I was talking to one of my women friend's last night. For background: 25F, high school degree, working as a bartender. She is looking for someone around her own age.

At this point she is and she said verbatim "Going on Tinder and finding the tallest and most visually appealing man to fuck". At her current age she is in a situation where she is it is essentially a lose lose situation.

Option 1: The men she find on this side are well educated and making good money. The downside is that due to them spending so much time getting to that point at an earlier age, a lot of them are inc*ls. No dating experience at all, of any kind. On top of that, they don't do anything to become more appealing because they never focused on dating or relationship.

Option 2: Men who have dated a lot and bring a lot of the high value traits. The issue is that they don't have any university degree or job prospects ahead of them. They kind of just work low end jobs and take life on as it goes.

Option 3: The most rare option. The "entire package". A lot of these men are not only rude, but also extremely misogynistic. They look down on everyone around them and try to do the classic male revenge fantasy "What do you bring to the table?". They are also apparently never fully invested either.

This is why she has reached this point where, if all the options suck in terms of dating, then let me just sleep with the absolute best option, because it's better than nothing. As a man I empathize with her in the sense that she is also struggling with loneliness and having a hard time actually finding a partner. I feel like a lot of the times in these discussions it almost ends up being men who are monopolizing loneliness and struggling to find a relationship. It can be equally as difficult for women.