Avoid throuples, open relationships, ENM, etc. These people are not your friends. They are definitely not your partners. And they will throw you to the curb the moment things get sticky. They’re just using your body.

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-07-16T16:46:30+00:00

And that’s why it’s a terrible idea to be a free sex toy for a couple with a failing marriage.

EarthKveik · 2021-07-16T15:06:25+00:00

Of course he's still trying to fuck her. Him and his missus has members of her family harassing her, and he still thinks he's entitled to his dick appointment 🙄. These men are truly scum.

1Here4Bach · 2021-07-16T17:11:50+00:00

Swingers are so weird. I was almost propositioned by a couple in a club once. I noticed how they kept staring at me from the other side of the club and the husband causally whispering in his wife’s ear. After like 30 minutes the wife approached me and started flirting I looked behind her and saw her weird ass husband looking at us and smirking and I knew exactly what it was. I shut that shit down so quick. They just gave off a creepy, predatory vibe.

parabenprincess · 2021-07-16T21:05:06+00:00

Polyamory is a shit-show, case in point. The only time I’ve seen it work somewhat cohesively is with gay male relationships. 9x/10 it’s a disaster waiting to happen.

No sympathy from me… this is what happens when you fuck with married people… poly or not. Married ppl should be off-limits period. Of course they’ll throw her under the bus, she’s just their disposable plaything. They’re a married couple. She means nothing to them.

GingeroftheDead · 2021-07-16T21:01:14+00:00

What is it about mediocre sex that makes people put themselves through such dramatic and tumultuous situations? Go home and masturbate, it's much less work and misery then whatever the fresh hell this is???

arnezuara · 2021-07-16T15:33:21+00:00

I bet his wife didn’t even want this throuple entanglement in the first place.

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-07-16T16:14:27+00:00

Hmmmm.... What do you bet the wife was convinced/conned into this "open" relationship?

localgirlcult · 2021-07-16T22:02:32+00:00

Interesting how it's usually another woman in an open relationship with a straight couple. Btw lmao, open relationships aren't real. You don't have a marriage at that point and I HOPE you didn't spend a lot on the wedding because this shit is a bust. This being ethical is a lie as clearly shown by him trying to go behind his "wife's" back. It's tough calling them husband and wife tbh, this shit is nothing. It's usually males married to pushovers who they manipulate into this. I hope the divorce comes soon because it's just tougher when you keep dragging out something that's already dead.

As for the other one's reputation. I mean...oh well. You thought misogyny was over and ethical stepping out on a marriage was a thing? Not on this planet.

thrway01010 · 2021-07-16T16:44:22+00:00

I just saw a girl lament how difficult it is to be poly because she's no one's "main" person. She said she wants to get married and have someone to go home to but she's in relationships with men who are all married "and stuff" and she is not romantically or sexually involved with any of the women hmmm. The stupidity, I just can't. She was actually upset that it's ultimately unfulfilling to be a side piece to multiple men who don't give a shit about you, who only want their dicks wet and then leave. Married men who go back home to their wives and "boyfriends" who don't want to commit to you and have a future together. She's wasting her time and energy on these men instead of looking for an actual relationship, and also risking her health by fucking men who fuck around. Then she kept saying how she's definitely not dissatisfied and loves them all etc. but she felt bad always being the second in her "relationships"...

Never read about poly stuff and thought that it's not messy and toxic idea.

oceanstains · 2021-07-16T17:02:53+00:00

This is so fucked up and GROSS

AutomaticNopeMachine · 2021-07-16T21:12:21+00:00

Some misogyny right there, blaming the other woman while the man is portrayed as dumb innocent controlled-by-dick. Did the sister even ask if she knew he was married before bashing her via texts?

lilac-hiraeth · 2021-07-16T15:54:02+00:00

My 17 year relationship was mutually non monogamous from the first day. Never again! The drama, the endless “boundaries conversations”, living such separate lives for the thrill of new ass and new love and new relationships which all amounted to absolutely nothing positive in almost two decades.

Falling in love with men you can’t be with. Having men fall in love and not being able to get rid of them. Having women fall in love with your partner and threaten to get pregnant by him. Women stalking you because they’d be a better partner and want you gone.

The physical, emotional, spiritual abuse from your husband and fuckboys, the racism, the misogyny, the stalking, the arguments, the other women, the finances, the jealousy, the scheduling, the romantic competition, no, no, no. It’s strictly pacifiers because you’re unhappy in your relationship. Open and poly relationships create more misery and risk than it could ever make up for.

Ive been in enough relationships to never need another except the one that really matters and that’s the one with myself. My open marriage was his ticket out of the marriage since he had to groom a “cash cow” (his words) to finance his bounce out, the only good thing it ever did me. When he found the woman who agreed to buy him out of the marriage my husband ramped up his physical abuse as well.

Open/poly relationships were a very real threat to my life. Being with many women made my husband value me less and he abused me in every way. The men outside my marriage were just as risky. I’ve been involved with prolific gang members without ever knowing until way too late (I’m a “mob wife for life” whether I like it or not). My ex boyfriend proposed, gave me a diamond ring and said “when I come back for you, I expect you to be ready.” I can never outrun that threat. That will never go away because of who he is…but I didn’t know, until it was all too late. The ring sits ready in a box, always known where it is in case he does show up and demands something of me. He may want to take it back or he may try to enforce it. I just will never know. It is a constant reminder of how liberal feminism has chained me until he dies or I do. His marital status doesn’t matter, I was the mistress all along in the end. His wife had moved away for work, she was an unknown to me. When I say I’m a “mob wife”, I mean they have us literally lined up for when/if their marriages fail. People I don’t know, know me. When I moved to a new house, he knew and congratulated me even though we’ve been in no direct contact for 3.5 years. He has eyes.

Ive had men rape me, pull knives, try to pimp me out, strangle me, make horrific racist comments. I’ve had men cheat on their wives with me. I’ve had men invoke violence against other men because of these relationships with me. The only time I felt safe and respected when I was the mistress of the most dangerous man. So that’s telling. The only time I feel safe from men is when I’m with a man who other men feared. All this hassle…for what?! Because some granola crunching hippy bitch husband thought free love was the height of enlightenment?! Ha!

These men, all seemingly nice and sweet until they weren’t. Sex and love are not play things, it can turn into a real blood sport at the drop of a hat, it’s why so many women get murdered by their partners, so what are we adding more partners for? The real life consequences can be very very serious. I’m lucky as all hell I made it out alive, especially because the demographics for Indigenous women being killed by men is abhorrent without me adding fuel to the fire.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-07-16T17:27:34+00:00

So when are they all going to come out and admit that polyamory is just about the man cheating right in front of your face instead of behind your back?

lilac-hiraeth · 2021-07-16T20:31:57+00:00

If you play it right like my soon to be ex husband, you too can spend $5000 saving his abusive ass from his full time working, sole owner of the house, good community connected and respected wife who pays for all the private schooling for the kids and who’s family funded every single trip across the country while letting him bang other chicks for funsies!

Hahaha. Fuck me!

ello-motto · 2021-07-16T15:39:25+00:00

Porn sick losers.

I bet his wife didn't even want this. She just wanted to be the "cool girl" and appease her man's sexual dysfunctions from his porn exposure and addiction. Perhaps she's pornsick herself.

All of this is so cringe. None of these scenarios would be entertained if it wasn't for the normalization of porn, and the way porn has hijacked what are normal human relations between people.

Thanks to porn, humans are just masturbatory devices. Nothing more than a sentient fleshlight to get another fix of the porn-induced orgasm drug.

MyLifeIsWandsXIII · 2021-07-16T22:52:52+00:00

Honestly I just can't feel bad for people that involve themselves in stuff like this and at the end face the consequences. Throuples, polyamory, and open relationships never end on a good note.

Reception_Queasy · 2021-07-16T18:26:37+00:00

No disrespect but Poly and open relationships are just stupid. Honestly I find the whole FWB thing stupid too. Low Standards. Low Standards.

Also, did anyone tell OP to post everything on social media with proof. You don't throw away people no matter what. They have to deal with the consequences.

_electrafire · 2021-07-16T18:23:31+00:00

This is so fried I can’t

queenofswordsxxx · 2021-07-16T16:15:32+00:00

This feels like some Jeffrey-Epstein-Ghislaine-Maxwell ‘take a young girl in to use and abuse’ situation. BIG YUCK.

mscristalconnors · 2021-07-16T19:33:46+00:00

You’re a 🤡 if you do this. What benefit does a married/partnered man give you?

skyfullofstars89 · 2021-07-17T11:42:57+00:00

I felt sad reading this. I relate to both the wife and the OP. I have let men use me, and been Cool Girl who loves casual sex and never gets feelings - ew.

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-07-17T11:02:23+00:00

Am I the only one who's also enraged by the family's behavior? Those 3 CNM clowns aside, you can't just blow up a stranger's phone, let alone based on an assumtion. This is stalking. OP got to put her foot down.

excusemeILY · 2021-07-17T12:50:12+00:00

I mean… you got into a shitty situation and you are surprised that it stinks? What else were you expecting? Sorry, but I have no sympathy for this type of people (which includes her and the couple)

bioqueen53 · 2021-07-17T12:30:48+00:00

In all my years, I've seen one very large poly relationship where it's something like two women and multiple men?

The red flags abound. One woman is in a relationship with a man that looks like her dad. The other is in a relationship with another woman's husband. They've all posted on social media about leep procedures and cervical cancer. Of course you're going to get high risk HPV sleeping with that many people. 🤦‍♀️

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