Don't be with man who is squeamish about women body

ExistentialJelly · 2022-02-25T20:34:54+00:00

This is so true. In the old days I let a guy make me sleep on the floor when I had my period as they grossed him out. Then I met my husband, I expected similar menstrual issues as every guy I had dated previously was weird about periods, so I thought all guys would be.

I went through a time where my period became super heavy and I couldn't use tampons or my cup, so I was stuck using pads.

Well, something shifted in the night and my husband woke me up to an absolute crime scene. The bed sheets were stained, he was covered all over his legs and lap. (He was the big spoon)

His reaction?

Told me to go shower as he spot treated with hydrogen peroxide and tossed it all in the laundry and then joined me in the shower. Gave me some iron supplements for the blood loss and asked if I wanted him to make me any comfort food of my choice. Then went about his work day.

Bodily functions (and malfunctions) happen, if someone can't handle it calmly and reasonably, then imagine how they handle other parts of life.

KetoKittenAround · 2022-02-25T20:54:31+00:00

Don’t let them shame you for what is you. The shame takes away our power to discuss and have confidence about our bodies. It’s so sad!

MissouriBlue · 2022-02-25T20:59:49+00:00

Story time:

My Father (HVM) and his wife once ate something bad. During the night, my Father got up and went to the master bathroom with stomach issues. His wife awoke and also needed the restroom, saw the MBA was occupied and scurried up the hallway to another restroom… not quite making it in time. She continued in to the restroom to use the facilities and hop in the shower to clean herself up.

When she came out of the restroom, she found my Father cleaning the carpet.

This is what you want.

Someone who sees something that needs addressed and takes care of what needs done with no prodding needed and no words of accusation and no squeamishness.

Simple, efficient handling of the situation.

edwardianemerald · 2022-02-25T21:24:56+00:00

I have a random theory that men who are squeamish about women's natural bodies (including body hair) are bad in bed. Any confirmation on this?

vforvendetta87 · 2022-02-25T21:44:28+00:00

One time I asked my ex to put chapstick on the skin between my nose and mouth because I get hay fever bad and it was all dry. The look he gave me before saying “No,” as if I asked him to wipe my ass made me feel gross about myself.

aurelia_86 · 2022-02-25T23:58:37+00:00

Red flags to look out for:

Grossed out by menstruation. Grossed out by any sight of menstrual products, blood etc.
Grossed out by body hair.
Grossed out by pregnancy. Doesn't want to hear about any of the physical changes that take place.
Grossed out by childbirth. Doesn't want to be there for the birth of his child. Doesn't want to hear anything about how it happens.
Grossed out by breastfeeding in public, expects women to breastfeed in a toilet rather than him having to see breasts being used in a non sexy way.
refuses to discuss contraception, sees it as your problem, says it turns him off. Punishes you by refusing to have sex after you insist on discussing condoms, withdrawal etc.
Grossed out by women's health issues i.e PCOS, endemetriosis etc.

Anything else??

Heather619 · 2022-02-25T23:03:48+00:00

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warinmymind94 · 2022-02-25T22:41:09+00:00

During vetting early on - see how he is about periods, if uou have a cold or even seasonal allergies or like a nosebleed - these are all things that happen - see how he responds. If he's grossed our my periods or any of these other things mentioned, if hes immature, if he isn't helpful or doesn't care - there is no way he will be able to cope and be there for you if you do get really sick or injured.

And for Pete sake if he can't handle a period or you having a cold do NOT give that man sex. There is no way he will be there for you as your body changes and heals from having the baby. There's too many awfully sad pathetic stories of the male suddenly not being attracted to his wife after the baby, just wanting sex, being grossed out, not caring how sore she is or calling her "destroyed" or "gross" "roast beef" "stretched out" "Long lips" etc

As always with vetting just let a man talk and listen. They often tell on themselves. If he starts mentioning an ex let him talk. Say no, it doesn't bother you, you'll listen. I did this recently and the guy ended up telling me what I thought would be about his foreign trip that his ex happened to be on when they were together- nope! He told me that she wanted sex (shocking lol when they were on this fancy vacation) and that her "pussy was weird with long lips" and looked like "roast beef" and he was "weirded out by her" and then proceeded to neg her telling her how "ugly" she was down there. I was horrified and deleted and blocked him immediately.

MamaGia · 2022-02-25T20:54:42+00:00

On another sub a person asked what would you do if you were on vacation with your male partner and got your period?

I responded - I'd do nothing different, and what kind of question is this?

Women told tales of scheduling events (weddings, vacations, parties) around their periods (and made it clear it was due to menstrual fluid, not health concerns associated with periods such as cramps, etc) many women remarked that special days (sex days) were "ruined" despite their very careful planning (which often involves taking medication to stop bleeding)

Women were responding negativity to me, and accusing me of being anti woman and judging women who don't like period sex. Of course I wasn't judging women, rather asking them to think critically why they don't like period sex.

They countered with saying you need to have special consideration to period "fluids", and I asked if they gave as much consideration to semen fluids? How interesting that one fluid needs consideration and another doesn't.

To this day it remains my most downvoted comment thread.

RhiannonEmilia · 2022-02-26T16:53:46+00:00

I told a guy I dated that I was in pain and not feeling well because I was on my period and he said that he did not need to know that. I said, “So you like talking about my vagina all the time but my period grosses you out?” He said he just didn’t need to know, and that it would be like him telling me every time he took a shit. I cannot make this shit up. I can’t believe that I continued to date him after that.

katiekat0214 · 2022-02-26T14:48:10+00:00

Jack always said, it's just the body. I loved that open, judgment-free, compassionate acceptance that bodies malfunction, we repair them and keep them in repair as best we can. We are all aging. We are all going to die. It really is just the body. Be with a man who thinks this way. Any other attitude, they will ghost when you get even a little sick, much less have anything life-threatening.

Vaahla · 2022-02-26T15:02:16+00:00

“If he can’t handle me at my worst, he doesn’t deserve me at my best”

I know people hate that quote, but I still apply it to the vagina lol. If you can’t handle her worst (ie buying tampons or pads, talking about bodily functions, taking care of me during PMS) you don’t deserve her at her best (sex, obviously lol).

I guarantee you I’m going to have to clean up your bodily fluids at some point in our relationship, you can damn well handle mine with grace.

myfdsonlyaccount · 2022-02-26T01:35:42+00:00

Seeing a lot of comments about men being grossed out by periods, but I just want to add that please also be wary of men who are overly empathetic about periods.

A man I dated would always turn into a completely different, extra kind and loving person whenever I was on my period. But he was so generous that he'd do the same for his other female friends too 😐. He'd even keep track of all of their cycles. And the same man would give 0 shits whenever I was sick with anything else. Fortunately, our relationship didn't last long, but I've always wondered what that was all about.

Title	Don't be with man who is squeamish about women body
Author	slayeroftruth
Upvotes	955
Comments	61
Date	February 25, 2022 8:18 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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