For the men: do you find introverted women or extroverted women more attractive?

WestsideMoonWalker · 2021-10-18T00:41:59+00:00

I'd only ever want to be in a relationship with someone who is more introverted. Extrovert energy tires me out quickly.

Expensive-Guitar3609 · 2021-10-18T00:33:01+00:00

I like women who like me. If she's extremely introverted to the point that it's hard for her to show me she's reciprocating my intrest, then may be I'll pass. I'm really bad at reading mixed signals.

As for the extroverted girls, they have a cool vibe and are pretty much stright forward with their intentions. If I think too much about this, suppose she's super extroverted and flirts with everybody, then I may hit it once or twice but I'm not considering taking things further than that. Actually happened to me a few times.

Other than extreme cases, I don't care. If she likes me and I like her then we can make it work.

NockerJoe · 2021-10-18T01:22:18+00:00

The issue is that introverted women are harder to find. I've never had an issue dating an introverted woman but if you'rr out wanting to date, the girl who's at home isn't an option since you never meet.

wtknight · 2021-10-18T00:35:48+00:00

I'm very introverted myself and extroverted women drain my own energy, so I prefer introverts. I wouldn't like it if they wanted to be on their own so much that they didn't want to spend much time around me, though.

Barely-moral · 2021-10-18T00:42:48+00:00

I find introverted women more attractive. Also, they are harder to find so lets not forget that it will be waaay easier to meet an extroverted woman I am attracted to than an introverted one.

Abstract_Knight · 2021-10-18T00:31:33+00:00

Extroverted women... i'm not sure why, maybe is because i usually can't socialize easily, so we can help each other with this issues.

2021-10-18T00:47:06+00:00

Introverted, but extroverted is fine too if they don't expect me to go to every single function with them. I have no problems leaving my partner to their own devices. If they're independent and extroverted and like spending a lot of time with their friends then it's fine with me.

social_mule · 2021-10-18T01:46:41+00:00

I'm an introvert and have always preferred introverted women. Extroverts in general, regardless gender, drain every drop of energy from me. They're just too much.

BluePsychosisDude2 · 2021-10-18T03:06:16+00:00

More introverted, generally, but it depends. I used to find super shy girls the most attractive, but as I got a little older I like women that can kind of handle themselves and contribute to a conversation. I still really, really dislike super loud annoying women though, but I don't really like those kind of guys either.

RepresentativeSwan1 · 2021-10-18T01:11:43+00:00

Introverted women are probably a much lower cheat risk so I'd prefer an introverted woman.

GuitarsBack · 2021-10-18T00:35:39+00:00

Introverted.

My best platonic female friends on the other hand were extroverted.

2021-10-18T02:21:57+00:00

At this point, any woman will do. As long as she’s still breathing.

TheJim66 · 2021-10-18T01:08:37+00:00

Introverted women are gods gift to man.Less attention seeking, less likely to cheat, not as high maintenance, usually better characters.

I lean introvert although I wouldn't say too hard.

DeliciousPussyNectar · 2021-10-18T01:25:49+00:00

Extroverted because I’m more introverted and I like being brought out of my comfort zone.

ahandtoyourdarknessx · 2021-10-18T03:26:17+00:00

Introverted women, I don’t like loud people

chilikettlechips · 2021-10-18T03:55:25+00:00

Introverted 'cause that's what I am.

Simpboy555 · 2021-10-18T01:45:12+00:00

Women already have to put in so much to be socially accepted. How extroverted she can be is her choice.

AggroWeasel · 2021-10-18T01:46:31+00:00

I find hot women attractive. Introversion or extroversion is irrelevant.

TheBookOfSeil · 2021-10-18T00:38:49+00:00

No preference. As long as they are mature and can communicate on their own without waiting for me to ask them what's wrong or read their mind, we can make it work.

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-10-18T01:18:03+00:00

I'm pretty introverted my damn self so as somewhat of a balance a woman who's slightly extroverted like my girlfriend is works for me not saying she has to be 10 out of 10 on the extraversion scale but six or seven out of 10 is okay

Fusiontron · 2021-10-18T01:22:48+00:00

I'm about 60/40 E/I so I'd prefer a woman who is about 40/60 E/I.

There is something very inspiring about a woman working in solitude on her craft. The doing rather than talking about it portrays a certain favorable humility.

OTOH I have no problem being the more outward vocal half of the pair but she should also be an active participant in our shared social activities.

2021-10-18T01:44:12+00:00

Probably introverted.

More likely to be a weirdo and weirdos are more interesting. lol

TheRedPillRipper · 2021-10-18T02:27:38+00:00

I’m an extrovert and my partner I’d say is more introverted. Dating either the primary factor is communication. For both parties. Whether you’re introverted or extroverted effective communication is half the battle won.

Godspeed and good luck!

Itrusttheinternett · 2021-10-18T04:29:38+00:00

I'm an introvert myself so introverted women are much more interesting to me. They are usually more thoughtful and have similar personalities to me.

Extroverts are mainly loud, and boring to me, for the most part.

2021-10-18T04:34:54+00:00

I’m an introvert with Asperger’s so obviously, I’d be more interested in dating another introvert. I wouldn’t mind trying to date ambiverts/extroverts though, so long as they’re not the hiker/try new foods type.

2021-10-18T10:43:11+00:00

Introverted women only for me. I can't stand extroverted people in general - I find them to be needy and exhausting.

Was in a relationship for 10 years with an extrovert. She was up at 5am every morning, and wanted to be out doing stuff until 11pm every night. And I had to be there at her side the whole time.

Even thinking back on that time in my life, I'm starting to feel drained.

Ohms2North · 2021-10-18T13:03:06+00:00

Which one has the bigger boobs?

2021-10-18T14:36:54+00:00

Well based on comments and demographic of reddit most of the answers are introverted women. I think similar personalities are more compatible in the long run so I would prefer an introvert. Ask this question for women and the answer surely will be extroverted men.

Bandit174 · 2021-10-18T00:43:37+00:00

Overall I prefer introverted women. I can relate to them more and find their energy more relaxing. Although sometimes I think a slightly more extroverted girl might balance me out which could in theory be good. Then another part of me wants to avoid extroverted women because I think they are more likely to have a high n-count and cheat. 🤷‍♂️

maplehobo · 2021-10-18T00:38:43+00:00

Every truly introverted women I know is either average, below average or uggo. I never met a hot introverted woman. Maybe that's why they are introverts in the first place. I know some hot 'reserved' women, but I wouldn't really call them introverts.

TryLambda · 2021-10-18T02:44:30+00:00

For most part, men find women that have low N count more attractive, introverted women types appear to be less slutty than extroverts, so most men that are looking for long term will go for them, short term they will sleep with anything.

rivetcitymayor · 2021-10-18T01:31:05+00:00

The one with the nicest ass

Insidious-Sid · 2021-10-18T02:26:02+00:00

Introverted because extroverted ones are all whores.

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2021-10-18T06:12:37+00:00

I like people who don’t make a big deal out of how extro- or introverted they are. Or who are largely unaware of it. People who can hang regardless of the situation they find themselves in. Basically, the switches of the intro/extro world. I want someone as okay with visiting my extended family overseas for a month and a half, where we’ll be closely surrounded by family the entire time, as they are with a month long vacation in nature, where we’ll barely see another soul.

drew8311 · 2021-10-18T06:29:04+00:00

Not sure, my other preferences greatly outweigh this.

passepar2t · 2021-10-18T06:33:41+00:00

I've dated both and they each have their charm.

odd_cloud · 2021-10-18T09:41:30+00:00

Both.

jasonology09 · 2021-10-18T11:26:59+00:00

I prefer a mix of both, kind of like me. I like a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, social, and can handle herself confidently in most situations, but also has no need or desire to be the center of attention.

A woman that's too introverted is difficult to bring around social settings. You spend the whole time that you both should be enjoying yourself worrying if they're ok. A woman that's too extroverted, that needs attention all the time, is just as difficult to be with, for obvious reasons.

Waddle_Dynasty · 2021-10-18T12:44:37+00:00

I am also introverted and so I find introverted women more reactive. It makes them more relatable.

SirTruffleberry · 2021-10-18T13:02:13+00:00

Introversion/extroversion only matters early in the dating phase anyway. Once a woman (or really anyone) gets comfortable with you, they will talk your ear off regardless of how they treat strangers.

xDankHorse · 2021-10-18T13:43:01+00:00

For the men: do you find introverted women or extroverted women more attractive?

I prefer extroverted because i'm a quiet guy so I like a girl who's outgoing because if both of us are quiet, how are we going to be able to get to know each other?

Pastelitomaracucho · 2021-10-18T15:38:41+00:00

I like women who love to socialize.

I do not like women who need the validation of others.

just_a_place · 2021-10-18T15:45:27+00:00

I find introverted women to be slightly more feminine so that is my preference.

I'm am introverted extrovert if that makes sense. I am not shy in the least but I much prefer being on my own but I also like being in groups of people of my own choosing.

Murphysmongoose · 2021-10-18T16:17:07+00:00

I'm indifferent, both tend to have their strong and frustrating points. I probably usually end up with more extroverted, b/c easier to get to talk to me.

S0mnariumx · 2021-10-18T19:15:48+00:00

Introverted. Something about it is cute

M3taBuster · 2021-10-18T19:57:19+00:00

I prefer introverted women. I just find quieter, more mild-mannered women cuter and more feminine.

Also, a big part of dating is "picking your poison", ie, choosing which flaws you can tolerate, because everyone human has flaws so you might as well pick one with flaws that don't bother you as much as they might bother other people.

For me, I'd rather deal with the flaws associated with excessive introversion, than those associated with excessive extroversion. The former being things like, taking more time and effort to take down their walls initially, their emotions being harder to read, maybe having to coax them into voicing their problems if you sense something is wrong, having to break them out of their comfort zone if you want to go out together and do new things, etc. The latter being things like, having a ton of friends (some of whom are probably other men), going to clubs and parties and being surrounded by temptations, getting drunk and passing out, etc.

manfrom-nantucket · 2021-10-18T22:07:15+00:00

Extroverted. Ain't no one got time to deal with shy people.

Senzatie3579 · 2021-10-18T22:56:50+00:00

Doesn't really matter. 66% hot, 33% nice and similar to me.

JALopo1 · 2021-10-19T06:23:02+00:00

Extroverted Stacey > all

Zerofication · 2021-10-19T06:41:50+00:00

Introverted women as they're more likely to be feminine.

bordstol · 2021-10-19T09:24:03+00:00

As long as they can show me who they are and can function in a social setting I don't care. I'm introverted, but I'm not retarded socially. I can talk to new people and have fun, I expect her to at least be able to do that.

Women tend to be more social than men though, and I think that's a fine dynamic. But you shouldn't be too far from each other.

2021-10-19T16:42:23+00:00

I prefer introverted women even though I'm extroverted. Why? Because a lot of times I just want to chill. Extroverted women sometimes always need something going on and that's exhausting.

decoy88 · 2021-10-20T08:21:14+00:00

Extroverted

hhhhhhikkmvjjhj · 2021-10-22T20:38:45+00:00

I find extroverted women hotter but I fall in love with introverted women, if that makes any sense.

Title	For the men: do you find introverted women or extroverted women more attractive?
Author	Big_Waffle_Lover
Upvotes	19
Comments	75
Date	October 17, 2021 9:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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