Have you guys heard of The Body Language Guy on YouTube? He has a video about Gabby and her abuser that you guys should check out https://youtu.be/E9J0Oz47PAs
Yes can’t stand how they gaslit her either as a cRaZy, “eMoTiOnAl” woman
Their accounts of what happened differed and instead of noting that he could be lying the conclusion the cop jumped to in the report after noting the difference in stories was- “She is clearly confused and emotional*”. In other words, not seeing things properly and obviously miSpErCeiViNg what happened because crazy woman so emotional. The discrepancy couldn’t possibly be him being a fucking liar in addition to being an asshole abuser and general bald little circus clown
Of course she was upset. He grabbed her by the face and physically assaulted her. People act like a womens being upset automatically makes her cRaZy and incorrect.
Of course you’re upset if you’re being abused. It doesn’t make what you’re saying wrong or nutty or uncredible just because you’re angry, sad or crying. Those or natural reactions to having someone lock you out your own van and hit you on the face/ slap you, which we have now have witness accounts and a 911 call verifying that did indeed happen
One gripe- the body language expert says generally at the end- that “they had a toxic relationship”. I hate for that term to be used because it makes it sound like both parties are actively involved and equally responsible for the toxiticity. What they had was an abusive relationship with him as the abuser and her as the victim. Using his unfair power advantage over her, physically/ life experience wise etc, to beat up on her. The evidence of this is who is still alive and who is not. But it shouldn’t have taken her lifeless body to see that.
I don’t believe in calling relationships where men are behaving emotionally or physically abusively to the women as merely tOxIc, which implies it’s everyone’s fault. The language needs to change. Put the blame where the blame is due. Saying it’s abusive at least heavily implies it’s the man misusing his power against the woman in disgusting ways which is 90% of the time- the actual reality
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Yes can’t stand how they gaslit her either as a cRaZy, “eMoTiOnAl” woman
Their accounts of what happened differed and instead of noting that he could be lying the conclusion the cop jumped to in the report after noting the difference in stories was- “She is clearly confused and emotional*”. In other words, not seeing things properly and obviously miSpErCeiViNg what happened because crazy woman so emotional. The discrepancy couldn’t possibly be him being a fucking liar in addition to being an asshole abuser and general bald little circus clown
Of course she was upset. He grabbed her by the face and physically assaulted her. People act like a womens being upset automatically makes her cRaZy and incorrect.
Of course you’re upset if you’re being abused. It doesn’t make what you’re saying wrong or nutty or uncredible just because you’re angry, sad or crying. Those or natural reactions to having someone lock you out your own van and hit you on the face/ slap you, which we have now have witness accounts and a 911 call verifying that did indeed happen
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One gripe- the body language expert says generally at the end- that “they had a toxic relationship”. I hate for that term to be used because it makes it sound like both parties are actively involved and equally responsible for the toxiticity. What they had was an abusive relationship with him as the abuser and her as the victim. Using his unfair power advantage over her, physically/ life experience wise etc, to beat up on her. The evidence of this is who is still alive and who is not. But it shouldn’t have taken her lifeless body to see that.
I don’t believe in calling relationships where men are behaving emotionally or physically abusively to the women as merely tOxIc, which implies it’s everyone’s fault. The language needs to change. Put the blame where the blame is due. Saying it’s abusive at least heavily implies it’s the man misusing his power against the woman in disgusting ways which is 90% of the time- the actual reality
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