[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/15/13 (please upvote - zero karma)

asad16 · 2013-07-15T22:10:17+00:00

I'm really curious about the ASD and the LMR situation. I ran into a situation a few days ago where a girl and I were in bed and she pulls out "I can't sleep with you right now, I promised myself that I wouldn't do this so early (this was the second date)"

See, I feel like the material here teaches me how to defuse situations like this. I don't know why, but I felt like the material that tries to defuse ASD and LMR is really shitty.

Because even though she believes in such a stupid thing like "not to sleep a guy until the 3rd date (or whatever)" it means she believes in something. And I bet that it makes her feel happy inside that she has some self-control with her sexuality.

Now my question is, can someone give me a thoroughly good reason why defusing LMR is something that is positive and ultimately adds value to both people's lives? Sex is great, but is it worth it?

EarthquakeBass · 2013-07-16T01:37:34+00:00

Sorta rando but, anyone have experience(s) or opinions on approaching girls at the grocery store? I seem to see a lot of cute women there but what do you even say? "So, I notice you're looking at bread."

SharkMan4real · 2013-07-15T22:31:51+00:00

There is this girl from my class last semester and I recently got her number. We have been trying to make plans to hang out, so we came to a decision (mostly I did) to watch two movie at her place a horror then comedy. My question is I want escalation but not sure how to do it? She already knows me to a degree and it was before I changed my outlook on life.

donantus · 2013-07-15T21:53:59+00:00

tomorrow and the next day I've scheduled a date each day. We will be having a walk in the forest nearby. I'm 17, only my second and third real dates. So my question is , what do I do? Just relax while talking calmly? How much should I escalate? Wouldn't it be boring just to walk actually? What do I do when it becomes boring? Any tips? (my goal isn't sex, I'm waiting with that, I just want a girlfriend)

thanks in advance, I know these are really basic questions but I need some advice here. I have read the sidebar

eetsumkaus · 2013-07-15T23:48:20+00:00

I feel like I'm subconsciously picky. There's only a few women that make the voice in my head goes "hey, go talk to her" and then when I do I feel like I have to make it go somewhere, shattering outcome independence. Anything less just ends up being friendly banter. Anybody else been in a similar situation, and how did you get out of it? Is there a way to still get practice escalating even when you're not interested? Should this be in a separate thread?

MGM420 · 2013-07-16T02:02:44+00:00

Got girl's number at mall. Asked for a date via text. 'I can't, I'm sorry!'. Would you guys bother to ask again?

pick_up_penguin · 2013-07-15T23:25:04+00:00

Girls working as a cashier and hairdressers. How do I do this?

I've gotten IOI's from these two girls, but I'm aware of the possibility of these girls being paid to be nice. I'm thinking of asking them if they're allowed to date customers. Any good? I have no idea how to approach and close working girls.

I've been out of my game for a couple years since I'm fresh out of a LTR.

EDIT: Got a second question if you don't mind.

So I have no problems with making an approach. I get mad AA, but I don't give a damn about it. I just do my approach without thinking because if I don't do that, I won't approach at all. When talking, I tend to get excited and probably screw up half the stuff I'm saying if it makes sense. I think my mouth moves faster than my brain does at this point. Any tips?

Repul · 2013-07-16T01:48:37+00:00

I'm a very short guy (I think I may never top 5' 6") and I am bowlegged. I know I'm not fugly or anything but those two things make me slightly nervous about approaching woman and make me wonder if it impacts or influences my interactions. Does anybody have any advice for dealing with this?

notbonjovie · 2013-07-16T02:13:09+00:00

This would sort of be the opposite of seduction. I don't really know how to get rid of a girl. Her and I didn't really hit it off romantically but she's a nice enough person to maybe be friends. I didn't text her or anything after we went out and she recently texted me "did I scare you off? some emoticon " I don't know how to quite handle it. I have close ties to her family and saying "I think we should just be friends" sounds so cliche.

borntoperform · 2013-07-16T02:02:54+00:00

Regarding night game: What are some good ways to transition a girl from isolation at the venue to your place, and if the transition doesn't work due to objections (I barely know you, my friend is my ride, etc), a way for the girl to remember you through her intoxication and potential next-day hangover?

matrixs2 · 2013-07-16T02:34:36+00:00

I now have a fuck buddy but it's a double edged sword:

I gamed her so hard that though she wanted a relationship, is more than happy just to be a fuck buddy. this boosts my confidence like crazy so when I do go out and talk to other girls, i'm in a complete DGAF mode.
Her liking me is so easy and fun and the sex is so great that I get too lazy to put in the effort of dating other women. I sometimes ask myself why i go through the effort of dating women when i can basically call her up any time and is down to fuck.

i have no intention of dating her as I just got out of a LTR but i don't know if i should keep her around or not. advice?

pschr · 2013-07-16T01:06:33+00:00

Going to my brother's wedding on Sunday. Plan on picking up a girl. Wedding game doesn't differ from normal club game, does it?

bl1y · 2013-07-15T21:53:31+00:00

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ihopethispcworks · 2013-07-16T00:26:34+00:00

I really like these posts.

There's a story before the question. I had a date today which I left early because a) her family was there and I expected her family NOT to be and b) I really didn't know what to do in this situation. I got a K-close and I'm seeing her again for another date on Friday, where it will be just me and her.

But I feel horrible. I really liked her family and I really liked her but I fucking chickened out because the date didn't go as I expected. To say the least, I reacted horribly to a curveball that I could have seen coming. I acted poorly and I lied to get myself out of it. I feel badly.

Anyway, I talked with some people and I came to the conclusion that I won't do this ever again, obviously. But one of my problems is also having expectations that I become way too attached to.

So what are some tips and strategies about dealing with expectations that just lead to pain? This is something very important to me and I want to change it really badly so any help is appreciated.

Thanks!

i_beep_to_the_boop · 2013-07-16T01:59:53+00:00

what is the simplest and least balls-dependent (It's a joke; I'm just shy) way of asking a girl out to coffee through texting?

Slutmiko · 2013-07-16T01:52:26+00:00

How do I find the point of no return with a girl? I keep trying and failing to have an interesting conversation with this one girl who goes to my gym, but I can't shake the feeling she thinks I'm creepy.

Yocupicio · 2013-07-16T18:04:55+00:00

1.-What to answer when a girl tells you: You are hot!
Ive been told that quite a few times bud i dont know what to come up with to sound witty/alpha

SenorSteak · 2013-07-16T02:46:45+00:00

There's a girl in my nightschool spanish class. There's 8 of us in the class, first class I walked in and she was sat alone, I sat right next to her and we hit it off. Every class we get put into pairs, I've been paired with her once and once in a group of 3. I get good vibes from her but don't know how to ask for her number without looking like an ass. It's a 10 week course, 3 hours a week on a wednesday. There is one other guy who constantly tries flirting with her but IMO comes off as a bit desperate and cheesy. Problem is I can't ever speak to her alone, always other people there and after class everyone just says goodbye and goes their separate ways. Any advice?

Nolan66 · 2013-07-16T02:54:18+00:00

I made plans to hangout with a girl in a few days, mall, movies type deal, first time we are really going to be hanging out, so how should i play things? Touching, hugging? I dont want to come off as needy or anything

pichuaq · 2013-07-16T23:36:01+00:00

A friend of a friend has moved to my city and she asked if i could show her around my city. I don't want to be a creep and hit on her and actually have no idea if shes hot etc ... what should I do if i were going to hit on her?

CharlesAnderson · 2013-07-15T22:46:05+00:00

When seducing women, how can I benefit from being loaded without coming off as a total douche?

koolaidman123 · 2013-07-15T23:07:54+00:00

I have been following RSD Brad's guide to approaching on the dancefloor at clubs http://www.bradbranson.com/how-to-talk-to-women-on-the-dance-floor/ (medium low lighting, not necessarily a "true" dance club), and it's going pretty well. But will the same thing work in a dance club environment, like an EDM club?

VMikeL · 2013-07-16T03:32:04+00:00

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myopia77 · 2013-07-16T03:35:09+00:00

met a girl at a friend's party, k-close, almost f-close, been texting ever since. she's told me a couple of times that she hates her super high sex drive because it keeps her sexually frustrated 24/7. looking for an alpha way to respond, any suggestions?

stoicassistant · 2013-07-16T04:08:31+00:00

Please tell me about gym game and how it's done.

VMikeL · 2013-07-16T04:11:40+00:00

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malignantbacon · 2013-07-16T05:28:52+00:00

What's a good second date for a girl who I've been talking to for a couple weeks now and crashed with after a party this weekend? When I slept over we talked for a bit after some pretty heavy making out and she seemed pretty interested in keeping things going, so we had lunch today and I'm wondering what you guys might recommend onward from here.

exponential_fear · 2013-07-16T05:40:10+00:00

I've noticed a ton of FRs and tips mention the benefits of going out for a smoke, meeting people when taking a break for a smoke, etc. I don't smoke. What're some non-smoking things that are similar?

DarkSideOfThe_Poon · 2013-07-16T05:44:18+00:00

I just found this subreddit on my phone and am extremely interested. Is there a link to a list of what some of these abbreviations mean?

soxruie1414 · 2013-07-16T06:25:27+00:00

I've been attracting more women lately and getting numbers, but I don't always have time to go out at night. Should I invite them out during the daytime or wait to see that when I can go out at night. I'm 20 and living on a college campus with bars.

iTz_Chanch · 2013-07-16T06:34:49+00:00

Seriously wondering about that movie theater question lol, I'm underage and I'd liek some suggestions on where to meet girls. I'm thinking a mall or some other open place where I can talk to them then maybe meet them at a theater later?

wakejedi · 2013-07-16T06:40:22+00:00

somebody post or link to all the CODES (ASD,FB9,LMR etc....)

iTz_Chanch · 2013-07-16T06:44:47+00:00

What's the best way to use music to get laid?

sephsta · 2013-07-16T11:19:22+00:00

Is asking for her Facebook the same as asking for her number?

AlmostVentured_ · 2013-07-17T01:52:23+00:00

Where do I learn all of the "code" that are used on this sub?

Ocasionally_stabby · 2013-07-17T02:28:37+00:00

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Dooey · 2013-07-17T11:52:30+00:00

How do I respond if a girl I have been flirting with texts me "I'm bored" in the evening, but I am too busy to hang out with her? Also, if I can hang out with her I usually respond with "want to hang out?/want me to come over?/etc," do you have any other recommendations?

2013-07-17T19:49:24+00:00

If someone is in a relationship (but aren't planning on being in one forever) what's the best way to "stay in shape" with women when out in bars/clubs or day to day life in general? I'm not saying I want to cheat at all, or make my girlfriend too jealous, I just don't want to get rusty with flirting or regain AA.

hoodrat1134 · 2013-07-17T21:25:56+00:00

How do you start something with a girl you've known for awhile, but never pursued before? Background: I've known this girl for about 1.5 years; we met in school. Never had much interest before, however im interested now. We're hanging out later and going to a fair. I've been applying some tips and rules I've seen on here and it seems everything's going smoothly but im not sure if she's interested (part of the reason for hanging out later). I guess I'm looking for tips on initiating and ways to bring it up while still keeping my game going. It seems like this subreddit is very heavily geared towards talking to new women, so I was wondering if anyone has tips on this situation. TL;DR known this girl for a while, not interested before, interested now, pointers?

Vpicone · 2013-07-18T20:00:45+00:00

What is the signifcance of the x's in [xMODx]

Brownguy21 · 2013-07-19T02:29:59+00:00

What are some good ways to open/pull at a concert?

Fredwoood · 2013-07-20T17:44:03+00:00

Im 16 and got a kinda crush on a 18 year old girl. Is there any hope? Cause ai heard women prefer older friends.... I hope you can help me ;)

cupsaplenty · 2013-07-16T14:25:42+00:00

Long time reader, first time poster.

I f-closed on a girl after the 2nd date about a month and a half ago, with some major LMR (She just got out of a LTR of 3 years). We established that we both aren't looking for relationships. I ended up leaving town for about a month and we didn't really talk after that. I ended up messaging her the other week, and we are meeting up for coffee in a couple days. Through text, it sounds like she is excited to hang out again. How do I re seduce her after a month of no contact has passed? Feels like I might be back to square one.

HumanInsider · 2013-07-16T12:31:37+00:00

Two questions: first, I'm just now discovering the powers of state-shifting (for example; changing your state of mind from work mode, to party mode before going out and approaching women). I am however still struggling with appearing like I think too much on the one end, and/or being too silly on the other. How can I deal with this?

Second, question is on appearing fake, (or feeling like a fake). Wondering if any of you have anything to say about that. Thank you.

Terror1046 · 2013-07-16T14:13:14+00:00

So I was out with a friend at a local event and approached a cute girl. Got her number but she told me she was on a class trip and has to leave the next day. She lives about 3 1/2h away. Well, I texted her anyway but I'm not sure how to keep this going... She doesn't have fb and to get to know her better I thought about calling her and maybe setup a date. Or just forget about it because it wouldnt be a good idea anyway?

carBoard · 2013-07-16T14:21:18+00:00

working abroad for summer off from college. A girl I'm interested in wants to skype this summer and we've been trying to arrange it for a few weeks..

if it ever happens any tips for how to go about sharing my summer / finding out about her summer in a flirty sort of way?

Terror1046 · 2013-07-16T14:35:09+00:00

Another important question for me: I'm 19 and I meet a lot of girls that are 1-4years older than me and many of them are considering me as too young (I guess). Whenever I tell one of them my real age I can read in her face that she's not comfortable with our age difference. Never got past makeout with these girls. How to respond? :(

carBoard · 2013-07-16T14:39:16+00:00

best cold approaches and isolation techniques for girls from europe ?

bl1y · 2013-07-16T15:28:51+00:00

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jswk · 2013-07-16T15:30:27+00:00

I am currently struggling with studies, and given the job environment in my country, will probably be spending many hours on career related things. My question is: how are so many of you so capable that you are able to juggle work/personal commitments and yet still sarge regularly? How am i supposed to have an abunsance mentality if my back end is so backed up?

Lettucegonewild · 2013-07-16T16:03:57+00:00

Fairly successful at gaming HB7-8. I can get with one almost every weekend with cocky/funny, location change, well placed kino and conversational DHV. Cold approach openers have become easier too, but with the HB9-10 it feels different. Is there any major difference in picking up HB9-10s (Night game)?

loupiloulou · 2013-07-16T16:16:38+00:00

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loupiloulou · 2013-07-16T16:25:33+00:00

I'm not old enough to drink. Is the movies a good date spot?

jswk · 2013-07-16T16:42:47+00:00

With regard to books/material that we read. How much percent of what you read do you actually incorporate into your daily life/game? On one hand, it seems pretty ridiculous to make big changes in your game just because some guy wrote it down in a book. What i try to do is to filter out the stuff that i think i not relevant to me, but it feels an awful lot like cherry picking the easy to follow advice.

ericxfresh · 2013-07-16T17:17:18+00:00

How systematic are you about tracking progress? I feel like I'm turning into a keyboard jockey and not really internalizing anything. Methodologically, how do you focus on improving various aspects of your inner game and outer game.

GlowingSun · 2013-07-16T18:23:15+00:00

I find every time I have found a girl and she is interested in me, I instantly turn myself off of them.

For example, I tried to k-close a girl at a party, and got rejected. I managed to get her number earlier in the night though, so about 2 days later I sent her a text just telling her I was sorry for making her uncomfortable (I wasn't actually, just didnt know how else to start a conversation). We spoke a bit more and ended up going on a date where I got to know her a bit, I escalated and managed to hook up with her by the end of the night. We have hung out once since then, where we ended up hooking up again, and we have plans tonight.

My issue is that I have no more interest in her, I found her to be a HB7 but now she just seems way less attractive to me..this happens with almost every girl I have been with. I am just out of a LTR, but I recall that happening before I started it too, only difference is I ignored the negative feelings and continued to go with it, and in the end I was pretty satisfied.

Is this normal? Or is there something I'm not doing? Or maybe is it just I got what I wanted and should move on to the next girl? She leaves in a month and I won't see her again, so I was just going to keep a NSA relationship with her. Any advice would be appreciated..

bl1y · 2013-07-16T19:13:31+00:00

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ZERGSTOERER · 2013-07-16T20:38:38+00:00

My Problem is that I'm perfectly fine when it comes to talking one to one but as soon as it's three people I can't Talk and contribute to the conversation. This is mainly at work. Always when I'm around people I have to deal with for a longer time I get Incredibly shy saying Next to nothing.

Help!?

MonDew · 2013-07-16T20:57:53+00:00

I had a date with this girl i met, but had to cancel/reschedule because of me being sloppy/non-attentive (didn't realise i had to travel monday this week, thought it was the next), and i'm available from next tuesday and on. I'm really afraid that all that time of not seeing her in person, will make attraction fade, especially sincerament it's so hard to escalate over text/fb. Any advice or experience on this?

somesortathrowaway · 2013-07-15T22:22:04+00:00

I made a fool out of myself with a girl who was in my group a friends some years ago. Since then we kinda of went our own ways, I've got in better shape, dress better, more comfortably socially, etc. I hung out with the her the other day in a group setting and didn't get a weird vibe from her. Would it be worth trying to get something rolling with her or is that initial impression unshakable?

Title	[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/15/13 (please upvote - zero karma)
Author	SedditModTeam
Upvotes	256
Comments	268
Date	July 15, 2013 9:39 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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