Girlfriend gave this to me during a mutual breakup, to me this is what seduction is all about.

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-08-25T21:58:09+00:00

Leave them better than you found them.

gzupan · 2013-08-25T22:30:27+00:00

Yep going through the same thing. The good thing is you will be friends first lovers second. You can have many lovers but good friends are better than diamonds. To make an impact like that on a girl you should be a proud man.

itsmevichet · 2013-08-25T23:18:25+00:00

When you get good at this stuff, you become the standard by which subsequent men get judged.

ski-tibet · 2013-08-25T22:08:01+00:00

I hear people talking about mutual breakups. My ex and I had a mutual breakup because I moved a couple states away. What was your breakup like? If you don't mind me asking.

Leave them better than you found them.

Mo2thefo · 2013-08-26T00:53:28+00:00

wow I feel successful if I can keep a conversation going for a while and then this post reminds me what a long road I still have ahead of me. I don't think I will ever be able to fulfill another person this way.

budguy68 · 2013-08-25T23:40:08+00:00

Its hard for guys to start relationships with girls

Its hard for girls to keep a guy.

zZPPBTOZz · 2013-08-26T00:22:34+00:00

Same thing happened to me a year ago. Now we don't even look at eachother.

tieyopp · 2013-08-26T04:42:31+00:00

Special?

ChrisVolkoff · 2013-08-25T22:51:30+00:00

This is exactly what I'm aiming for.

I want to stay friends with her and always be a person she will like and talk to, sometimes. I want to have a special place in her heart, because she has a very special place in mine. I want to help her get to know what she deserves, what she wants, what she likes, who she is, etc. I want our story to be a very good memory in both of our minds.

Coincidentally, my relationship lasted (about) 7 months.

rainman18 · 2013-08-26T07:20:49+00:00

That's some private shit man. Better to leave that inside.

AJam · 2013-08-26T12:43:18+00:00

and now you can re-DENNIS that chick any time you want! It's brilliant!

mussskitz · 2013-08-26T12:59:26+00:00

That message doesn't sound at all like she wanted to break up with you? Maybe it's just me...

Crotalus · 2013-08-26T03:18:12+00:00

... and then you post this intensely personal item for all to see. Yikes.

2013-08-26T14:34:27+00:00

mutual. my ass.

FluidHips · 2013-08-26T02:10:42+00:00

I don't get what seduction has to do with the note.

mykart · 2013-08-26T00:00:29+00:00

This is unrelated to seduction because I would have plenty of amicable breakups like this even before I knew what the hell I was doing.

BerriesNCreme · 2013-08-26T02:22:27+00:00

I've only had one mutual break up and its because she had to leave for college. I remember her crying and I started consoling her, afterwards I I was like why did I just console someone who broke up with me but we remained friends and see each other whenever she comes to town as friends....the rest of them yea they're all crazy

Barncore · 2013-08-26T06:49:52+00:00

Why did you guys break up then?

NoNickNameJosh · 2013-08-26T15:17:54+00:00

This isn't seduction.

CoolLordL21 · 2013-08-26T15:29:56+00:00

I had this sort of thing happen to me too. It's what made me realize I had to get BACK to seduction. BTW...don't be surprised if she has a new bf shortly. My ex said the same sorts of things, she'll never forget things, I was a great friend, etc. And after being together for almost four years, she had a new bf only a couple of months after the breakup. She never meant anything she said about our friendship. You guys were only together 7 months? I doubt you know her better than anyone else.

Sorry to be a downer but that's most likely the truth of the matter. Accepting it for what it is is the first step to moving on.

2013-08-26T01:04:56+00:00

Seduction?

2013-08-26T01:13:41+00:00

Higher level of being.

thegreatbrah · 2013-08-26T04:55:09+00:00

Your breakup wasnt mutual...

erikangstrom · 2013-08-26T01:08:54+00:00

That's so beautiful. And the reason for the break up is understandable. Perhaps you will get to be together again one day.

peggyhill45 · 2013-08-25T22:58:43+00:00

did you break up because of her poor penmanship?

2013-08-25T23:30:56+00:00

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Vranak · 2013-08-26T04:03:00+00:00

Seduction? Seems to me she's mostly just being honest... with a slight measure of head games thrown in for good measure.

Falc7 · 2013-08-26T08:08:59+00:00

This is one thing I don't quite get. If you were both that special to each other, you would have worked through the hardships and made it work. However because staying together was too inconvenient (you cant spend lots of time with each other ect) you decided that the easier thing to do would be breakup, because she wasn't special enough to make up for the difficulties. Thus I cant see whats really touching.

queefawngelo · 2013-08-26T02:38:37+00:00

This man gets it.

DomoArigatoMr_Roboto · 2013-08-26T03:20:20+00:00

Goddamit, I want to be like you. I will try!

NightforceOptics · 2013-08-26T03:27:00+00:00

It's funny, I treat my girlfriend how I view "normal" and she feels like a princess and is always talking about how I'm so sweet and caring. Just wait until I actually try.

It's simple. Show respect, be extremely patient, don't argue and give them a little love once on a while. Simple.

In10sity · 2013-08-26T03:55:02+00:00

Just ended a 7 years relationship, I have this exact feeling about our experience and I'am sure she feels the same.

Your ex just expressed it perfectly.

There is the shallow seduction and there is this, being a driving force for the better in the lives of others.

Mooninites7 · 2013-08-26T04:49:50+00:00

I hope to some day have a relationship as deep and intimate as this

TheToeSnail · 2013-08-26T04:58:23+00:00

The first half seems really nice, and then the second half seems like she wrote it while crying.

Nothing about your breakup was mutual, broham.

2013-08-26T05:03:44+00:00

My ex and I are the exact same way. We still keep in touch and his parents sometimes leave sweet comments on my Facebook. I learned that relationships are for learning and if it ends, it doesn't have to end badly. We can thank each other for what we have learned after months of reflecting off of each other and then move on gracefully after we feel like it is time to pursue our newly refined interests.

Drwildy · 2013-08-26T05:08:46+00:00

I remember these words. Then she married her old 2 year ex(Edit: a month later) and told me we're not really friends anymore because we haven't talked. Wut

2013-08-26T05:11:38+00:00

The most ironic part, is a much as girls complain about guys, usually it would be the guy saying this..at least that's what happened for me.

kmelkon · 2013-08-26T05:44:27+00:00

I'm thinking about sending this to my ex gf now ...

TheStarkReality · 2013-08-26T07:55:25+00:00

Hah, weird. My ex gave me something similar, except she dumped me the day I went on holiday over skype, claimed to be really torn up, and then made a bunch of ex-boyfriend jokes on Facebook.

theCHAMPdotcom · 2013-08-26T10:58:30+00:00

cool, if it were me though i would have to sever ties until i had significantly less emotional investment, its too hard being around ex's when there is a possibility of other dudes moving in.

SiliconVallley · 2013-08-26T11:37:16+00:00

redditready1986 · 2013-08-26T11:43:05+00:00

I just dont understand? I really dont. Maybe i still have some serious maturing to do but i was always taught and i always believed that if you feel for someone the way she put in that note that she feels for you, that you fight for them and try not to let them go unless they are significantly better without you. Im confused???

Edit: spelling

switch50 · 2013-08-26T15:15:07+00:00

Not only is OP a Gentleman but he found a quality girl.

elmariachi304 · 2013-08-26T16:34:59+00:00

You are far more emotionally mature than I, my friend.

figyg · 2013-08-26T18:29:08+00:00

I'm glad I read this. I needed to be reminded that relationships can end on good terms. Have an upvote!

2013-08-26T19:20:39+00:00

*Ex-girlfriend

anhtice · 2013-08-26T19:48:01+00:00

She sure us speacil

DuckTech · 2013-08-26T19:48:04+00:00

Dat D...

khyberchef · 2013-08-27T06:24:52+00:00

My ex gave me almost the exact letter and we went out for only 7 months.

fragglemook · 2013-08-26T12:23:41+00:00

This is a load of bullshit and totally arrogant to think you know what is best for others. I've seen guys behave like this. They get them to enrol in an airy fairy class at night school, "follow their dreams/passion", they get them to move halfway across country to a dead-end town, they get them to help out with a business. They give advice on how to behave with their family and what to think.

They get their women to do all sorts of shit that the guy thinks is good for them because they don't want to simply be honest with these women and say it was just a brief sexual fling they were having and now they are going to turn their attention to other things.

What level of conceited manipulation has OP engaged in just to get his end away? I'm sure Mahatma Gandhi would have spent more time fucking and less time helping her.

What a nauseating feelgood circlejerk seddit has turned into. I suppose it's no suprise given the mods have tried to turn it into a commercial endeavour.

First of all this shit belongs in /r/relationships! Second of all, not only is this kind of shit arrogant, but allowing it on seddit as "seduction" advice is only setting the stage for ten thousand beta orbiters to learn how to orbit ten times better.

DustyGoDucks · 2013-08-26T03:36:10+00:00

*Won't, *I'll, *You're, She's not over it.

jaasx · 2013-08-25T22:23:52+00:00

Why did you post this?

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ex0th3rmic · 2013-08-25T23:52:12+00:00

Thank you. This is just... beautiful

2013-08-25T23:24:52+00:00

Can tell if OP is asshole or onto something.... Will lurk sub more and update.

ieatfood · 2013-08-25T23:11:11+00:00

This is literally the opposite of what seduction is all about...

Beartoes1 · 2013-08-25T23:52:59+00:00

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9987 · 2013-08-26T13:43:29+00:00

7 months! Man that must have felt like forever.

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Title	Girlfriend gave this to me during a mutual breakup, to me this is what seduction is all about.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1430
Comments	233
Date	August 25, 2013 9:33 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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