When you're in the predate vetting this is especially important. Men that start chatting with you and then just vanish are red flags. He won't tell you "goodnight" or let you know he's heading into work, he will just vanish, even in the middle of a convo, even if it's important.

He will resurface the next day with "sorry I feel asleep last night" and then circle back to small talk, disregarding the previous convo, unless you're the one to bring it back up. Or, he will act like nothing ever happened and not even acknowledge it. He will enter with a "good morning" or "how are you".

It's not only a red flag, but it's his first shit test. He wants to see if he can use the old vanish from the convo as a get outta jail free card in the future. Why? Men that just vanish then use it again down the line when something important comes up.

My friends all will say goodnight or let me know they're gonna go. It's a matter of respect. A man that is hoping to get with you should at least be able to say goodnight (especially in the highly impressionable pre-date /first date stages when he should be trying to impress you)

From my experiences, Men that do this have all been LVM. the ignoring the previous conversation completely and circling back to small talk really irks me too, when I'm in a good convo with someone I find it engaging and love discussing things especially things I'm passionate about- and him dropping that and simply saying "how are you" is a sort of way to shut me up - about my passions, dreams, intelligence, and ideas. It's him completely glancing over who I am and reducing me to a simple minded pickme who will go along saying "my day has been great, how are you?" Rather than picking up the convo about science or small business ideas.

There is no reason he can't say goodnight. He is not magically passing out as he types. He doesn't care. And if you date him and something happens where you actually need him - watch how he will vanish and have a shocked pickachu face as he says "sorry I just feel asleep, it never bothered you before!" 🤡