When and how to reignite the conversation after she doesn’t reply to you?

Yerebeets · 2021-12-12T15:43:50+00:00

In that case, if she haven't responded i go silent for 3-4 days. If she don't write herself i shoot her one last text - proposing to meet. If she agrees you continue, if not / doesn't reply - next

therealslimshady1234 · 2021-12-12T14:56:45+00:00

Move on to the next

Nearby_Advance7443 · 2021-12-12T17:07:08+00:00

While I struggle with women I’ve studied enough to understand the how, I just have nerves and application problems. But texting game is the same as the rest of dating game, in that it’s a game and should be fun. So be playful and entertain yourself with it. A silent girl in text is only a challenge that we should take on with enthusiasm. Wait an amount of time that feels appropriate to the circumstances, ensure you don’t sound too needy, and go for it. No amount of silence is ever total game over, just refrain from being needy. The only absolute game over is when she explicitly asks you to leave her alone. That is when you should knock it off and never text her again. Otherwise, it’s just a game.

bcool_returns · 2021-12-12T16:52:24+00:00

Wait a sec, did you "kinda" set a date or did you ACTUALLY set a date? Solid date plans involve a DAY and a TIME and a VENUE. That wishy washy energy has a lot more bearing on your success than anything else you posted, a lot of which is based on speculation.

Also, a lot of guys are a bit too pessimistic about silence. It happens. Sometimes conversations come to an end. Or maybe your question was a lame/weird one. Anyway, if you've already made SOLID plans to meet a girl, small talking the girl to death is not the move.

Finally, you need to express healthy entitlement and confident persistence. My frame is this: If we've had established plans and she goes quiet once that's a bit weird. And I have no problem double texting in a playful way that assumes the positive, which is exactly how I would handle it if it was a homie I had plans with.

Different_Spinach8 · 2021-12-12T15:08:22+00:00

Move on. F her. Go make money and hit the gym

Crowddsurferr · 2021-12-12T16:45:19+00:00

Her not responding was her response

FrostedFluke · 2021-12-12T16:17:27+00:00

Everyone is saying move on because in those situations their ego's get in the way so it's easier to move on.

Personally I love a challenge and I don't take these personally.

Ghost her for a few days/week. If she reacts to a story of yours or messages you, ignore. Leave her on read.

Text her back a week or so like nothing happened and don't ask, but tell her, Let's go out sometime.

If you really don't give a fuck, you can get away with saying "go out with me." some girls love the directness.

Edit: You mentioned you have something set up for Friday. Don't text her on Wednesday it's needy. I'd personally hit her up on Friday with a quick text like "Hey you still good for today?"

If she makes up an excuse or leaves you on read or replies 10 hours later. 'all good' and then just message her the week after.

putcoolusernamehere · 2021-12-12T16:37:45+00:00

The responses on here are very ego-driven. A bunch of guys who can't handle a girl not responding to them, so it's easier to just say "fuck her, on to the next." In reality, a simple follow up is going to at least some % of the time (probably somewhere between 10-20% depending on the girl) reignite the conversation.

Ego is a major results killer. It's just like with rejection. If you're too afraid to get rejected, you're not putting yourself out there enough and lowering the volume of girls you get a chance with to begin with. So just send a harmless follow-up message (change the topic completely) in 3-4 days, knowing she probably won't answer. Don't just directly ask her out in the first message, build up to it through some small talk. In the long-run, this will generate you several more date opportunites than letting your ego take control and just nexting her.

DbblStitch · 2021-12-12T18:33:12+00:00

I'm a woman and if I don't reply within the hour in the first stages then I'm not into you. Everybody makes time for people they care about. You can try three times then move on. It's a turn off when a guy shows too much interest.

daysofourknives · 2021-12-12T20:20:20+00:00

Remember king we don't chase, We replace.. Keep your head up king 👑

TheGnosionaut · 2021-12-12T15:20:58+00:00

You should be texting 3 or more girls at the same time at all times.

gmilfmoneymilk · 2021-12-12T15:55:36+00:00

You don't. Trying to re-ignite shows desperation.

tanenbaum · 2021-12-12T18:03:03+00:00

Should I directly ask her why she didn’t respond / ghosted?

No. Never. That shit is just needy. Bring up something new like her behavior never happened.

jupybacardi · 2021-12-12T15:29:49+00:00

You don’t.

chedeezybeats · 2021-12-12T17:27:02+00:00

You don’t..

khanhvu15 · 2021-12-12T19:37:44+00:00

How about no?

Stevpie · 2021-12-12T19:53:55+00:00

Send a funny meme reminding you of her.. Once she replies, start a new convo and ask her out again. If she's still being flakey than move on.

maxkapital · 2021-12-12T22:13:59+00:00

You don’t.

Acrobatic_Ad_9442 · 2021-12-12T23:32:30+00:00

Let go, move on, don’t let it bruise your ego. But the sooner you let this one go, the sooner you find the next. Do not waste your time with this one.

ksmith11011 · 2021-12-12T16:03:00+00:00

Do nothing and just wait. When a girl goes cold for any perceived red flag she’ll often work her way back if you don’t make any attempt to get her attention again.

Cookies993 · 2021-12-12T16:21:07+00:00

Don’t chase. If a girl wants you, she will make it easy. Chasing only makes you look low-value.

Mmm91for · 2021-12-12T15:46:57+00:00

You don’t, on to the next

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-12-12T16:59:45+00:00

My nigga stop texting and start making moves. Women want to fuck as much as we do but they can't find fuck worthy guys because they all behave just like you. Endless texting and beating around the bush until their pussy dries up.

BrummieAMN19 · 2021-12-12T18:18:30+00:00

Some atrocious advice in the comments here fucking hell. Respond with “Ah 2021, where the likes are responses” don’t be one of those guys that believes in “never double texting bro” or “make her chase” they’re just ego driven, entitled and insecure. Always be persistent with the girls you’re interested in, if it’s more than a day since she liked it send my response.

Beezus333 · 2021-12-12T19:13:07+00:00

Move on bro, FreshnFit on yt is all you need lol

Transurfer_ · 2021-12-12T16:22:23+00:00

Remove re and ignite with a new one brodhaaa

Delicious_Jackoff · 2021-12-12T18:14:57+00:00

Ask her politely if everything is okay. Then ghost for a few days if she responds. Say you weren't expecting one and sent it for common courtesy. If you gotta ghost be good at haunting.

STROOQ · 2021-12-12T17:26:46+00:00

Don't. Not worthy of your time.

PupperMaster1205 · 2021-12-12T17:40:46+00:00

I like sending a meme or reacting to a story or something

tryingmybestatm · 2021-12-12T17:46:14+00:00

if she's not acting the way u want her to act, dont give her attention.

WillyM35 · 2021-12-12T18:13:24+00:00

If she doesnt respond, move on.

Lost_in_hindsight · 2021-12-12T20:12:08+00:00

Call it a day and move on.Less drama.

Fragmentsbysls · 2021-12-12T20:56:18+00:00

I’m confused. Did she share the information with the girl you were texting? You gotta be more precise here like put girl A and Girl B.

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2021-12-12T23:16:50+00:00

Depends how bad u fucked it up

In general- a week or two(if u have options) should be fine. IF you’re not gona be same boring ass loser like be4

Ghost her for now (including not watching stories) go for the next one, get laid at least 2-3 times, make some badass stories, then if u still will wanna ping her, then go ahead. The idea is: abundance mindset

Ps: never call her out when she’s acting disinterested (u can playfully flip the script but thats another story)

Call her out on direct disrespect only.

TheBurgessChurchill · 2021-12-12T23:27:59+00:00

It depends. do not call her out. Regardless of what pick up artists say, it does not work. If she were your girlfriend then yes, you can call her out but she isn't so it's a completely different scenario. In my experience, when you call a girl out, it doesn't usually go the way you want it to go. I've never seen it go well. You said that she only liked your text. It might just be that your text didn't require a response from her. What did you send her? You can send me a direct message if you want and I can help you. I specialize in text game and seducing girls (models) on Instagram.

Emper0rMing · 2021-12-12T23:39:01+00:00

I'd write it off and move onto new things.

cormacru999 · 2021-12-13T01:44:19+00:00

Leave it alone, there are millions of other women. Or go ahead & poke that bear & see what happens. No one owes you an explanation or answer unless you have a relationship with them. If you're chatting with someone, seeing where it goes, you don't really know them that well, they don't owe you anything. It is the nicest thing to do? No, of course not. But often, everyone else is unsure how to handle certain situations too & in the long run, when you don't make a scene, you might run into her a year from now & she'll have decided that other girl was a jerk & remember that you were very peaceful about how this went & she'll be interested again.

Or you demand that she explain & you accuse her of siding with another girl that doesn't like you & she thinks omg the drama with this dude, good thing I didn't date him, & then both of those girls warn any other girl that knows them & you.

Evey choice we make has consequences & the wisest think out the extended ramifications of our choices long term instead of short term. It sounds like you have an idea about why she ghosted you. Do you really need to demand that she prove it? Does it matter? Would asking her convince her that you're actually a decent guy or would it confirm that you're not?

Like I said, let it go, move on to someone else..

maplemario · 2021-12-13T02:39:04+00:00

I love the way Todd V describes this, what you want to do is basically don't force yourself to text anything to her, give yourself a few days, and when you find an opportunity to, "send value into the void". Send her something cool that she will find interesting, don't make it so that she seems obligated to respond, counter intuitively this will make her more likely to respond.

(This is where you have to be able to read your audience, for example I meet a lot of girls through the music scene and I'm a musician, so generally I have something interesting and valuable to send to those girls a few times a week when I make something cool in the studio.)

And if she still ghosts, consider the ratio of the work you're putting in vs. the results you're getting and if you would be getting better value spending time on another girl.

2wood4u · 2021-12-13T03:35:02+00:00

Send a dick pic. Works every time

Merenga · 2021-12-13T04:23:43+00:00

Love should be easy

skank_hunt48 · 2021-12-13T09:04:34+00:00

Just don't text her if she's ignoring you she finds you and your insistence creepy

AidanCastaneda · 2021-12-13T09:06:41+00:00

Stay on your purpose (working out) whatever it is that you like to do. Don’t force anything, show her you don’t need her (you really don’t). If it was up to me I would just drop her (not an ego thing but if she wanted to hangout she would, I wouldn’t want to waste my time)

dLat · 2021-12-13T09:41:05+00:00

Its checkmate. You dont

smind893 · 2021-12-13T12:18:28+00:00

I met a sexy customer at my job in 2017, kept in touch via IG for all these years. She moved to Va (I'm in NYC) & when she was in NYC visiting a friend, I told her about a lady friend who sings in a cover band, this year!!!

She showed up cause she too is a singer so she was into going. We had drinks, got food, messed around, she had to head back cause she had an early bus & we talk now and then for a link up next year.

Always keep a lady around whether they don't respond or break a date or whatever. Unless she says she doesn't want to speak to you or blocks you, just play it cool.

Continue to "LIKE" her posts or leave a comment if that's what you normally do. When something you know she's into comes up, something unique not the new Spiderman movie or w/e, invite her.

The main thing is never focus on one woman, but never drop contact with a woman cause there's always tomorrow.

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2021-12-13T14:31:51+00:00

When a girl ghost you, you take your "L" like a boss and keep it moving. If you want an explanation this means she has very very low interest in you. Why did she play around? Chicks love attention, that's what they all crave. Never double text thes dumb girls back after something like that.

Puzzleheaded-Pack513 · 2021-12-13T16:30:54+00:00

Be persistent, keep texting her sweet things& asking how she’s doing. Show her you really care and are a good guy. Maybe not the same guy her friend knew. Don’t worry about the friend, show her you can control your emotions & thoughts about her & the other girl being friends & not worrying about what the friend says. Be confident& honest. Not confrontational or rude.

Title	When and how to reignite the conversation after she doesn’t reply to you?
Author	Yerebeets
Upvotes	248
Comments	114
Date	December 12, 2021 2:54 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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