How do you respond to rejection texts?

321sleep · 2024-11-20T18:07:34+00:00

You don’t

Ok_Hedgehog_8633 · 2024-11-20T18:15:39+00:00

I do whatever i feel like in the moment. No fixed replies

unworldlydig · 2024-11-20T18:45:20+00:00

Don’t burn any bridges, this one time I never responded and a month later she’s hitting me back up.

bulldawg91 · 2024-11-20T18:51:20+00:00

if a woman does it in a classy way and you think they’re a cool person, nothing wrong with thanking them for the candor and keeping things positive. There are many other women and your self-worth shouldn’t depend on them, so no need to get butthurt about it

vesieco · 2024-11-20T19:08:34+00:00

“Appreciate you being up front. All the best”

likeshismetal · 2024-11-20T20:13:38+00:00

After a date, on occasion, I've politely asked what it was that she wasn't 'vibing' with. I.e. a girl once told me there wasn't enough banter. Which was very insightful to me. Then I just said thanks and left it. There is no reason to keep talking to her.

I did it because I thought the date went well so I was just curious how I could improve for next time.

TheMedMan123 · 2024-11-21T02:16:32+00:00

Just say, "thats cool." Leave it at that. I actually had women laugh and say they were "joking" after I told them that lol

gordonfactor · 2024-11-21T01:15:40+00:00

Wait a minute, you guys are actually getting rejection texts?

IncognitoBudz · 2024-11-20T18:17:34+00:00

Delete, next.

You approached, they declined.

You respect it and let them hit you up if they ever want to.

Example; Had a girl I met off FB, texted each other quite frequently for a week. Met up after she was going a bit cold, the date went okay we talked had a nice walk. I ultimately unfollowed her because I didn't see it going anywhere, guess who I run into at the car show. Yeah its her and her friends, so i tag along walk around for a bit with them hit the show. Then a few weeks later, at 2am I get the down bad text "are you awake" "want to hang out".

Make some small talk and we then head our seperate directions. The thing is if I took this badly or kept pressing she would see me as a "weirdo".

Nothing screams virgin more than desperation.

Informal_Sherbert251 · 2024-11-20T18:17:14+00:00

It depends on your goal. You can take simple soft rejections in a kind way and leave things open. Hard rejections definitely don’t put any more energy into that person that did reject you because it’s not worth it. Attention and respect go hand in hand and if someone’s not willing to give you a hand they aren’t worth walking with in this life. I’d actually discourage blocking people though. It is a toxic trait that will end up ruining the chance of developing long term relationships.

dnavi · 2024-11-20T19:05:32+00:00

I just leave it alone on good terms and not push further. Something like "oh okay that's cool". I don't try to burn bridges if it's not necessary. A lot more fish in the sea.

Awkward_Freedom_4551 · 2024-11-21T03:04:21+00:00

"Day 452 without a response from 'name' food is getting short, morale is at an all time low, not sure if we will make it to the summer." works every time.

serhifuy · 2024-11-20T23:50:19+00:00

Id probably say something like "Aight hmu if you have any cute friends that wanna go out lol" or something. I generally don't like no response, it seems weak and could be interpreted as you're too upset to reply. Strong men are comfortable with rejection and can give a respectful reply to close it out. But I'm older and I know ghosting is just a thing people do now so whatever.

Don't friendzone yourself unless she's a social butterfly w connections and hot friends and you could use her for social proof. I've only ever met one girl like this. Generally not worth it to stay in touch, you'll just stop talking eventually anyway unless you have some common interest or location where you see eachother.

Definitely don't say let me know if your feelings change that's the most desperate beta shit ever. Saying that confirms her intuition about you was right. Dont say "thanks for letting me know" either. You're not thankful, it's disingenuous. Also why didn't you know? I'm not saying you should, but women will sometimes think you should already know she's not attracted because she gave you tons of subtle hints. So could make you look even dumber. Not that it matters that much, but women are social creatures and depending on the situation you might not want her going around saying this guy's a fucking moron if it can be avoided.

I don't block anyone unless they are spamming me or annoying the fuck out of me. I don't block people who don't want to talk to me, lol. Comes off as "I didn't want to talk to you anyway" or "you can't fire me I quit" energy. Just dumb. I've literally made money because someone who I had a loose connection with hit me up years later with some opportunity. I don't close doors unless I need to.

Anyway that's my take. A simple reply, acknowledging but not thanking, and using (non self-deprecating) humor if possible is best.

VinceBrogan8 · 2024-11-20T18:36:14+00:00

If it's a potential that just didn't manifest into a date/hookup ? My canned response is "No worries, hope all is well." For some reason, she doesn't want to get together. I'm not wasting my energy chasing down that reason.

If it's a woman I've been with already, it's situation specific... 'in the moment', as ok_hedgehog said.

Pirloparty21 · 2024-11-20T19:27:38+00:00

I was telling my friend this the other day. Assuming it was respectful, kind, even neutral, be cool about it. I’d respond kindly and chill, for example: “I appreciate you letting me know where you’re at right now, best of luck out there!” If they seem cool and mutually interested in being friends, even better. Two reasons for this:

Women/people aren’t static 2D characters. Things change. They could change their mind or next time you cross paths they may be in a different head space.
People often dread rejecting someone and it can be stressful. If you show them grace or that you’re cool about it they feel relieved and May think, “he’s a pretty cool guy!” They may keep you in mind for their single friends. It never hurts to have more female friends.. they usually have female friends. If you stay friends with them, invite them out to the bar in a group setting, over for a party you host, extra seat at an event, whatever.. friend zone that girl and she may be your best wing man

heartrob22 · 2024-11-20T19:53:28+00:00

I don't text back and leave on their own

matador72772 · 2024-11-20T22:07:54+00:00

Close messaging app

Carry on with my day

No action is needed, move on

rashnull · 2024-11-20T22:36:45+00:00

Smazher95 · 2024-11-20T22:43:16+00:00

I just thank them for their honesty, a chick being honest is a cause for celebration 😂

relaxwhc · 2024-11-21T00:39:24+00:00

I just move on, but it's OK to be platonic friend, it's a pity if you let the chance to bloom the platonic friendship goes by

SithLordJediMaster · 2024-11-21T05:37:48+00:00

Send her this:

Dear my brightest love Juliet,

I do not even know how and where to start. Earthly words are not worthy of describing your rich beauty, a beauty not just shown outside but within your heart. I wish I could cherish you every minute of the day, every day of the year for the rest of my life. I wish I could be that traveler who enjoys a breathtaking view of an incomparable beauty forever. Even statues would want to wake up to enjoy your beauty. Despite all of these, I love you for how you make me feel. Just looking at you, I feel so special. I finally understand why I existed after all. I existed to adore you and be with you. You make the Earth itself feels proud for containing such a heavenly creature. You have the modest personality, the perfect speech, and the gentlest look. I do not even know how to fully describe my true feelings about you. I never felt happier than now.

There is no terrestrial force that could stop my love for you. There is no obstacle that I would not be willing to overcome to be with you. I do not mind climbing up the orchard every night to be with you if I have to. However, I want to present my love for you proudly before the world. I do not want our love to be covertly expressed.

Your love,

Romeo Montague

Him_325 · 2024-11-21T15:47:26+00:00

“It’s all good. Enjoy the rest of your day😌”

Amaran345 · 2024-11-21T18:18:50+00:00

Remember that it's ok to negotiate, secure attachment means a person that has defined but flexible boundaries, and this "flexible" part gives you the ability of negotiating, so give it a try because a girl may say no to a formal relationship but may say yes to friends with benefits, etc

Not responding = bad Blocking = bad Begging = very bad Rude responses = very bad Politely accepting the rejection = ok Politely negotiating = best (though it depends)

Avoidant men have inflexible boundaries, their insecurities deny them the ability to negotiate, this put them at a disadvantage compared to secure guys

Ballislife1313 · 2024-11-20T18:44:33+00:00

It really depends on the person. If the girl is respectful all along and doesn't make me waste my time then I'll also be respectful. If she does waste my time, then it's no reply. There have also been cases where the girl seems like a genuinely cool person and in that case I'll suggest being friends (with no intention of trying to seduce her again, I move on immediately I like expanding my social circle even outside of dating and maybe she'll have a friend for me.

Frankiedrunkie · 2024-11-20T20:00:56+00:00

I don’t

Ryan_the_Scion · 2024-11-20T20:02:19+00:00

If you WANT TO reply and you want to distance yourself from it, use chatgpt to draft a reply and use whatever seems okay in their draft. Then leave it at that.

Gaydame · 2024-11-20T22:13:29+00:00

If you play games you'll get games. Sounds like you want games.

I_hate_being_interru · 2024-11-20T22:18:14+00:00

I understand, hope you have a nice life.

If I don’t understand, then I ask for her reasoning. That way, for the future I will be able to fix it…if it’s a legitimate problem on my end.

mabden · 2024-11-20T23:10:41+00:00

Anything beyond, OK, is a waste of your time.

BJ_Blazcowicz · 2024-11-20T23:21:59+00:00

El mio se llamaba Denzel

BJ_Blazcowicz · 2024-11-20T23:22:07+00:00

El mio se llamaba Denzel

Tatleman68 · 2024-11-21T00:01:42+00:00

Why would this even matter

slipperydildo16 · 2024-11-21T00:24:59+00:00

You assume their phone is lost and go to their house to help find it.

great_account · 2024-11-21T01:05:28+00:00

"totally understand, thanks for your time"

zerolifez · 2024-11-21T01:47:28+00:00

You sort out your emotion first lol. Just from the post I can see that you took it hard, agonizing on reply or not.

The simplest answer is just do whatever. It doesn't matter anyway.

No-Philosophy5461 · 2024-11-21T02:55:34+00:00

Save the dignity

MoTiV252 · 2024-11-21T03:47:02+00:00

‘Alright, have fun!’ And go live my life

PeterLamb87 · 2024-11-21T03:48:09+00:00

Depends on the rejection, its either not respond at all, or an educated thanks bye.

precense_ · 2024-11-21T04:05:23+00:00

Hi, xxx thanks for letting me know, wish you the best.

Iam8incheslong · 2024-11-21T04:14:15+00:00

I just thank them and wish them luck, then move on.

Marighnamani27 · 2024-11-21T04:57:33+00:00

"Ok, fair enough. Good luck to you. Let me know if you ever change your mind. Take care :)" (delete number)

That's it.

Not responding, I feel, is not a good way to go either. It's kind of immature.

Proposing to be friends should never be done. Only do it IF you actually wanna be friends with her. Not in a Nice Guy way.

Acceptable_Act1435 · 2024-11-21T06:02:40+00:00

If I agree there is no romantic chemistry and we got along anyway something like "yeah, I don't feel it either, but we could stay friends if you want :)". It has happened that they start getting interested in fwb after showing that I'm m ok with noth having sex and not pressuring them

If I was attracted something like "too bad, I would have give it more time, but thanks for telling me. Wish you the best!" Even in this case I have written some after months, just as friends, to go do something together like climbing. Or maybe you cross paths while clubbing.

If there is not chemistry and we didn't really get along "yeah, agree, we are not for each other. Wish you the best"

Sudden-Conference-65 · 2024-11-21T08:46:25+00:00

If at first you don’t succeed try, try again. (Give it a month or so hahaha)

Plastic_Grand2420 · 2024-11-21T13:44:10+00:00

Cheeky little thumbs up

Kitchen-Historian371 · 2024-11-21T13:55:09+00:00

(Wait a few days) Sorry been busy didn’t see this. Ok cool I appreciate your honesty best wishes

Kylearean · 2024-11-21T19:47:23+00:00

I'd just let them hang. What's the point of responding?

Abundance mindset.

Fast-Expert-9799 · 2024-11-20T18:22:46+00:00

I never even get rejection texts. Whenever I text a girl who's number I got from cold approach daygame, they don't even reply. How rude is that!? Complete silence. I am surprised I haven't sent a text yet telling how much of a fucking bitch they are for being so rude.

VrilHunter · 2024-11-20T18:38:16+00:00

"cool."

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-11-20T18:48:46+00:00

I block. Non response isn't enough, I ain't trying to pull back in hopes of using reverse psychology to change her mind, I legit don't want to deal with someone that isn't interested.

Worth-Combination306 · 2024-11-20T18:50:25+00:00

“K” or nothing at all

Title	How do you respond to rejection texts?
Author	EnvironmentalWestWu
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Date	November 20, 2024 6:05 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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