown up adults they just couldn’t commit to a job because of drinking and partying habits and they weren’t good looking too but they attractive personality and they weren’t afraid to approach women even when they broke. Goodluck my friend!

rvidxrz · 2024-10-05T22:33:22+00:00

Im glad you know.

Hortos · 2024-10-05T23:06:39+00:00

Marry someone going to class with you that understands or wait till your degree gets you a good paying job.

tigolbing · 2024-10-06T00:53:24+00:00

You're not broke like not trying, you're limited in how much you can work bc of school. Explain that part but plan fun, cheaper dates.

A lack of money is a perfect excuse to get creative and develop skills you'll sharpen once you get to a place where you're comfortable - I feel it will also allow you to build more closeness with the women you see.

Spending money is easy but picking a girl's mind, being spontaneous, being present and engaged and actually working to know how they work (even if you're not interested long term) are good social skills to work on

BoomingVi · 2024-10-06T12:21:01+00:00

You shouldn't be trying to date if you can't even afford your own half of a date. What if it doesn't go as you hoped? Are you going to make them pay for you too?

I'm a woman and I do not go on dates I can not afford myself. Not about to have some person tell me they paid for my shit.

And unfortunately the meaningful dates that have less to no expenses come AFTER the first dates. No person that respects themselves will be going to a strangers house to hang out for a first date.

reallystupidbf · 2024-10-06T15:55:48+00:00

I remember seeing a post before about how a guy who was in medical school used to tell girls he’s too busy to go out cause he has to study and he would just invite them over to his crib and fuck.

He kept a good rotation and if they would ask for more he’ll tell them he can’t provide but they knew he was gonna be a doctor so he was a meal ticket waiting.

I think you can easily pull it off without having to spend on dates and substituting it with a cooked home dinner.

DDDystopia666 · 2024-10-06T17:23:39+00:00

200 on a date seems pretty mad tbf. Definitely possible to do things that bleed you to that extent.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-10-06T18:12:45+00:00

I just take dates to coffee shops for the first time. I don't know why you'd spend $200 on a date.

Maximus_258 · 2024-10-06T20:43:30+00:00

Honestly nowadays women don't care as much about your finances. If she asked you out she is attracted to you. BE straight with her and that's it.

Riflesights · 2024-10-05T16:38:46+00:00

Give it a bit of time dude and you’re gonna be swimming in it. Sorry things are tough now, but I really do hope you’re proud of yourself for doing the right things first. You sound like a good man.

rando755 · 2024-10-05T16:49:08+00:00

If you're that poor, then focus on your career first and worry about dating later. In the long run, you're better off that way.

FlexibleRock · 2024-10-05T20:18:21+00:00

Then don’t do it and focus on becoming more self-sufficient

khloH0 · 2024-10-05T20:21:21+00:00

Honestly, being in med school already is attractive and sounds rich. Tell her you’re struggling financially due to med school and see where it goes. The worst that could happen is it not working out

fatal1tyltf · 2024-10-06T05:25:12+00:00

$200 on a date?? lol. should've just paid a hooker at that point.

First of all, find a job. Become a server, flip burgers, barista etc. just do something. Don't tell me you don't have time. If you can go on reddit you have time. On the other hand, when you're broke meeting and dating is the one thing you CAN do. Just don't go out looking for a wife or you'll be disappointed. Go on simple dates like walks in the park or some shit. Stop the excuses and do the best you can with what you have.

TvaMatka1234 · 2024-10-06T05:50:22+00:00

You in med school? Take out more loans if you can. I'm also in med school and the loans are plenty to live off of, even for "fun money". At least, in my relatively LCOL city.

three_dead_trolls · 2024-10-06T06:38:27+00:00

One of the great things about finding someone special: u get to stop blowing money on random idiots, using you for money.

karliejai · 2024-10-05T16:39:29+00:00

Bro, dating is the last thing you should be focusing right now

casey-primozic · 2024-10-05T20:15:10+00:00

Send your likes my way lmao

burncushlikewood · 2024-10-05T21:09:10+00:00

The good thing is you're in grad school! You mentioned it was for medical school, you got into grad school where only a small percentage of elite students get the chance, sometimes only 10% get in and you need at least a 3.5-3.6 GPA. Now on to your problem! When I was in university (computer science major) I took out a student loan, a lot of kids have their parents pay for their post secondary education. I took out a 13.5 k loan which was for housing, food, tuition and other things. Firstly OLD is not my thing, and I always encourage men to approach women in person instead of trying to DM her, this gives you much more control in person, body language, speech, touch, things you can do to build comfort with her than some random man trying to message her on the web. If you can't afford to take women on dates and you can't earn because you're too busy you have to find solutions to this problem. My suggestion to you is to look into co-op jobs, I'm not sure what jobs are available for doctors, but a coop job is usually in the summer time off school. 10 years is a long time, and if you completed pre-med, you got in, then I assume your residency is what will take so long, If you're planning on becoming a surgeon, keep in mind that resident doctors receive pay. Try to find side hustle jobs, you could get involved at your school as a TA, you could offer tutoring lessons, maybe you have some skills that could help you out? I knew a guy that did glass blowing in his garage, you could sell things you don't need

donttakeitinut · 2024-10-05T15:37:38+00:00

Maybe you are thinking too much? If she really likes you, not having money will be the least of your problems

Badguy60 · 2024-10-05T16:50:18+00:00

Get money first

SithLordJediMaster · 2024-10-06T06:01:17+00:00

All animals look for a mate who has good genes, a good partner and is a good parent.

Females look for status and resources.

Get some money bro...

Numerous-Musician-58 · 2024-10-05T16:51:28+00:00

Invite them out on walks, no reason to spend money on the first date, that being said no woman is going to be into you if you’re not even able to afford a coffee. Gym is great but get a sales job with flexible hours or something.

Stop2Smile · 2024-10-05T16:57:21+00:00

I’ll marry you

IdlePerfectionist · 2024-10-05T17:01:38+00:00

Use a credit card bro 😂

poly_nerdy_panda · 2024-10-05T17:58:29+00:00

i did my best work while broke... no chick cares about $$ ... you can do food banks for food and side hustle jobs like cut old ladies grass... you have lots of energy and time.... i really suggest you just lie on your resume about graduation... no companies check unless your going to be a lawyer or doctor... worked for major companies and no one checked my degree to this day 7 years later

ratfooshi · 2024-10-05T20:05:21+00:00

Get you a sugar momma.

Both problems solved 😎

younglo23 · 2024-10-05T20:40:46+00:00

Trust me brother women love broke men even if you had money you never want to lead with your wallet because you’ll only attract bills and high maintenance women. School and charisma and good sex will always get you far with the ladies trust me and if you do well they will be paying you till you get your money right

Training_Fix4076 · 2024-10-05T21:40:06+00:00

Can you sell your blood

riordanajs · 2024-10-06T07:58:01+00:00

My advice is don't spend a dime on a girl who you haven't had sex with. There's a social dynamic behind this. If you invest earl, especially when broke, you'll have a lot to lose, so you'll come off as desperate. It's a complete turn off to the woman. You need to get them to invest (either time, emotions or favours, if not money), that's the only way she'll have incentive to get a relationship going.

There are so many things I could go in this post that stand out to me, but most important for you to important here is what Fight Club taught you: "You are not your money" and "things that you own end up owning you". Watch the movie if you haven't seen it.

Only women who are interested in money are gold diggers and you don't want them. Become the man, you can't get it by anything external, or by anything that you do, you have to become the man and BE the man.

Check you Owen Cook Freetour on Youtube for more.

Title	Can’t do this shit while I’m broke 😭
Author	random-naija-guy
Upvotes	357
Comments	135
Date	October 5, 2024 3:23 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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