[xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/8/13 (please upvote - zero karma)

T2morrow · 2013-07-08T19:13:57+00:00

Is there any advice for starting relationships with people that I work with? Or is it a general rule of don't crap where you eat deal. I just got a part time job at a restaurant and am one of the few males who isn't in the dishpit or kitchen and am just curious if I'm breaking any egregious rules.

gadelat · 2013-07-08T21:46:04+00:00

I love short girls! Unfortunately, every time i bring it on, these short girls don't like that I call them short. I think it's obviously because they don't like they are short and many people points this feature out. How can I bring this feature in cocky-funny way which they will actually like? Or I should rather never mention it again? :-/

maestroni · 2013-07-09T02:40:47+00:00

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honeybadger21 · 2013-07-08T19:59:57+00:00

Three questions!

As someone who lives at home with his parents (not by choice), how the hell do I work around that?
I'm a white ass guy who can't tan, does it really matter if I'm tan?
The girls in my area are stone cold and will shoot you down unless you look like Ryan Gosling What can I do about this? I'm in a college town and I'm not a horrible looking dude so I have no idea what the problem is. As someone getting back into PU, this is giving me a bad mindset.

EDIT: I'm 23.

how_lucky_can_u_get · 2013-07-08T20:00:02+00:00

Going on a cruise next month to Alaska. I'm 16. Any advice would be much appreciated. I'm mostly concerned with where I could go in the cruise to meet girls

sauceimprovement · 2013-07-08T21:32:01+00:00

I had a really good connection with a girl at a house party last week, but she left when I was on a beer run (definitely should have number closed sooner). One of my friends has her number, would it be better to get it from him or message her on facebook and get it myself?

spivey378 · 2013-07-09T01:52:46+00:00

How do you react if a girl you're gaming sees with another girl you're also gaming?

I live in a small town and I may bump into one while with the other. Introduce them and say hello? Be shy and awkward and ignore the other girl?

Als0- is is worth it to date a girl who lives in your building?

legendaryderp · 2013-07-08T18:57:33+00:00

I'm interested in a girl who is a practicing muslim. To those of you unaware, ramadan started today and I have a few dates planned for the next few weeks. What should I avoid doing?

edit: and what should I do?

vikingmentality · 2013-07-08T20:53:57+00:00

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borntoperform · 2013-07-08T20:40:11+00:00

Does living with my parents make me a loser in the eyes of women (I'm 23)? What if I need to stay home to pay off student loans? What if it just doesn't seem worth it to me to move out yet, considering it's the Bay Area and rent would be at the least $800 (fuck the East Bay, I'm not moving there)? I feel like more and more young people my age still live with their parents, so should I look at moving out? I don't want to stay with my parents till I get married, but you'd be surprised by the number of married people around me who have told me I should actually consider that. I'm not considering that drastic reason, but I also don't want to necessarily move out for the sake of moving out.

William_da_foe · 2013-07-08T23:59:19+00:00

What are some good tips for senior year in high school when it comes to seduction

wisconson12 · 2013-07-09T01:19:11+00:00

2 questions:

Anyone have tips on getting the abundance mindset? I've been told I'm a pretty good looking dude, I'm always in a good mood, I dress well when I can, and I'm a confident dude. I just rarely come into contact with women. When I do get a girl to like me, I have this horrible tendency of getting too attached and I lose my focus. This causes me to come off crazy and desperate.
Where can I meet women? I'm 19, live at home and have no female friends. I go to a commuter college and work at a grocery store. I feel like I have a what it takes to be a natural at PU, but these two set backs mess me up pretty bad.

Tl;dr tips on abundant mindset and where do I meet women?

ImprovingMe · 2013-07-09T01:23:49+00:00

A girl I slept with once and still talk to told me that nothing was going to happen between us. Should I just take that at face value?

If yes, how should I go about getting over her when I have no choice but to interact with her on a daily basis?

PoundCakeee · 2013-07-08T19:41:56+00:00

I'm in the Army and at least 60 miles from anything worthwhile. Most of the women I talk to are back home, across the country. Does anyone have any specific technique for my situation?

YoThrowawayPUA · 2013-07-08T20:36:01+00:00

Hey guys I'm still kind of new to all this.

I met up with a girl that I had met like 2 months before who had to withdraw from college for the semester for health reasons. She was excited to meet back up and we went out and grabbed some dinner. We go back to her apartment where her and her friends are having a little get together and drinking. So we drink, she has a lot of wine.

Our mutual friend at the party is telling me that she really likes me (which I knew). I end up k-closing and we're making out and stopping here and there and just talking. She's not resisting but she keeps saying things like how lame she is and how she wanted to stay with her friends because she hadn't seen them for awhile. I end up leaving, with us making out at the door and her seeming pretty enthusiastic about seeing me again.

The next day, I text her trying to hang out again and she tells me that she didn't mean to lead me on and that she's still hurting from breaking up with an ex. I reply saying it's ok and I still had fun.

So that was 2 months ago. We haven't talked since. So I have two questions, did I mess up with not pushing it after her text? And also, is there any point in texting her again just to say hey/see if she wants to hang out again? We live near each other at home in the summers. I really liked her. It may be a bit of oneitis but she was really cool and we had a lot of similar interests. I definitely would've liked a LTR with her.

TL;DR K-close full make out with a girl who I had known for awhile, next day she says she didn't mean to lead me on and she's hung up on her ex. Is that a case where I just don't bother with her ever again or give her a bit of time and reestablish communication?

Thanks in advance for any help.

bl1y · 2013-07-08T22:00:44+00:00

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Terror1046 · 2013-07-08T23:17:42+00:00

So I always wonder how girls view me exactly. Which kind of girl do you ask for advice or an honest opinion? Because I feel like I don't get any honest opinions from sis/bff/girl I randomly met...

ContemplativeOctopus · 2013-07-09T02:14:32+00:00

There's a girl in my history class that I'd really like to ask out but she leaves in the middle of class every day (I'd assume for work or another class) so I can't talk to her after. I'd look weird as fuck hitting on her or asking her out in class so how do I get a moment to talk to her? Also need some more date ideas. I'm 18 so everything alcohol related is pretty much out of the question unless someone decides to throw a house party. I usually like to take girls to the arboretum in town because it's fucking beautiful but after that I need more stuff to do and there's almost nothing in my tiny ass town other than movie theaters and restaurants which are both undesirable places to go on dates. I'm in Davis, CA (not at UCD) and Sacramento is a pretty shitty town too and doesn't have much other than clubs/bars.

Captain_Unremarkable · 2013-07-09T02:59:33+00:00

Late to this I'm afraid :(

Here are the logistics. This summer I am:

Living in a semi-rural, very conservative town (read: purity rings everywhere)
Under 21 years old

What should I be doing to put myself out there?

bl1y · 2013-07-08T21:41:12+00:00

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252life · 2013-07-08T21:44:33+00:00

This Saturday, I was dancing with a really cute college freshman at a club. She seemed really receptive, smiling, we were dancing really close, light touching, having fun, there was strong eye contact, and the conversation was flowing. As I slowly leaned in to kiss her, she immediately stopped me and said that she wasn't ready. She said that she had just broken up with her high school boyfriend, who also goes here and happened to be in the club with her group. I kept dancing with her, and another girl in her group, and we had some more fun until they left. Later that night, I texted her that I had fun and that we should all go to another club on Thursday night and she agreed. I haven't texted her since, but the next morning she came up to me in the dining hall to talk for a few minutes and then left. I like this girl and I'm wondering what I should do now. I kind of suck at escalating and initiating kisses. I feel like she needs some time, but I really just want to try to kiss her again on Thursday. If I back down now, won't I just miss out on the opportunity with her?

bl1y · 2013-07-08T21:47:45+00:00

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MrChunkz · 2013-07-08T21:57:17+00:00

Has anyone else had to deal with a lot of anxiety in dating coming from the prospect that you might have to break up with this person you don't even know yet? Like, my AA comes in the form of "what if she likes me a lot, but I don't like her."

I think I've got abandonment issues, and I feel like I'm abandoning them or something. I'm overly empathetic, at the cost of my self.

achinator · 2013-07-09T00:43:08+00:00

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Fivefooteightgiant · 2013-07-09T00:54:30+00:00

Also is there a link for first date convos/good thinks to talk about when trying to build a rapport.

Hoof_Hearted12 · 2013-07-09T01:46:19+00:00

There's a really cute girl that I talk to once a week or so at the gym who volunteers there (helps people with their form, leads a few classes, but isn't strictly a trainer). We talk when I'm in between reps, getting water, etc. and near the end of her shift, we'll usually talk for 10 minutes or so just shooting the shit. She seems interested, but who knows. What's my play here, should I ask her out for a drink or something? Also, she's 27 and I'm 22, which I find daunting in itself.

xNaDx · 2013-07-09T08:58:32+00:00

I am 15 and have an entire summer (6 weeks to do anything I want in the world), where do you guys suggest I start? Thanks!

amd123 · 2013-07-09T00:23:26+00:00

Goin to Europe next week, any tips for getting around the language barrier? Or just foreign seduction tips in general

Fivefooteightgiant · 2013-07-09T00:44:44+00:00

what are some ways to build "inner" game in groups? Im ok around the ladies, and in groups where im in the lead position, but when I get into a situation where there are more guys around one of the guys is leading the group, I feel like Im almost shut out of the group, and my social value is low. How do I fix this?

RickSHAW_Tom · 2013-07-09T01:10:35+00:00

How do you deal with strait up compliments?

I'm good looking and sometimes just get "You're hot!" but fucked if i know what to say or do to respond. Maybe "You too...what do you want to do about this?"

bojangles135 · 2013-07-09T01:47:29+00:00

I'm interested in a girl who goes to college in Oregon, and I live in Seattle. How should I go about staying in touch with her through texting without over doing it?

elleadnih · 2013-07-09T02:20:21+00:00

Hello all, well I have a question about dating in a small town. You see, I live in a small town and there are not many special events at night for dates, so they pretty much involve, a coffee or a drink at a bar, yeah there are live music bars and karaoke, but what else is a great place to date? because I am bored of the same places, yes I have different coffee houses, but it gets monotonus (I dont leave anywhere near of an amusement park or the beach) - Thanks for any help (Live in Cd. Juarez, Chihuahua, Mexico)

Jonesblizz · 2013-07-09T03:07:15+00:00

Moved out of state wheres a good place to meet girls? How to make my move into a convo starter?

ohitsmj · 2013-07-09T03:44:45+00:00

Once I have a beautiful girlfriend, how do I get over myself (or the fear that she'll cheat on me)? It's been done in the past, and I know it's immature to assign the pain I felt with an ex to the current girlfriend, but it's a problem nonetheless.

faux_7 · 2013-07-09T05:59:18+00:00

Just a quick question.

I asked a girl out on a coffee date (day in advance). The next day I text her an hour before our date, she lets me know there might be a possibility of her going out of town. she stated if we did hang out 30 minutes wouldn't be enough time (is it a good thing if she thought this?) Later she asked if i'd be free during the week. So guys should I consider this a flake?

RocketManV · 2013-07-09T06:44:55+00:00

I've never been into the whole hooking up game, but I love the advice people give about overcoming certain one-dimensional characteristics of boy-girl relationships, especially in the beginning stage. I'm confident, decently attractive, and comfortable around girls but it seems because of that there's always the lingering "I can tell she feels like I should make a move but I'm not into it," and I was wondering what I can say or do to get around that.

I wouldn't consider it being friendzoned because I'm not looking for anything beyond that, and being stuck in the friendzone from their perspective is pretty boringly one-dimensional. What are some tips for being confident in approaching/talking to girls without it coming across as more than friendly conversation? Maybe it's just me.

edit: this might be the wrong board for this, seeing as it's sort of the opposite direction. i saw simple questions and i went for it, thanks for the help otherwise regardless.

aliensarecoming · 2013-07-09T06:50:49+00:00

i'm kinda interested in this girl, she's into me as well. thing is, when I talk to her, I can see she's batshit crazy in her eyes. I can't explain it. Should I take my chance and then deal with it after?

What do I mean is, by sticking your dick in crazy did it happen to be good or bad in the end?

bl1y · 2013-07-09T07:47:44+00:00

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geganerd3 · 2013-07-09T08:39:37+00:00

This girl came into my work and said I was always nice to her when she came in. Just out of nowhere, and she said it as if it was a monologue that spilled out.

I ended up talking to her and she seemed pretty cool, got her name (but forgot! EEK!).

She came in 2 or 3 nights later and went to the counter to get my attention. After getting it I just said how I didn't recognize her at first mainly due to something blocking my sight. We chatted for a bit but we were closing so I just said I'd see her again and went back to work.

My cousin said that was a sign she was into me, but i screwed up by not positively returning some feelings. I'm honestly not used to girls dropping by just to say hi to me, as it's only happened twice in all my jobs.

That was about 3 weeks ago, at best. She seems cool, what should I do if she shows up again?

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bl1y · 2013-07-09T10:08:14+00:00

This girl has been dropping hints since we first started seeing each other in the later hours of the night (usually midnight to 3am). A few nights ago she came back to my place and since we both have to sneak out to get out, we chilled in my backyard. She squeezed next to me (gave me a dead hand because it lost circulation due to how we were sitting) and she suggested she wanted to see what porn is. what should I do about this guys? This will be my first relationship if it actually works and I really really want it to work out. Should I be honest and pour my heart out to her the next time I see her or ?

EDIT: we are both teens (Im 16, shes turning 17) and I have known her for 4 years but we have never been this close until now. [and formatting]

robot_army_mutiny · 2013-07-09T10:38:20+00:00

There is a cute Mexican girl who works at a store I go to once a week or so. She doesn't speak much English. I started talking to her in Spanish, which is about as good as her English. We chatted a bit each time I came in. But I was embarrassed about my not-so-great Spanish, and feel pretty DLVish when I talk to her. So now it has gone South enough that we hardly talk when I come in, although she pretty much follows my lead.

It's not one-itis at all. I hardly care about picking this girl up. But it's a good challenge for me - I need to learn how to amp up my frame when it gets down.

Any suggestions as to how I can rebuild some confidence around her?

assmaster · 2013-07-09T11:32:36+00:00

How do I acquire more substance?

I can small talk and joke around just fine; however it feels as if anyone gets closer than that, I'll have nothing to show. What are some skills, life experiences or whatever that would make me more deep/interesting than a small talk / joke / chat bot?

Islamovsky · 2013-07-09T13:31:57+00:00

Ok so here's my question I met a girl about a week ago. She was working the counter at a PAC sun. She gave me a look as soon as I walked in and was very flirty the whole time. So I asked for her number and got it. I waited a couple days and then sent her a text (is that my mistake?) she texted back and seemed interested then I said what's up and got no reaponse. What should I do what are you're general rules after getting a number. Also what do you usually say in text messages?

CretinousHeathen · 2013-07-09T17:15:12+00:00

I'm not sure if this has been asked already but what suggestions do you have for an opener while out and you see an attractive HB across from you in a bar or the doctors waiting room? What I mean is there is no real flirting going on other than she has looked in the general direction I'm in but to just walk up cold and say "........."? I have read on here so far not to compliment her looks as she might think that's all I'm interested in but what could I say?

Pogrebnyak · 2013-07-09T18:03:09+00:00

How do I go from just general small talk to going "deeper"/flirting? For instance, if I meet a girl at a party and start chatting to her.

sedrees · 2013-07-09T20:22:30+00:00

I have major problems with displaying/having any confidence, even though i've got every reason to be confident as fuck. What should i be working on?

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sedrees · 2013-07-09T23:36:32+00:00

I'm fucking this girl, and she likes me a lot. I like her too, but she's not that hot, and I have another girlfriend I'm hoping to see again in a few days.

I could just end it. Only problem, the new girl is part of an awesome gang I like to hang with, and I don't wanna fuck up my relationship with them. Also she has a black belt in Karate...

How do I end things smoothly!?

AllHailTheCATS · 2013-07-10T00:57:30+00:00

This is gunna get buried but how do you be a 'good kisser'?

tdb2318 · 2013-07-11T04:49:30+00:00

Anyone have any hints or tips for escalating kino on a hike? Maybe im just still a pussy but it seems difficult when she wants me to lead the way and we're moving at pretty much all times.

SedditEquiv · 2013-07-11T07:29:17+00:00

How to respond to "I'm sort of (sort of) seeing someone"
Yes, she said 'sort of' twice.

Hey M, I managed to spot your blue dress!
I had fun talking to you last night and I think we'd have a good time getting to know each other. If you can tear yourself away from cuddling your bunnies for a few hours this Sunday (it will be hard, I know!) I'd love to take you out to lunch.
Cheers, S

Hi S,
Cheers for the message (yes, the blue dress is hard to miss)... It was lovely meeting you also, you have solved a few mysteries for me regarding the wonderful world of diving!
Um, I am sort of seeing someone at the moment (sort of), but thank you for the lovely offer re: lunch. Hope to run into you again another time at one of L's things
M

Normally I'd just move on with a "Have a great life" but this is the first time I've come across a second 'sort of'.

FakeColours · 2013-07-13T19:45:13+00:00

So I'm going to be a senior in high school and don't get invited to parties or anything. Anything I can do to fix that?

persiaman · 2013-07-09T00:18:24+00:00

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canuckfan4419 · 2013-07-09T11:51:36+00:00

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how does man fuck women

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CheekyLittleCunt · 2013-07-09T18:20:28+00:00

How do I convince my close-minded "feminist" friend that we're not all desperate sexless virgins on this sub and actually know what we're talking about?

She dislikes the idea of being "rated" and "closed". Bullshit, I fucked her while she still had a boyfriend, a whole bunch of "seducing" went on there; she didn't just magically jump on my dick without me saying anything to her. She has too much pride to admit that these techniques actually work, and says she "cringes" at the thought of guys practicing inner game or having to go on the internet to figure out how to get girls.

Ha, sucks to be her; she always has her bitch shields at 100% and is only like a 6 anyway.

dubiousjoao · 2013-07-09T04:43:51+00:00

Alpha=Douchebag

Please tell me why becoming alpha doesn't mean being an asshole

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