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This would be the insanest crossover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:22 PM
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I dunno, this sounds like a cap? Like a young guy larping as a creepy old man for novelty upvotes. I wouldn't be surprised if old men do find these women attractive, but I just don't think 68 year old men type or talk like that. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 05:20 PM
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OMG yes! Can't wait to listen to this. She is amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 09:55 AM
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Yes. We need more awareness on this. We need more media made by women for women, from women who have successfully decentered the male gaze and misogyny from their minds. I do see diversity in Hollywood shows these days, but the women are still writing PickMe, misogynistic plot lines. So if they're just handmaidens and mouthpieces for the patriarchy, it's not really true "diversity" is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:48 PM
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I've finished the whole show and I agree with you! Especially after watching Single's Inferno and Terrace House, and getting used to all the handsome, good-looking Korean and Japanese guys that I know Netflix could have casted. My only assumption is maybe they wanted to really push the "Love is Blind" concept to the max, but funny how that was for the women to handle, and not the men. The men got an easy ride as most of the women were attractive, while the women had to really settle and date guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 02:11 PM
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Absolutely. And it's hilarious LVM directors in the media produced music videos to make young, beautiful women think these hood, ghetto street men were a "catch". 🥴 Hood, ghetto street men propaganda is a one way street for women to get hurt, suffer relentless misogyny and abuse. These men openly talk about being "P.I.M.Ps, having hoes, bitches, switching up girls etc." I honestly think it must have been a social experiment to see if women's self-preservation instincts can be overridden as long …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:14 AM
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After an FDSer recommended it here, I've been watching more Korean dramas. What I love about most popular K-dramas is that there is hardly any hook-up culture. The romance is built gradually over 8-10 episodes. You really enjoy the details of two people falling in love. Like, holding hands is a huge step, as is the first kiss. The male lead is always extremely handsome, well-groomed, excellent style and with a good background too. None of that trashy bad boy wannabe Wolf of Wall Street sigma mal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 01:52 AM
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It also is a cope for them to be more abusive. "If CHAD can have a harem of girls he's cheating on in rotation, making them sleep with him whenever he want regardless of their consent, WHY CAN'T I?!" According to them, Chad is such a huge abuser (which apparently a plethora of imaginary women are loving and excusing just cause of his looks), it's making these scrotes think they should be abusers too. "Chad" is literally their mythical spaghetti monster, that gives them an excuse for either: 1) N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 12:57 AM
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You've saved yourself a lot of headache from being strung along and breadcrumbed by non-committal, low effort men. Glad to hear you blocked and deleted so many! There's also a lot of scrotes going to IRL meet-ups now because dating apps are drying up, so it's definitely another reason to be extra cautious with men who approach from there as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:06 PM
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Who the fuck is this imaginary Chad where no rules apply that these scrotes keep talking about? Chad is like their flying spaghetti monster at this rate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 08:43 PM
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Ironically, they're strengthening Russia's men. No porn means they have more energy to focus. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 08:01 PM
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Lmfao, I wonder if her crush is her own age and more age-appropriate for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:37 AM
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I kind of wish they did mod the FDS YT channel comments though. I want to read what other women think, not the whining and diatribes of misogynistic men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:34 AM
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Yes, and it's also sad that women are being encouraged to be sex addicts (do hook-up culture just cause they're craving sex with a warm body).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 08:25 PM
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Hook-up culture is another addiction. Like gambling, alcohol, and drugs. Society keeps conflating ALL sex as healthy, and a "part of human nature", when in reality, they're just promoting sex addiction, where people are doing it MEANINGLESSLY, just to get another hit of dopamine. These LVM on Tinder are literal addicts to ejaculating and women's attention. They're on dating apps to try get another "hit" of the drug that their body is craving for. When that's not available, they're on porn websit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 06:36 PM
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The worst part of the whole sex work is work narrative is how it masks over a country's inability to support women on low income and education backgrounds. These women are struggling for money, and if it wasn't for that, they wouldn't even consider doing something like OFs. Poor men = drug trade Poor women = OFs trade
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 04:54 AM
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Why does it only have 2 stars?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:45 AM
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At the same time, vet men who compliment you specifically. On red pill Twitter they were teaching men to remember random details about their partner, so that when they bring it up, the girl goes crazy and is like "aww you remembered!". I feel like filler words remove the Level 1 to 10 scrote, but for Level 50 manipulative scrotes and beyond, we still need to stay on our A game and assess the man's intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 11:44 AM
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This is going to sound really tough but, your friend doesn't only seem like a Pick-Meisha, but a very LV woman. I know we at FDS advocate that every woman should aim to date a HVM, but this girl needs to do some serious inner work. She doesn't seem to have empathy for other people, considering her demand for everyone to pay for the wedding, and she seems very mean spirited. I wouldn't want a HVM to even waste his energy and mental bandwidth dating her. I really hope she gets therapy and help. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 03:38 PM
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The irony is, it's not even 37 year old women exhibiting this behavior. It's girls and women in their teens/20s thinking they're doing something empowering. Also totally some LVM wrote this as a revenge fantasy for the blonde woman who probably rejected him in highschool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 03:03 AM
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Also the PUA LVM have even created a red pill/PUA pick-up lines app, to further teach other LVMs on how to socially engineer and manipulate women into sleeping with them. "Just by regularly using my app, your game improves automatically! It teaches you: Frame control responses How to neg without insulting Optimal target openers Prompting to make her invest Handling last minute dissonance How to pass her tests & more" Ladies, get educated. These are men you need to learn how to spot immediately, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 10:06 PM
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Yup, also thought this one was pretty insidious: The last time I got a girl a drink it was water. I told her she looked underaged and should probably be in bed, not at a bar. You think he's being a good, stand-up guy with morals, but it's also a subtle neg, and setting up a young girl to "prove to him" she's old enough to be at a club. He wants her on the male validation hamster wheel. Another good reminder that HV masks can be faked, and some HV moves might be done to psychologically hook you i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 09:57 PM
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Omfg. I am so sorry for you girl. Here is the Twitter where I came across those tactics if you want to read more about it. There's even more manipulation advice these guys are giving out in order to trick girls into fucking them. These men aren't real men anymore. They're literally sex addicts looking for their next fix. These tactics are how they get their drug (sex with multiple new women). It's honestly so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 08:17 PM
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There's this Twitter account that RP/manosphere men are subscribed to. Everyday it posts a pic of a hot blonde girl, with a caption like: "Believe you deserve a 10/10 babe". I'm just like wtf lmfao. This is how men end up bitter and resentful. They think they're owed hotter women than their actual looks range match. Red pill is the delusion pill. Men getting deeper into toxicity, and start thinking becoming a desensitized human incapable of love, that treats women like shit is a success story. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:10 PM
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Men who don't take initiative: 1) He's just not that into you. 2) You will end up doing everything in the relationship and will eventually begin to resent him. I'm so glad you realized you deserve better than this. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:49 PM
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Lmfao. Excluding women with narc/cluster b traits of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:38 PM
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Men have the capacity to bond with their children, but they're currently socialized to only think with their dick first. Hypersexuality has turned them into absent fathers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:29 PM
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Thanks porn and misogyny. Above case is a desensitization to women. Seeing thousands of different naked women, again and again, while these creeps jerk and slob on their own knob with moisturiser and their right hand has turned them into seeing women as just tits, asses and orifices. I bet if these men had the ability to self-improve, and didn't have delusions of grandeur about the type of women they could get, they'd be in stable relationships with women at their own looks and income level. The…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 05:28 PM
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Girl I also read the manosphere and I've seen some insidious new strategies these men are trying out. Women, be aware of the KINO method. This is where LVM will find ways to touch you during a date to get you used to him invading your body space. This is so you'll lower your resistance and increase his chances of fucking you earlier. The insidious part is, this isn't via the typical known PUA method where he touches your thigh accidentally. But it involves the LVM faking interest in female-inter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:23 PM
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V day alone is better than V day with a clown. Happy for you girl! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:18 PM
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Let's also not forget: Women form the strongest bonds known to mankind: The unconditional love and bond between a mother and her child. Men don't have this bonding ability, considering how many absent fathers exist in the world. The fact that these manosphere men have the audacity to even question a woman's ability to bond is a fucking joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:12 PM
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My controversial opinion: I believe the same happens when men watch POV sex with thousands of different women on porn. When women watch porn, we only see a random penis, hardly ever the face and name of the man. When men watch it the camera is angled as if they were having sex with that woman, they see all her intimate parts. When that happens multiple times per night, 365 days per year, how the fuck is that man supposed to pair bond with a real life girlfriend? No wonder the manosphere just cal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 04:09 PM
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This is why women and girls should not do crushes. We pick from the men who are already interested in us. "If he wanted to, he would." Always let the guy confess first AND don't develop feelings until the guy is thoroughly vetted. Even if your dream guy (on the surface/on paper) likes you back, you need to vet him, his character, integrity, values, the way he treats you thoroughly over a long period of time before you become infatuated with him. When you develop feelings for someone in real life…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:49 PM
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This sounds like the Tinder Swindler?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:01 PM
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Kind of makes you realize why men during times of war could so easily rape en masse the women of the country they were invading. No empathy for "other".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 07:50 PM
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It's really sad but for Asian/Desi men, the Madonna-Whore complex is magnified to a racial scale. "Madonnas" being women of their own race, and "whores" being usually white women. I just want to clarify that these are not my views, but growing up around men of color, especially Asian men, it's the way I've heard them speak about white women behind closed doors. "Yeah I would date her, but I'd eventually want to marry a girl from back home." It really saddens me because I think these women date A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 04:08 PM
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Stories like this remind us it's better to be alone than put up with bullshit like that just to keep up with the Joneses. 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:29 PM
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I feel like society is going through the Mandela effect about how dicks and sex are meant to function. How tf does this girl think men had sex before the internet? No, before smartphones and broadband internet and 24/7 streaming porn became a thing? Men are genetically wired by default to get it up and have sex and come with ease. Like do you girls remember when Missy Elliot released One Minute Man? The entire song was about women not wanting one minute men, because that's how long men would las…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:09 PM
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Copy the video URL. (It's usually a shortcut version). Paste it into a browser. Once you got the expanded URL version, delete EVERYTHING after the = symbol after the video ID number which is over 15 characters long. It should look like this: h ttp://tiktok.com/@username/videos/123456789101112
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:36 PM
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Just give them a hint that the pathway is there. Even if it doesn't resonate now, when they've reached rock bottom, they might recall you talking about a place called FDS. I feel like a lot of women who came here, was after they reached a breaking point with their PickMe beliefs. They knew something wasn't right, and it led them here. You just have to play the long game with PickMes. You also have to stay detached. Make the suggestion one or two times, but don't go out of your way to hammer the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 11:07 AM
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I have told women (late 20s to early 30s) about what porn is like these days and they are always shocked and didn't know it was so bad. If younger women think porn is mild, then what must these older women who are moms to preteens thinking?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:49 AM
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Please let these moms know what porn is like these days. If these are older millennial moms (35-45) they probably assume porn is just like playboy, with men and women just doing normal raunchy sex scenes. I feel like older millennial moms and Gen X moms have NO IDEA what porn is like these days because they would never use those websites themselves. Would this mom of a 12 year old boy be brushing it off if she knew he was accessing depraved themes like incest, abuse, rape, and all the other stuf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:32 AM
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I kind of want to see the scrotes get angry and mad, and start suing the porn companies en masse. Similar to how tobacco companies started getting sued for the proven link between smoking and lung cancer. In the mid 1990s, more than 40 states commenced litigation against the tobacco industry, seeking monetary, equitable, and injunctive relief under various consumer-protection and antitrust laws. The first was declared in May 1994 by Mississippi Attorney General Mike Moore. The general theory of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:12 PM
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Your resentment is your protection. We women were brainwashed as a class. The media, magazines and even celebrity relationships made us believe the red flags we saw in these men were normal quirks in a relationship, when they were glaring red flags that we gave the benefit of the doubt to wrong men. Just keep educating yourself and hold yourself out for a man that is HV and never settle. Let your resentment protect you from bad experiences, but balance it with gratitude that you've learned and a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:00 PM
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Porn makes men dicks hit the wall at 20. Now that is a line. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:41 PM
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Death grip so strong only anuses will do from now on. 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 10:39 PM
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At that point their penis can only stay erect with a life support machine. Like if your penis is erectile dysfunctioned at 20, you've already peaked my boi. These guys really popped out the womb in 2001 and became 65 year old men in just 20 years on this earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:22 PM
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Any guy who uses "Yea" is an instant block and delete. I've only seen red flag guys have that in their texting style. So glad he made that joke or else she might have actually wasted time with this gaslighting, minimizing dude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:16 PM
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Their own wiener is telling them that something is wrong with them. 😂 If the guy can't get it up, he's not fit for dating. Porn addiction, poor diets, untreated depression, are massive red flags of unsuitable, undateable men. (If men are depressed, they shouldn't be dating, they should be getting therapy and treatment until they are stable enough to be a good partner to a woman). It's a joke they're trying to normalize it. If you need chemicals to get it up, you have an illness and need to treat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:04 PM
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I disagree because to me, my male friends are like my brothers. If this strategy becomes mainstream, it's gonna send the message to men to actively become friends with women to eventually date them. I don't want that in friendship culture because I actually value my male friends as human beings, and not potential dating prospects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 08:43 PM
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If only men loved defending women as much as they love defending "sex workers". 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 04:12 PM
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Excellent info and great reminder! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 11:27 AM
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Also they get off on women who have a history of sexual abuse trauma, were groomed into the industry, or are in vulnerable economic situations that made them resort to sex work. When women find vulnerable men, we want to fix them and help them get back on their feet. (Prior to FDS anyway 😝). When men find vulnerable women, they clap at the fact they're now giving away their sexual agency, dignity and consent in industries like porn and prostitution. Clown world. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 10:22 PM
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Random question, but when you were making out with him, would his dick not get hard in his pants?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 06:23 PM
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Porn hub = sex abuse video clip streaming platform
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 05:45 PM
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Can we stop calling it pornography and start calling it sexual abuse video clips that promote themes of misogyny, incest, rape and degrading sex towards women? Because when you put "sex abuse video clips that promote misogyny, incest, rape, and degrading sex towards women is the most used masturbation aid and has a positive effect on wellbeing [of men]", the conversation completely flips. Masturbation is fine. Porn is not fine. It hasn't been fine for decades and is getting more depraved and fuc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 05:12 PM
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Yeah, the 20 year olds are also looking at other 20 year olds. You know, the other hot guys who are in their youth, have a full head of hair, are still in their physical peak with college athletics teams, and can relate to all their generational music trends, memes, jokes and TikTok dances. Lmfao if a 20 year old is passing these hotties in their prime up for you, a old saggy man with a receding hairline, it's really not the flex you think it is. That's a young girl who can't get with guys her o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 01:30 PM
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Straight men are terrified of a man wanting to fuck them. My comment was nothing to do with gay men who I know are happy to meet other men for sex and dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:23 AM
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Sex produces bonding chemicals. It's literally the glue that helps pairbond and build a connection within a long-term relationship. When this is science, why is the media and society trying to brainwash us that hook-up culture and sleeping around is totally normal? I'm happy for you OP! I feel like our entire generation was sold a lie to meet the needs of sociopathic men that have no emotions or bonding capabilities (just boners).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 06:35 PM
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Same, but it's the type of ick that matches the loser way they choose to spend their time on earth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 04:56 PM
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"Ok coomer" needs to be a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 02:24 PM
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Ask a man would he be okay meeting another male stranger off an app who potentially wants to fuck you that night and ask if he'd be okay with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 11:14 AM
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Not eating vegetables is a serious red flag deal breaker. Shows that he doesn't care about his health, hasn't bothered to educate himself about nutrition, isn't creative enough to figure out a way to make vegetables taste good for himself. It also raises a whole host of issues of raising kids with someone who will pass on those same poor nutrition habits. No one should be dating any "man" that doesn't eat veg wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:05 PM
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It should be raised to $100 queens. $10 is not worth the emotional labor of answering a potentially abusive LVM's questions and rants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:03 PM
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Another reason to not marry or procreate with LVMs. It's so easy for LVMs to say "Give us a chance!", but not think about the impact and trauma of having a LVM father on his future daughter or even son can be. It's not worth lowering standards or boundaries for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 02:36 PM
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LVM are really emotional and jealous! It's hilarious to me how the manosphere keep harping on about "We can't fuck your degrees. We're not interested in your career or education." I told a scrote once it's only insecure men who don't want educated wives, and he had no comeback for me. 😂 I bet that dude flipped because he knew he couldn't control you or manipulate you, and probably bitter that you getting your shit together means you could probably access wealthier and more successful men than hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 11:16 AM
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Funny how these same men wanna be the "man" of the household, and have women "submit" to them... But with what admirable traits? Can't even make a fucking bed and these LVM expect women to want to submit to them and seek them for leadership positions? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 10:52 AM
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Lmfao exactly. We don't hate "all" men here. We're teaching women to spot, block and delete the low value, abusive, misogynistic ones, so that they don't get into bad, harmful relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:37 PM
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This is a brilliant analogy! 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:34 PM
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On your comment about catching STDs, I'd also claim pornsickness as an STD that severely infects the mind. It's a mental illness as well as an addiction disorder. It needs treatment because it puts society in harms way. We can't rely on men who are porn and sex addicted to be good husbands, employees, reliable family members or be around young girls and children. Women and young girls around them will always be at risk of their uncontrollable sick perversion. Women in relationships with them ris…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:18 PM
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I absolutely loved the discussion and angle on the manosphere being a "training ground for abusers". It made me think how porn also operates as a training ground for sex abusers too. "Intimate oppression" was also a brilliant term. Can't wait to hear more from the 2nd half of the podcast!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:10 PM
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The biggest obstacle for men to get over, is the entire Madonna-Whore complex, where women are either seen as a pure virgin or a disgraceful sex-object needing to be defiled. There was a popular Reddit post recently of a guy mocking his little 11 year old brother's porn history found on his Nintendo DS. In the search term, the 11 year old kid was searching for "whores". I feel like this is one of the inherently fucked up things about boys and men who are pornsick. They view women in sexual scena…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:39 PM
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If you go on NoFap, a lot of them admitted they started watching porn at 7-11 years old. I even saw a comment once on Reddit from an elementary school teacher who caught their 4th/5th grade students doing something in a bathroom. Like seriously wtf is going on. The Simpsons always mocked that one woman who always said this line, but why is no one thinking of the children?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:02 PM
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Remember the days when we used to warn kids about pedos, sex abusers and rapists in chat rooms? Now, thanks to easily accessible porn infiltrating the minds of children, we need to warn kids about other kids being the pedos, sex abusers and rapists instead. Porn is literally raising an entire generation of sex abusers and no one is giving a shit. You were absolutely right to stand your ground. I hope your sister will one day see the light, along with the rest of the world. We need far more aware…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 10:53 PM
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Honestly it's worrying. Porn isn't even just sex anymore. They're promoting themes of incest, rape and hardcore. Right now 8-11 year old kids are watching this shit. No one is giving a crap about how this is going to impact them mentally, or how it's going to create a knock on effect in society as they grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 07:41 PM
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Just the other day, there was a trending post of a guy laughing at his 11 year old little brother's porn history that he found on his Nintendo 3DS. Top comments were all other dudes just laughing, telling him he shouldn't have exposed his porn history and that he should have kept it quiet and be a good big brother and tell him about the better porn sites out there. It was only from sorting by controversial comments, you saw a few comments saying it's worrying his little brother was already tryin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 07:14 PM
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I debated with one in a comment section once. I told him he was selfish for wanting to subject a young girl who is in her visual and physical prime, to have sex with a man who is old, weaker, balding, and not in his prime. I asked him how that's fair and he literally had no come back and told me I was right. These scrotes are parasites. They don't want equal relationships. They just want to feed off young girls, while giving nothing in return. Literal vampire vibes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:47 PM
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These men talk like we were born as old women. We were once young girls who got creeps hitting on us and taking advantage of us and our naivety too?! Like we are literally those young girls he's saying we're "jealous" of, just 5-10+ years older with life experience that has seen how it plays out. There's literally nothing to be jealous about, we've had a plethora of those older men hitting on us experiences already. In fact, we still get older men hitting on us. They're just in their 40s, 50s no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:25 PM
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There are plenty of addicts and criminals out there who say: "My life, my choice." In fact, I'm pretty sure that's the narrative they have to activate in their mind in order to lose empathy for the people they're hurting with their actions. Why march for those who have clearly lost judgment and more importantly empathy for the consequences of their actions? Society, as a whole, needs to help them get out of the sunken place instead. I wish sex workers would understand, it's not just "their body,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 06:37 PM
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Wtf. Community college classes?! That is so disgusting. 🤢🤮 I've heard some guys go to yoga classes as well to hook up. Another story here on FDS was men trying to infiltrate a women's only cycling group. OP dated one of them, unbeknownst to her that he had already dated and played around with a few of the women in the group already, and nobody told her. 🙄 ABV: Always be vetting, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 06:25 PM
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I highly suspect there's a thread out there in the manosphere of how dating sites suck, my dudes, so how can we branch out? This is absolutely true. Which is why ladies you must also vet your hobby and meet-up groups extremely hard. It's sad but the dusties that can handle social interaction are branching out to things like this now. Vet them as hard as you would someone you met from OLD. If anyone has stories of manosphere creeps that popping up in other places other than OLD, please share so w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 08:02 PM
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Men are also strong, therefore, natural defenders of women and the family they build with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 04:05 PM
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48 laws should be recommended reading as defense against the dark arts. There are machiavellian people out there who use these methods on the daily. Especially if you're an inherently good person who tends to see the world with rose-tinted glasses. Knowing 48 laws and other similar books is important to help you sharpen your radar and realize when these methods are being used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:05 PM
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Barf. No self-awareness whatsoever!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 01:29 PM
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If these Reddit dads are gaming and surfing Reddit all day, are they admitting to neglecting their child? 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 01:27 PM
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Gladiator!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:47 PM
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Porn also makes young women and girls think that abusive, creepy, rapey men are green flags (since that form of sexuality is promoted and glamorized in mainstream porn). These type of men would normally be ostracized in society. Now there is a multi-billion dollar industry engineering women's consent to accept these men as partners. 🤨 Combine the above with the fact that women have been socialized to not expect orgasms and put up with aggressive, penis-only orientated sex, while avoiding demandi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:26 PM
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Lmfao. I thought men's sexual marketplace value rocketed after they turn 32. 🙄 I guess not if they have to lie about being in their 20s. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:00 AM
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Absolutely agree with your observations! Everyone who encourages sex work likes to pretend the men are neutral consumers with no risk profile, but in fact, these men are bottom of the barrel, defective, abusive, predatory creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:56 PM
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I bet he's button mashing her furiously like it's a game of Fortnite. It's seriously sad how porn has led so many guys to think mindless aggression creates women's orgasms. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:42 PM
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Trapped in a restaurant booth. 🤨 If the man is lukewarm about a woman, he shouldn't be asking her out on a date in the first place. Perhaps these types of men should learn to be patient, and get to know a woman a bit more before booking her time for a date? You go on walks with a dog. You go on walks to commute. A walk is not a valid date for a man courting a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:39 PM
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Ugh. Right!? She's got those porn sick dead eyes as well. Like she's empty in her soul. I found her through the dating excel spreadsheet TikTok which I thought was a great idea for keeping track of your observations of man on the first date. I soon rolled my eyes as I found she was creating content purely to promote her SB website. 🙄 Worst part is her friend is on in it too, and they both have that drugged, zoned out vibe about them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:29 PM
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If you don't have a Google voice number, you can also get a burner sim card for dating. A lot of phones accept two sim cards at once, so that could be another method if you're concerned with keeping your number private.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:26 PM
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Love this. Yes exactly, FDS strategies would have had him blocked and deleted as soon as he suggested a drinks date. Those poor 76 women who accepted a drinks date and got led on by this fool... I hope they find FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:25 PM
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Honestly like wtf. He's a complete stranger and he wants access to her IG? And the deluded girl just straight up gives it to them? Yikes. It's such a red flag to me. It just shows that he doesn't understand time appropriate intimacy, and he's trying to get embedded into a girl's life way quicker than normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:23 PM
27

Wow. Didn't know they get competitive with the kids too! Yikes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:18 PM
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Which is also why ride or die themes in pop music are so SO dangerous. It either makes you stick with a scrote at the cost of your mental health, or encourages deranged pickme loyalty to the absolute worst scrotey men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:16 PM
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In Buddhist philosophy, being present in the moment is so that you can override your impulsive nature. These people are leaning INTO their impulsive nature. Buddhism preaches reaching enlightenment, and following the eight fold path: Right Understanding, Right Thought, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness and Right Concentration. None of these hedonistic mofos are doing that. They are continuing on the hamster wheel of succumbing to impulsivity, not think…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 10:52 AM
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Absolutely agree with this. Emotional incest also happens to sons of married parents with an abusive/LV father. It's not a single-parent only thing. Honestly this post gave me inc*l/red pill vibes, because they preach the exact same stupid shit in their subreddits (don't date women from divorced families, she will just divorce rape you). We at FDS should strive to do better and understand that red flags happen in children of both married and divorced parents. Simply judging people for divorced p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 10:25 AM
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Yes exactly. Some people called her out for grooming, but there were other impressionable young girls in the comment section saying "Can I do sugaring platonically without any sex or romance?" It was so sad and frustrating that they were actually considering it. Some other people applauded her for making her SB website 21+ (as opposed to 18+ on other websites). She got applause from others saying "Thank you for not encouraging the grooming of young girls. Under 21s are just not mentally ready fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 01:14 AM
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The sugar baby side of TikTok is so deeply concerning. In one particular video I saw, a girl had the audacity to apply her business degree lingo and say the men are just your "angel investors". 🙄 She then encouraged girls to be a sugar baby to gain access to men who are significantly senior in their career for "mentorship"... I was thinking, in trade for our dignity, integrity and unwanted one-sided romantic/sexual attention? HELL NO. As a woman, it's already difficult networking with men at ind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 11:40 PM
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The men (and women) who are obsessed with them, watch them from start to finish. Before you start an analysis, you need to understand the material you're analyzing within it's context. What you're doing right now is no different to what FDS haters on Reddit and in the media do: Take an out of context trending post in our sub and assume we're f*mcels, then get angry that "there's no way there could be any other explanation for this community". Don't stoop to their low level. You need to get the f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 07:06 PM
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With all due respect, please watch the movie. Each movie is almost 3 hours long. Those Zendaya compilation clips are only a few minutes. You're missing so much contextual information about the purpose of Zendaya's character and what she represents in each movie. You're right to be concerned about PickMe themes in the media, but the recent Spidermans are faaaar from PickMe when it comes to MJ. She's a really cool, confident in herself, bad ass character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:48 PM
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Girl. Seriously. Please watch the film. Zendaya's MJ isn't even the main love interest in the first movie! She's mainly there for witty, sassy comic relief. The out of context clips are giving you an impression that's not supported by the comedic timing of the joke delivery. We also don't even know that she's MJ until the end of the movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:43 PM
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MJ is portrayed as a hard to get woman. You don't get an impression that she even likes Peter back until towards the end of the second movie. It's a lot of Peter doing what he can to make a good impression on her and pull out all the stops to confess to her that he likes her. MJ has no clue and is just living her best life. Please watch the movies to understand the pacing, rather than the fan clips where they've just stitched together a few of their selected scenes together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:40 PM
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Please watch the movies. I didn't get that impression at all. And yes I'm down for older women being portrayed as powerful with or without their looks being emphasized. Both portrayals of Aunt May are great. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:34 PM
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Zendaya's MJ is a highschool kid and she does have a life outside of Peter. In Spiderman: Homecoming she is a highly intelligent gifted student and is part of their high school's decathlon team that went to go compete in the national tournament, and eventually becomes team captain. I think there's also a scene in Spiderman: Far From Home where we see she's also into photography. MJ's always witty and never appears overly concerned with Peter. She even keeps her crush on him under wraps until she…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:32 PM
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The doormat/helper role applies to everyone around Spiderman. He's the only superhero in the show that can do something. His friends, both male and female, are forced to just be helpers. In Spiderman: Homecoming, MJ was sassy and always told Peter and his friends how it is, and had hilarious clapbacks and comebacks. In Spiderman: Far From Home, MJ was the one who helped Peter figure out that the attacks in Venice was a simulation done by a drone, as she managed to pick up a piece of the robotic …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:04 PM
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In my opinion, FDS isn't against women dating less attractive guys. We just counteract the narrative that a less attractive guy is going to be more loyal or less abusive than a hot guy. Therefore, we need to vet all kinds of men, no matter where they are on the looks scale. I personally don't think there's an agenda in the latest reboots for women to date down. I personally think Tom Holland and Zendaya are within each others looks range and are an age appropriate relationship. The 2002 Spiderma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:54 PM
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The new Spiderman films with Tom Holland and Zendaya are based on high-school kids though. I think it's unreasonable to expect Zendaya's 14-16 year old MJ to be dating wealthy, tall business men and CEOs. (Boys aren't their full heights until 18-21). I don't see what's wrong with Zendaya being presented as an outcast and dressed more masculine? I'm a pretty feminine woman now, but when I was in high school I was definitely more of a tomboy. Do we want to keep insinuating that only hyper feminine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:14 PM
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Had no idea that white supremacist scrote came onto your Twitter space. I'm howling. Why tf does he care and is so pressed?! 😂 Doesn't he have some white supremacy bs to promote to his all male audience. He has nothing to do with dating?! Glad ya'll clapped back and he got deeply roasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 02:41 PM
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Ok yes please to this. As much as material things are nice, the main priority us women should be flexing on is being financially savvy. So yes, stock options, meeting financial goals, having a great financial/budgeting system that works are definitely a girl's bestest friend... it can help us responsibly purchase the beautiful items we want as well. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:54 PM
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First of all, you are amazing. I love how you stood your ground, knew your value and left as soon as he didn't meet your expectations. Second, I hope you don't mind me asking, but how did you break the news to your friends and family when you ended the relationship? Did they understand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 01:06 AM
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Please read or re-read the handbook so you can learn more about these topics, and to prevent becoming susceptible to LV men's manipulation tactics in dating and relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:04 PM
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He sounds like he was future faking you. Men who change goal posts like that were manipulating you all along. Also I read some of your post history and you said he raised your voice at you and criticized you eating food in case you gained weight? You dated a misogynist. That's not a man worth moving in with. He sounds incredibly controlling and you probably saved yourself by sticking to your standards. Also funny how he's only had FWB before dating you. Goes to show he doesn't see sex as meaning…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:33 PM
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Yup. You think since you're out of their league, they'll be grateful, loyal and treat you like a Queen. But actually, it just gives them the audacity. "If I can get with her?! Who else can I get?!". It's a joke lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:22 PM
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I come from a POC culture, and all of my friends and cousins had to get married before even thinking of moving in with their partners. We as women need to find other ways of vetting our partners. I wonder if staying at his place for a few weeks at a time would be a good taster test. Yes it would mean still paying rent for your own place, but a month of doing that may be better than committing to an entire living scenario where it's difficult to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:15 PM
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Wait what?! The guy moved goalposts and you're still wondering if you should have moved in with him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:11 PM
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I'm Asian myself and I do find Asian men extremely attractive. However, if it's not the patriarchical expectations, it's also the group-think "what does everyone else think" mentality vibe that some insecure Asian men give off and propagate. This is born from our culture where family status and achievements of the children are closely scrutinized. You grow up with your parents constantly comparing you to your cousins and other Asian kids in the community. I also feel like the Asian beauty standa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 05:04 PM
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As a white woman you would never be expected to do the same as Asian women in the same wife role. You almost get a non-Asian pass from the in-laws and their expectations become super low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 04:46 PM
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I sort of agree with this, but what I personally dislike is when the relationship is based on looking down on Asian women, for a "superior" white woman because of some internalized racism he may have. If it's from that angle, I feel like that does hurt us Asian women because he's making a statement with his preferences that Asian women are lesser-than, and that he wants his future kids to look more white. It's similar to when black men want to date white women. Similarly, I hope Asian women that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:38 PM
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You hit the nail on the head! Asian men and black men fetishizing white women comes from being seen as "marrying up". Whereas white men fetishizing Asian women is just reinforcing misogyny and patriarchy by finding what he perceives as a "submissive woman".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:27 PM
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I think what she means to say is that, historically, Asian men have been the ones oppressing fellow Asian women in their home countries, but all of a sudden they now want to pretend to be Asian women's allies and defenders of their race purity in Western countries. I know of many Asian women who want to escape dating Asian men because marrying into that, means marrying into traditional Asian patriarchy and misogyny norms. (Women doing all the cooking, cleaning, and giving up their lives to becom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:20 PM
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This is just my personal experience, but I dated an upper / middle class guy in college and after college, and he was your typical gamer porn addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 12:45 PM
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Exactly. Race doesn't make a man HVM. There are different strains of LVM in each race, and as women, we shouldn't shortcut our logic and ignore red flags because we've put a specific race on a pedestal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:48 AM
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Swipe left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:39 AM
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This is why cOmMuNiCaTiOn with defective men doesn't work. You will never get through to them. Which is why, as FDS preaches, we identify the defective men ASAP and choose to not date them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:31 AM
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Exactly. This man is so deep in his feminine that he is jealous that women get to starfish and he doesn't. Y'all ever see a female dog or elephant ride their partners dick? No, it's the male animal's responsibility to thrust vigorously. The male thrust is an in-built male sexual mechanism across all mammals, and this guy is the one that wants to lay back and be a starfish. Ok. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:04 AM
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Exactly. Scrotes is essentially = TA, and HVM = NTA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 10:28 PM
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RaisedByNarcissists has tons of internal language and rules, but because they're not explicitly anti-patriarchy or calling out LVM specifically, of course they're not a cult or hate group. 🙄 For example, RBN has the terms NC, LC, SC, flying monkeys, greyrocking, and so many other terms. These internal language terms helps us spot abusive behaviors and mental models to defend ourselves against narcs quickly. It gives you a common language to support others who are also suffering with narcs. Now t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 09:05 PM
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I'm laughing at the visual imagery of a Boston Dynamics dog-like sex robot with an attachable fleshlite, riding men on top with the man just lying there like a starfish. Enjoy. 🤖 Don't get your dick electrocuted.⚡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:19 PM
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There was this story of a girl in an age gap relationship. She was in her 20s, scrote was in his 40s. She had multiple miscarriages and she got all the blame, and not the scrote with geriatric sperm that is proven to cause miscarriages and birth issues after 40. We need more awareness on this so that women can make more informed decisions about the men they choose to start a family with. These men really think if they just date a younger woman all fertility issues would be solved. No one cares a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:14 PM
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The original girl posting on CMV was saying how FDS preaches that a woman earning 40k should aim for a 6 figure man! 😂 None of us are preaching women to go date 6 figure men. However, we don't standard shame if that's their choice. She also said she couldn't find any dating tips here, just a lot of posts hating men. The key FDS dating strategy is having strong boundaries and spotting red flags in potentially abusive partners that are going to take you for a ride and leave you with the burden of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:00 PM
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LOL this is perfect. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/21 11:06 PM
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"Boyfriend"... more like "Oldmanfriend". 🙄 He's not a boy anymore at 50. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/21 11:04 PM
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Men who don't have sexual discipline or decorum, is like a man who can't hold in his pee or wets the bed at 37. It's not the flex that you think it is. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:32 PM
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He's giving BDE. Men that call out misogynistic men publicly. 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 02:02 PM
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@drewafualo does the most hilarious roasts of TikTok misogynists though. Y'all need to follow her for an anti-LVM antidote on your FYPs. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 12:01 PM
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Once again, pornsick misogynist male alert. 🚨 To LV pornsick men, sex is an unequal power exchange. Their nut is prioritized above the woman's comfort and feelings. There is no genuine love in their sexual energy. It's all perversion, and treating a woman like a masturbation device.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:49 PM
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I don't mind women drawing nude women art. Men drawing nude women art is just a front to appear "woke" and "artsy", when he's actually being lecherous over the female form. Yet he escapes being called a perv because actually... * twirls moustache * it's fine art. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:31 PM
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This is nuts. I didn't know it was so unequal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:29 PM
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I'm sure there will be a 'delta' male and an 'omicron' male. We just need to continue social distancing from them, get vaccinated against LVM and wear FDS masks. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:22 PM
29

Exactly. Just give yo "king" a lace front and leave women alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:18 PM
20

Nicole Scherzinger needed FDS! Having said that her current man is so hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 10:13 PM
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I absolutely understand girl and my comment wasn't a criticism towards you either! A few weeks ago we had a thread pop up where an FDS user felt left out at some of the suggestions of being high value (that connected to the luxury material girl aesthetic). I think sometimes it's easy for any of us to forget that there are a wide range of women here who range all across the spectrum of finance and wealth, so just wanted to make sure they had some alternatives! I loved your suggestions too though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 01:55 AM
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I absolutely agree with this, but for our FDS members who might be in a different financial situation, please do not feel pressured to treat yourself with luxury goods. There are also lots of other non-consumerist ways to treat yourself and make time for yourself. Lavish doesn't have to be a physical gift, but it can be time. Maybe time to read a book that you know will be good for you, or spending time to create a little cosy retreat for yourself at home where you can dive into doing online yog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 11:20 PM
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Someone copy and paste the article so we don't give it views.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 01:01 PM
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These women would rather keep bad company that treats them as a live-in mommy bangmaid, than ever be "lonely". Absolutely deluded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:44 PM
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I always look forward to your sketches! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:15 PM
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I agree. When it comes to sex and relationships, recognising power imbalance and different life stages is so key. A young 21-22 year old girl fresh out of college, never had a job past "junior" or "sales assistant", with no idea how power and politics play out in human relations, has no business being with a 31-45 year old man who has had almost 1-2 decades in the game and can use that knowledge to outmanouevre her, manipulate her and make her do things she doesn't want to do, and make her belie…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 12:15 AM
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This sound would make an amazing TikTok. 😂 Scene 1: Guy appears normal. Scene 2: Guy shows red flag. Scene 3: Cue girl's reaction 🤨 and Windows shutdown noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:58 PM
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Yup. No 👏 more 👏 bystander 👏 men 👏 please. Men need to call shit like this out when they see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 09:57 PM
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Another reason why adult men should be going no where near teenage girls, and why young girls should focus on their career and becoming financially, legally and socially savvy before committing to any man. Most importantly, learn how to vet men. Vet men even if they have outward signs of success like good looks and being a famous person with lots of clout. It all means nothing. You need to consider power imbalances. Rich and famous while you're not, is a very risky strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 06:57 PM
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Thank you that's exactly what I meant and have edited my wording to reflect that. Teenage relationships happen, and things get intimate due to hormones. This then leads to people campaigning to lowering the age of consent, but people forget that means creepy old 30/40/50+ men can start sleeping with younger people with no remorse or guilt or legal recourse. It would be way better if the age of consent was raised so that creepy dudes have no chance of sleeping with young adults whose brains haven…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 06:37 PM
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Age of consent should be for the benefit of teens. Not for grown adult 30+ men who want to bone teens. Honestly the world would be better off if the age of consent was 21+, and then just have close in age exemptions underneath that for teenagers who are dating each other. I don't see why a 35 year old needs to be dating a child still taking exams with other children. It's so fucking gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 05:03 PM
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A lot of men do online ads. It's a way LV men make a quick buck and you'll see tons of them in the Twitter manosphere bragging about how doing ads is making them money. Wouldn't be surprised if that's where these pathetically worded ads are coming from!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 12:07 AM
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This just proves that low value men are incapable of introspection and being inspired to change themselves. They just wanna be crabs in the bucket and bring everyone down to their level of low effort defeatism and nihilism. Then at the same time they think they're worthy of leadership positions and be the man of the household. With what vision?! With what emotional stability? It's a joke. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 10:49 PM
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This is disgusting. Who was the creative director for this shoot and the clothes? A porn sick male or a pickme?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 10:45 PM
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Sex is meant to be a bond between two people who are romantically linked to each other. Now for these scrotes it's just "muh hand + pornhub".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 08:50 PM
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It's mad, cause at first, you don't understand why their eyes aren't normal. Like, why is that stare so dead? Later when you get to know them, you're like shit, this is the porn addict dead stare. Literally it's left them soulless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 08:48 PM
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I follow someone who recently left their career in science after obtaining a PhD and even a patent in her field. She mentioned one of the reasons why is that there is a lot of politics in science research, and there are no guarantees that you will get funding for certain important issues. Makes me wonder how much psychologists who are in tenure or doctorate level aren't being funded for studies that proves the cancerous effect of porn on humanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 08:44 PM
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She's in the sunken place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 08:38 PM
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Isn't that what they also say to justify porn stars online or prostitutes in brothels? 🙄 "Oh they enjoy it." 🖕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 08:23 PM
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Good on you OP. Honestly, casual sex isn't the flex people think it is. Your body is a temple and if you plan on having children, it's where your future babies are going to be coming from. Even if you aren't planning on having kids, you are worth way more than being some low value scrote's ego boost, fuck-and-duck masturbation tool. The idea that any random scrote in a club or a date that impressed you mildly for 2 hours in the dark, can then go home and be intimate with your body parts just doe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 08:05 PM
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Man chokes and slaps woman... Society: "WHAT A CRUEL AND SICK MAN." ... in the bedroom during sex. Society: "Oh okay then, continue! :)👍" Porn and sex positivity have fried logic in society. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 07:28 PM
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Bc porn has made them think women are prey that need to be degraded and taken advantage of, rather than an equal companion you love and have healthy, consensual sex with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 07:17 PM
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I severely dislike them. Mainly because most of them do it for shallow reasons. I've seen some guys get into LOA just so they can have more sex and pick up chicks. Others are doing it because they're resentful they're rejected by society. It's difficult to find a guy into spiritually who is genuinely doing it for enlightenment and genuine spiritual reasons. A lot of them just wanna be like "whoaarr look at all the obscure rare drugs I'm doing. I'm literally talkin to aliens in outer space bro do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 06:09 PM
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Exactly. It's okay to be gay now. Please, men who love the opinion of others men, be gay in peace, and leave the REAL straight men to us straight females who actually want a man that is actually into women for real, and not just as a front to ssimp for their bros and male adoration and approval.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:58 PM
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This guy needs a Nigerian mother to compare him to his age mates and remind him he is deluded and falling behind in life. His age mates are settled down with kids, home and a family and he thinks he's doing something good in the world by faking interest in a talking phase. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:51 PM
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You know what's crazy? The "worst" woman doesn't benefit womenkind, like the "worst" men benefit menkind. The "worst" woman also benefits men. If they're insecure pickmeishas, men use them to cheat, triangulate or just use and discard. Women don't benefit from women being their worst selves. We always need to continue being our best selves and encouraging other women to do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:27 PM
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Can someone DM her about FDS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 05:15 PM
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Can you please point to the posts where it says we need 6 figures and Ph.D or else we're worthless? Where does it say we need to hustle constantly and be a girlboss CEO? I've been reading FDS for years and I've never seen that kind of advice or messaging from here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 04:09 AM
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I have never felt like FDS makes us feel like we have to perform femininity in any one specific way. Please remember that our actual official tenets and advice are the ones that are officially linked in the handbook. Some of the posts and comments that you speak of that emphasized or recommended specific views on femininity might be from other FDS newbies, so please take their considerations with a grain of salt. Having said that, I think it's important to remember that FDS probably attracts wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 04:01 AM
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A tenet here at FDS is that we don't standard shame. Some women want a 6 foot, 6 figure, 6+ inch dick guy, others don't, both are okay, but the non-negotiable at either end of the scale is that the guy must be HV and exhibit HV traits, which is more to do with character and integrity over social class and status. I'm not sure what threads you are reading, but the ones I usually read, I always see senior FDS members correcting newbies when they mistakenly equate wealthy guys et. al. for high valu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:28 AM
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You'd be surprised how much of this applies for under 30!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 01:54 AM
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There was this awesome TikTok that was discussing a similar theme, but it was the difference between men who "chase" and men who "pursue". Men who "chase" are doing it for the thrill, which is being operated from their own inner insecurities and emotional immaturity. They keep going even if the girl is not interested, purely for their own ego's sake. Men who "pursue" are more intentional, have a long-term goal, but are also respectful if it doesn't work out. They want a genuine connection, and t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 12:09 AM
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Just make sure you share them anonymously and that it can't be traced back to you! I wonder if there are any FDS sisters in tech reading this that can give creators some advice on how they can create content anonymously and post it here?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 11:45 PM
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I absolutely love your posts. At FDS, we have great written pieces, but I haven't seen many visual memes, art and graphics. Often people don't have time to read our longer posts. I think visuals like the ones you're making are thought provoking, and if they were shared with people outside of FDS, it would certainly get a discussion and conversation going! Perhaps we should have an OC (original content) flair for artwork, graphics and memes? Not sure if there is one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 11:31 PM
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Your SIL has a very naive view on men and their intentions. Since she's 22, and young, and Gen Z, she might not have the patience to sit down with a book. But what if you sent her TikToks, memes and screenshots? Ones that identify and call out shady men that aren't worth dating and the importance of vetting a man (beyond looks and initial "chemistry") before getting into a relationship with him. You could also show her TRP and the manosphere and tell her these are the kind of men out there that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:15 PM
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Popcorn? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 09:12 PM
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There are other movements like fourth wave feminism and rad feminism. Both have some aspects that align with FDS, such as speaking out against the unchecked narratives of LibFeminism that damage women as a class, but it's not a complete overlapping circle. We definitely have our own unique blend and take over here that's more relevant to dating and relationships. Rad fem has great concepts but some may find it a bit too extreme depending on their previous position. Fourth wave have a subreddit c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 06:25 PM
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We're at Late Stage Internalized Misogyny. The LVM don't even need to write their indoctrinating TV shows and media anymore. The PickMes fund it and write it themselves, fuelling the spread of the ideology without LVM having to lift a finger. Sad times, but even more reason for FDS to rise against it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:29 PM
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You know what's funny? These rules apply to BOTH of them. But all the outrage is based on "Oh the poor man! How will he handle it?! So much sacrifice. This woman has trust issues." Okay and what about the sacrifice on the woman's end? She's adhering to the same rules. No porn, no lusting after others (half naked men etc), no male friends, no texting to men without her husband knowing. It goes both ways. But once again, women's labor contributions are minimized, discounted and ignored. It's all a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:17 PM
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Someone needs to logically erase this "having healthy sexual and relationship boundaries" is some sort of backwards religiously indoctrinated Christian thing. Shaming healthy sexual and relationship boundaries, by falsely linking it to be "anti-progressive" and "religious indoctrination" has done more harm than good in society. It has put countless young girls and women on the factory line of LibFem and PickMeism, ready to be used and gaslighted by LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:54 PM
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Random but, may I ask what gave you the green flags to go on a date with this guy in the first place? Was there anything during the initial chats that you might have ignored that could have been amber flags?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:45 PM
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Meanwhile, scrote doesn't wash out his butt crumbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:44 PM
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Second this. 3-4 years either way, and 1-2 being ideal. I also prefer guys who are the same age as me. Even prior to FDS when I discovered RP and the manosphere which encouraged women to date older (like 5 to 10+ years) that always weirded me out. Like what would we have in common with these old dudes? Only creepy dudes don't care about having anything generationally in common with their girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:43 PM
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Wtf. I didn't go that deep into her post history. This guy sounds absolutely lowest of the low LV. 😳 No wonder her boyfriend's family treats her well. She's taking him off their hands and doing all the emotional and financial labor on their behalf. OP needs to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 10:54 AM
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Find a local women's shelter and explain your situation. They can provide some sort of support and stability while you leave this relationship. I'm curious how you earn good money without having friends or relationship with your family. Do you not speak to your work colleagues?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:34 AM
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Okay but what are you offering in return? Friendships aren't just a one-way street where they do all the heavy work and lift you up all the time. What are you bringing to the friendship? How can you lift others up? How can you work on yourself so that you're also bringing something to these friendships?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:31 AM
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Well that's a great first step but keep working on yourself and trying out different things. Perhaps, if you can, maybe try volunteering where you can help others for a cause you're passionate about. That would be a better place to meet likeminded people than something more generic like an exercise class. I think you should also be kinder to yourself that you haven't found anyone yet. You're making a huge change in your life and it's okay to take baby steps. Everything doesn't have to fall into …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:26 AM
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One step in self-love is to not compromise on your boundaries and to give yourself permission to leave situations that aren't for your greater good. The fact you're acknowledging your current boyfriend is actually not a great partner is a sign of self-love emerging through. You are realizing you deserve better. The next step would be sticking through with this feeling, making a plan and continuing not to compromise on what you deserve. Also in response to "Think what you want about me" I'm not j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:17 AM
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Another rule of FDS is to always have and build your own life outside of your partner. When your social circle is limited to your partner and his family, you will find it more difficult to leave when he acts up and doesn't treat you right. You need to focus on improving your vetting skills for friendships, join female only clubs and just start meeting new people. You don't need to pressure anyone to become your new best friend, but just expose yourself to the fact that there's an entire world of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:11 AM
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I'm sorry but I looked through your post history, and this guy is an alcoholic too?! You're setting yourself up for a lifetime of pain, struggle, with you carrying him and his struggles on your back. Imagine this on top of kids and making a home together. Your sons will end up just like him, as sons always look up to their father, no matter how LV. Do you want your future daughter to end up with an alcoholic dead beat dad who can't get a job? Do you want to give her that trauma? I don't think yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:05 AM
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I have literally seen men on TRP and manosphere Twitter say "Dude if you workout and dress well, you're already in the top 5% of men." Then cue the millions of upvotes and retweets. It's so sad how deluded they are. Nothing at all about character or actual self-development. It's all ego-driven, used car salesmen vibes but for the dating world. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:58 PM
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Men who lack sexual discipline are sub-par dating prospects. It is definitely better to be alone. Just like how you wouldn't ride a bike with loose parts, or use an electronic product that has a blown fuse, there's no point dating a man who isn't sexually disciplined and is wired incorrectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:43 PM
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Compare this to the female gaze. The men that are represented in female gaze media are high value, thoughtful, respectful of boundaries, kind, with positive masculinity. The men that are represented in male gaze media are conniving, use women as objects, are predatory, are obsessed with violence and war, and other depraved acts. The male gaze is net negative on society overall, the female gaze is net positive on society overall. I honestly wonder if the world would be better off with a matriarch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 12:03 PM
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Like why don't these men improve? They'd rather complain and downvote than improve. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 06:38 PM
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I wonder if it's a difference of aspiration then. Your parents may have been poor but they had aspirations to do honest work and provide. With groups like rednecks, I think they have been poor for generations, rather than having everything stripped from them just one generation ago. I think that might lead to a different psyche?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:51 PM
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If the population of women is more than men, I say we band together and do our own thing. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:39 PM
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You might be on to something about the voice thing. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:09 PM
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This is the societal version of the Travis Scott concert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:27 PM
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Women leading and men protecting makes so much sense. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:36 PM
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This is also why you watch his actions and stay mute on his words. Doesn't matter what he says, analyze what he does and remember the discrepancies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:26 PM
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And "love" is the only thing emphasized in Disney movies and romance novels. We need more positive examples in the media of couples who discuss and vibe on all of the above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:24 PM
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It's insane how many women are resonating to the same life experiences, the same type of men, the same type of bullshit in relationships, and we are from all across the world too. It's not just the West! Let's continue to set strong boundaries, educate ourselves and other women about the reality of dating and how to stay safe from these predatory/time-wasting LVM. It's not just who you date, but also analyzing the messages in the media you consume as well, and decolonizing our mental frameworks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 06:16 PM
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Yes!! Second this. 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 06:06 PM
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The older you get, the more you'll stop caring about other's opinions on how you should live your life. Never date with desperate energy. It's more beneficial for you to get rid of this mentality as it'll increase the odds of you not settling for LVM crumbs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 06:01 PM
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Finally, a man that's not a bystander and calling shit out. 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 05:59 PM
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On response to LV men coming up with new sexual terminology to put on their dating profile like "ethically non-monagamous". "Men do what they want and then work out the narrative and justification for it later. Basically a man has some shit he wants to do and then he's trying to curate a framework where he doesn't come across as such a tool bag." Howling. 🤣🤣🤣👏👏👏 But so true! "These buzzwords and these terms hide a great deal of evil, and the way that they always couch it is it's "gender neutral"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 12:19 PM
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How many men are legit hetero when it comes it romance? Yes they're sexually attracted to women, but it's almost like they're more romantically attracted to other men, simping for male approval non-stop, while treating women like second-class citizens, and putting other men as first class. It's a joke. These "men" need to take a deep reality check on what they're actually attracted to and "love".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 01:21 PM
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Another thing, I'd literally quiz these girls and ask them what do they think green flags and red flags are in a guy. Wait for their response and ask them why they believe that. I think young girls need to know this asap so they can quickly recognize if they're having a crush on a really toxic guy that's actually way beneath them and not worth the effort or trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 11:14 PM
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Lmfao I needed to hear this when I was a teen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 11:11 PM
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This is such bad bitch older sister advice. I love it! 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 11:09 PM
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If you're overthinking it and needing to decode signs, he's actually not into you and you should move on. There's nothing more to understand. That dick is abundant, and that there will always be someone else. Most important thing is to work on yourself (learning how to set boundaries, self-discovery, seeking validation internally and not externally), get woke on men (red flags, green flags) and relationships, continue to level-up (school, career, finances, hobbies, personal goals like style, fas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 09:12 PM
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I suggested this in another thread, haven't tried it out yet. But lead with first informing young girls that places like TRP and the manosphere exist, and how widespread + toxic it is. Tell them that there are millions of men online who create posts to figure out ways on how to lead women on, sleep with them as fast as possible, put them on a plate (rotatation), while never offering actual love and commitment. Women who fall for TRP type men, often waste years of their life trying to make a husb…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 02:46 PM
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These type of men are the actual "damaged goods".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 11:30 AM
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These videos have 10m to 100+ million views each. They're trending on the front page, and there's pages of them. Now multiply that by the sheer amount of sites available. If it's not all men, then it's a huge significant chunk of men. Then the rest of them are bystanders that haven't rubbed their two brain cells together to figure out a way to stop the others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 10:15 PM
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Really good point! Thanks for sharing! Should women factory reset our phones if we suspect such an app has been installed? How can you detect it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 09:51 PM
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Great study, it is a shame they missed out the porn question. Also if any FDS women here are in research, this is what we need more of. There are too many LVM male-funded research studies that are referenced throughout cheap journalism that LVM love referencing to back up their misogynistic world views. We need more studies that examine the whole picture fully, and that explore male socialization, its resultant psychological profile and the unexamined impact on society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 12:29 PM
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Hmm this could be a great way to introduce FDS to neutral female friends. Show what TRP is doing first. It almost then becomes a non-negotiable that it needs an anti-force.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 11:18 AM
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If this happens, I hope that her mom can be on the podcast anonymously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 11:14 AM
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A car without an engine, is a car without an engine. It won't start. It won't take you to Point A to Point B. It doesn't matter if you're a Formula 1 driver, a chauffeur with 30+ years experience, or a driving instructor. That car won't start for you. It's faulty and doesn't have the internal engine that makes it work. In the same vein, this is why it's not about "looks". Defective, faulty LVM men, will never be relationship material. It's also why FDS women need to vet like they should when buy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 11:08 AM
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"Redirect my highly empathetic nature towards myself." Yes that's the key! 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 10:49 AM
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I wonder how much of this has been influenced by fucked up porn they watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:24 PM
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Girls have to watch their exposed skin now as well with all these weird men that are now injecting girls at clubs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:21 PM
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A discussion for the ladies here, how could OP have fast-tracked these red flags? Do you think we should bring up virginity topic much earlier, so that we can quickly see his weird attitudes around it? Should we be probing for questions around his attitudes towards sw earlier? How can we be quicker at figuring out if he has controlling attitudes towards women and their bodily choices?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:17 PM
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That thread reads of a generation of boys raised on a high sugar fructose corn syrup diet (women in porn), then getting mad that they can't taste anything in healthy nutritious food (women who are within their league and looks level).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 11:09 PM
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Firstly, you are NOT at fault. This is why us women at FDS are so passionate about criticizing messages that have been brainwashed into us by Hollywood, Netflix, the music industry, porn culture, hook-up culture and the LVM male gaze dominated internet culture. The entire world is making money brainwashing young girls who just want to be in loving relationships, to get into situations like this. This was NOT your fault, this is the years of conditioning that patriarchy, misogyny, hook-up culture…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/21 10:12 AM
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Once you identify a gaslighter, just know that THEY are the ones that have lost all credibility. Anyone who tries to gaslight others isn't worth keeping around or knowing. Make a mental note of who this person is and minimize interactions with them in your life. You can leave the room once they enter, you can change topics, you can ghost them and not bother speaking to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 07:34 PM
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Absolutely agree. Any opening line or chat up line that forces the woman to be defensive about something is a red flag on that guy's character and emotional intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:34 AM
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Yes the second guy! LOL. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 09:58 AM
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You know what's funny? The way the third guy raised his eyebrows SUPER high while taking the hat off to disguise the receding hairline. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:59 AM
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With porn and IG softcore, men love to rationalize it by saying "bUt wE'rE nOt cHeAtInG!" Cheating aside, it's a character flaw. You have a defective male on your hands. One that continues to objectify women, and has purposely gone out of his way to continue following these Instagram accounts, and double tap when they pop up on his screen. Flip the script, would you be tapping on half naked muscular men with six packs, full head of sexy hair, huge dicks in thongs and a butler outfit every day wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 07:08 PM
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OP you are too generous with your advice. It should be paywalled for them. The scrotes don't deserve free pointers. 😂 Also I don't believe previously hardcore TRP men can truly reform themselves, there will always be an element of deeply entrenched misogyny within them. Let them marry out with their sex dolls and their digital internet waifus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 04:58 PM
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Keanu is a HV "old" man so he gets a pass. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 04:55 PM
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You are actually amazing. Every single reply and retort was executed to perfection. Love how you stood your ground, made your values and boundaries clear, and ended the date. 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 03:59 PM
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I agree with most of this, but so many guys have receding hairlines at like 20.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 02:29 PM
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#SHREKWORKERS Omg this is brilliant. Especially since that's what their clientele look like if they need to pay for sex. 💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 02:28 PM
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I've started consuming more media written by women, some which including these Korean comics and dramas, and it's amazing how incredible the men written in these stories are. Of course you still need to vet and make sure the writer is not a pick-me or promoting pick-me tendencies, but the writing is so much better. The male leads are actually human who have a genuine human interest in the female lead (not a sexual objectification way). It's weird that we don't see male and female dynamics writte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 01:29 PM
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I wonder if this could be solved by having internet connected devices only given to children when an adult is present and able to monitor them from a distance. Other than that, we need better technology that can block all adult content from the router, or as part of an entire ISP package so that kids can't access it even if they typed it or got a VPN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 10:53 PM
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I'm quite nailed on FDS principles when it comes to dating, but I'd love more tips on how to apply the same mindset to friendships and the workplace. Were there any threads in particular that helped you on that specific aspect?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 10:50 PM
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What are your dealbreakers in the hypothetical casual relationship arrangement that you desire to have? What would the ideal guy look like for this short-term scenario? I would start there, then prepare a vetting strategy around it. FDS vetting strategies are for marriage/long-term relationships. This is why we vet so hard about the no sex until 3 months rule, because we want to weed out to make sure the guy doesn't just want us for casual sex/relationship. Since your end game is a casual/non-se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 09:32 AM
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I get it! So it's more of a focused vibe, rather than a cold bitchy vibe, while not laughing or smiling at every little joke or comment they make. That makes sense considering how many men think women who laugh at their jokes might be into them. 🙄 Loved your comment! Thanks for the words of wisdom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 11:08 PM
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Are there any good examples from TV shows or the media of young women putting on a more flat, boring, colder persona at work, and having that work in their favor in terms of moving up, seniority, getting respect across the board etc? I'm trying to decolonize and detach my mind from the idea that women need to be upbeat, kind and giggly to seem like a valued member of the team culture at work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:55 PM
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Do you think it's better to have a resting bitch face with male work colleagues, or a very "Daria" like presence when collaborating with them? Does it impact the way they want to collaborate with you? How do we build rapport with male colleagues and connections when we need to work with them on a project, but without giving them any romantic ideas?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:47 PM
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Was there anything in the DMs that might have indicated he would have been this type of negging person on Facetime? Would be good to dissect and see if there were potentially any red flags missed during the initial chat before going onto Facetime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:36 PM
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Trauma-fishing is an excellent term for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/21 10:35 PM
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Just to add, the best way to get rid of his mask is to make dating you expensive and high effort, with no signs of going back to his place. A lot of men with unserious intentions want to keep many women fooled in a rotation, and to do that it requires cheap, low effort dates with high ROI (sleeping with women easily within a few dates). The LVM's goal is simple: get to date, be physically intimate and eventually sleep with a woman or many women, with little commitment (emotionally, energetically…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 11:39 AM
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Biggest red flags right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 08:28 AM
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He tells you what you want to hear. (Future faking, love bombing, pretending to be a feminist, really needing to exaggerate he's an ally to women or whatever cause you're into, desperately coming across as a smooth gentleman). He tells you what you don't want to hear. (This type of scrote will be following the TRP playbook and start off by negging you and making you feel insecure, playing dread game by complimenting other women in your presence, or triangulating you with an ex. All of which is a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:02 PM
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What the fuck. No point even going to clubs anymore. 🙄 Someone needs to start a ladies only night so that we can dance in peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 01:02 PM
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SZA - The Weekend + Ariana Grande - Boyfriend 🤢🤮 The melody in both songs are so good, but I don't condone the lyrics or the pickme energy in them, so I avoid listening to them. Wish there were HV covers of the songs. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 12:59 PM
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I mean, by being with someone who cheats, the man is already outing himself as a LVM, and a defective male. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:34 AM
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Also, a man that doesn't know what he wants, is a man that's not ready to date or be in a relationship. Definitely a red flag and a man to avoid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:08 AM
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Which is why it's more important to wake other women up, than waste your energy trying to convince/argue with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 08:11 PM
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Very good points! This is why as FDS women we need to ensure we focus on our careers and our own separate financial emancipation so that we can leave LVMs if they turn out to be asshats like in OP's situation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:48 PM
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Some men see child rearing as "hanging out with your kids all day". And it just goes to show men don't know shit about childrearing and think it's just social activity. No concept of discipline, education, emotional regulation, teaching a young child about how the world works. You have to be on mommy mode all day, talking like a kid and relating to kid things, while giving up on your own interests and hobbies as childrearing takes over. On top of this, the woman cooks, cleans, manages the househ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 10:09 AM
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"You must have no had no self-respect for marrying him." Wow. This sentence. It's so true on so many layers and applicable in so many other areas. How many times have we put up with shitty people, family members or environments? Ladies, in all situations, we must remember our self-respect comes first and foremost. Leave any situation where this is clearly being tested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 10:03 AM
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Ugh my ex did this. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:54 AM
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Infidelity aspect aside, it shows how he views women as sexual objects, and not human beings. Some men excuse infidelity because they see the "whore" women as just visual artefacts and not real human beings like his madonna "wife". Regardless, that's a defective male, and not worthy to raise children or be in a partnership with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:45 AM
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What the heck is wrong with being morally superior? That's a good thing. I'd be concerned about people who want to be morally inferior. Like yikes alert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:42 AM
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Yup. Always important to see what a LVM gets offended by, it's often indicative of his morals/character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:41 AM
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Seriously what is up with this generation of smooth brains that mindlessly follow what's shown on TV (which is based off some LVM's imagination anyway, and not rooted in morals, character or dignity). Then they want women to submit to men who are monkey see monkey do like this? Nahhhhh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:35 AM
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Start with baseline attraction, remove LVMs from this pool, then look at surface-level compatibility (personality/interests), then vet via chemistry, shared values and goals in life etc. Eventually once this pool is narrowed down you want to sift through red flags vs. green flags using FDS principles in the handbook. I would also recommend journalling on what your ideal partner is. When you get hyper specific you'll quickly be able to tell who is matching that and who isn't. Helps you sort out t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 06:38 PM
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While this thread is still fresh, can the link formatting on the handbook be fixed? There's a lot of links that have gaps [text] (link). The gap needs to be closed in order for the links to display properly. Like this [text](link).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:48 PM
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"The things that made you fall for him was the bare minimum. The things that he lacked was your standards." So good! 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:28 AM
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I also want to riff off this and say same goes for family. If you have LV relatives that espouse similar behavior to LVMs, or give off pick-me energy, you don't need to call them "family" or put up with their shady behavior. Block and delete. Ghost. Low information diet. Raise your standards of how you want family to act in your life. If they aren't HV you don't need to do emotional labor for them. You don't need to mix with them. You should fully be able to decide who gets to stay in your life …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:31 AM
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Excellent reflections! Just a reminder to other ladies, let's say if a scrote has "gamed" his response to the "your type" question, make sure you cross reference what was said in other non-verbal ways. I know it's great to ask questions and vet responses, but we also need to be observing very diligently at what he says and doesn't say, what he does and doesn't do, and continue to connect the dots internally. Always keep vetting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 01:00 AM
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In a very misogynistic subreddit, some LVM was complaining about how college women outnumber college men, and that women won't settle for men beneath them. So what was his solution? "WoMeN nEeD tO bRoAdEn tHeIr dAtInG pOoL!" Not how men need to improve, get their shit together and make sure they go to college and use their brain to get good jobs. No, apparently women just need to keep lowering their fucking standards. 🙄 I really can't with these pick-me, male-coddling analogies anymore. This is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 08:55 PM
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Creepy LVM scriptwriters writing creepy Hollywood scripts. This is why we need to vet writers of the media we consume. Any hint of LVM glorification themes, that show is not getting watched. ❌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 07:59 PM
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Yup. So done with male-written female characters in media. After FDS, I can spot them really easily. The words and phrases sound off (similar to men larping as women on Reddit). I then Google the scriptwriters or songwriters, and low and behold, they're 75-100% men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 07:57 PM
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Which is why we need to channel savage mom energy when it comes to men in the workplace. Not the "babying" "coddling" type, but "pick up your own shit" and "who do you think you're talking to" type energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 04:49 PM
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Enacting consequences is so important. If people are being sus and treating you in an undignified manner, it is COMPLETELY okay to have a boundary. Don't ever even think of feeling a type of way for demanding respect and enacting the consequence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 12:52 PM
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I would also like to sue sexpozzy writers, tv shows, and media for damages as well. I wish it was legally possible. The amount of shit we got fed. The promotion of promiscuous behavior at the cost of your own dignity to appeal to the male pornified gaze. Like wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 12:48 PM
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This! The bar is literally so low, especially considering the overt cultural misogyny in South Asian culture that genuinely thinks women are lesser than men. Any semblance of a "nice guy" is a catch. It shouldn't be. Men need to step up and become actual men, and not animals that resort to their lowest reptilian lizard brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 12:42 PM
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I remember in my early 20s us young women were given the dating strategy to "not mention weddings or children" on the first date, so that we don't scare men off. It's actually a joke how women have been pressured into not speaking about this topic, just so men can have it easier to not commit? Fuck that. I think women should be fine with stating their expectations, especially if they're marriage-minded. If the scrote feels threatened by it, even better. We want to weed out the LVMs as quick as p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 10:28 AM
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I like the reminder but I wish this was cropped properly before being uploaded. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 08:50 PM
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FYI to my FDS ladies, make sure you follow a similar template of these questions and not ask the exact word for word that's on here. I saw on a TikTok comment some scrote thanking a woman for sharing similar tips so that he knows how to answer back. Never stop vetting. Always watch. A scrote can bullshit the answers to these questions, but get the receipts of his actual behavior and thought processes from multiple angles and methods around these topics. Don't just stick to vetting questions, alt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 08:35 PM
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Anyone else here hot af, and get loads of guys hitting on them at the club, at a bar etc, but also celibate and not interested? Imagine some guy with no investment of time, care, attention into you getting THAT intimate with you. Ew no thanks. Also, to those who are planning to have children, it sort of disgusts me that some random scrote has access to the same area your future children will be coming out from. We need more women denying hook-up culture tbch. Men should only be having sex with y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 08:29 PM
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Imagine being 40 and stuck with a geriatric man baby who watches porn, negs his wife, expects you to do his laundry, cooking and cleaning, as well as manage the household admin and social calendar, while raising the children too while he just plays vidya games in the background. Most women would rather be 40 and alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:18 PM
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This is the right answer. Don't get love bombed into overriding your intuition about not feeling ready to commit and needing more time to vet him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:13 PM
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LV scrotes love saying "I don't mind paying the bill, but love when she offers first". I think if we even have to ask, we know he's LV and doesn't really take us seriously. In this situation, pay your half and know to block him after the date. There's no salvaging the situation or his feelings for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 03:08 PM
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You can't edit polls so it's just a heads up for next time or if you want to repost. Otherwise the rest of us will have to wait 2-3 days for the results. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 09:37 PM
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I wish you did an option for "See results" so we can see how people are voting. People might just vote a random number so that they can look at the poll results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 08:19 PM
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How is he doing husband things when he's moved into her mom's house? 🤔 I can't imagine how low her sex drive would be if she had to do wifey duties to a man who doesn't commit and ON TOP of him living in her own mom's house!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 04:36 PM
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Please post it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 03:19 PM
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Is there a reason why FemaleLevelUpStrategy is down?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/21 08:09 AM
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You're amazing. Loved reading this post! Go girl! Exactly we don't chase, we attract. What's not meant for us can exit our lives as we focus on what genuinely wants us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:53 PM
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That's a criminal offense if it wasn't filmed for porn. This is how brainwashed everyone is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 08:13 PM
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I'm excited for you. After the disillusionment is where you get riled up and ready to fight against it and spread the word to all your non-FDS girlfriends. I honestly feel like FDS is the only place where women are "getting it". We need to continue analyzing, dismantling and waking up our other sisters. The fight for women's rights didn't finish with the Suffragettes or when we got the right to vote, own property, work for ourselves, it continues with us dismantling patriarchy completely on a so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 06:32 PM
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Omfg I remember how much she promoted anal on her videos. Ughhhhhhhhhh. Such porn sick, misogynistic, sex positivity. 🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:45 PM
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I severely dislike Laci Green's content after naively subscribing and watching her videos on sex positivity in my early 20s and I won't personally be listening to this. But kudos to Reux, Savannah and Lilith for doing this. I think it's important we reach out to other girls who might still be into LG's content. Also, if a fellow FDS sister can give us a summary I'd appreciate it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:40 PM
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Laci Green was a massive bad influence. I wish I never watched her sex positivity videos either. I wasn't taking part in hook up culture, but there were some red flags I missed while dating that I passed over because I wanted to be "sex positive" and "open-minded". 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 09:37 PM
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LVM will stay in a relationship he's lukewarm about if she's helping him split his bills 50/50 and sleeps with him. Lukewarm men aren't good partners. It's better for women to cut their losses rather than stay with someone who is staying with them out of convenience. Let alone propose to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:16 PM
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Wtf. This is in the show?! Who the fuck is writing this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 12:54 AM
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Government/corporate whistleblower... LVM: "Wow strong and brave. Snoden mah hero." Porn whistleblower... LVM: "IT WAS UR JOB B!TCH STOP COMPLAINING."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:59 PM
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One of the best takedowns of Jordan Peterson's flawed and unquestioned arguments. 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 02:29 PM
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Is there a movie clip where we can see a woman standing her ground in this way? It's hard to imagine when you don't see it much! I've seen the extremes (push over or extremely bossy), I wonder what a good middle ground looks like?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:44 PM
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While you make really good points, when observing cultures with multigenerational households, such as Asian culture for example, the daughter-in-law is still expected to look after her scrote and his parents. The division of labor doesn't get split equally. The concept still is that the daughter is "given away" and now belongs to the husband's family. I would love a truly feminist, non-misogynistic version of this, but the current examples I've seen is still quite inherently patriarchal and bene…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:51 AM
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Wtf. Where is this term from? Is it new?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:44 AM
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Would this advice apply well to non-STEM fields?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:41 AM
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They emasculate themselves then blame it on women! 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:37 AM
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Exactly. They profit from our private free labor to build their public greatness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:43 PM
51

Random but how do we engage with and find good lawyers? How does it work? Is it a free consultation first? Do you pay per each appointment? How much should us women budget for lawyer fees in case we need them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:41 PM
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Someone posted a link to some Korean manhwas yesterday saying the guys in the stories are HV, but they've got the same LV trope of being emotionally cold and stunted, and the woman has to soften them up. I fell for that in my early 20s and tried to soften up my cold ex, whilst ignoring many red flags. We need more stories with men who are genuine HV leads. Not just the Sasuke brooding emo types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 12:38 PM
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It's giving death grip vibes for real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:36 PM
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It's really sad how they parrot the same talking points which have been presented to them as absolute truths. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:33 PM
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I bet this guy doesn't clean his room, wears the same underwear for days and has an unwashed buttcrack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 08:30 PM
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Omg. You're absolutely right. A lot of weird phrasings in there that sounds like it's from the male perspective. Plus the whole humiliation emphasis reeks of porn sickness. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:41 PM
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Imagine him perving on his daughter's friends in the future. He will do it to the 22 year old if they end up going for the long term. He's shown his true colors. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:36 PM
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Considering his friends reactions. That social circle isn't HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:34 PM
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Scrotedingers mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:29 PM
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What part of "avoid abusive men" is inc*l? Men want to date us. We want to avoid the abusive ones and learn red flags. Any man that's against that, is an apologist for other male abusers and needs to get a grip on what he's coming over here at FDS to "laugh" about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 09:52 AM
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Absolutely great point. They also allow men to post there. It's such a weird dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 08:53 PM
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#GetScrotesOutOfAcademia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:41 PM
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#GetScrotesOutOfAcademia
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 11:27 AM
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In case any mods see this, I spotted a post by a RPW in FemaleLevelUpStrategy. It's weird because they use the terms HVM/HVW, but to them, it means completely different things. A RPW HVM would be a LVM in FDS terms. Their standard of being a "HVW" also has a lot of pick-me energy in it. Just wanted to flag this in case it happens again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:04 AM
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I thought Pewdiepie and Brad were close... wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:40 AM
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Also, research and narratives funded by the patriarchy. LVM love fucking peddling junk science like "a man is just genetically wired to sow his oats, going from one female to another, it's in his nature and happened in history". Really now? Like any hot HVW would let a scrote even come an inch close to her in the old days. This also conveniently ignores the other research where women also apparently would try to obtain the best sperm by being open to multiple partners, yet funny how us women are…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 08:35 AM
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I also want to add that WATCHING PORN itself is like inviting a molester into your home. Porn exposure at a young age IS a form of sexual abuse. In fact, many groomers make their victims watch porn. Take this logic and imagine what happens when this girl watched it by herself from a young age. Even if no one made her watch it, she's being groomed by porn videos to become a ready and willing victim when the time comes for when abusive porn-sick men want to use her! This is why porn is "not just m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 07:56 AM
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Omfg. I just went on RPW, a community I totally forgot existed, and wanted to barf from the advice they're peddling women over there. Apparently, September Back-To-Basics advice is for women to learn to STFU! Yes, apparently the way to deal with an angry husband is to just stay silent when he is venting after a long day at work. 🙄 But wow, let's not expect the husband to have his own emotional regulation or empathy for his wife huh? Other top posts were "Ladies life is so much better when you lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 08:56 PM
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For sure. Porn addicts have comorbidities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:50 AM
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Yes, similar to "love bombing", it almost comes off as "woke bombing". "Oh you don't have to worry about me, I'm SOOO woke. Let me tell you how much I hate [misogynistic topic] so that you let your guard down and think I'm a cool guy."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 07:47 AM
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You stop dating them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 10:46 AM
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"He makes me a better person, he helped me quit cigarettes" This is why you love yourself first, heal yourself FIRST. Because a LVM taking the reigns on your own personal growth is gonna make you look over so many of his red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:35 PM
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"I just want real love, not cash." ... Like the two are mutually exclusive? Sis, you can have both. Stop placing the bar in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 03:59 PM
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Dating -> Girlfriend -> Engaged -> Married It's the same stages, but what FDS is against is being the "forever girlfriend" which is dragging on the girlfriend phase for years with no signs of actual skin in the game commitment (marriage) from the man. If you're in your early 20s, being a girlfriend for a few years is fine to an extent, but mid-20s and onwards, you should know within 1.5-2 years. What you might have got confused with is the FDS mindset of not doing wifey duties and not closing yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 02:31 PM
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You cracked the code sis. This post needs to be gilded, saved and added to the handbook! This is why it's so important that us women have more women in actual power, such as owning companies across STEM, law firms, research institutions run by women, media corps that actually stand for women first (and not just further perpetuating Wonderscrote propaganda 24/7). Imagine if all those women were CEOs of powerful institutions that could genuinely empower women against CockCorp r' Us instead? We nee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 01:44 PM
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Honestly, if that's 1 date per week, that's almost 3 months, and he STILL hasn't made a decision on whether to make her his girlfriend? What's going on?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 11:54 AM
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So what laws are missing to allow this harassment to happen? What laws do we need to pass ladies? Let's get thinking, campaigning, influencing and protect our fellow sisters from this happening ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:58 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:55 AM
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I think "CockCorp" needs to become a new addition to our FDS lingo to point out systemic misogyny against women. So simple and easy to remember and use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 12:51 AM
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Weaponized junk science. Yes, exactly! Men love using "muh biology" when justifying their wandering eye (caused by misogyny and excessive porn), yet will quickly shush away the fact that the male needs to dance, build nests, be attractive and on his best behavior for any female in the animal kingdom to even want to think about mating with him. Another one, investing in research that shows a woman's age linking with child birth rates, but not on men and their aging sperm! Then there's also puttin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 11:36 PM
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And get the SEO on point so that it's the top result on Google for the top questions a woman might ask about men and relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 10:39 PM
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Wow. You cracked the code sis. This post needs to be gilded, saved and added to the handbook! This is why it's so important that us women have more women in actual power, such as owning companies across STEM, law firms, research institutions run by women, media corps that actually stand for women first (and not just further perpetuating Wonderscrote propaganda 24/7). Imagine if all those women were CEOs of powerful institutions that could genuinely empower women against CockCorp r' Us instead? W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:56 PM
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A random thought on seeing others succeed and comparisonitis. Have any of you seen another person succeed and felt bad about yourself? You start beating yourself up like, I wish I had an opportunity like that, or, why didn't I do that when I was their age? Or from an FDS lens, why didn't I know about LVM/HVM sooner or learn how to vet and have strong boundaries like other HV girls? I think all of us have a tendency of comparing individuals to individuals. It's Person A vs. Person B. We do a like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:22 PM
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Yes, vetting a workplace is totally similar to vetting a LVM! This toxic boss was already attempting to lovebomb you by telling you that you could be the best. Then they try to push your boundaries with displays of unwarranted dominance. So glad you picked up the vibe and got out of there! Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:27 PM
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I also wouldn't be surprised if it was an LVM that wrote it. "Hey there, girls of Reddit" totally gives me "How do you do, fellow kids?" vibes. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:20 PM
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Ok, idk who else agrees with me. But it's the misogyny and cheapening the meaning of sex for me that disgusts me about those that use porn to masturbate. It's the problematic themes of incest, rape, sexual harassment, degradation, choking, punching and torturing women that make 95% of the videos on a porn homepage. It's also how porn is filmed in a way that trains men to expect women to put in all the work, and men to just sit back and do nothing, or thinking jackhammering like a lunatic is job …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 05:12 PM
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Girl. We dated really similar men and it's so sad how widespread this bullshit is. Mine was also one who wanted to be a philosopher, and have intellectual debates, but it was just some weird self-masturbation happening. There were no fruits from his "intellectual behavior". Like ok where is your career progression? Where is your financial rewards? It was just hot air, gaming and porn coming out of his black box of intellectualism. Then later, alt-right racism, discrimination and conspiracy theor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:40 PM
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I'm not joking. But I wish we could all get reparations for the trauma and damage porn, the media, and sex-positive culture inflicted on us impressionable women when we were teenagers. All the years wasted on LVM, all the years wasted making questionable decisions, partaking in oversexualization so that we could be "cool girls" to LVM and other pick-me's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:32 PM
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The only person you tell your traumas to is a licensed therapist who you can sue and get compensated a shit ton of money for if they break the confidentiality agreement and mistreat you due to the trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:25 PM
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Just a reminder, please vet and be vigilant around the LVM in your family as well. I'm of the philosophy that family only means family when they show loyal, trustworthy, HV traits. Do not trust toxic family members just because they're close to you. I'd advise saving your empathy in that department too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:02 PM
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My ex also posed as a well rounded guy with lots of hobbies, from playing a musical instrument, to art and sports. I remember visiting his place and seeing books related to these "hobbies" too. Over the period that I dated him, he actually never played musical instruments, he just learned it as a kid and kept the books. He only drew a piece of art once. He didn't go regularly to his sports team, it was a 3-4 week sprint, then he'd suddenly stop going for months. And what did he do instead? Hundr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:55 PM
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It's because he made you believe the bar is in hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:28 PM
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We need FDS articles showing up on top instead! Get the SEO perfect so it's the first result and women can get the actual advice they need, and not one that peddles LVM values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 12:20 PM
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"Oh and the reason why I believe she thinks this way is because she herself doesn't masturbate. Not that it's common for the opposite sex (?)" Hate how boys and men have been socialized to think porn, sex and masturbation addiction is a male sport, like how they should play with Hot Wheelz, Action Man and only be seen in a blue bedroom and have a blue birthday cake. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:06 PM
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Just because someone is highly-empathetic, sweet natured and liked by your friends and family, doesn't make him HV! You've mentioned a lot of FDS assessment criteria like him prioritizing your pleasure in bed etc, but that's not all a HV man is about. At the end of the day, do you both share the same values? You value fitness, a man who has excellent time management skills, and a man that can prioritize the relationship. Those are your values. That should be the bare minimum you vet for when dat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 09:59 PM
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Wow. I wonder why there aren't that many Sensing types here? 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 02:32 PM
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It still astounds me that people use Facebook with their full name, a profile pic and public posts. Then on top of that, there are scrotes that can see this and message them. Not blaming women, I'm blaming the system. Facebook is such a massive privacy risk, and in today's digital age, it's not okay to demand a public display of your full name, photo, see your friends, family, then on top of that, access to you via DM. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 12:07 PM
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The fact that there's almost 200,000 of us here on FDS that can relate to eachother just goes to show how widespread these problems are. And we've all been isolated from eachother, and negged to believe it doesn't exist! Exactly how an abusive narc would isolate his victims from connecting with others and recognising that abuse. We need to continue waking up as women and feel strong and bold in the knowledge that we don't have to put up with the LVM bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:24 AM
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This some fire shit right here. 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:20 AM
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He probably felt threatened and unworthy to date you. It sounds like he attempted to do a lot of "negging" during the date to make you feel insecure and have power over you. It's not that he didn't want you, he probably wanted to control you by making you feel insecure. A lot of weak, insecure men do this to women out of their league.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 10:07 AM
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At this point, they're not photographers. They're softcore pornographers. Very opportunistic and gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:04 PM
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Oh, and that men larp as women on Reddit and try to control the narrative of how women think and what advice they're given on the internet, which benefits LV men more than the woman that needed the advice in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 09:01 PM
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That we still live in a patriarchal society. Just because women have legal and economic rights to own property, vote and work, doesn't actually mean we're equal in society. LVM in power try their best to manipulate women to be subservient through film, media, politics and the internet. Socially, women are still seen as sex objects by a majority of men who are LV. We are still seen as bangmaids, free therapists and status symbols. (Which is even more reason for us to continue vetting and not give…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:58 PM
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"Tell a woman your feelings, tell a man your decisions." Wow. Powerful sentence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:50 PM
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This is one of the best summaries. 🔥🔥🔥 So effective it should be a shareable infographic!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:42 PM
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Big solid breats 🍞🍞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:50 PM
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Also vet how genuinely interested, embracing and enthusiastic they are about your heritage and background. (In a HV way, not a fetishy way ofc). I eventually figured out that my ex just "tolerated" my heritage. He didn't actually give that much of a shit about it. I remember getting excited about maybe going travelling together and I could show him all the cool things from my ethnic background. But he never matched the same energy. I was a pick-me back then, so I kept trying to think of how I co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:09 PM
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Femininity should be primarily for yourself, not for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 01:31 AM
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My ex was the opposite. He never drank. I never understood why. I was annoyed at first cause I thought it would have been fun to get tipsy together as a couple. However, let me say something. There's actually something so attractive about a sober man, and a man that doesn't need alcohol for himself or his partner to get in a mood or have fun. Although he was LV in other ways, his non-drinking status was something that really opened up my eyes and it's something I've added to my dating requiremen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 11:38 PM
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Imagine calling out abuse and being called a misandrist? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 09:41 AM
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Liberal feminism is just political/social BDSM at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 11:12 PM
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Exactly this! "If he wanted to he would" is THE BARE MINIMUM. After that we 👏 vet 👏 hard! 👏 The saddest thing is, how much so many pick mes settle for less than the bare minimum. "He's not doing it, but maybe he likes me deep down somewhere?" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 06:55 PM
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Could we get Breeny Lee on the FDS podcast? Her philosophy aligns so much with FDS. Since she's broken up with her ex, her FDS aligned content is on overdrive. Really good videos about the real nature of men, and teaching young girls and women to not be pick mes and spotting red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:34 PM
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Is there a specific type of therapy for people pleasers? How did you pick your therapist? Any tips?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 11:30 PM
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Girl. Date your own age. You don't need to go on dates with tons of men. Better to have a small pool of men you're willing to date, than just lowering your filtering options and including the stanky old creepo guys so you have more "options".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 10:29 AM
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Great questions, but gamer guys aren't worth it. Had experiences dating them and the way they prioritize levelling up in video games over their actual life is some cringey ass shit that's only permissable for when you're a kid who can't go out to live life without adult supervision. Once you have the independence and freedom of being an adult, you should be going out and doing that in life. Not stuck in a chair doing that for what? Electronic points that can be deleted or written over at the pus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 05:25 PM
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Ugh, the worst part is when men want to become successful for the sole reason to access that entitlement to women's bodies. For example, rappers, indie bands, singer/songwriters. Heck, even artists. They want to make it big in X industry so they can live out that LVM fantasy of having groupies and women lose their critical thinking faculties because of their fame. Like, their dedication to their craft isn't to do with bettering their craft. It's just a vehicle for them to access LVM fantasies of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:32 PM
33

I feel sorry for my gay male friends. It's like they're forced to be promiscuous because hook-up culture has become synonymous with gay culture. Gay people deserve better models of love, respect and romance. Even lesbian women are subject to sexual objectification by other men. Why is it called "sexual" orientation anyway? Can't it be called "romantic" orientation? It puts sex on the pedestal and foundation of a relationship, when it should be romance, love, and mutual respect first over a super…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:44 PM
29

This. We're not doing Bob the Builder/Build-A-Man free labor shit here. If these men can learn how to get the highest score on Fortnite or Minecraft, they can fucking learn how to become a better man by themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 01:27 PM
34

Second this. I hope it's with webcams off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:40 AM
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"Contrary to what porn says about men, we don't believe men are just life support machines for erect penises." Gail Dines is fucking hilarious. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:10 AM
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I'm sorry but, you shouldn't be dating someone you're not attracted to. Why did you decide to go on a date with him if you didn't feel an initial attraction when you first saw him? I'm not sure what the official FDS stance on this is, but dating someone for the sake of it, is still quite pick-me vibes. You are allowed to have standards, not only standards in HV characteristics but standards in looks as well! There needs to be a base level of attraction. You shouldn't ever be forcing yourself to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 07:30 PM
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Can we talk about the cultural misogyny and LVM glorification pushed by Drake's new album, cover and lyrics? The album is called "Certified Lover Boy" and features 12 emojis of pregnant women of mainly Black, Hispanic and Asian descent. 5 black women, 4 hispanic women, 2 asian women and ONLY ONE BLONDE WHITE WOMAN. As a POC, I was furious at the album cover. Fuck them for linking the visual imagery of something as sacred as a woman's pregnancy to LVM culture of being deadbeat dads that fuck and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 07:15 PM
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Thankfully no! He's actually a really good guy and very loyal to his wife. Prior to this incident, I've realized that every time I've spoken to him it's been in a group setting where a huge group of us are in the same room together. In those scenarios we talk and joke normally like family usually do! He is his normal outgoing self. This is why I was shocked to see a different side to him where he didn't engage in his normal outgoing convo when I spoke to him one on one, even though his wife was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 06:31 PM
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I have nothing to add except that we need to continue to ensure women can equally shape the future of tech, science, healthcare, financial services, law and all other areas that are currently predominantly male. Quite sick of men with questionable character deciding what gets created, because it will be created in their image, their biases, their prejudices and their values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 09:12 PM
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Fantastic post! Thank you. What happens when you follow someone on Reddit anyway? Do you get a notification every time they post a comment or is it threads only?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 05:22 PM
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Ugh. This reminds me of when I went to go say hi to a cousin's husband at a family event. I said hi to her first (she was in the dining room), and then made my way to say hi to him (he was in the kitchen cooking). And he completely shut down all conversation with me. I was trying to be enthusiastic about the food he was cooking and congratulated him about his new kid and the holiday he went on with his wife and literally he wouldn't engage in convo. He seemed to be looking over at his wife and g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 10:17 AM
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Since everything is still fresh, it's going to hurt and make you feel sick. How you're feeling right now is completely normal and an appropriate response to learning the details. I think you did the right thing by writing how you feel out and vent. Are there any girlfriends you can vent to? Or perhaps have a fun night out with to get this off your chest and do something fun/nice for yourself? Also, as cheesy as it sounds, time heals and you will heal. There is definitely a 5 stages of grief proc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 10:06 AM
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This is really interesting. So if a woman helps a man build his business while married, she's entitled to half the assets? But if she does the same without being married, she will get nothing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:46 AM
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The cheating is nothing to do with you, and everything to do with their deranged depraved defective moral compass. Just remember that. Even someone as stunning, talented, rich and famous as Beyonce can get cheated on by a low life scrote. Go back and analyze the red flags you may have missed that allowed you to remain in a relationship with such a LV person and make sure you never settle or waste time for someone with red flags like that ever again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:39 AM
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I thought LVM misogynistic lyrics were only in mainstream rap and pop music, but I was listening to some indie band tracks the other day and it's the same cringey whiney lyrics from the perspective of LVM about women. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:17 PM
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Yep definitely! Even for men, keeping it trimmed and groomed is so much more attractive that way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 02:10 PM
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I honestly think us women should collectively work towards not sexualising a bald vagina. It's just one step closer to men seeing children's genitalia in the same way. Imagine a man changing their kids nappy and getting flashbacks of porn instead. Hair should be there. Let's not condition men to feel attracted to childlike attributes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:57 PM
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Imagine the logic. "I need you to look like a child down there before I can go down on you." Like wtf. I think having it trimmed and neat (like a well groomed beard) is an okay ask. But have it completely bald like a child is a bit of a weird one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 01:46 PM
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Honestly, I wonder why we were taught to shave it all off? Why are we supposed to look like children down there? Why are "men" supposed to like that? More importantly, should we as women be participating in male gaze trends that sexualizes pre-puberty body states?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:52 PM
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Reggie Yates seems like a good looking man who doesn't need to resort to RP tactics to date women. I bet that must infuriate scrotes more that a good looking guy is calling their deranged loopy behavior out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:26 PM
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LVM in a nutshell in 2021.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:24 PM
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Lmfao. Imagine this scrote being so close to self-awareness and yet so far. Protect his daughter from bad men. How about teach his sons and other men to be better? It's a joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:22 PM
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They would feel threatened by it. Like how they constantly complain about women getting into STEM, business and leadership positions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 11:49 AM
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Exactly. Absolutely abhor the "destigmatize" argument. Why should we "destigmatize" violence, degradation and sexual objectification of women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 07:13 PM
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That's a fantastic idea! Might have to do that myself. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 09:52 AM
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What if you just created a whole new insta? This one you don't give to scrotes and assign it under a different email address or number if you want to get an extra level of security. I personally have a whole separate IG just for following my favourite brands, artists etc. I don't follow anyone I know and it's private. Might be helpful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:59 AM
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The funniest belief they have is that we're jealous of young 20-something women dating 40-something men. PUH-LEASE. 😂 We're warning you about the food poisoning, we don't want to eat the rancid dish we're warning you about. Fools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 11:59 AM
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Thankfully a lot of us FDSers are vigiliant at spotting MaleLarpingAsWoman-nese. We will all be keeping a close look out and aggressively downvote anything that looks like an attempt at inciting toxicity. 💪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:36 PM
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Screenshot that message. If those nudes get out you can prosecute him for holding child porn since you were under 18 when those photos were taken. You could even use that as evidence of grooming a minor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 02:25 PM
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Yeah I saw that. Really sad that they probably read some article on Buzzfeed, Vice or HuffPo, and now believe doing more of what abused you is the best way to get over trauma. How about only entering loving relationships or having loving sex from now on? Nope, more of the abusive stuff?? Uh, ok then. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 10:52 AM
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While I'd love this, they'd probably go back to torrenting. How porn used to be back in the 2000s. But perhaps that's better than unfettered streaming at a click of a button.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 10:42 PM
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Someone in the comments said: "Not men creating a more advanced patriarchy". And damn it's so true. It's advanced patriarchy masquerading as empowerment for women, when all we're doing by following this is making it easier to let men get away with their unchecked depravity and moral apathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:18 PM
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I've never believed in a honeymoon period. I always thought it was a weird concept. We don't have a honeymoon period with family members, bestfriends or pets. The love and bond continues to grow. I've also never believed in the "7 year itch". Honestly, this is all just bullshit made up by LVM who are lazy, unimaginative and have low IQ/EQ. It's just an excuse and rationalization for poor behaviour and emotional immaturity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 01:07 PM
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100%. When I was a teen, I used to think him and Yoko Ono were so "cool". The most controversial thing I heard back then was that Yoko potentially broke up the Beatles. Didn't know all this other stuff. What a LVM. The artsy LVM are the worst, because they think they're so much more "woke" and "not like other guys", with a smug air of superiority complex. It's 🤢🤮.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:37 AM
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Didn't know this. Won't be listening to his music anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:25 AM
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This looks like a game for kindergarten kids. How on earth does she want to sleep with a man so incompetent and that needs that much spoonfeeding?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 08:21 AM
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As a woman who also enjoys sports this is definitely something I'm also concerned about if I dated a guy who was also into it as well. I agree with your red flags. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 06:09 AM
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Awkward moment when you come from a culture of loyalty to your family, and learning to "stick through the hard times", to the point where this becomes a model of what "love" is. This then carries through to LVMs who don't deserve it in relationships and you end up staying longer than you should have because you wanted to make it work. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 07:23 PM
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I just saw Lianne V post that she got engaged to Dom. I thought they broke up?! I didn't even know they got back together. Anyone willing to do an FDS dissection of this? Is she HV or LV for taking him back in this scenario? 🤔 I haven't been following them closely so I can't judge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:35 PM
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These aunties really be pressed by LVMs not wanting to marry women over 25. They're not the prize. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 02:40 PM
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The thought of your face and profile shown to a large group of LVMs that can screenshot your pics and show it to their friends is enough to put a girl off OLD for good. Doesn't that creep anyone else out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 02:35 PM
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I would honestly argue that you shouldn't date until you're stable in your first desired job out of college. Why? The period between graduating and getting that first job is so crucial to focus and get right. I got into my first relationship during this time, and my ex went to college late and still had 2 years left. As a result, I told myself: "I can wait for him and then take my career seriously once he graduates." 🤡 It took me years to get back on track. Don't make the same mistake ladies. If…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 02:27 PM
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This TikTok is just reminding me of the ridiculous lyrics and messaging of the original song: "Sorry girl but you missed out. Well tough luck that (LVM) boy is mine now. We are more than just good friends. And this is how the story ends. "Too bad that you couldn't see. See the man that boy could be. There is more that meets the eye. I see the soul that is inside." 🚩 Why does this sound like a Reddit male larping as a woman who gave an LV scrote a try? Like why would any normal girl be this bitte…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:57 PM
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That is fucking grim. He should be castrated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:17 PM
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Ladies, think of how powerful affirmations are. Now think of how mainstream media makes us repeat these phrases. "I'm jealous" is repeated 34 times in this Doja Cat song alone. And of course, the song is produced and written by four LVM music industry males. Any surprise the lyrics sound like a fucking Reddit dude larping as a woman? Imagine the messaging it's penetrating into young girl's subconscious minds. They're grooming the next generation of girls into PickMe's. We don't need songs that e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:07 PM
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🚩 He promised me never again. Men always say shit like this to get back into your good books. He shouldn't have been doing it in the first place. Red Flag #1: Poor judgement, selfish and backtracking. 🚩 Nerdy software engineer with zero friends. Nerds are often worst than the hotter, well rounded guys you know. They wish they could be like the jocks, but instead they keep it quiet and stew on their resentment. 🚩 He suffers from severe depression and refuses to get help. Men who aren't bothered t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:46 PM
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Second this. Dead eyes, then the only life you see is when they make the creepy side grin. It's very unhuman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:20 PM
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This is very true. The way a porn sick man looks at you is really off. There's no soul behind their eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:19 PM
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Like hold on. Give us regular, consistent orgasms first. Most men are failing that first hurdle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:18 PM
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We have to include the Tonga flag bearer from the Olympics in the next Fine Ass Fridays. 😍🥵😫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:02 PM
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I second this. "Dirty talk" or "seduction talk" is very revealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 12:54 PM
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We see low value, then LVM & pickme culture gaslights us by saying: "Don't you want to be with a mysterious bad boy?" (Someone who doesn't make you feel secure, witholds emotions, has poor sense of judgement that's been glamorized by Hollywood) "Don't you want to be his ride or die?"(Date a broke man! Date a man with bad habits! If you stick by him and eventually he'll reward you for the loyalty.) "You can fix him!" (You can't. You're not his free therapist mommy bangmaid. He will resent you and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 10:03 AM
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Can someone DM her and introduce her to FDS principles and why this isn't a fair deal for her? Or... 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:19 AM
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OP is quite young though. I think she is around 23 from her post history, so they probably started dating around 21. But yes 2 years is a bit too long if she was in her mid-late 20s!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:14 AM
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I'm not putting her down. If she has misinterpreted what a HVM is, then this is a good learning opportunity for her to realize where she miscalculated so it doesn't happen next time. If you don't analyze where you went wrong, you'll repeat the mistake again. Clearly, there was already a huge red flag 10 months ago that she mistakenly chose to ignore. I'm not putting her down, I'm making her aware where she went wrong. We learn from our mistakes when they happen, but we prevent them from happenin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:59 AM
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A guy pestering you for nudes is a massive red flag. It means he's porn sick and not HV. The fact he tried to guilt you into it shows a streak of an abusive, manipulative nature. A guy who does stuff like that is more likelier to cheat. He already showed he didn't respect your boundaries. I'm curious. What does a HVM mean to you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:46 AM
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You made a post 10 months ago about breaking up with a guy over him pestering you for nudes. Is this the same guy you've been with for 2 years? That's a giant red flag. Not HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:43 AM
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I stuck with my ex whilst he was going through hard times. He actually told me if I broke up with him the first time it happened, it would have been more motivating for him to get his shit together. So I agree with your post. Some guys really get off on proving what a person said about them wrong. It just reminds me of the book "Why Men Love Bitches". A girl leaving one comment can really motivate a guy. Sad that doesn't come through their own self-introspection and self-awareness though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:34 AM
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The worst part of this was that apparently the men use working hours to play video games with each other, while the women are then forced to pick up the slack their LVM counterparts have left behind to have their gaming "bro" time. Women need a trade union.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:15 AM
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Sounds like a massive gaslight and mental gymnastics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:12 AM
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BDSM to help heal victims of sexual abuse. Is like making POC go up to white people and asking them to recolonize our countries after gaining independence and call us racial slurs again so that "we can heal". I don't fucking think so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 01:09 AM
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A lesson in setting boundaries is, when someone suggests an idea, tell them: "I'll have a think about that and get back to you on it." You don't need to agree there on the spot. You don't have to listen to someone's incessant pitch points to convince you. Do what is right for you. Get back to them a few weeks later and say it doesn't align with my goals right now and stay firm in your decision. If they can't accept your decision then you know they're not a real friend, and you can just greyrock …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 12:40 AM
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Absolutely be strategic about this. Your intuition is right. Even though he's just a friend, there's lots of hallmarks of an abusive narcissistic nature. You know him the best. Use that to create the safest and most "greyrock" strategy to say you've decided to live back home with your parents or some other explanation that you know will work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 12:37 AM
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I love this. I'd also like to argue that men can control their sex drive, but their "boys club" group think keeps perpetuating the lie that men can't control their urges (they can if they want to) and that their purpose is to sleep with as many women as possible to get brownie points from their fellow LVM bros (it's not). This is why HVM have much healthier attitudes to sex. They recognize it's an intimate act between them and their partner. Their penis is a tool that helps to start the creation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 12:32 AM
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Oh yeah for sure and what makes it worse is that we live in a society that makes people anxious then feeds them with porn, drugs and sexual content to relieve that. It's pushing us down a funnel of negative behaviour that only benefits the bottom line of sex and drug industries, and not human connection in a loving relationship, or building a stable, secure home for the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:33 PM
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Hey you're not asexual, you're just normal. To me, sex is an intimate act done with the man you love. As a result, personally, I don't get off on fantasizing about hot guys or male celebrities I don't know. I have a high sex drive too. It's still there but it's saved for the right guy. It doesn't have to be "on" all the time. Women having an insatiable sex drive that will fuck almost anyone, only benefits LVM anyway who want a quick lay. As long media and culture continues to brainwash women int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:45 PM
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Seconded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:35 PM
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Yes definitely! I'd also add to be wary of stories that make you sound too incompetent, or having a personal life that sounds like it'll impact your performance at your job. I think you volunteering at the animal shelter sounds great, but perhaps caring for aging parents or not being able to keep up with hobbies and a full time job might make some seniors feel like you might not be able to handle higher level tasks. It depends how understanding your workplace is about these things. It's definite…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 12:42 PM
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Going to the gym to improve yourself means nothing if you're not working on self-awareness and your internal flaws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 10:50 AM
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He's a scrote, sis. Just because he's gay, doesn't mean he can't be a scrote, raised with similar misogynistic messaging and expectations that women do domestic labour while men don't. His mask is off now that you live together. There's so many red flags in your post, and so many times he hasn't given a fuck about your boundaries or feelings. Move asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:42 AM
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And men with infidelity demons are damaged goods, and should not be on the dating market. These men need years of intense therapy, not women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:36 AM
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This guy is damaged goods and will be toxic to whatever women he ends up dating. Only years of therapy could potentially help him undo the misogyny that's been injected into him from porn and red pill culture. Another lost cause for humanity lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:32 AM
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This girl has never been wined and dined, given thoughtful gifts, loving words, affection, hugs and kisses and it shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 09:29 AM
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LOL. That would be amazing. On cigarette packages outside of the US they actually have photos of lung cancer, black tar on teeth and disease to put people off it even further. Can you imagine WWE wrestling has a warning sign saying "Do not try these moves at home. It can cause serious injury or death." Yet porn, which now has even more extreme content than the average WWE wrestling episode, has no warning signs? Would be funny seeing the equivalent on porn sites. "This content can encourage you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 11:22 PM
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While I agree the political right has had very problematic movements attached and associated to it's coat tails, I do believe the LVM situation and unchecked misogyny that plagues both sides is something that affects women across all political beliefs. I think there is some merit of finding alliances between women on both sides to tackle this common, huge enemy to womankind. Both the traditional left and the right do need to have conversations about policies that benefit women, and aren't just b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:37 PM
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Porn doesn't cause lung disease or lung cancer like cigarettes... but they definitely cause a cancer on society, men, women, and future children. Porn encourages the growth of abnormal LVM cells, sex abuser cells, misogyny cells and not seeing women as human cells. Although porn doesn't cause a physical organ cancer like smoking does, there's definitely an argument to say it is cancerous to society in nature. The growth of porn sick LVM in society ruins relationships, destroys marriages, creates…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 10:28 PM
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I get that we are already controversial, but the alt-right carries too much political baggage to be affiliated with imo. To me, FDS is it's own standalone position and we need to keep reinforcing that. People try to take movements down by attempting to align them with even more controversial movements. That's something people need to be wary of. FPS (FemalePoliticalStrategy) needs to first strongly establish its baseline of what the brand means and stands for. It needs to show that it's bi-parti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:39 PM
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I get your perspective. She's controversial and would bring eyeballs, but would we want FDS to be associated with the alt right that Candace Owens often gets piled in with? We live in a TikTok generation with short attention spans. People just read headlines and don't care about nuance or context. "FDS interviews Candace Owens" might just look bad from an outside perspective as she's a very divisive persona in the political space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 07:05 PM
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This is so interesting! We definitely need a Female Culture Strategy too. We need more FDS themes in media, across film, music lyrics and music videos, TV, film, and popular internet culture. There's so many areas in society that could use non-partisan female unity to create systems, cultures and policies that benefit women, and not just pumping out and serving LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:40 PM
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LV men don't and they've been conditioned by other LV men either by social group majority or by LV film, media, music, internet and TV to not do romantic things or else they get called a "simp". Quite sad for them tbh that they don't do any critical thinking or think past their "bro club" group-think world views.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 06:36 PM
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Absolutely agree with you! It definitely exists on the opposite side of the spectrum too. It's sad when they haven't critically analyzed their thoughts, they're just hanging onto the coattails of the political equivalent of a Supreme drop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:44 PM
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It's like, we want romantic, loving sex. Not a ticket to the fucking circus. Is that too much for women to ask?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:39 PM
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I think the funniest quote was from one of the comments: YOU DON’T PUNCH YOUR PARTNER WHILE DANCING. So why do we do it in bed? Sex is meant to be like a dance. You read the cues from your partner and sync with them. It's not meant to be violent. N.B. Last two sentences were paraphrased as the original comment was a few paragraphs long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 05:29 PM
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I've noticed a lot of LVMs regurgitate that their leader says, whether they're religious or not. So if it's not their pastor, rabbi or leader, it's Jordan Peterson, Ben Shapiro or some loser PUA like Roosh V.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:09 PM
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Will the BBC ever highlight thieves and drug dealers for committing crimes against humanity because it "financially transformed their own lives"? OnlyFans is an app that reinforces internalized misogyny, and culturally emboldens misogynists to continue treating women like transactional sex objects. If some released an OnlyThieves app, would it be celebrated in the same way because they're "financially transforming criminals lives"? Or is that only okay when women are the brainwashed victims of i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:04 PM
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Ladies who know HV men, post what they do instead here: A HV male I know goes to the gym, makes his own meal prep to stay in shape, and learns how to cook different cuisines and treats his family to his cooking. He told me he was raised and told by his dad that a man should always know how to cook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 02:43 PM
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I just saw a singles event being promoted. Age range? 18-45. 🤮🤢 No 18 year old girl or boy, who has just finished highschool, needs to be at a singles event full of 25-45 year olds! Such a creepy age range.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 12:04 AM
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Live your best life and do your best work at the internship. Solidify your relationships with your seniors and your close colleagues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:51 PM
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I mean this in the kindest way, but I hope next time you won't divulge personal information to a young intern that you've only known for a week? I know that as FDS women we vet men ruthlessly for months before letting them know our vulnerabilities, I think we definitely need to extend this same mindset to new women in our lives. They could be pick-mes or unhinged toxic narcs, regardless how young they are. Some narc girls will often drop a seemingly vulnerable sounding sob story (room mate or bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:49 PM
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Wow, there's a thread gone viral on the front page called: "What men's issues do you think women are mostly unaware of and if there are simple things women can do to help, what are they?" Most upvoted answers by men were: That we're not allowed to be emotional! The the school always calls their mom before me! That men aren't considered good with kids paperwork. That men shouldn't automatically be assumed to be a predator when interacting with children. That men shouldn't automatically assume to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:58 PM
21

How did you transition from being a people pleaser into an ice queen? How can you do this in a way that doesn't get you hated/sabotaged, but instead gets respect from colleagues? I do have an ice queen side, but only a few people have seen that and it can be extremely brutal. To strangers I'm super nice and friendly, mainly because I don't want to hurt their feelings by showing my brutal/no chill/savage side. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:40 PM
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Yup. The reason why we need more woke FDS-type women in STEM and STEM leadership is to throw off the power imbalance of these pathetic LVM "boys clubs". Sex workers and brainwashed pick-me's have no idea how they are reinforcing misogyny on their fellow sisters who are doing work in male dominated industries. We are invalidated and looked down upon even more so because these LV men want to treat us like how they treat sex workers and the pick-me's they go on dates with. I want more badass women …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 01:27 PM
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👏 Don't 👏 reward 👏 LVMs 👏 with 👏 marriage/relationships, 👏 sex or 👏 attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:51 AM
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Ladies, these are the real "damaged goods" of society. Not us women who may have slept with a few men while trying to find the one, as the manosphere like to proclaim. It's these fucking losers who jerk off to porn all night, looking for their next fix in more extreme places. This man now needs deep therapy and years of giving up fapping for him to reset himself, if ever. How sad that porn culture continues to turn the next generation of men into "damaged goods", becoming toxic to whatever relat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:47 AM
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One day that girl will wake up and realize her mistake and she'll think of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 11:43 AM
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I've seen a few comments about women feeling down about this article, but I just wanted to clarify that for me, this article was an indication of how much we need an FDS mindset in the workplace too, and how much that WE here at FDS are doing the right thing by creating a woman-only space, that is clued up on ZVM/LVM bullshit, that can band together and call these scrotes out for what they are. I wonder how many of these women gaslit themselves by telling themselves: Oh it's just boys being boys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:40 AM
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There's a comment left by a man fearful of speaking out. Apparently, they make men who are on the side of women, sign NDAs about the harassment too. He's also just starting out his career in advertising, so he is powerless to speak out. I'm not sure how I feel about it, because it alleviates him from taking any responsibility. 🤔 Which makes me think, we need more women-owned agencies and create a brain-drain for existing agencies. You can only remove power by stripping demand, and drying up thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 10:25 AM
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He definitely has a 4 pack max. 😂 And he's totally tensing all throughout the video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 10:57 PM
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Yup. This. Absolutely. We don't standard shame here at FDS. That's one of our core tenets. Some women want a 6 pack, 6 foot, 6 figure earning HVM, and some women don't need all that in their HVM. The ultimate goal is finding a man with good character. As mentioned earlier, a HVM can come in all ranges of looks, income levels etc. The reason why we at FDS have sometimes advised women against dating men who are shorter, not as good looking is that sometimes these men have unresolved trauma and ins…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:42 PM
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I definitely agree with this. The comment I left on there was that I agree that as a woman who likes athletic men, I try to be athletic myself. But I'm not into the whole "leagues" thing. It reminds me of the way the manosphere talk about women. I don't think we need to implement a sort of hierarchy system based on looks, physique, class amongst ourselves. That's never what FDS has been about. HVM and HVW exist in all income brackets, looks, hobbies, fitness levels and careers. It's not a my lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 09:36 PM
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Yup. The author is advocating for a women's trade union that can record and handle sexual harassment cases. Right now, most cases go to HR, but HR are only interested in saving the company's butt. I think it would be an amazing solution to have such a trade union that can take these cases seriously on behalf of women who can't speak up within their companies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:57 PM
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Market correction of men's inflated egos need to happen asap. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:03 PM
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I personally hold myself to this standard. I want to date someone athletic, so I make sure I'm athletic myself. However, let's just remind our FDS sisters right now that there are HVM in all ranges of salaries, careers, looks ranges etc. I don't want the interpretation of HVM to be connected to a specific set of visual standards, a HVM in my opinion ultimately means a man's character and how he treats you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 04:11 PM
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Wow. This is such an amazing yet simple internal barometer of how we can check in with ourselves. Love this idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:49 PM
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Mr. Burns liver spots!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:31 PM
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LVM's egos are like an overinflated stock bubble. Insane market correction is needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:30 PM
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Omg that is hilarious and shocking. Wtf is up with these insecure LVMs. Do they not self-reflect and learn to become better? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:15 PM
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What woman in her sound mind, aged 25 to 40 (picture Dua Lipa to Kim Kardashian), wants to ride Mr McSaggy Balls at 63 with his geriatric erection. He's old enough to be these women's father or grandfather. 🤢🤮 No hunnies. Don't settle for used, saggy, damaged goods. These LVM are damaged goods. Don't even entertain their icky, bloated belly, muscle loss induced man boob, chicken stick leg, erectile dysfunctional aura when you are 20-40 years younger than them. Ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:35 PM
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Freudian slip. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 07:27 PM
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On the contrary, I watched Happy Feet recently, now with the lens of FDS. I couldn't believe they were selling the nerd works on himself and finally gets the hot popular girl trope, in a CARTOON PENGUIN MOVIE!! The penguin could have got a girl around his own level, but no, the incentive of the movie for the penguin to improve himself was the hottest girl that all the jocks wanted. LVM entitlement to punch above their level is literally embedded into them from children's movies! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:37 PM
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Being sweet and empathetic is a honey pot trap for LVMs. They want some of that energy, and they see easy pickings for them to get away with their scrotery with no clapback. This is why FDS energy and knowledge is so important. We either repel scrotes, spot them from a mile away or know what we need to do get rid of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 05:29 PM
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Ew. Why is he insecure and putting all the onus on the woman to make him feel better about himself? Major yikes. You dodged a bullet. Glad nothing came of it but I feel sorry for the next woman that may have fell for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:52 AM
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Scrotajesty! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:47 AM
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You dodged a bullet. Keep him ghosted and move on with your life. This scrote doesn't deserve your presence. He'll say what he needs to say to make himself look better and improved, as a tactic to make you think you should go back. He'll always look down on the woman who settles for him in the future. That should never be you. Hope you keep your crown on and start a brand new fresh chapter - where men like this are nixed immediately once you sense them in your perimeter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 11:40 AM
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I've never thought about this topic in depth, but I always thought it was a bit weird how it's becoming a thing recently. Like Kim and Khloe Kardashian were both promoting it in KUWTK. I remember I found it so weird when Kim would be like "Oh yeah you kind of just forget your baby is on the way".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:33 AM
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I left a comment before I even saw this. Wow. Wtf. 🤢🤮 This is why men paying for dates is a great litmus test to see where his priorities are. What a creep spending all that money on girls who don't even care he exists. Loser!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:28 AM
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I already knew he was a LVM with that grammar, punctuation and spelling. 😬 Good on you girl. More men need to be rejected based on their porn-sick habits. We are not coddling these losers anymore. They get so defensive about their jerking they need to twist it and blame real life women over the ones that don't even know they exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:25 AM
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Ughhhhhh my dad also did the "give money to his relatives" thing which caused so many arguments in the house. Girl this story was inspiring and you are amazing. I love how you didn't back down and you stood your ground with pure facts. Continue strengthening your education, your career. This is one thing I don't understand about these hypocritical NVMs. They care about their perceived reputation amongst their community, but when they do shady shit like cheat or be abusive, suddenly they don't ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:22 AM
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Pick-up artists are just Lvl. 1 rapists. They share the same predatory, dehumanizing view on women. Can't believe LVM look up to them and follow their creepy guides and cringy leaders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:41 AM
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Then the MRAs wonder why? Men's solution to divorce rates is "Don't get married bro it's a trap!" Instead of actually observing their own fault in why marriages fail and divorces are initiated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:37 AM
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Normani - Wild Side ft. Cardi B is trending on YouTube. Yet again, another music video using porn tropes and visual cues into the choreography and outfits. The thumbnail is two naked women holding each other in an embrace. Obviously, they're both straight women singing about dick so this is just performative lesbianism for the male gaze. 🙄 Sick of this pornified bullshit in mainstream media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:27 PM
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His female friends sound like pick-mes that enjoy performing for the male gaze. Perhaps knowing that their cosplaying hobby was used to emotionally abuse another woman in a relationship probably triggers them into denial mode. They want to stay committed to their hobby so anything that goes against the narrative is going to be a tough truth to swallow. Do you have a specific goal on why you're sharing your story about your ex on your social media? I think maybe it's better to explain what happen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 10:24 PM
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I had an ex that got visibly jealous after I made the whole room laugh with a one-liner. He was literally upset at me afterwards that I got everyone to laugh. He was really into comedy and stand-up as well. I thought he would enjoy the fact I could make people laugh, not get jealous and upset about it. It was honestly the weirdest reaction ever from a dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:37 PM
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Yup. After I also made that connection, I thought it was disgusting that us women are conditioned to even do a full wax/shave down there. I think having it trim, tidy and shaped is way cuter!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:06 PM
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All the girl cousins in my family dress in very baggy/modest clothes at family events. They don't dress like this on their IG though. It's really sad the lengths all of us women go to so that we don't draw the wrong type of attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 08:04 PM
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I guess that's why we make the dates expensive, and the vetting process long. It's their mask vs. how deep their pockets are. You might be able to mask your intentions, but you can't mask your finances over a long period of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 04:41 PM
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I remember when I first started college, some creep was promoting an inter-college swingers club. I thought it was fucking creepy and sick. Can you imagine advertising that to a group of 18 year olds? Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 03:36 PM
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Have you heard of the "blood in the water" strategy? We've discussed it here on FDS before. If you do a quick search you might be able to find the posts connected to it. This is when we reveal an insecurity that we don't care about but pretend we do and see how the man we're dating deals with it. Is he sensitive towards it? Does he use it as arsenal to taunt you with and neg you with? Maybe you can test the waters with various grades of fake revealing info and see how he takes it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 03:18 PM
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Brilliant response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:15 AM
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This is so cool. Great idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:11 AM
14

Hope this is the main lyric in Bella Poarch's next song.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 11:09 AM
200

Wallstreetbets trading is literally gambling with a suit on. You're better off putting your money into ETFs and index funds that allow you to invest into an entire industry over a long period of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 09:57 AM
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I agree with this. There was a TikTok of a 5'10 woman who worked as a waitress. Some 5'6 scrote stayed behind and was drunk and would refuse to go home. The woman thought she could handle him but as men have higher testosterone than women, their physicality can be quite strong despite their height. The 5'10 woman said she couldn't move, and despite her confident thinking she could take him on. He still held her in place while threatening her. He let go afterwards saying it was "just a joke". But…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 07:49 PM
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My first course of action is to walk faster than them to maintain my place. This requires no conflict or physicality. If they don't get the hint and try to push past you, then I'll slightly push them back to send a message. But some guys aren't worth the effort and don't give AF about women's welfare so definitely keep your wits about you and assess how the guy might respond. For example, I wouldn't push back on someone who looked really aggressive and physically larger than me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:12 PM
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Sorry, probably not queen behaviour, but I push them back. I also speed up to go in front of them. I'm quite competitive when it comes to getting my seat. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:01 PM
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Exactly. Why are they surprised we ban male redditors here on sight? If it's "dudes being dudes". Oh but wait, I thought it was "not all men". 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:42 PM
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You just made me realise there's no seduction or game in porn. It's just clothes off and jackhammering. Cannot believe the entire male population is being conditioned by this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:01 PM
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Well she also clearly had a LVM father who showed her what she should settle for in men. I wish FDS existed when Britney was dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:59 PM
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That's a good one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:53 PM
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This is a great take on it. You can just treat it like a rhetorical compliment and just reply "Aww thanks! That's kind of you to say that." Then change topic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:52 PM
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No one's ever eating in my car. Especially not fast food. Especially not with a guy you barely know. You can never trust the food to stay in one place. You have no idea what his eating hygiene is like. I don't want mayo or salt granules on my car seats. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:47 PM
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Can you imagine telling a thief to stop stealing, then the thief turning around to you and saying "Stop virtue signalling! Why are you so sensitive?!" Also lol at that comment saying "Wants affirmative action, but then surprised that dudes are dudes." Excuse me, these are psychopaths being psychopaths. Good natured men aren't like this. The fact that the above commenter says "dudes being dudes" just goes to show he's one of them. And lol at the comment saying "None of the guys in my physics clas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:45 PM
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Porn sick losers. I bet his wife didn't even want this. She just wanted to be the "cool girl" and appease her man's sexual dysfunctions from his porn exposure and addiction. Perhaps she's pornsick herself. All of this is so cringe. None of these scenarios would be entertained if it wasn't for the normalization of porn, and the way porn has hijacked what are normal human relations between people. Thanks to porn, humans are just masturbatory devices. Nothing more than a sentient fleshlight to get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 03:39 PM
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Oh I didn't know that! Thanks for explaining! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:59 PM
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Can't wait til STEM gets flooded with boss ass girls and women to drown these scrotes out. We need more women developing technology, more women that can keep us safe online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:08 PM
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Nah, I bet they'd twist it into some Manosphere argument like "How dare she ruin the careers of bright young men. It's not like they ACTED on any of it. PC culture hits again, amirite guys?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 07:06 PM
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We can call it: ScoteHub. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:59 PM
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That is creepy af. Is it better to be dull looking if you're in a scenario like that? The girl in the video is super pretty, and that must stoke the flames of needing to be superior for these LV stem scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:58 PM
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Self Aware Scrote is better. Being compared to a wolf will just fluff LVM's egos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:33 PM
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I think high-value for both men and women is to have an excellent skincare and health routine. Make-up should definitely be optional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 03:07 PM
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We're also the group of women who have no interest in dating them. So why are they pressed about us "gold digging" when they aren't affected? Mind your business. Ya'll Android users, we're in the Apple ecosystem. What they do has no concern to us and vice versa lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:26 PM
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Has anyone else noticed LV men overusing "big words" and "industry jargon" to sounds smarter than they actually are? I was browsing LinkedIn earlier and saw some posts and comments by a particular guy that sounded like he really wanted to come across as an intellectual. These days, the rule of thumb for good communication is to use words and sentences a high school student or young kid could understand. He was using really obscure complex phrasings that didn't need to be used. No idea why some g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:10 PM
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Another strategy is to become friends with HV women, or HV people in general. They may be related to a HV male or friend that you could be introduced to. Takes longer but it would be more organic. Which is another reason why we should also always vet our social circles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:27 PM
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Fantastic critique. Thank you for bringing this forward. It's important to always keep vetting no matter what our strategy is for meeting an eligible pool of HV men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:25 PM
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Wow Italy too? I've only seen the England side on Twitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:13 PM
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"Men age like wine. Men peak in their 30s/40s!" Men in their 30s: (Warning: 18+/NSFW/Full Male Nudity) Exhibit A: ZVM 30-something year old England fan with a beer belly, completely nude, flashes and shakes his micropenis in a drunken crowd, other men take video footage instead of smacking sense into him. Exhibit B: ZVM 40-something year old England fan gets completely naked, goes on top of another male's shoulders, falls to the floor and then continues flashing himself to the crowd. Exhibit C: …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 03:10 PM
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Absolutely loved reading this and it's been excellent seeing more Queen 'ish strategy posts rather than the cheap screenshot memes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 11:14 PM
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Love this concept and that we're applying this vocabulary to situations girls and women have tried to articulate to their friends over and over again. Sis, you're being benched. Leave him. Powerful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 11:13 PM
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Imagine being whipped by your boys as a 39 year old man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 07:01 PM
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I just want to say, thank you for doing this. We need more stories in the media that are HV. You're doing something amazing here. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 12:19 AM
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Always made me wonder why women were made to feel guilty about having standards, yet men can go on and on about being a breast or butt man, or whether they have a foot fetish. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:42 AM
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I agree with you. I don't want any of the FDS mods disclosing their internal strategy, who the leaders are or any other revealing details for their own personal safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:04 AM
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Second this. On OkCupid, the majority of men there have answered they ideally expect sex within the first 1-3 dates. Only 1-2% picked 6+ dates beyond. I know we don't advocate OLD on FDS, but this stat just made me feel annoyed how men may go in with the expectation to speed things up. Would love to hear more about elongating the dating process to avoid this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 12:59 AM
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I think Greg and Ovie from Season 5, and Dom from Season 3 were the most HV guys on the show. I think from the current season, it's a bit awkward how Kaz is forcing a connection with Toby, and how Liberty is forcing a connection with Jake. Both men showed signs that they're just not that into the girls. You could see it in certain micro-expressions and how certain actions weren't reciprocated. I think this is definitely something that needs to be remembered by women in dating. An FDS-oriented co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:46 PM
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Does anyone here watch Love Island UK? I think it has picked up an international following. I'd love an FDS discussion on the dating dynamics happening on the show. Analyzing the red flags, green flags, pick me flags and HV flags. Would be interesting to hear from others who watch this show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 02:32 PM
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No wonder 🧢 also means "it's a lie". 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 11:16 PM
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You can block the account that sends the self-care messages. So even if they recommend you the message, it won't come through to your inbox.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 11:07 PM
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Fuck kink culture for putting women in dangerous situations and gaslighting their own judgement on abusive, psychopathic people. How many more sex abusers will get away with it, because they hide their abusive nature under "kink culture". Fuck all of you LibFems pickmes who enable men and women into thinking this is okay. These women are literally brainwashed into some sort of sex abuse cult, thinking sex abuse is okay. In the 80s or 90s, this man would be on a catch a predator TV show, and publ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 12:10 PM
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Her second thought: "I'm just one of the guys! I'm a cool girl!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:53 PM
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Your mom might have BPD. The insane mood swings, gaslighting and refusing responsibility is quite similar to what BPD parents are like. There's also a method called SC, "structured contact", so you could choose to only engage with her in certain topics and specific times of the day, and greyrock on the rest. To do this, you need to understand what her trigger topics are and avoid engaging in them. Give her a greyrock, emotionless response. If she's making comments about you, go to your room, loc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 01:36 PM
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Yes. This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 08:36 AM
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Porn creates and reinforces sex disorders. Sex disorders of an abusive nature that corrupt human relationships. It's not two adults behind closed doors. It's an oil leak spilling into the ocean and destroying nature. It's like spraying artificial, man-made, carcinogenic chemicals on crops and having microplastics in the ocean. Bring ORGANIC healthy, loving, intimate sex back! None of this GMO shit. Bring real men back, the ones who we can count on to be good husbands, fathers, be trusted to rais…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:24 AM
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He used his shoe as a pillow?!! WTF. "I didn't know you were a negative person" typical LVM deflection tactic. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 12:10 AM
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Even when a man is dressed up, his daily appearance running costs are lower than a woman's. A nice shirt, jeans, shoes, wallet, hair clay and cologne is way less than a woman dressed to the nines for a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 11:17 PM
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Yep for sure. I think the key point here is, when a man genuinely loves you and treats you well - like GENUINELY - and you know you can count on him, he's got your back... the sex is miles better. You're automatically turned on by him. When he treats you like shit though and does the bare minimum? Or fakes moments like these once in a blue moon? Or on the flip side, love bombs you for manipulation? Boy bye. The energy is different and not a turn on. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 09:44 AM
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Imagine how turned on you'd be and how good the sex would be that night after your man did something beautiful like that. Yet these LVM wonder why we're not in the mood and why we fake it or can't orgasm. 🙄 Lurkers, the bare minimum is not a turn on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:50 PM
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Saw an influencer post the keys of her new house. I sent her a message telling her about this but she has over 300k followers so she'll probably never see the message. I hope this becomes more common knowledge and people will stop posting their key pics on social media as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 12:59 AM
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Oh it's about an erection? Honestly I've never heard that term being used amongst girls when discussing men. Exactly, he's either got an erection or he doesn't. That's how you know this post was written by a man. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 02:45 PM
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What's halfchubbed? That's definitely man-lingo. These scrotes tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:53 AM
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They're projecting. All the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 11:50 AM
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Some new ways to think about this: I'm only interested in HVM that are interested in me. If he's not interested in me, then I'm not either. I'm grateful that this man didn't play games or string me along. That would have been a worse outcome. At least I had some nice dates out of it. The level of care, respect and harmony I felt on these dates are now setting my new standard. I know I can achieve this and won't settle for less. This experience can only help me become more confident and get me cl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:53 PM
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You want a man that thinks stockpiling a list of teen women doing sexual dances on TikTok to be the man that raises your future daughters and sons? I know it hurts, but this isn't right. At the end of the day, his mindset should be "That's somebody's young daughter", but instead he's following it? The fact he has hundreds shows it's an engrained habit and justified thought process in his mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:34 PM
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Thank you!! 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 01:23 PM
3

Anymore content/artists like this? Love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:55 PM
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I wonder how many privileged sex positive LibFems are gonna be like "IS BRITNEY A SWERF?!! WHAT DID SHE SAY ABOUT SEX WORK?! 😤" How many of them ignore the fucking realities of trafficking? Will those LibFems continue to support Britney AND the equally exploitative sex industry? Britney's story is a wider metaphor for the exploitation of a woman's image to benefit a man's pockets, at the expense of her own economic freedom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:52 PM
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Omfg. Yes so true. Fuck the "get with creepy old man" agenda! 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:43 PM
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You know, women are painted as being "catty". But men are the most "catty" to each other. LVM's pathetic view of "alpha male" dynamics, is basically who is the most unethical, entitled, creepiest, rapiest crab keeping all the other crabs in the degenerate LVM bucket? Yes, let's listen to HIM. 🤡 It's so cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:18 PM
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Everyone should follow Dr. Jess btw. I would love to hear her as guest on the FDS podcast. She has some brilliant tweets around female issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:13 PM
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Nope. Not a HVM. You can tell he really looks down on the female experience already. A HVM would have empathy and would never make his woman guilty for having period cramps. We've heard of HV stories where HVM would go out and buy supplies, paracetamol, or cook a meal to comfort their woman going through menstrual pain. The fact that he recalled all those times his wife has had her periods and explicitly brought attention on HER being the dick, shows his lack of empathy for the female experience…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 07:12 PM
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I'm glad to hear that! What you're feeling today and from this date and from his interactions should be your new normal. Never accept anything less! You're worth a respectful, thoughtful and fun courting and dating experience! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:50 PM
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Girl, I am happy for you, but we recommend not to go to a man's house on the first date because this is where LVM will try to get you to sleep with them with little to no time commitment on their part. I'm glad he showed green flags to you, but please continue vetting and keeping your wits about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:44 PM
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Oh absolutely. I've seen some posts on hypergamy TikTok that recommend going to fancy bars alone but it doesn't sound like a logical strategy for a HVM. First of all, would a HVM go up to a random lonely woman at the bar? Is that grounds for predatory behavior? Or would he leave her alone to enjoy the night because he understands people are allowed to go to bars without getting hit on? Opening this question up to the entire thread. Ladies, let us know what you think?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 06:40 PM
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Yep. They've also got gym and yoga class scenario porn as well. It's so disgusting and depraved. Can't even work out, stay healthy without that being sexualized and fetishized too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:41 PM
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You know what we should do? Research every place PUA coaches recommend their clients go to "pick up chicks". I'm sure a bar is one of those places. However, I totally empathize with you and understand why you went. Personally, I've seen a lot of dating advice on TikTok telling girls to go to fancy bars alone... but to find wealthy men (not specifically HVM). Like you said, in reality, is this really where a HVM who will have conversations with you about settling down, raising kids with good valu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 05:04 PM
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Yep. Call it for what it is! These guys think they've got some Casanova-like game. Actually, they're just extreme psychopathic porn-addicted narcissists that only exist to find ways to rub their genitalia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:50 PM
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I know it's disheartening that there's so many LVM out there, but ideally you want to eventually whittle that down to a select few HVM, and then from that, just one man to get into a relationship with. What I mean by that is, we shouldn't be disheartened or feel hopeless that there are so many LVM out there. It just means we can quickly cross them off our list and focus on vetting the few men who are the good ones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:46 PM
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I'm reading this again and it just reminded me of a girl I knew who I was venting to about my break-up, and she told me: "You know, if you ever want, write everything that ever pissed you off in a letter and feel free to send it to me, it can really help you get things off your chest." I thought WTF?! Is this girl for real? Of course writing things out is carthartic, but why should she read it and keep it? It was such a dodgy pretend "act of kindness". I always kept her at arms length after that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:33 PM
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"I just don't know if I can handle getting spoilt." 🥺 Then get the gifts and dump their predatory ass for asking about your greatest fear in the first place. Fuckers!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:41 PM
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Especially with the popularity of Real Estate Agent porn. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:33 PM
3

I loved that you pointed out Reactionary vs. Strategic. Would be amazing if flairs could be designed in a way to encourage more Strategic posts, or at least balance it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:29 PM
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Ladies. We need to share these posts with our girls as much as we do inspirational quotes or Rupi Kaur poetry on IG. Sleezy PUA/RP tactics should be sent to our girls group chats or even IG stories so that the women around us can identify when they're being played.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:16 PM
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My greatest fear is getting spoilt with designer gifts every single week. Especially if it's Balmain, Chanel or a Rollie. What if I get too used to them? 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 12:14 PM
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Plot Twist: She's talking about her pet dog right? Right??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 10:21 PM
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When was she cancelled? I haven't cancelled her. The 160,000+ women on this sub haven't cancelled her. She's a thriving iconic hero. Young Turks need to get over themselves and their poor, biased, porn-addict/TRP pandering misogynistic content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:03 PM
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That could be a new sub: AITC? (AmITheClown?) Yes hun, YTC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:42 PM
7

I think we need more awareness on how much porn in today's age is just sex abuse on film. A lot of kinks are now just sex abuse themes, and no one is questioning it or thinking critically about it. Some more studies on porn use and cheating, broken families, mental health, rape and abuse conducted IRL would be good too. (That article about sexual harassment in UK schools and linking it with early exposure to porn was a great start). Although I'm all for restrictions, there have been governments …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:33 PM
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"You're a bachelor at 35? Ew. That's weird. What's wrong with you? Couldn't you attract a decent woman to settle down with?" "He's living the creepy bachelor life in his 30s. He probably cares more about his dick than starting a family. He's not worth dating or paying attention to."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:24 PM
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Does this guy have a muscular butt himself? Does he have abs? Does he have strong big biceps and forearms? Does he have broad shoulders and well developed back? Like the men who say I'm a butt guy or a boob guy, yet have no physical attributes of their own to match the female gaze equivalent, really be talking out their ass most. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 10:12 PM
222

Imagine women being brainwashed to be ride or die, then the scrotes themselves resent you for staying. Ugh. He doesn't deserve her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 01:02 AM
58

More FDS memes please. Loved this. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 12:58 AM
43

As Millenials gain seniority and influence in law firms and Gen Z enter the legal force, I cannot wait for digital law to catch up and easily prosecute the scrotes that do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:25 PM
23

Don't forget voice as well. VTubers and voice modulators might have to be the way forward when it comes to online content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 08:23 PM
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Wtf. This person needs to get a grip. Us women have literally internalized porn theatrics, including going full on with acting in "desire" during sex. Then what do we get in return? The guy will spend a few minutes with foreplay on us and move into jackhammering. There's a reason why women don't orgasm and are more dissatisfied during sex. Maybe men should learn more how to please a woman in bed before wanting to us to openly desire men's bodies in the bedroom when all they do is ignore ours and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 02:37 PM
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There's a great article on that website that has quotes of what men think of SWers. The language is so vile, so derogative. Perhaps screenshots of that would be helpful too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:42 PM
26

Performative hatred. Love that term! Good to add vocabulary to the ridiculousness we see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:40 PM
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Desired anal. 🤣🤣🤣 Buttcrumbs Express.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:38 PM
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Porn is a corrupted, abusive type of sex made by abusers, criminals and seedy people. Real sex is healthy, loving, caring, attentive and passionate for both people involved. It's something you do when you're in love with the person you're dating, and can even bring new life to the world. Somewhere along the way, porn got mixed up with the natural need to masturbate every once in a while / have meaningful sex with someone you care about and love. Maybe something like that. We should have been tau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:21 PM
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I second this. It'll only get worse. If you tell him to be more hygienic, you're gonna take on the role of his part-time mommy. Can you imagine this man raising your future children? He wouldn't even encourage them to wash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 06:14 PM
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Bumble - Where men expect women to do all the work. Imagine that advertising campaign. 🤣 We're laughing but that's truly the reality of the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:37 AM
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I agree with this interpretation. Ultimately, as a dominatrix, in reality, you're the one being dominated since you're being hired by this man to enact out his sexual fantasy. You're still participating in the culture of turning women into masturbatory aids. That women's sexuality, consent and dignity can be commodified, bought and owned by men. You're still trading your own personal time to do this thing for this man, when you could be investing in yourself and a career that has longevity over …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 09:32 AM
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They'll discuss your egg count, but never if the cheeto eating, hot balls under the PC fan gaming scrote in the family is looking after his literal scrote for healthy sperm for healthy babies. Fertility goes both ways in both men and women. Men are responsible for fertility and healthy children too. Let's put the focus on the unhealthy habits and geriatric sperm of men as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:26 PM
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Lilith we are in full support of you. Your posts were absolutely amazing. I hope other mods can crosspost the FDS blogs here so we can have easy access to updates to the blog.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:13 PM
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I really wonder where I would have been if I didn't spend my teens and early 20s on a LVM relationship that dragged all my aspirations down. Amazing progress!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:09 PM
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Imagine basing a woman's value and humanity based on the reaction of the wiggly worm between your legs. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:07 PM
68

GAIL DINES IS ON THE PODCAST?! 😱 I CANNOT wait to listen! She knows about FDS too?! Ahhhhh!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:04 PM
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My gosh. Then they wanna kiss on the first date? 🤢🤮 Crumbs in the teeth, the ass cheeks AND the sheets!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:19 PM
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I have this with my friendship group. We don't ever integrate our SOs except for events like birthdays or the occasional large +1 party gatherings. I think this is the healthiest way. We need our own friendship groups and lives outside of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:57 PM
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Same with me and Skins and shitty college movies like American Pie where they glamorized hook-up culture and girls just being a piece of meat for shitty LVMs. Fucking hate that show and movies like that now. These writers and directors are single-handedly responsible for fucking up a generation of teenagers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:18 PM
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Now let's think about how the media manipulates fresh new lives into the habit of taking drugs, being a "rebel" and taking part in depraved sexual behavior. These are teenagers with a blank slate, with their whole lives ahead of them. They have complete power within themselves to break generational curses and make something for themselves with all the technology and abundance of knowledge around us. Yet the media bombards these hopeful young teens with sexualization, glamorization of drug cultur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 09:52 PM
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Yup. No self control or discipline. Only lives to provide consistant sensation to his genitalia. Desperate and needy to gain approval from other equally creepy horny men who he deems his "bros". Doesn't do anything for society. No future planning to better his family or the next generation of girls and boys. Only sees women as nutting tools and not human beings. Sees it okay to rape a woman (aka fuck her without her genuine interest, desire and consent) as long as she's taking money in exchange.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 01:31 PM
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True feminism decentralizes men from our lives. I love that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:41 AM
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Who wants to bet this guy doesn't wash his ass crack or has taken on board any form of personal responsibility or self-development? This comment is a prime example of incel entitlement. They expect the privileges of someone that's worked on their social skills, their body, personality and looks without doing the hard work of doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:09 AM
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The funniest part is the men they put on Fine AF Friday. They're all male fantasies of what they think an ideal man should be. I.e. Elon Musk, Zuckerberg etc. 🙄 They're also hyper focused on finances, when FDS focuses on so many other elements like men being hygienic, having genuine respect for a woman, etc. All that is ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 02:26 PM
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Yep. The Nordic model needs to be more well known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 09:01 PM
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Sex is a need to LVM, just like how drugs is a need to addicts. It doesn't make it a human right. Us women haven't been socialized to be sex addicted like men have from childhood through media, boys locker room culture and porn culture. We're fine without it. Men need to take a look at themselves than blame a false over-inflated biological "need".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:38 PM
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Excuse me. Men are the WORST perpetrators of starfish sex. Only 25% of women orgasm during sex. That's on men skipping or shortening foreplay, and having no other moves except shoving his weiner in and out for 10 mins straight. Yet us women have historically put up with it, and have never resorted to watching sex trafficked individuals have sex on a website to get off. This guy and others like him can fuck off. More men need to be held accountable for their horrible sex moves. They're the starfi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:59 AM
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Aka: Ladies, what did an undesirable scrote do to lower your boundaries just for one second so that other scrotes may replicate this strategy to get with a girl out of their league? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:52 AM
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Who would draw this?! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:48 AM
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It's like the whole "I don't see race" spiel. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:58 PM
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Probably controversial, but the less big pharma gets involved in profiting off women's trauma bonds the better. I'd rather us women be armed with knowledge and mindset to prevent the situations or heal better from the situations in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 06:42 PM
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While LVM produced TV shows and music industry luls young girls away with the fantasy that boys want to fall in love too and have mushy feelings like girls. This sets up the entire female gender expecting the best out of boys during their teen years, yet where boys see girls as nothing but sex conquest trophies thanks to porn and toxic male-on-male simping culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:20 AM
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Men love getting a hard-on over how "logical" they are by using "facts" and "statistics". Never mind the fact that research can easily become biased and unethical in nature depending on the data points you collect and the questions you ask. For example, they look at divorce percentages with zero context about the condition of the marriages that stayed together. Was the woman happily married while they stayed together? Or did she just put up with a scrote because she had no means to exit the rela…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 12:11 AM
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Funny how the comment thinks "Why wouldn't the 45 year old want to date a young girl in her prime?" and not "Why would a young girl in her prime want to date a dusty saggy balled wrinkly old man instead of a guy in his athletic peak with a full hairline her own age".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:40 PM
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I know women who tried for years with their partner but ended up conceiving in their late 30s. Definitely don't give up! Keep a healthy lifestyle and keep trying. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:08 PM
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Someone ring Jordan fucking Peterson. He loves harping on about women's fertility and that's why they need to settle down and get their shit together earlier than men. 🙄 (Ergo also giving LVM a pass for pissing away their prime years on video games and porn).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:06 PM
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Yes. This. Especially since male fertility and sperm quality linked with age is an underfunded and underpublicized area of research. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 10:04 PM
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Youth is only an "asset" to creepy predatory men. All these SMV ratings are how to be appealing to penis obsessed, porn-sick, LVM predators. 🤢🤮 No thanks. She needs to be hunting for the anti-SVM advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:59 PM
11

It's that unwashed buttcrack. Bringing scented gifts from his colon. Eau de toilet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:53 PM
13

"To the streets" is projection of their own behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:43 PM
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This is why I fucking hate LinkedIn and build a "personal brand" culture. Why tf do we need to broadcast our entire work history online to anyone who wants to Google it? It's so incredibly dangerous and it only benefits privileged men and women who might have the right support network.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:20 PM
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This. 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 09:14 PM
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What are you talking about? Who am I shitting on and making assumptions about? I'm talking about a trend I've seen throughout life where women have been brainwashed by the media to go after LVMs, since they're the "bad boys". I'm not shitting on anyone, and if it came across that way, that wasn't my intention at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 08:36 PM
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The rest of Reddit is as sketchy as the losers who hang about and use Craigslist for sketchy ads at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:18 PM
2

I regret all the times I went for guys who were "gamers". They were all manchildren, had weird ass complexes and lacked ambition in life (because all their ambition was in their video games). I love video games myself so this was a tough realization as I thought my ideal guy would be into gaming like me. But I only play a few hours a week, whereas these guys are dedicated 15-30 hours per week to gaming, almost like a second part-time job. Gamer guys aren't going to be great dads or partners beca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:22 PM
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Ugh! Come over for the next date after splitting the bill? The audacity. So glad you unmatched this entitled asshole. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:15 PM
2

Omg same. Nothing changes for the man. It completely erases how much difficulty the woman is going through to carry the baby for 9 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:08 PM
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Saddest story of our times is also when HVM gets paired with Pick Mes who don't value what they have and are brainwashed to go for womanizers in the DMs because LV media glamorizes the low value "bad boys". Hope his girlfriend isn't like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:52 PM
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Lmfao. When actual crocodiles and reptiles have more respect and consideration for their females than human males. 🤡 But apparently human females wanting a similar bare minimum is high maintenance. 🥴🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 01:44 PM
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Male animals also bust their butt to dance for females, grow colorful plumage, build houses and fight other males to get a chance at procreating with a female. If we were animals, these good for nothing men would be yeeted out of existence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 12:30 PM
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Brilliantly summarized. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:38 AM
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Yep. And we were brainwashed to cOmMuNiCaTe with these braindead fapping zombies and try to help them "change", or worse, put up with their zero value/low value behavior. 🙄 These men aren't worth breeding with and never were. Same men shout about "muh legacy". But what kind of kids will men like this raise? Not any that are going to change society for the better. Their offspring would be damaged and have trauma from having such an LV father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:21 AM
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Yes this! Wish we could print this on billboards. Women are proactive and go-getters. Men are the crabs in the buckets who want to stay lazy and entitled, and bring everyone down to their pathetic level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:16 AM
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Can someone message her to come to FDS? We don't need any more women second guessing themselves like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:14 AM
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Spent all his prime years being a loser coomer gamer. 🤡 Now he's reaching his wall he wants to relive his teen years. Ugh so creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 10:11 AM
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Let's replace "white guys" with "low value guys". Let this be an FDS anthem. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 09:59 AM
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Yep I absolutely agree. In an ideal world, I wish there was no such thing as these dehumanizing industries. But for a short-term immediate solution, I would rather there be inanimate objects being subject to this degenerate behavior than actual women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:35 PM
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Sex doll/robot brothels need to become a thing ASAP. These skanky LVM can do their depraved acts with a doll instead and leave these economically vulnerable real life human women alone. No real life woman should be subjected to this fucking BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:42 PM
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I have an idea. We should screenshot or copy & paste these reviews / send a link to this blog post everytime some LibFem on Twitter or Reddit advocates for sex work as "empowerment". Especially to those SW ERF anime pics on Twitter. 🙄 You can't refute this disgusting behavior and the demoralizing nature of the industry after reading this unless you're an enemy to womankind. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:38 PM
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What a dreamy guy. Stuff like this that shows self awareness, humbleness, drive and a willingness to work on yourself is such a turn on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 03:59 PM
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They're Trojan Justice Warriors. They use legitimate causes such as mental health, individuality and women's rights, pervert it and twist it to push an even more insidious and corrupt norm that make women second-guess their boundaries and stay in abusive situations. Just like the trojan horse that contained enemies within. Why is why we must always be alert and continue to vet what "norms" we come across. Continue to think critically always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 07:31 PM
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Lmfao. Then they blame women for emasculating them. Bro, u do that to yourself every night with video games and porn. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:24 PM
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Exactly. Flip the genders to vulnerable barely teen boys and men would flip and be outraged. But because it's vulnerable barely teen girls, they don't give a shit. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:10 PM
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Why do LV men want to protect pedos more than vulnerable sexually exploited women and children? 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:07 PM
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LV men are the first to complain about the "snowflake" generation and "participation" trophies. Wait til they find out 99.9% of women fake pleasure and orgasms, effectively giving their partners "participation" trophies instead. Their snowflake selves won't be able to handle it. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:03 PM
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Performed misogyny. A term I read on FDS earlier that reminds me that even the mildest of LV men make sure they "perform misogyny" in order to fall in line and gain approval from their male LV bros. Another sign that LV men happily siimp for other LV men. It's only an issue to LVM if it's done for a woman. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:24 AM
14

Chewbacca on Rogaine!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:24 PM
4

I would recommend setting up a project priority list/gant chart for your ongoing projects at work. When a manager at work tries to dump a task on you, show them what's on your plate, and tell them you would have to deprioritize activity X and risk project Y being delayed to get the new task done. This should help them understand how stupid that request was in the first place. But I'm glad you're looking to change jobs. A company that pushes their staff to work overtime is not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:14 PM
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How LVM see feminism: "We'll give you equal rights in splitting the bill, but not in seeing you as a complete human being. 🥴"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:07 PM
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That is so fucking low effort. You didn't do anything wrong girl. Hold your head up with pride. You stood up for yourself. Also guys talk "marriage" because they've been taught it's a sedative to women. A woman will back off, go easy on him, if he dangles the "I'm considering marriage" carrot. But his actions didn't match up with his words. What kind of guy thinks he's even ready for marriage if he can't even plan his girlfriend's birthday and valentine's gifts? It's like an 8 year old that beli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:59 PM
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And a man who values women just for their fertility and beauty, and not her hopes, dreams and ambitions, does not deserve to be breeded with. We don't want your "legacy". Bye dusty. 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:29 PM
5

Everytime I see a Gen Z girl gaslight herself with "idk man" at the end of her questioning her abuse - it's heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:23 PM
5

Honestly, I feel like we were groomed by the media. When you wake up, you don't even recognize your own past actions. It's almost like you were possessed by the LibFem norms and was running on auto-pilot. It's hard to digest that was ever even you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:53 PM
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Yeah, they also live for the approval of other men. They'll siimp for bros, but if they do that for women they're apparently "gay". Yeah how does that work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:49 PM
6

These same men use this model on minorities too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:44 PM
12

Almost happened to me as well but in the workplace. He had female friends who would let him do it to them and they laughed it off. He tried to go for mine and I shifted my body away. I felt so traumatized he even tried to do it. Just because you're not attracted to my gender, doesn't mean you're entitled to grabbing my private parts. 🚫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:39 PM
4

Like seriously. Just create fucking sex dolls already and a fake IM messaging app like this so that these LVM can have these exchanges with. Leave real women alone!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:10 PM
4

Yes!! 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:08 PM
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"Catering to the male gaze under the pretense of empowerment." A well-written phrase us women need to remember. Let's use this when we discuss pop culture with our girlfriends and when we want to raise awareness on this issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:03 PM
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Really good point. I wonder if LibFems are even aware that they are retaining it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:58 PM
7

Why are you entertaining the thought of letting a random guy you just met access the most intimate parts of your body? What has he done to earn it? Does he love you? Does he care about you? Does he care about your hopes and your dreams? These are the questions you should ask yourself. Just cause some guy gave your horny eyes in da club, now you think he's worthy of accessing your naked body? Also, I think you're objectifying men as well. It sounds like you see him as a sex object, as well as see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:34 PM
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This + lots of unselfish patience to build up foreplay. Most men think 5 mins of foreplay enough then they go on for 30-60 mins of stop and start jack hammering. 🙄 The time ratio is absolutely wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:19 PM
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Also I hate how the PUA industry made bank off this. "Go ask 200 girls out today. It'll help your "game" get better. It's just a matter of math, you'll get one of them right." Literally all over their pathetic YouTube videos. Ughhhh. The sooner PUA disappears off the face of the earth, the better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:12 PM
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Basically their porn-groomed penis has possessed their body and mouth movements. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:09 PM
18

Omfg yes. #VanillaIsValid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:38 PM
41

We really need to flip the narrative in a way that's irrefutable. If there's any marketing pros or lawyers here on FDS, we should really brainstorm over this to figure out how to make it an irrefutable argument.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:37 PM
2

"It's meant to be" is also nefarious. The whole "fate brought us together", it was "written". Nope nope nope. Always vet and drop as soon as you discover he's a LVM. Also run as soon as you hear "opposites attract". Brainwashing at its finest. You guys are incompatible and he's trying to turn it into a cute romantic meme. No sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 09:12 PM
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Yeah, I like anime too, but now I vet my media consumption like I would vet for HVM. I won't watch something because it's popular and I have specific genres I stick to which tend to have less sexualized/objectifying content. I watch maybe 2-3 Netflix/Amazon series per year (I vet for LVM themes, and refuse to watch anything that objectifies women and promotes LV relationships). Most of my media consumption is around influencers who live HV lifestyles online. I get that shit like Bridgerton is po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:59 PM
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As our sub gets popular, with the 3 month rule we have in place, we should also take care to custom adjust this to our own preferences so that men can be kept guessing. It definitely should be long enough so that we can deter the LVM who just wanna smash. That can be 3 months, 6 months, 1 year or until marriage. Up to you girls. But yes, best to keep it under wraps and keep him guessing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:45 PM
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I can't believe how we were raised/brainwashed with the archetypes of Homer Simpson vs Ned Flanders Homer Simpson: a balding, fat, pot bellied slacker type man was seen as the lovable oaf hero. Ned Flanders: muscular, full head of hair, had his shit together, proactive and gives back to his community and neighbourhood, but painted as a lame, creepy extremist. He was made to look even worse as he was a practicing Christian. Imagine how much audacity that gave LVM fathers raising LVM sons in the 9…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:34 PM
13

I actually thought this was a guy's story. I've seen similar anecdotes in other subs about how they got addicted to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:23 PM
4

It's funny how dogs get put down once they harm a human being, yet nothing for men who want to harm women? Lmao. If a dog did to a woman what a man does to her during BDSM, there would be a national campaign saying that dog shouldn't legally be available for domestication. 😐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 06:42 PM
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The irony is when men bring up the animal kingdom as an excuse to live life like a bonono apes, the media sleeps. No. They even promote it. But when it comes to bees kicking out male drones, oh no! Nowwww we're talking! Time to get offended!! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 12:20 AM
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Muh biology. You mean socialized. Men have been socialized to do this with peer pressure/acceptance from their toxic bros, porn culture, entitlement etc. Women are also attracted to hot men, but most of us take introspective action to restrain ourselves. Also, historically, a woman cheating on her husband would have meant death or economic abandonment, whereas men would either encourage eachother or turn a blind eye when it was done. Different things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:45 PM
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Come through with those perfect podcast hosting voices! Absolutely excited for the first ep!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 07:21 PM
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Every single business has marketing and ads. Funny how porn, prostitution and drugs don't do this. Except they do. They're referenced all over film, music and subversive media. Interesting they don't even need to pay for ads. The LVMs in power are happy to promote it for free. The normalization becomes their ad strategy. And because it becomes normalized and "part of culture", there's no accountability to trace it back. It's so insidious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:36 PM
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It's known that corporations fund research and press coverage to manufacture demand for their product. Well, considering the above, it wouldn't surprise me if Vice is a media mouthpiece to manufacture demand for the benefit of the owners' druggy degenerate lifestyle and their friends. Porn, prostitution and drugs are underground industries. Publications like Vice, the music industry and themes in Netflix and Hollywood feel like the main channels where these underground industries try to manufact…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:47 PM
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Adding this to my list. Great dealbreaker!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:22 PM
13

Society is going down this rabbit hole where instead of becoming a better person through introspective reflection, you're encouraged to feed your vices and justify your lifestyle by finding people who are as misguided as you are. Like no, don't improve yourself and become a man of integrity, honor and character, but keep doing that thing and justify it while dragging others to the cesspit with you. 🙄 It's so messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 08:20 PM
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BONER IN THE BACK FFS. 🤣🤣🤣 Why do men think this is enough?! It's not a fucking contactless card pass key.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:28 PM
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Remember when in the 90s/00s we at least had some narrative of the ideal man being some sort of sensual Latin lover that knew how to woo, wine and dine a woman? Now, where is that? Men aren't even held to that standard anymore. All I see now is "IMA PULL YO PANTIES TO THE SIDE AND F**K YOU GOOD GURL. CMON DOGGY STYLE" Like, no wonder us women are unsatisfied af?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:26 PM
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Same! I was thinking this would actually turn me on in subtle ways if my partner did this for me throughout the week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:24 PM
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Also, you know what's funny? Places like Vice advocate for mental health as part of their "woke" strategy. Yet, people with traumatic upbringings (perhaps having an LV father or pickmeisha mother) or traumatic relationship experiences (caused by LVM or low self-worth from being negged into a Pickmeisha) are suffering. Even trafficked sex workers are suffering with abuse in their industries with drugs and on-set rape in porn. Yet, Vice editors are ready to promote the very lifestyles, values and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:17 PM
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Literally, I have never read that. She makes it sound like we focus on asanine Cosmopolitan style tips. Also a complete "whoosh" moment when she equated a man paying for your date and being an independent woman doesn't go together. The reason why we expect men to pay is a weeding out process of men who aren't taking dating us seriously. It's nothing about us not being able to pay for ourselves. And no one here has said HVM are all rich. We have continuously said here that LVM can be rich or poor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:00 PM
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I can't believe we were brainwashed to believe being "hip" and "cool" meant hook-up culture, supporting porn and prostitution, drugs and edgy lifestyle choices that ultimately benefitted the male gaze, patriarchy, drug dealers and sex traffickers, and not any true freedoms/equality for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:48 PM
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Vice literally profits off of coomers, hook-up culture, LVM, pickmeishas and porn addicts that are ruining society and the dating pool and the future of family units. Of course they'd be pressed about FDS. 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:41 PM
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We need to really clarify in our post titles when we're talking about LVM and HVM. I agree, HVM exist, but I think (and hope) OP clarifies it's LVM she's posting about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:36 PM
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Tell me you're a porn addict living with internalized male gaze and misogyny without telling me you're a porn addict living with internalized male gaze and misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:35 PM
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I actually wonder if Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs is a massive fugazi for putting sex at the base of the pyramid, along with food, water and shelter. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:54 PM
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I'd also like to point to the capitalist engine running the porn, prostitution and sex trafficking industry. They directly benefit from any increase in the population of LV men, because that means more skeezy dudes that'll bring traffic to their porn sites, their strip clubs, their brothels and demand for sex trafficking and grooming of young girls. With the proliferation of incest and abuse in porn, how many broken children, relationships and families will it create? Men who think fantasizing a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:48 PM
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Another reason why we don't ask men for a verbal agreement on expectations we have of them and strongly vet their actions instead. Words don't mean shit, actions do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:54 PM
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Across nature on this earth, the male species woos and courts the female species, and goes to great lengths to do this, while the female just chills and makes a judgement on whether he's worthy of her time and reproductive capabilities. In the human species, men have negged women to think that we need to pay half of the male's wooing and courting expenses. Why? It's the biggest fugazi and scam of the century.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:57 PM
4

Another reason why women should not give men like this an opportunity to breed, let alone the chance to have sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:39 PM
19

The music industry and porn grooms the next generation of girls and boys to become hyper sexualized so that they can continue feeding the blood pumping the porn, prostitution and sex trafficking industry. It not only manufactures demand for the porn and prostitution industry by getting boys hooked on to it, but it also manufactures future labourers for the porn industry and prostitution (girls who end up doing porn and prostitution) by grooming girls into wanting to perform for the male porn gaz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 11:56 AM
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Wow. Once again ladies. Can we PLEASE actively promote that women are visual creatures? Ladies, spread the word. Drop it into conversations with your non-FDS group chats here and there. Make little remarks or innocent jokes about it around men in your life or on first time dates. We cannot keep getting gaslit by men because us women stay quiet about the fact that looks DO matter to us. Men in shape, or at least, men with excellent hygiene, personal style and grooming with a hair cut that suits h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:33 AM
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Yep "spinning plates" is a RP/PUA terminology. It's dehumanizing. They only see women as holes or strap-ons for their fragile male ego. Another reason why we must be wary of cheap men and cheap dates. It's a higher risk they are dating an excess of women at once and shows poor decision making skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:27 AM
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LVM in power looking out for themselves. They perpetuate the normalization through the storylines they choose to produce. Of course these storylines benefit them and prime and groom the next generation of women to accept these "standards".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:37 AM
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Thanks to LVM produced and scripted media. Which is also why, vet what you watch and listen to ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:32 AM
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And age requirements. 😂 Men really be thinking their "peak" is late 30s and beyond. Get outta here. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:26 AM
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Abusers are triggered that their game got exposed. These men look like insecure masculinity dusties as well. Next. 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:19 AM
9

Or their own apartment/bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 08:09 AM
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I mean if they want to know our traumas, better let them know how lavishly spoilt we were to give them hints on how to "game" us. Get your wallets ready scrotes. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:26 AM
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Thanks for the recommendations. I'll check them out next time I resubscribe. ... But the fact that there are only 3 TV shows that are pro-women and are aligned with FDS values, amongst hundreds that are not, is not a good enough ratio for me to support the platform on a regular basis for me personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:23 AM
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Can we PLEASE actively promote that women are visual creatures? Ladies, spread the word. Drop it into conversations with your non-FDS group chats here and there. Make little remarks or innocent jokes about it around men in your life or on first time dates. We cannot keep getting gaslit by men because us women stay quiet about the fact that looks DO matter to us. Men in shape, or at least, men with excellent hygiene, personal style and grooming with a hair cut that suits his face as a minimum - P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 12:20 AM
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Oh, my ex bought me Chanel and Balenciaga every week. We broke up because one week, he bought me DKNY. I couldn't let that slide. 💁‍♀️ I took the dog and left immediately. 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 11:36 AM
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Which is? I'm genuinely curious. Everything I see on the front page promotes settling for LVM situationships and libfem ideals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 11:15 AM
3

Exactly. For 1 well kept over 40s Brad Pitt type man, there's more than 100 over 40s Kim Kardashian type women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 09:27 PM
65

Can't believe we were taught to aspire being a ride or die chick. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:53 PM
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I'm so glad I don't subscribe to Netflix. I can't ethically support a platform that pushes out such scumbag storylines that are fucking it up for women everywhere. Stranger Things is the only show I resubscribe for, then I'm done for the year lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 08:51 PM
6

Oh I didn't know tiktok bimbos was a thing. I'll check it out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:37 PM
6

Predator dick!! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 09:35 PM
40

I actually think fake voices and a fake look on social media is a really underrated privacy/safety hack. This way this girl can go back to looking normal and sounding normal IRL without anyone immediately thinking it's her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:45 PM
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Also teens are being brainwashed by it through gaining access to porn from 8-10 years old. Porn industry is grooming girls to aspire to get into porn/live up to the porn gaze, and boys to become consumers of porn/be perpetrators of the porn gaze. It's a sickening cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:37 PM
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Saddest thing is how porn culture has become a machine to produce the next generation of broken people who will feel like they have no other choice but to do depraved porn. It's a cycle that needs to be broken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:35 PM
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It's just funny that they're THAT triggered by women recognizing their worth and raising their standards. Wtf. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:41 PM
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Yeah exactly. Funny how they don't want to bring focus on the fact we're against degenerate porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:34 PM
2

"Himbo excuse"! 🤣🤣🤣 That's genius!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:33 PM
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Women have complete control over which men get rewarded with their genes being passed on. Another reason why we shouldn't reward porn sick men with marriage or children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:22 PM
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You mean the TikTok PickMe Porn Sick Alert Challenge? I rolled my eyes as soon as this became a thing. The proliferation of it just goes to show how strong the porn gaze has on these women and young girls. It's begging for male attention at worst, and begging for fellow female PickMe YASS GIRL "We love a sexually empowered Queen" type of approval at best. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:07 PM
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Holy fucking shit. I hate erectile dysfunction ads. I've noticed it's become prolific where I am too. On the radio, on daytime TV. All I'm thinking in my head is how much these pharma companies are profitting off men's porn addictions and porn-induced erectile dysfuntion... so much so that it's now mainstream advertising. It's also super awkward when those ads come on when you just want to watch TV with family. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:17 PM
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Oh that poor sub. The decades of conditioning by LVM directed porn and Hollywood/Netflix shows truly shows when they hate on FDS for actually wanting standards in place. I'm sorry but women going on cheap non-commital low effort dates and giving low barriers to entry sex is not female empowerment and never will be. That always benefits LV men, never women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:05 PM
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What I don't fucking understand is why these young women are willing to entertain saggy balled old men and be a homewrecker? Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 10:32 AM
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Ladies, we might have some more fight to go. Saw a comment on the original thread that Mindgeek is going public soon, so apparently this entire story of Mastercard and Visa's disdain for PH is being ran to make the initial stock prices for Mindgeek cheaper for investors. This world is FUCKED UP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:35 PM
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I was thinking about this the other day. Similar to how an abusive narc will try to isolate you to prevent you from gaining power, it's almost like LVM's in society was us women to stay quiet about our true power. We must continue to band together and speak about our experiences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:52 PM
3

Can we do this?! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:44 PM
5

Migos did what?! Wtf. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:38 PM
19

Let me correct you there. Most LV men would prefer prefer a mediocre 21 year old. Because these men are sick in the head and have huge insecurity issues that makes them feel like they need to date a young, impressionable vulnerable woman. You don't want men like that. You don't need to appeal to the LVM masses. You just need one partner. Don't settle for LV men who would rather go for a young girl than a woman of their own age. It's immediate red flags that let's you know not to waste your time.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 12:35 PM
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They always look like toes. 🦶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:59 PM
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Just to add to this, if women were the ones in charge of the internet, do you think we'd be seeing porn as it stands today? We have way too much fucking empathy to let girls get done like that! To see women being depicted in such a dehumanizing way! Too many LVMs in positions of power are spoiling, rotting, festering the broth of society right now. They need to get BTFO'd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:32 PM
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Get LVMs out of positions of power. Get LVMs out of positions of power. Get LVMs out of positions of power. Everyone who makes decisions in the media and internet regulation needs to be checked for LVM depraved views. We can not let deranged, degenerate men create disgusting themes and call it a mere story or experimental artform. Everything created and OK'd in society has a social footprint. We invest billions in tracking the carbon damage footprint of billionaire corporations and environmental…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:19 PM
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Which is why more women should continue getting into tech and STEM and in creating tech products. Not for the sake of "visual" diversity on the team's staff page. But so that they are in a power to veto LVMs in power, or create an entire new product and community entirely. We're literally living the consequences of LVM dominated internet spaces going unchecked. So much of their degenerate behavior goes unchecked because the other LVMs in power in other subs will back them. This is the real reaso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 01:10 PM
11

Yet these LVM simp for their bros all the time. Get outta here mayn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:38 AM
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That's not what porn tells them. Therefore we're wrong! 🙄 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:34 AM
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We need more women in tech spaces that are for the benefit of women, but that starts with women working in STEM first. Don't give up! There will be a tipping point one day where we will see more women owned tech companies and tech initiatives and we can kick LVM practices to the curb!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:33 AM
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No 17 year old girl wants to date a crusty dusty 38 year old, unless she's been heavily manipulated and has self-worth issues she's trying to seek out from such an old man. Yes, 17 year old girls and boys have sex drives, but that sex drive belongs to their own peer group. Even if the age of consent is low in Europe, that should be to protect teens who are having sex with each other in similar age relationships. A lower age of consent is not, and should NOT and NEVER be for the benefit and justi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:23 AM
19

Lmfao. His porn history is leaking through. Porn sick, limp dick, mind sick. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:18 AM
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"Hardcore" porn is just a cover-up word for filmed sex abuse. Call it for what it is ladies. Don't let the sex abusers in charge of the porn industry brainwash society into normalizing their sex abuse fantasies on women, teens and animals as "hardcore" porn. Hardcore = sex abuse porn. It should be shamed and vilified as such. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:51 PM
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It's cause it benefits them because ultimately: LVM don't want to introspect and change. LVM are so averse to improving themselves and changing, they'd rather brainwash and manipulate society into elevating men like them into a romantic archetype. Honestly it's fucking sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:26 PM
36

Reply "waaah waaaAaah"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:23 PM
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The level of a man's effort and cost in planning the date in proportion to his income is an indication of how seriously he's taking dating and what his intentions for dating are. This story reinforces the fact that commitment minded men and pornsick LVM date differently. The former does thoughtful expensive (relative to his income) dates. The latter does chump change low effort dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 11:21 PM
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Exactly, even if the woman says it's for her empowerment, it will never be interpreted that way by the men who use her services. He uses her profession to degrade her, violate her and reinforce his own misogynistic views on womankind. This is why I am against sex work, and I will never condone or encourage any woman or girl to get into sex work. Sex work is anti-woman, anti-feminist and reinforces the idea that women exist as sex objects for men. By these women offering such services, it reinfor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:55 PM
8

Did you date my ex? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 10:01 PM
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IT IS SO SUBTLE. Which is why you almost second guess yourself. "Maybe he's not so bad. Maybe it's just a tiny comment." But it actually reveals so much about how they process the world - and how a man processes the world tells you all you need to know about whether he's trending towards LVM or HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:46 PM
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Yep, I hate how lesbian and bi women have been fetishized by pornsick people. It's so disrespectful that LGBTQ+ automatically get pictured as hypersexualized people, and not real complete human beings who have loving relationships. Everything is pornified about them in the pathetic minds of LVM as soon as they hear the sexual orientation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:19 PM
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Look for aversion towards political correctness and "snowflakes" in combination with a strong passion for the right to freedom of speech. The latter doesn't sound bad on the surface right? But, usually it's masking the fact that they want to say fucked up shit about women and minorities and get away with it, cuz muh freedom of speech and "snowflakes" are ruining society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:12 PM
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Women have become numbing drugs to LV men. LV men want women, to make themselves feel good about themselves. Rather than work on themselves and become a valuable member of society. LV men just want a "woman". They don't want her to talk back, have an opinion, have free will. They want her to be an inanimate object that co-signs all their bad, lazy, it's not me it's you behavior, then get angry at us when we call it out or when women don't want to be with a guy like that. LV men just want a "woma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:06 PM
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Just wanted to leave this thought here: The effects of porn and LV attributes in men and women make up 99.9% of social problems in modern day society, yet have 0% coverage on mainstream media, but yet are glamorized if not normalized by it instead. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:08 PM
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You know what's crazy? The difference in approach to this. CORONA VIRUS PANDEMIC. Economies are tanking! People's medical health is at risk! Quick! Everyone invest millions into a vaccine so we can get back to an economically healthy life! - Men wake. 🤯 Vaccine found within one year. LOW VALUE MALE PANDEMIC. Humanity and morality are tanking! Marriages are ruined! People's mental health is at risk! Women are traumatized by their experiences of LVM. Every single female in society is affected for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:36 AM
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🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:23 AM
29

I want to send her a link to FDS so she can dump his LVM ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:19 AM
52

Sex 👏 abuse 👏 isn't 👏 sex. 👏 Porn keeps glamorizing sex abuse, and while ignoring examples of fun, exciting, healthy, loving, consensual sex between two partners who love and care about eachother. It's an absolute joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:18 AM
18

What did the comments say on this TikTok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:12 AM
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Omfg. This is DISGUSTING. I just checked her IG out. She looks like a 12-14 year old girl in the face, then a 21-35 year old woman in the body! She's literally pimping out the 8th grade version of herself for likes on social media. For sexual validation from creepy pedophilic men. This is fucking sick. 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:01 AM
26

It makes me miss the days of the internet when people primarily had blogs and wrote about things they were passionate about, and not just creating an image of themselves having a marketable lifestyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 09:47 AM
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Cause PickMes are sadly desperate to get picked, and are secretly putting up with their shit behind the social media highlight reels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:49 AM
153

Yep. That's your intuition and your inner maternal instincts speaking. No good woman wants to raise their child with a man that has weak impulse control and consumes degenerate content. We as women, have the power to birth entire bloodlines in our hands. We must vet men ruthlessly and never let LVM tendency males to reproduce and pass on their degeneracy and trauma onto the next generation of children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:47 AM
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Ever heard of an empowered male prostitute? Regardless of gender, it's a degrading profession.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 02:43 AM
43

Finally. A company actually giving a shit?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 12:57 AM
5

This is brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:24 PM
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And this is what porn promotes. Funny how that works. The porn industry, adding more abusers into this world, one sexually abusive themed porn video at a time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:41 PM
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Anyone else find it hella cringey when guys flex their watches and belts in such a blatently obvious way? How did I know he was gonna react like that as soon as I saw the profile pic. 😩🤣🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:40 PM
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Can Mr. BrokeAss stop projecting his financial weakness onto strangers on the internet? Men who work hard and take pride in their work and earnings get excited to treat their wives. If he can't relate, that says more about him than us. 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:39 PM
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Oh my. So glad you left this cretin. That insecure fool can keep his money. May you thrive and rise and start an incredible new life without this pathetic manchild weighing you down with his bullshit. So glad FDS helped you see what he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 09:35 PM
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Male mods who benefit from women not knowing their options or worth. 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:25 PM
46

Prude. A word used by sex abusers and those under the influence of the sex abuse industry (porn) who manipulate their prey by shaming them into doing or co-signing sex acts that cause them harm. Sex abuse is not healthy sex. Sex abuse is not sex positive. We don't want to be sexually abused in a loving relationship. Choking someone, violently rapidly thrusting someone, raping someone, degrading someone, spitting on them, peeing on them, coercing them to take part in themes of shame, humiliation,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:08 PM
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The funniest thing is the double-standards from society around the #MeToo movement. Everyone has their pitchforks out to defend women being sexually harassed in the work place by inappropriate, perverse, misogynistic men. But the porn industry, where women are openly being sexually harassed and abused, naked, on film, all across the internet for millions to see? Oh no, just a kink. Nothing to see here. W.T.F?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 07:17 PM
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Sex abuse. Porn is all just sex abuse on film. None of these themes are loving or promote a healthy sex relationship between two people who care about each other, are committed to each other, and see each other as two whole human beings, with parents, friends, a life, dreams, hopes and ambitions. (What a healthy good sex life was all about). People are jerking off to sex abuse themes, thinking it's healthy sexuality, but it's not. There is nothing "sex positive" about normalizing sex abuse and s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:29 PM
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You summed up it up perfectly in two sentences! I really want to raise awareness on this. 🗣📢 Just because children aren't involved, doesn't mean the same behavior isn't abuse. It's the exact same creepy fucked up predatory shit - that should stop being glorified + normalized in rap/pop/porn culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:07 PM
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"Kinks" is a fugazi term that lets sex abusers and awful sociopathic humans normalize the abuse they want to take out on society (mainly impressionable/gaslighted women). RAISE THE AWARENESS. Kinks are not on the side of women or children. It's there to subjugate us and gaslight us into pretending abuse is ok, and even "sexy". It isn't and never will be. Know your worth. 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 05:02 PM
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Hairline: Receded and grey. Eyes: Crowfeeted and baggy. Opinion: Misogynistic, pornsick and "muh penis" oriented. Why am I not surprised. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:51 PM
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Do not let sex abusers normalize their abuse. Fucking and ducking, treating a woman like a free prostitute while she's hoping you see her as relationship material, is ABUSE. We need to keep raising awareness on this. No one should be getting away with sexual and emotionally abusive behavior and calling it "boys will be boys". Boys are not abusers nor should we normalize and associate such behavior with the male gender. Keep calling this shit out for what it is. Sexually abusive and emotionally a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:39 PM
41

Another fucking reason why we don't WALK IN THE PARK FOR 3 HOURS and call it an acceptable date. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:07 PM
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Where do all the abusers go? Where do rapists go? Where do sex abusers go? What kind of people run the porn industry? Who's ideals are we being forced to watch? The more I think about it, the more the porn industry seems like a fraternity of sex abusers and sexually perverse, rapist, misogynistic, gaslighting tribe of men who have successfully gaslighted young girls and other impressionable young men to live according to their sexually abusive ideals. And they're fucking getting away with it. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 11:03 PM
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Can't be accused of simping if it ain't a real life breathing woman! Dedicating 8 hours daily to video games? NOT A SIMP. ✅ Watch and jerk off to digital women that don't know you exist in porn every evening before bed? NOT A SIMP. ✅ Listening and doing everything for your boys, including being on call and responding straight away to texts in the group chat? NOT A SIMP. ✅ Pick up flowers for a date with a real life woman? 🚨🚨🚨 SIMP ALERT!!!! 🚨🚨🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:43 PM
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Can we also message her and recommend her FDS? She needs a supportive group, and I'm sure whatever sub she posted this in won't be giving her advice that benefits her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:37 PM
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"WoMeN aRe eMoTiOnAl aNd iNsEcUre!" This just reminds me that men are projecting all the time. How many times have we women been told to toughen up regarding men's sexual pasts, yet men crumple at the same sight of a woman's. It's almost like they are the fragile sex that needs to be coddled and soothed 24/7. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:15 PM
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Emotional tampon! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:12 PM
3

He legit looks like a basement dwelling neckbeard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 10:18 AM
11

The egg doesn't shoot out the body to swim to the sperm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:43 PM
80

This is fucking projection and a fucking joke. No grown woman leaves their home like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:39 PM
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Porn industry masters have convinced them that this is just an innocent "fetish" and that they shouldn't be "kinkshamed" for doing it in public. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:34 PM
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I think what's shocking is what this shows. It shows that these girls had been putting up with NVM behaviour during the early dating/honeymoon period in their previous relationships, that even a HV mask is an upgrade. Crazy to think how many women who don't know FDS might still be putting up with NV behaviour during the first few dates. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 06:32 PM
8

So much entitlement. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:54 AM
27

It's more a pickme supporting circus troupe at this rate. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:53 AM
4

This is the video btw. It's 15 mins long and he begins the crux of his argument around the 3:30 mark. https://youtu.be/kj7VgBnQNUc Feel free to make your own decision around how you feel about it. It sounds like a benign comment at first, but then it made me realize how easily this starts a slipperly slope of woman blaming and shaming. Making women feel like they're not making the "right" choices at the "right" age. When in reality, women are doing just fine in their right of being selective and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 03:25 AM
4

These are lists we SHOULD have been reading in Cosmopolitan mags in the 90s/00s and 10s. 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:16 PM
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I've never understood why men want their dicks to smell of leftover anal cavity faeces. I guess that's why porn can sell the fantasy cause there is no smell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:14 PM
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Lmfao, that's the funniest thing. Write it in cursive in a home decor frame for women, and it's a basic bitch pumpkin spice latte Karen quote. Give it to a "male intellect" to say in a long-form YouTube video filmed in a lecture hall and it's a mindblowing philosophical breakthrough. 🙄🙄🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:02 PM
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I actually have his 12 Rules for Life book and mainly liked that he advocates self-mastery before you try master the world. This was prior to FDS and when I had an ex that liked his work. Now I've gained some perspective, I've realized most JP fans have misogynistic and red pill leanings. Although most of his other teachings are benign, I've also realized how toxic his talking point on "Women need to settle down and decide earlier than men, men can take their time" is. It ended up justifying a l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:58 PM
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Omg where?! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:51 PM
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Porn addict alert. Aka the orcs of society. Can't believe society is normalizing braindead zombies that commodify other human beings into porn enactment potential. Yeah let's just fuck anything and everything that moves cuz muh porn hub and fellow porn addict friends told me it's "kinky" and "cool".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:48 PM
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His standards are basically let me be a shit lazy human being, but get the rewards of the delusions of grandeur human being I think I am in my head cause I'm a superior white boy, therefore the main character, and minorities and women who are empowered that don't need me ain't shit! Vidya game escapism has literally gone to their heads. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:37 PM
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Don't need men mansplaining a woman-only space. NEXT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:31 PM
10

Lmfao. Imagine if dating apps actually did that. No wonder there's so much fucking audacity on OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:31 PM
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Wow. So true. Ugh. Was me in my teens!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:53 AM
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The irony is they're the ones perpetuating misogyny. Like girl, do you think these men have feminist values? They literally just see them as wank objects. Female sex objectification isn't empowerment and never will be. Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:45 AM
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Horny LVM validation, which makes it even worse. 🥴🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:42 AM
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Ok done! Thank you 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:41 PM
3

Same! Which option do I pick in the poll for this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:18 PM
9

Reddit recommended it to me with their "Subs you make like" feature. This comes up as you browse your main home feed page. Could you add this to option in the polls?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 09:17 PM
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Why do they always look like toes? 🦶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:35 PM
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If I had to get all Freudian, I wonder if it's a deep dissatisfaction that they know they're LVM, and there's more independent, higher ranking HV men on the totem pole that they can't oust cuz they're scared. So they take it out on a similarly independent woman instead. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 12:25 PM
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If there's any mods here... I just wanted to give a heads up that the new links in the FDS handbook have glitched and the format has gone weird. They look like this: [If he's not consistently investing in your relationship, he's not interested] ((https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/g253n8/unless_hes_consistently_investing_his_resources/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share)) I think maybe because there's a space between the "[post name] (link)", it's not linking properly. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 10:34 PM
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I LOVED that song. 😩💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 02:26 PM
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Yeah I definitely agree with you there. That's what I mean. I think us women enjoy the rush of the man we like, pursuing us and passionately making love to us (consensually). BUT THAT DOES NOT EQUAL ROUGH SEX!! It's ridiculous that porn has brainwashed into us that the rougher the sex, the more he wants us. It's just gaslighting violent behaviour as pleasure and "desire", when in fact it's just pure fucking unadulterated male selfishness and disrespect. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 02:22 PM
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Women enjoy the man of their choice being passionate about them, and ravaging them (consensually, lovingly) in the bedroom. That is not the same as rape. But it's sad that some porn want to blur the lines of a man pursuing a woman and being "passionate" about making love to her, with rapey themes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 02:18 PM
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I'm also so glad to see an example of a man in leadership who celebrates his accomplished age-appropriate wife. I get that it's politics, and scripts are scripted, but it's still so refreshing. I'm not anti-Republican or against Conservatives, but I felt Trump's display of toxic masculine traits and aggressive communication style really emboldened other LVM to do the same, and gave them a safe space to pursue the LVM chauvinist dream of being a toxic "dominant" "alpha" male. I'm just speculating…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 09:53 AM
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I'm so happy to see a woman of color as VP of the USA. Especially half-Indian! Wow! Feel so proud as a woman of Asian descent. Excited to see the USA lead again in democracy and having respectful and thoughtful leadership instead of the toxic, brash, LVM masculinity that was idealized through Trump being a leader. I feel like it really gave LVMs the audacity to act like even bigger dickheads considering the behaviour of the President. I'm not anti-Republican or against Conservatives, but some of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:03 PM
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Biggest mistake I made after college was settling for a retail job because it paid the bills, even though I got the grades and extracurriculars to apply for consulting firms. I got scared, I got nervous, my anxiety culminated and it was just easier to stay with this retail job. I thought to myself, I like my colleagues, I like the brand, why not stay here and try get promoted? Then, just as OP said, the people there know you are too smart to be there, they feel threatened to promote you. I event…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:43 AM
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I also hate that it's mostly Offset who they're idolizing along with these tweets. He cheated on Cardi B and yet she took him back because she was missing dick and he bought her a Rolls Royce. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 01:05 AM
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The worst part is, they never show women VETTING MEN. That whole critical, life or death part that sets a potential relationship up for success is all wiped out. Instead, it's all about: 1) He exists 2) He gives me the look 3) We date 4) I get woo'ed 5) We're together now kthxbye. Conveniently forgetting that women should vet men before taking the next step only benefits LV men that just want to manipulate and smash. Yet this is the most common trope on TV and film, sending the wrong messages to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:54 PM
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The worst part is these dating standards are based off the preferences of LVM. Yes. The very type of men that'll be lazy, entitled, cheat, addicted to depraved porn and have misogynistic attitudes towards women. Why the fuck should we bend over backwards to contort, to "perform", to look attractive for men like that? 😷🤢🤮 Next. 🗑🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 11:47 PM
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Gosh, why are men so obsessed with hierarchy. Just get a fucking life and work on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:25 PM
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Let's just say the one on the right is pointing down. ⤵️😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 10:05 PM
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Yeah I just did after you mentioned it. Major yikes. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:58 PM
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Yes!! 🙌🙌🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:58 PM
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Oh good point girl! It's not something they "grow into", but something they can totally be brought up with from a young age. Boys totally have the capacity within them to be respectful and HV to girls from birth and we shouldn't excuse being male and young for behavior that disrespects and manipulates women. Thanks for writing this! Maybe I'll stick to calling them unripe men. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:56 PM
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Yikes. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 09:51 PM
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I think she's being sarcastic and mimicking the language and logic used by the manosphere when they talk about 16 year old girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:01 PM
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Yep. No one wants the village dildo. 😷🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:05 PM
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And if he doesn't know, he's not a ripe man. He's still a little boy and we should not be entertaining life partnership with boys who haven't become real men yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:03 PM
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We need to continue to bring light to what these LV men are doing in the dating pool. Thank you for lurking TRP for us and bringing back the findings. The more women that learn men's techniques, the quicker we can spot and identify them and kick these so-called "men" to the curb. Not sure if anyone else would agree, but it would be brilliant to have a regularly updated field report of the latest strategies LVM are using to manipulate women into having sex with them. Either stuff we've seen them …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:55 PM
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That awkward moment when this is actually true for men addicted to porn. 😂 Left: Before porn addiction and no erectile dysfunction. Right: After porn addiction and erectile dysfunction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:29 PM
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I wish I had this sub at your age too. So glad you've found it. Hope your generation wakes up sooner than we did. 🙏💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:22 PM
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I was debating a topic with a guy who calls all psychology "pseudo science". I was trying to explain how childhood trauma and upraising affects people psychologically in adulthood and he mansplained to me that I was silly for believing in fake science and that psychology isn't real. I can't believe how stubborn men can be when it comes to introspection and thinking about cause and effect. Especially when it comes to human/behavioral psychology which has been proven?! Like wtf?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:35 PM
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That clapback by FDS. 🤣🤣🤣🤣👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:25 PM
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Porn and wanking has made them so impatient. They wanna get their nut and go. They can't be bothered to take their time and have sensual foreplay. If there is any female oriented foreplay it lasts 2 minutes, then it's 30+ mins of jack hammering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:16 PM
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"So I just peed to get him to shut the hell up" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Oh man, guys are so obsessed with squirting because they're projecting their ejaculation on us. Squirting isn't fucking normal like wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 12:15 PM
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It kind of also reminds me of the planning you do when you start a new business. You purposely niche down and create a target customer persona. Your goal isn't to attract and gain the favor of everyone in the world, but a very niched down customer base that truly resonates with your product. The quicker you can drop clients that aren't a good fit, the quicker you can spend time with clients that are. If that's how high stakes businesses do it, damn straight so should us women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:03 PM
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Remove his permissions from the document in the share tab. Turn the document to private. He shouldn't be able to access it afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 06:57 PM
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Yes it's just sad that men seem to take the teachings that relate to restricting themselves less seriously than women, but I feel that goes for a lot of religions. Women are expected to uphold "purity" more than men, when often such purity is a requirement for both genders in the words of God.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:14 PM
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I also remember hearing that Muslim men are also meant to practice modesty themselves. By covering up and wearing loose garments and lowering their own gaze when it comes to women who aren't their wife or female relatives. Instructions for men from the Quran: "To lower their gaze from looking at women with desire other than their wives, and to protect themselves from fornication. That is purer for them." An-Nūr 24:30 Pretty in line with HVM behaviour tbh! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:48 PM
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BONE COLLECTOR! 🤣🤣🤣 Dead!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 07:31 PM
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Cries of TERF, SWERF just reminds me of that Seal meme that was posted here a few days ago. It's just B.S. used to derail the convo and ignore a sophisticated nuanced discussion of real issues that have an impact over the Disneyfied fantasy version of it that they are so invested to uphold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 02:02 PM
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Game all day? Let's say once your husband has left for work, cooking and cleaning for a family would take 3 hours per day. If you had kids, then you'd need to take a 2 more hours out doing activities with them. That leaves 1 hour to unwind while the kids are having naptime. Then 2 hours of chilling while still being surrounded by your kids. Then the husband comes home and it's time to cater to his needs after a long day of work. There's only "me time" while the kids are napping. This guy thinks …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:33 PM
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Who says we're not grateful? 😂 Why is this man so pressed. FDS women have tons of love and affection to give. We have often been the women who have given too much to ungrateful, lazy, unreciprocal, cheap men. Our strict vetting and dating strategies are purely so we can weed out the lazy, entitled men immediately so we don't waste giving our abundant love and affection to men that don't deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 01:06 PM
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We are a dating strategy sub and people celebrate their religions in ways that can be liberating, not just oppressive. I've been surrounded by women of all religions and I have Muslim friends who are feminist and in HV relationships, so I don't think we should jump quick to stand up against religions when people embrace their beliefs in different ways. I don't think FDS should make a political stance on religion. Our advice is secular and can be used regardless of faith.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:55 PM
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FDS is full of women from all cultures, beliefs and religions. Our rules are secular and can be applied to everyone. However, we do have a flair called "Social Group Theory" and this is where you can get FDS type of advice that caters to the religion or culture you're raised in. We've had some excellent threads before on discussing dating and applying FDS in the desi community, and I think I've seen an Islam one as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:51 PM
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Sex trafficking rings and the prostitution industry don't want any negative press either. Porn is the gateway drug to normalizing women as sex objects. If you criticize porn, it's only a few shades away from criticizing sex trafficking rings and their justification for needing a supply of willing sex workers and sex buyers. The biggest threat to sex trafficking rings, prositution and porn is loving, respectful relationships and empathy. Reduce that in society and you'll have a wider market of br…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:36 PM
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I agree. Most of my close male friends are from childhood/college and I have a familial bond with. I have my guard way up with any new guys that try to start a friendship with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 11:48 AM
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Men are oppressed by other men, then blame women for their emasculation. Nah mate, your "bros" are the ones behind that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:48 AM
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We need to PM her, not just read her story! This is horrible and she should not be shouldering this big of a negjob and financial burden!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:18 AM
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Don't worry girl I totally understand you. My guy friends are like extended family to me. I also grew up in a family with a lot of brothers/male cousins so I've always found it easy to get along with guys as much as girls too. I'm fine with mixing in both worlds. However, I totally understand how many other girls in FDS might not have had these types of experiences. So as a general rule, I totally get why the advice is "no guy friends" as there definitely are guys who will try to befriend you bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:33 AM
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I've been that girl that's always had a group of guy friends as well as a group of girl friends. FDS is pretty anti-guy friends but just wanted to say that there are some of us with guys friends that do exist! 👋 My close guy friends are very HVM though and are like brothers to me. We have a very platonic friendship. I have some distant guy friends/acquaintances in my social circles though that are borderline "could lowkey be crushing on me" so I purposely keep those types of guys more at arms le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 12:21 AM
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You're making me realize that Gen Z kids are using TikToks like how MySpace kids used bulletin boards. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:56 PM
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I was calling out her untidy eyeliner application skills, not her appearance. This girl had the energy to record this TikTok and feel high and mighty about her sex preferences over the rest of the population yet can't even put the same energy into her eyeliner skills. I'm calling out the level of lack of self-awareness and irony in her hubris.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:53 PM
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Of course GoT had some brainwashed LVM scriptwriters and producers in there trying to normalize men who could be fathers of young women to have a crush on them. Bravo Liam Cunningham for standing firm in his resolve against that. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 12:17 PM
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I've done this and it's actually so funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:15 AM
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It's so liberating. Always match the energy. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 11:14 AM
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That eyeliner job tells me all I need to know about this girl, her level of self-awareness and her standards. 🤐 At the same time, I feel sorry for her. She looks so young and is already brainwashed by LVM standards and the porn industry. 😩 Overcompensation in being a "freak" won't bring you love babygirl. Hope she learns one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:54 AM
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That's some real queen shit! I've done the same recently and it's so effective. Pavlov men to interact with you properly. Shit convos and low effort openers get no responses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:36 AM
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I wonder what the best way to work around this is. Established memes are excellent carriers for disseminating information. A meme communicates a thousand words in one funny punch. This meme was effective because it's a recognised format that we've all come across on Reddit. Should its incel source really remove itself from its effectiveness in communicating an idea? Not disagreeing with you completely as you made great points. Just wanted to start a discussion around the concept.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:34 AM
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Don't forget "full head of hair". 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 06:01 PM
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Yep. Porn helps men rationalize depraved abusive thoughts towards the women, teens and animals around them. It reinforces the abuser ecosystem and lifecycle. YET NO ONE WANTS TO BRING THIS UP WHEN DISCUSSING PORN. Everyone is being brainwashed by the porn and prostitution industries to think this shit is normal when it's not. The only people porn and prostitution benefits are sex abusers because the porn content they create helps normalize their crimes in society! All under the guise of it's jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:54 PM
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Exactly. Why is society encouraging sociopathy as long as it's guised under "kink"? Sociopathy makes the world a worse off place. It should NOT be encouraged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:17 PM
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BDSM community is literally shaking rn at the fact they're full of mini borderline Ted Bundys. Just kidding, they're not that self-aware yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:47 PM
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This was so beautifully written and such an eye-opener! Thank you! A lot to think about and resonates a lot with what I've seen. It just makes me think even more why it's so important we continue not to Pavlov men by rewarding them with PickMe behaviour thinking they deserve to be with women despite not doing a damn thing to change themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:43 PM
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I absolutely loved this. Fantastic post. 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:39 PM
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A 12 hour online course that educates men on how to actually have sex with a woman on equal terms, taking care of her pleasure in a loving, caring way, showing how orgasms for women actually work, where and how to stimulate the clit, erogenous zones, how to actually make love to a woman and how to give incredible long-lasting foreplay sessions. It finishes off with signing a contract that they'll never degrade women or watch depraved porn ever again and with proof that they see women as equals a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:11 PM
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How have they been socialized to be like this? I'm genuinely confused how people don't look at how they can improve themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:58 PM
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Agree. I'd rather have a more strategically written post that summarises some tips and things to look out for rather than just a screenshot pointing at a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:56 PM
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LVM complain girls are outperforming boys in academia, yet at the same time defend their porn and vidya addiction to death. Yeah... you might wanna take a closer look at that. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:53 PM
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Then they cry that women are shallow and monkey branch to the next guy and shouldn't be trusted. YEAH DUH. If you're a 50 year old scrote dating a 20-something year old, she's not going to be authentically falling in love with you. 😂 The type of women willing to date men that old are on the shallow side and see you as temporary. They would only settle down and stay committed with a hottie their own age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:48 PM
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Leo was so hot in Romeo and Juliet / Titanic days which was in his 20s. The beautiful women in their 20s deserve to date the 20-something year old him, not the almost 50 year old him! Us women should only be dating 50 year olds when WE are 50 year olds. Until then I'm sticking to guys my own age - thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:46 PM
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Bruh. He sounds straight out of the white supremacist manosphere. They've got such fucked up views on immigrants, women and taxes. They all pass around the same bunch of stupid arguments and skewed statistics to make themselves feel like they're the "logical" ones with "facts", when in fact they've got nothing going on in their lives and their skin color and gender is all they have left to feel some sort of superiority over others. It's so sad. I knew a guy who was the same and would try convinc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:30 PM
8

Wow! So many red flags! It's good you found this place young. 16 is the perfect age! Read the handbook and welcome to the FDS sisterhood! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:16 PM
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To pickmeishas and male lurkers: Porn socializes and primes men's minds to associate seeing a woman as a mere wank tool. Women don't exist as people to porn addicts, just holes to fuck with different sizing options. And we wonder why women aren't taken seriously in the workplace, relationships and society? Porn socializes and primes women's minds to base their self-worth and inherent value on how much of a wank tool they can be. Porn makes women believe that giving men a 10 minute blow job then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:10 PM
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Perfect use of this meme. Love it sis! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:04 PM
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Now this is FDS! Loved this article! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:55 AM
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Notice how women are depicted like ATM machines to men. Instead of money, they want status and babies. Once again, reducing women to a mere transactional object, rather than an entire human being they can get to know, build a life together with and bond with. And they want to spin the mental gymnastics like they're the oppressed group "frontloading"? Please. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:51 AM
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I second this. Would love more of this content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:40 AM
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Lmfao. The fact that no woman would do this roles reversed. Stay pressed losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:26 PM
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Lmfao. Enjoy screaming into the void losers. No one cares about their opinions or their pathetic whiney tantrum week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:20 PM
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Newsflash for them - women are visual creatures. Even more than men. Have they seen how much effort we put into aesthetics, style, home decor and accessories? These men who don't brush their teeth and wear anime t-shirts think they're the visual creatures. Yeah ok mate. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:08 PM
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Porn creates demand for the prostitution industry. I wouldn't be surprised if porn was started with links to the pimps and the sex trafficking industry. This is why porn is so damaging. It reduces women into sex objects that can then be stripped of their humanity and commodified into a sex tool for men to shove the penises into. Not real human beings with emotions, with parents, with hopes and dreams. Nope. Just rent a woman and shove your peen in her. The worst part is, the distributors of porn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:19 AM
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Funny thing is we have started to criticize men, then they respond with throwing their toys out the pram and creating MGTOW to gaslight themselves on how they're the victims. It's really pathetic and comical. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:08 AM
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Another reason why porn has fucked up men. They open a new porn tab, and with no effort, they get to see a hot woman out of their league naked and imagine her sucking his dick. In the old days, they would have seriously needed to put in some effort to better themselves and become a good catch to even have a whiff of opportunity to see anything like that. Now they go back to reality and start whining why hot girls won't suck their dick IRL. Porn has set them up with the expectation that they can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 10:01 AM
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Yes! Absolute goals! 🙌 Relationship sex with a loyal HVM that wants to learn how to please you and makes you feel safe, loved and comfortable is the best sex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 09:26 AM
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How is he educated when he is capitalizing random words in his sentences? How is he honest when he's already lying from the first sentence? LOL please leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:46 AM
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Hands up if you've ever had a friend who slept around with a guy but lowkey actually had or developed strong feelings for him and wanted something more but played the "cool girl" to not scare him off and pretend she was fine with no strings attached sex when she really wasn't. Also, hands up again if you ever had a female friend who complained about birth control symptoms, both affecting her mental health, physical health and emotional health - or risk taking Plan B pills, get an abortion OR end…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 01:33 AM
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I see no benefits here for women. Only for LVM who want to get their dick wet with no financial, emotional, or moral repercussions / costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 01:22 AM
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Men play video games and watch porn all day. Boys club culture ENCOURAGES other men to keep playing video games and wank off to porn everyday. Their dopamine receptors are fried and they can't sustain attention or work towards meaningful goals. Of course women are going to outperform them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 02:01 PM
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24 and he's not doing his own laundry?! Wtfffffffff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:54 PM
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We literally block and delete as soon as a man doesn't match up to our standards. We ain't got time to manipulate nobody. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:45 PM
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These aren't relationships tho. These are sexmeships. I don't need a poll to know porn sick limp dick insecure old men in their late 30s, 40s and 50s only see women as a sex appliances to shove their pee pee into. What are these old farts gonna have in common with legal girls? They just want to nut and stay in denial about their Peter Pan syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 11:08 AM
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Google the writers of this TV show. I bet they are LVM or PickMeishas. Also I hate the way this actress has been told to hype herself up and go googly eyed over this pathetic advance. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:49 AM
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That's why we must continue waking women up! I've always wondered how it must have been to be a suffragette in the early 1900s, campaigning for women to have the right to vote and being in the midst of a true watershed moment for women's rights. This year I've realised the battle for women's rights isn't over - and this time the battleground is not within legal institutions, but it's within society itself. FDS feels like being a suffragette in the 1900s. Yes, us women have legal rights now, but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:36 AM
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I hope Anna Akana goes through her own FDS ephiphany. I used to subscribe to her as I used to relate to her. I used to definitely lean into being a "cool girl" and "not like other girls" prior to my own FDS awakening. I hope she wakes up too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:26 AM
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He's only treating her like a queen because she's allowing him to sexually exploit her. That's not a good metric of love and shows the opposite, absolute dehumanisation and disrespect. I hope she discovers FDS and leaves this pornsick loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:22 AM
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Translation: "I'm not looking for relationship so let me date 18-25 year olds and treat the next generation of women as a porn tissue to throw away once I'm done with because they aren't real human beings. Just things that exist for me to put my pee pee into." Ugh. Can tell straight away this guy is fucking porn sick. Nothing to offer. He just wants to live out his porn addiction with poor young naive girls online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:15 AM
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Wtf. That is so problematic. I'm glad your group reacted like that and hopefully she can think twice about her reaction to what was said. I lowkey feel sorry for her as well because I'm sure she's been brainwashed to think "hoes" is just a normal everyday term thanks to misogyny in hiphop. Hope that woman wakes up one day to save herself and her son. 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:11 AM
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Us women have been socialized from romantic movies and TV shows that this as the true love/prince charming moment. I think this is why a part of us lowkey wonders "Could it be?! He loved me all along?" I don't think I've seen any depictions of manipulative LVM that use love bombing and subtle negging in the media to the same level in which they exist IRL. Maybe this is why so many women aren't sus about it? Just some thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 04:34 AM
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What are the exact scenarios you have anxiety around? If you can write them out in advance, you can write out the solutions to them in advance which will help make you feel more confident and chilled in the moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 01:07 AM
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Hobo Haram
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:26 AM
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Any recommendations on good psychology/self-help literature that's more balanced and well-thought out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 12:06 AM
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You should really create a second account. I only use this account to post on FDS. There's too many LVMs in Reddit that feel threatened by FDS that they will discredit you and what you say just for having a post history here. FDS uncovers LVM tactics so of course we're a threat to the way they make misguided meaning in their world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:50 PM
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She should tell him "if only your penis was 2 inches bigger, length and girth" and say she's sorry he didn't find it funny but stands by her statement and see how he feels. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:20 AM
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W.T.F!! 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:18 AM
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These are just LV men across each age bracket. Younger and older. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:15 AM
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Who the fuck are they interviewing for their pieces? Random women who aren't even part of the sub? How is that logic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:13 AM
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If I knew the advice OP just gave was okay back when I was 23, I would have left my LVM ex a few months in instead of "trying to make it work" and "communicating how I feel" over a few more years. 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 11:10 AM
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Literally that's what they do in the animal kingdom. Ya'll wanna be alpha, start fucking dancing and building us houses!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:57 AM
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The best advice I've heard is to never take advice from someone you wouldn't trade positions with in the area you want advice on. LVM are definitely not qualified for that when they haven't got their own shit together themselves. 😂 You sound like an absolute queen sis and I hope you keep going and succeed in your endeavors!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:55 AM
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Women's intuition is so strong when it's not being gaslighted. You made the right decision!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:39 AM
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Is this the result of pick-me mothers and LV fathers that didn't make their sons pick up their own slack around the house? I feel like us women really need to analyse a man's parents and upbringing to understand what kind of expectations he's gonna end up having. I can't understand what other way these "men" end up like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:37 AM
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I'd love this. I've never done OLD and I would personally love a guide on what to expect in the texting/messaging stages before deciding the guy is worthy of a date in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:34 AM
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Common hobbies can also be very disarming. I definitely overlooked my LVM ex's LV behaviour because we had some hobbies and interests in common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:32 AM
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Yep. A young beautiful women on the arms of an old wrinkly scrote is symptoms that she's been negged to death by society and the social circle and people she was surrounded by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:29 AM
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Someone please PM her and bring her to FDS. Sis needs our help! This should be flaired FDS Rescue Mission. I feel so sorry for her! That guy sounds like such an absolute insecure TRP tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 10:26 AM
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Males in the animal kingdom simp for females. So get back to me when you start doing that too. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:27 AM
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Ughhh a man who masturbates with his imagination and rarely watches porn is goals. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:32 PM
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With a post like this, I kind of see it as us women poking at the holes in the logic of such a ridiculous term. I just want to clarify that I didn't mean us women should fully reclaim the phrase "The Wall" in the way LibFems do with "bitch" or "slut", but more that we should do it in a way that continues to expose the idiotic logic behind it. I really liked your points though on how we shouldn't reclaim words created by LVM logic that were designed to degrade us and keep us out of the conversati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:30 PM
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I really like your points but I think it's important we also embrace both sides of this coin. Reclaiming their lexicon and destroying its logic and meaning, as well as establishing our own lexicon - almost like a two-pronged attack. A defence strategy and an offence strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:22 PM
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Hey ladies - would love some advice! 🙏 What's the FDS optimal way of setting fitness and body goals? I've realized that my past goals were heavily influenced by the male ideal of what their dream pornstar girl would look like. E.g. I would focus on glute days for the booty, when in fact I'm happy with my butt as it is and I don't need it reaching Kim K/Kylie levels. I feel like so many exercise programs center around these thirst trap ideals. I'm currently struggling to understand the balance be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:10 PM
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Thank you SO SO much for this! I've read 2-3 blog posts from Baggage Reclaim before but it was purely on relationships, I didn't know she did stuff on family and friends and people pleasing too. Will definitely be revisiting! I've never heard of those books or YouTube channels before so I'll give them a follow/bookmark now. I seriously appreciate this! 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:09 PM
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This needs to go in the handbook! Brilliant advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:10 PM
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This was so beautifully written and I'm going to take my time to look over this on the weekend again and make notes because I relate to so many of these mini-moments where I don't practice self-love and dismiss my needs instead. Thank you so much for this OP! 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:03 PM
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Yeah, no, the whole "it's just a fantasy" meme needs to die. Those are real brain dopamine connections you're making between a visualized scenario in your head. There is so much research that says the brain can't tell the difference between visualization and reality. Which is why top athletes visualize their shot going in, or perfecting a kick in their minds before doing it on a field. "Brain studies now reveal that thoughts produce the same mental instructions as actions. Mental imagery impacts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:56 PM
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Possibly also signs that he's a porn addict. Men who are used to just opening a new tab to see a hot girl can't be bothered to make effort beyond that in real life when dating a real one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:44 PM
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Any books or resources on this? I grew up around a narc fam/culture that made me hypersensitive to people pleasing to survive in that environment. FDS has helped so much in establishing dating standards and boundaries, but I'm still looking for FDS-like advice for family/people boundaries too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:40 PM
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I almost wonder if that's why us women find it hard to orgasm? I wonder if my body didn't want to, because somewhere deep down I knew he was an LVM and wasn't deserving. It would be interesting study to know if women orgasm more with men who are HV, make them feel safe and loved, as opposed to men who are LV, inconsistent, selfish and sketchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:30 PM
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Honestly, I think men who can date women their own age are the more mature ones in life. Older men who want to date younger women are the ones who have Peter Pan syndrome and are more likely to be emotionally stunted and immature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:23 PM
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I say this with kindness and I know you didn't mean what you said in a negative way, but those aren't costumes, they are our traditional clothes/outfits worn on special occasions. Hope you don't mind me mentioning that! 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:21 PM
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The funniest thing is, sperm and egg quality are also determined by a healthy lifestyle and diet, not just age. These fucking scrotes eating their cheetos in their ass dented computer chairs have the audacity to think some woman wants their dusty crusty ass sperm? They hardly workout or can be bothered to cook themselves healthy food, yet they want to complain about women's eggs, when women are more likely to eat healthily, cook good meals and workout compared to the majority of LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:15 PM
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The funniest part is, they LOVE Taylor Swift for embodying their far-right white nationalist Aryan values (blonde hair, blue eyes) but start crying and getting triggered that she's financially independent, lives life on her own terms and isn't some LVM's resigned bangmaid and baby factory by now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:13 PM
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It's a high dose of estrogen hormones which can increase your risk of cancer and blood clots if taken repeatedly in the long run. I had no idea until my pharmacist took me to the side and warned me. After that I vowed to never sleep with my boyfriend while ovulating (even with the condom) as the risk was way too high. I don't want to keep repeatedly taking Plan B to further risk my body to hormones. The shit us women have to do to stay safe while sleeping with men is ridiculous. It's not worth i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:07 PM
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This makes my heart so full I'm so so grateful to hear that! 🙏 All glory be to God and to Pastor Mike for making God's word relevant, relatable and crystal clear to our generation. And sorry about the DMs but I turned them off as I saw so many of our fellow FDS sisters here complaining about random scrotes trying to DM them. 😂 Wishing you a wonderful and blessed week sis! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:47 AM
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Sorry if it seemed like I was buying into a celebrity facade. We see so many shitty relationship examples in Hollywood shows and movies, so when I see a public relationship that has stood the test of time between two people who outwardly project that they mutually respect and love each other in a deep and meaningful HV way, I like to believe and celebrate that as a sign of hope more will aspire towards being like that. The content I've seen of their relationship from Marzia's IG stories and vlog…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:10 PM
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Anyone else want to do this, but towards their NV family members? I feel like us women should also remember not to take this shit from NV/LV tendency friends, family and coworkers/acquaintances too. For me, I have extended family members with narc tendencies who I've realised have been negging me and lowkey putting me down for a very long time. I almost wonder if this is why I put up with so much shit from my negging ex as well. I built such a tolerance by lowering the standards of the type of b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:01 PM
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That dude looks like a Brazilian bikini wax in reverse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:57 PM
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I agree. Felix treats Marzia really well, always super respectful towards her, and speaks highly of her on all his videos. They got engaged 8 years into their relationship but they met really young (18, 21) so I don't see it as a red flag or an example of a LVM stringing some naive girl along. From what I remember from both of their videos, they were both mutually interested in getting engaged and married, but were on the same page of not rushing into it young and doing it on their own timeline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 01:53 PM
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It's because LV people are in positions of power writing the scripts. We need more HV men and women writing the next generation of stories. The public is being sold scraps and internalizing narratives that are damaging and make women naive, and men emboldened with their incompetency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:16 PM
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How old are you? Would you date a year or two younger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:59 PM
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Yes. It's such a breath of fresh air to read: "And so I blocked him immediately." 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:58 PM
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How are we abusive towards men? Just because we choose to ignore low effort, lazy, selfish, manipulative men that just want to string us along dangling fake commitment while using us for sex?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:00 PM
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I'm sorry but this is definitely fanfiction done by a guy. There's so many awkward word phrasings in there that 19 year old girls wouldn't use when describing a guy or their relationship with their mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:57 PM
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This is hilarious. LOVE IT! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:46 PM
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That's why, make access to your time, sanity, approval and emotional commitment expensive. 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:55 PM
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"Spit or swallow" is the worst sex lie memed into existence. It's basically like asking "rape or molestation?" No. Just cause you give us girls two options, don't even mean we need to fucking pick one of the two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:46 PM
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In general, * cue my fanfiction of the world *.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:22 PM
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I used to stick to the same handful of videos because I always found it difficult to find a non-creepy fantasy where the woman was getting pleased adequately, equally and consensually by the man. I tried to expand my video repertoire but I was shocked at the content that started to infiltrate the sites. When I saw incest go mainstream that was the final straw for me. Don't want to ever support such a morally depraved sociopathic industry. It's so fucking sad to hear that not even the men watchin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:18 PM
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Thank you! 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:14 PM
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We need the reverse angle shot. Man gaming and just existing and being given food when he ain't done shit. Just to show her how ridiculous this is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:50 PM
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I've said this before on another thread. For pornsick LVM, Tinder and OLD is like that porn website ad "Find local girls near you that will sext you and suck your dick" but made into an app with Disney romance marketing around it to lure the unsuspecting women in. It's seriously messed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:48 PM
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This! 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:46 PM
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Ugh I hate that side of Twitter. So many LVM "brahs" that want to signal that they got money or "intellect".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:36 PM
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Please tag this NSFW. This is heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:33 PM
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🎶 Little scrote, little scrote trying to get laid, You want a girl to be your live-in maid, And if that girl should ever say no, You blame her gender and call her an entitled hoe. And if her gender wakes up to your manipulative tricks, You blame feminism for not prioritizing your dick. And if feminism identifies your unchecked misogyny, You cry and shout "WHAT ABOUT ME!" 😭🎶
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:22 PM
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Imagine pushing a symbol of your love and commitment into a deep fried oily chicken nugget and thinking you did good. I don't even want to think what her finger gon smell like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:53 PM
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He'll text he's on his way and she'll wait patiently in the field and apologize to him when he arrives 2 hours late. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:48 PM
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But did you get picked by a lazy entitled abusive misogynist? Yes. 🤡 Ermagherdd go off Queen!! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 03:25 PM
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I won't ever forget the day I found a part of Tumblr where sex abuse survivors were recalling their traumatic stories. How can society lightheartedly use "Zaddy/Daddy" in a sexual way when there are girls and boys being abused by that dynamic irl? Porn culture fucks up people's logic in SO many ways. This should be absolutely unacceptable. The mere fact that sex has to be "dirty, slutty, sick, depraved, kinky" is totally wrong in the first place. It's turning sex from a sacred place that bonds a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:05 PM
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I'm absolutely against it. Always have been. It makes me feel sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:00 PM
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What a great idea! Beautiful bouquet! 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:58 PM
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Fucking hell this is awful. 😭 Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:56 PM
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Also I hate the fucking gaslighting here. Basic confidence?! Does she know the type of covert LVM entitled, manipulative men we've come across and dated? Who string you along in a relationship, pretending they have plans to commit but don't? Who say one thing but then act another? Men who neg their women so gradually and subtley so they can manipulate them into staying and to depend on their validation. Men who prioritize their erection, porn and vidya addiction than working on themselves. Men w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:53 PM
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They promote abusive sex as empowerment. They promote men's prioritization of muh penis cooming, and women being sex objects (not people) as empowerment. They encourage women to aspire to be mere wank tools for men, and the LVM male gaze and porn gaze. Apparently being some LVM's porn induced erectile dysfunctional penis' wank tool is empowerment. That's all you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:36 PM
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I'm curious but where have you seen this? Dating or online? Sorry if I sound ignorant but I've not watched porn properly since my teens (in the late 2000s), and I've quit completely this year after FDS. Is this how bad porn has gotten?! 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:29 PM
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.... And it's an OWN GOAL!! ⚽️🥅 Pickmeisha scores against her own side! 😱 Fans of LVM Misogynist FC are roaring with applause. They've got their dicks out ready to go, but only if she splits 50/50 on a date! We're receiving word in the studio right now that she'll be on her way to her prize of a 3 hour walk in the field with a LVM not of her choice. We truly hope she enjoys getting picked! 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:16 PM
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Or like the guy from the History channel that says everything was cause of "aliens". 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 10:35 AM
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Yes these fucking middle aged aunties think they're so amazing with their married life, yet the fact that their husbands are lazy, alcoholic, entitled pieces of LVM shit (some of them with second wives!) is not as important to them as shitting on someone's daughter for not being married yet. Oh no no no!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:36 AM
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GIRL. My mom keeps telling me to marry someone from back home, telling me she'll ask my aunts and uncles over there for recommendations and I keep telling her the power dynamics are going to be off. He's going to be resentful that he can't get a job as his credentials don't have the same merit over here and that I'm more successful than him / would have to be the breadwinner. I feel like marrying someone from back home only works if you're a guy born and raised in the West, and bringing a girl a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:32 AM
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This is so cool! Nice to get the other side of the story outside of the show!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:20 AM
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Exactly. It's not about being materialistic but it's seeing the level of effort, time and thoughtfulness that went into a gift. But us women were conditioned to avoid being gold diggers if we wanted to be the "cool girl", so we would just ignore bad gifts and chalk it off to "men are just dumb and silly with gifts aren't they!". 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:08 AM
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Ok this is cool and all but I hope FDS doesn't turn into r/productivity where people are writing useful posts just to send traffic to their social media accounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 08:01 AM
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I love how they think women are so hypergamous that we'd be willing to overlook the fact he looks like an enlarged toe with poor fashion sense and a tacky nouveau riche taste in lifestyle just because he now has money. No fuck off, he's still a massive LVM, entitled, manipulative, with low EQ, and inherently misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:56 AM
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So funny how scrotes are obsessed with IQ for their superiority, yet have no signs of EQ anywhere. It's like the mental version of just training biceps and chest and you've got twigs for legs from ignoring leg day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:46 AM
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Everyone has given great advice here so far. I'd just like to add, try slow down your reactions. Sometimes we have auto-responses to what's happening around us, and those auto-responses will be rooted in our previous behavioural wiring. If a guy texts you, don't reply with what you'd automatically reply. Stop, pause and think about it and think how would the best version of me answer this? You can also journal about this topic. List all the situations and scenarios where your PickMe side came ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:42 AM
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FUCKING MUH BIOLOGY BULLSHIT AGAIN. THESE FUCKERS HAVE NO COMMON SENSE. They literally can't use their brain to think things through from an empathetic human to human level!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:28 AM
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Goras means white guys. It's a shared word we all have in every language in South Asia. 😂 Also I just want to add, of course black men are amazing and incredibly attractive, but due to the way South Asian culture is set up, it's extremely controversial and blasphemous to date a black guy over a white guy unfortunately. To the point where you'll be disowned and be gossiped about bringing shame to the family. Sadly, backward Asian uncles and aunties are more accepting of white guys IF their child …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:12 AM
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Exactly the same at Asian dinner parties. Men ain't shit. What the fuck were my male cousins and uncles doing that made them so great that they had to be served first? The women were the one that cooked the whole thing!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 07:08 AM
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Minor attracted people?! Excuse me what the fuck!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:37 PM
8

WTF!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 10:18 PM
3

YES this! 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:47 PM
24

If I knew this when I was younger, it would have saved me years off a LVM relationship. More girls need to do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:45 PM
16

Could you potentially create a new email address and move everything there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:42 PM
27

Fucking hell, what are they going to complain about next? IERFS? Incest Exclusionary Radical Feminists? PERFS? Pedo Exclusionary Radical Feminists? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:36 PM
76

My mom wonders why I've rejected so many suitors and you can tell straight up that they're LVM. But she automatically considers them a "catch" for me because at least they're from our caste/culture and he has a degree/decent job. 🙄 I've mentioned this in another post but I've preferred dating goras because at least the misogyny is not as hypocritical and overt and deeply entrenched and enforced by extended family members and wider society as it is for us Asian girls. I've seen so many Asian guys…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:30 PM
20

SO TRUE. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:22 PM
73

Girl. Same. Me looking for a fellow gamer guy throughout my teens and at uni led me to date LVM. Now I've realised I want nothing to do with them because they can't moderate themselves and that's not a sexy trait in a man AT ALL. Nothing more than a turn-off than a man that's undisciplined and that prioritizes the wrong things in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:17 PM
52

Literally, LVM will find millions of academic sources and intellectual sounding arguments to prove their opinion is right. But it's absolute silence when you tell them they should brush their teeth more often, learn some fashion sense, workout or get good hygiene. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 09:14 PM
76

Not Indian, but similar culture and this is why I've never dated a guy from my race. Have had suitors but the thought of being chained to my culture terrifies me. Might sound racist but I love Western family units, and although my gora ex ended up being a LVM, I felt so much freedom and peace with him and his lovely family that it often made me forget his LVM parts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:30 PM
6

As soon as LVM get rejected by a hot babe, they immediately resort to calling her insults, so do they really expect us to feel hurt and surprised by their rejection tantrums? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 11:18 PM
67

That typing style is already a red flag and low IQ indicator. 👎🏼 LVM. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:44 PM
62

Awkward moment when I got back with my ex after a few years and he had dated other girls in that period and his moves hadn't improved in the bedroom... AT ALL. I was shocked. I was expecting some new moves. NOTHING. He watched porn everyday as well. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:54 PM
14

Such a good point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:51 PM
36

LOOOOOOOL 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:34 PM
26

Oh great, h3h3 and joji, the literal LVMs of the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:33 PM
23

100% this. Relationship status should be confirmed within 3 months. That's long enough to know whether you want to be exclusive with someone. A man who has issues with labels is "unripe" and not a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:30 PM
12

Please do. It was lifechanging for me. It affirmed everything I was feeling about my lessons learned from dating, life, FDS and the real intentions in the word of God. Sit down with your fav tea and unwind to it later this evening. It's worth every minute. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:55 PM
14

Of course he looks like a lazy Homer Simpson dusty. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:50 PM
32

Absolutely loved reading this. I'm not strictly Christian but it was one of the many religions I was surrounded by growing up. There is sadly so much wisdom in ancient scriptures that have been twisted to benefit LVM. My favorite part of your writing was: "Don't move in with him, don't wash his underwear, don't cook his meals, don't have his children and don't give him all of your commitment until he puts a ring on that finger. This isn't to protect a woman's sacred virginity to make her holy an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:43 PM
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This is why FDS is so important. We don't want women in situations like this. LVM protest about our sub but only because it benefits them getting away with shady gaslighting shit like the above. They don't want women to wake up and realise the manipulation that's been put on them by LVM. They can just fuck off. 🖕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 01:27 PM
72

It's not just the male gaze, it's the porn gaze, it's the sex object gaze. It's the lose your humanity and become the best wank tool for LVM gaze. No thanks. 🙅🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:57 PM
23

He's literally looking for a free prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 12:54 PM
61

Porn feels like a massive ad for the prostitution industry. It discourages romantic, meaningful sex (reducing desire and normality of its direct powerful competitor: pairbonding sex between a husband and wife/loving couple). It encourages meaningless, degrading, emotionless sex (increasing demand for more degrading porn and its IRL parent industry: prostitution, where all the sex is meaningless and degrading, where women are just commodified sex objects/masturbation tools to nut with). It's a fu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:34 AM
21

What a breath of fresh air! Great to hear! 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:28 AM
6

My college ex told me I looked like a pornstar he watches and in my pickmeisha days I took it as a compliment. 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:19 AM
8

This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:15 AM
14

I think r/fightthenewdrug and r/antipornography might have a few citations in their sidebars or stickied posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:55 AM
62

Let me guess, what did the comments say? 😂 "You need to communicate"? "Men have needs, at least he's not acting on it." "He's doing it through VR, it's not real cheating." Fuck porn addicts and their brainwashed apologists. 🖕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:40 AM
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