TL;DR: Having your shit together is the most attractive quality to have in college. Step 1: Be attractive. Step 2: don't be unattractive.

So I'm guessing everyone saw the top post yesterday on how to hook up with girls and college by that apparent idiot named "Raizo". That entire post was the biggest load of bullshit I've ever seen on this sub, but the topic of sex and college is one that frequently comes up and for the upcoming freshers there's a lot of misleading information in order to take advantage. So in the spirit of this sub, I'm going to try and give as much as accurate and honest advice I can.

Sidenote: the only reason you should want to go to college is to get a job at the end of it. That's your priority. Do not go to college because you want to get laid, or you want to "find yourself" or it's what all your friends are doing. You will (and deserve to) fail. The main point to take away here is that the people who say college is the best time of your life did it wrong. You should not go to a liberal arts college and study some bullshit degree like the author of that post said, because:

  1. You are fucking yourself up for later in life. (That's probably why Raizo's still studying at 26...)

  2. By far, the most attractive characteristic to have in college is stability. Having a goal, plan or at least some sort idea of what the hell you going to do after uni is going to set you miles apart from the vast majority guys around you. Both girls and guys will gravitate to that ambition and as long as you don't consistently go on about yourself and how amazing you are, they'll appreciate the one friend or boyfriend who actually has their shit together.

But let's get down to business. This entire framework will based on Mark Manson's approach and Frank Yang's 100 girls in one year art project, so none of the stuff here's my own, I'm completely ripping off these two guys.

The whole basic idea is self improvement.

Honest Truth #1: Girls at college are going to be the most superficial and judgemental people you've ever met. This is because they have to be. They're going to be approached around 5 to 7 times a day (no joke) and because it's college, the majority of guys hitting on them will be idiots. In fact, there'll be so many idiots that unfortunately some of them will succeed. This why the majority of shitposts on how to get laid in college overarching advice is to be an idiot. Do Not be an Idiot. I repeat, DO NOT BE AN IDIOT. Remember why you're there, remember that college is only a stepping stone and you've actually got to have a life, job, house and responsibilities after this. So don't take liberties with your money and health chasing tail. You will regret this.

Best way to beat this?: Work out.

I'll never understand why /r/Fitness isn't on the sidebar any more, but the biggest key to acing college/life is working out and eating healthy. Because girls need to be judgemental in order to sift through the shits to the slightly-less-shits, you need to break through this barrier. The ultimate and universal way to do this is to workout. /r/fitness, /r/fitmeals, /r/EatCheapAndHealthy, & /r/loseit or /r/gainit respectively are your friends in this regard. Do not cheap out on this. There will never be an easier time to start working than in college, and if you haven't got the balls to the gym and pick up a barbell, you won't have the balls to even talk to girls. (Sidenote: If you're working out enough and good looking, girls will come up to you. Makes life much easier.)

Honest Truth #2: You will be the dumbest you have ever been at college. You will be. Everyone will be. People go into college thinking they're some hot shit, then fail epically. Why? The combination of freedom and fundamental lack of responsibility. Yes, they're responsible for themselves, but most aren't thinking about their future or what jobs they need or anything remotely important.

Best way to beat this?: Read.

Read your course-books, (pdfs, don't buy that shit) then read everything else. It's going to give you something to talk about once a girl thinks you've worked out enough to deem relatively worth talking to. Secondly, it's going to give you an edge in getting top grades. If you're hot and you've got good grades, not only are you displaying stability, (remember that key characteristic in college), but girls will use it as an excuse to hang out/study with you. Always a plus. (Sidenote: Don't watch TV. Waste of time. You're not learning anything. Sure you might be excluded when the social conversation turns to Game of Thrones or something, but it's not worth wasting your time. If your friends keep talking about it around you, just say you've read the books and if they don't shut up you'll start giving out spoilers. Further Sidenote: Read the books.)

Honest Truth #3: College is the most socially exclusive time of your life. Everything and everyone is judged by who's knows/banging who. It was ridiculous the number of girls coming up to me and knowing my name because we had a high number of mutual friends on Facebook. Everyone's consistently judging everyone. And you have to, HAVE TO be able to avoid a negative stigma.

Having said all that, when "Raizo" says that it's impossible to break into social group after the first month or so into a semester, this is more bullshit. People change social circles all the time college. That's half the fun to be honest, meeting new people, having new experiences.

Best way to beat this?: Aside from working out, joining the right clubs. This is by far the toughest to navigate, so give me a little leeway on this one.

Now in the post, Raizo says to join fraternities. They didn't have a Greek life at my uni, but judging him on everything else he said in the post, this also probably bullshit. Why would you join a society full of guys to meet girls? By far the quickest way to hook up with as many girls as you can is to know as many girls as you can. Plus fraternities don't sound great for your grades, but every college's social structure is different so I'll let you decide yourself. The best guide I can provide is going to have to be from my own experience so here goes.

I joined 4 societies. One academic (Guy to girl ratio 60:40), one non-competitive sport society (Ratio 70:30), and two social societies (both at 50:50). The key to social standing at uni is knowing as many people as possible. The more people you know, the more you're seen to be known and the more people will want to know you. Law of Social Momentum. By far, the two easiest societies to get laid in at most colleges are the biggest competitive athletics society (American Football, Rugby, Lacrosse, table tennis; whichever one is brought up is conversation most often) and the Christian Society.

If you're the star player on the biggest team, you're not going to need this subreddit. You're going to have a great time, but your life will effectively be: 

Sports, Grades, Girls. Pick two.

I've quite couple of friends who weren't able to balance it, so I'm not overly envious of the challenge.

Religious beliefs aside, the reason why the Christian Society is my preferred choice is because the majority of girls who join the club have never been given the amount of freedom and contact to boys as they have in college, and to be honest most of the guys are dweebs so there's not much real competition. Slight warning though, religious and political societies do tend to have the most drama, so after getting with about a fifth of the girls there, be ready for some blowback. (Sidenote: The number of religious teens that believe that the poophole-loophole is real, simultaneously hilarious and tragic.)

The goal of joining any society is social standing. If it's a sport society and it's continuously being brought up the guys in their are dirtbags or whatever; more likely than not, that's the society where most hookups are happening. It's a thin line though. If a society's something like Poker or Warhammer, and it's seen negatively, it's best to avoid it. Don't join a society because you share a belief, or you enjoy the activity. Join a society that has a reasonable number of girls, know the girls, know their friends, and you'll be away.

Advantage of a society is that the committee or leaders have an incentive for inclusiveness. They need everyone to have a good time so they'll want to keep coming. If you're shy this is the best to break down these barriers...after working out obviously.

Honest Truth #4: Not everyone gets laid at college. You're never going to read this on those "Just be an idiot" shitposts online, but this is me being honest. Not everyone gets laid at college. It's actually quite strange the number of people who go all Ted Mosby and think just because you didn't find the one in those 3 to 4 years, that you're somehow broken or you're going to spend the rest of your life alone. You won't. If you worked out, stayed healthy, got good grades instead of chasing tail, you're going to be fine.

Best way to get beat this?: Remember that it's easier to get laid as an adult than as a college student. Now this is going to sound controversial to those who remember college as the best years of their life, but if you figured your shit out earlier, you won't have to worry. Having a decent career and a healthy lifestyle in you mid-to late twenties is far more attractive then burning out early and spending your life fantasising about what could have been. Single women after college in particular, fall into this trap via a "fear of the body clock". To be frank, most guys I know who did well in school but failed socially, reached 20-30 women within the first two years in work, so I wouldn't worry. Past performance is not an indicator of the future.

Couple of things to remember:

  1. Always live in a dorm on campus. I was fortunate never to have a room-mate, but given the choice of sharing a bunk or social exclusion living out in the digs, I'd take the bunk.

  2. In terms of fashion, /r/malefashionadvice is a decent place to start. Just don't wear a suit everywhere. It's not impressive and yeah you'll get noticed but no one likes that guy.

  3. Attend all your lectures. Good for grades, but the more you're there, the more you're noticed, and the more girls will recognise you on nights out.

  4. Sleep is vital to both working out and grades. You're aren't going to succeed at anything if you're pull all nighters, then heading out. Somedays you have to choose. Prioritise and decide.

  5. Go out a minimum 3 nights a week. Slightly counter-intuitive given the previous comment, and never let your grades suffer. But if you've joined enough societies, you should be popular enough to manage a large enough social circle to select decent wingmen from.

  6. Drink Alcohol. Now if it's illegal where you are then that's a separate problem (...year abroad). And yes, alcohol is bad for your health and yes if you need alcohol to be confident and game, then your game's weak. Having said all that, most drinking is seen as a social habit, so if you decide to opt out of it, you're going to be seen as anti-social. Disaster. Some people balance this by offering to be the designated driver, but you might as well write off any hook ups that night. Also a disaster. My advice, drink enough to be feel the buzz, try to keep it under control, don't drink on your own and don't let it take control of your life. And good indicator of whether alcohol is taking over is the amount of money of you're spending on it. If you're saving money for an alcohol or it's coming out of your food budget, you're relying too much time on it and it's time to work on your game.

  7. Drugs: Same principle as Alcohol. You shouldn't need it if you're game's strong enough, but if it's seen as a social activity, it's kind of inevitable. Again, if legality's a problem, there's study abroad. Having said that I met my current girlfriend during a Mid-semester Rave in the Woods round the back of the dorm and I was nowhere near legal. So it's again it's up to you.

  8. Take up Languages. Aside from the fact it'll get you a job, language classes are populated by 3 types of people. Guys who are native speakers. Girls who are native speakers and girls who are not native speakers who are either looking to pick up a foreign guy or actually genuinely want to learn a language. These classes are an untapped resources as the native speakers end up pairing up together.

  9. Stay clean. People's hygiene really goes to pot at uni. Shower and clean your room daily.

All right that should be about it. Hope that clears up some of the misinformation. Stay safe and above all, remember, you've got the rest of your life afterwards.