Stating that things are "the bare minimum" is just a way to get out of being grateful.

parduscat · 2025-05-09T22:27:33+00:00

I don't really get what the girl in the TikTok wants. My parents are effectively obligated to love me by both instinct and society, but I'm still supremely grateful for their love and support. The hypothetical boyfriend she's describing seems to take a girl on dates, pays for things, compliments her, etc., that's about what I'd expect a boyfriend to do.

But Gen Z has a worldview heavily shaped by social media to an extent that they really don't appreciate so maybe that's what's going on here.

ICtruthcity · 2025-05-09T21:38:28+00:00

Yep that's what Idealism is.

People be out here thinking, what is perfect, is a normality, what is the perfect partner, what is the perfect job, what is the perfect lifestyle, lower your standards, toughen up and realise dreams aren't reality unless you make them so.

Pola_Lita · 2025-05-09T22:58:17+00:00

She's not a very smart woman.

Crazy_Kray · 2025-05-09T21:17:38+00:00

Can someone explain the “feminist girlboss who expects her man to fill a traditionally masculine role” phenomena?

SamuraiGoblin · 2025-05-11T00:22:23+00:00

"Theoretically, I could take my trash to the city dump, therefore garbage men don't deserve to be paid."

Entitled people like that are going to have a very difficult life, unable to keep friends, unable to have a harmonious family life, unable to keep a non-toxic partner.

qwertyuduyu321 · 2025-05-09T21:14:07+00:00

Stating that things are "the bare minimum" is just a way to get out of being grateful.

Easy solution:

You and your friends face women whom you/they deem largely ungrateful?

Show them the could shoulder - make them improve (market discipline).

Men are complaining about things that are to a large extent within their control...

Sharp_Engineering379 · 2025-05-09T21:29:54+00:00

It’s the bare minimum for healthy people with any respect for others and a sense of community.

Someone who refuses to exhibit basic manners and small kindness unless he gets something in return is an antisocial jerk.

wheatgrass_feetgrass · 2025-05-09T21:17:23+00:00

Is someone forcing you to associate with people like this?

flipsidetroll · 2025-05-10T13:34:03+00:00

Yip. You are correct. Nothing to debate.

Zestyclose_Sugar4573 · 2025-05-13T13:56:35+00:00

Indications of someone who is spoiled and never appreciates anything that others do for them in life. Life is not fair in that the most undeserving usually get what the most deserving should be getting.

Jebaibai · 2025-05-13T14:12:50+00:00

If I do the same thing without an applause, then it is the bare minimum.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2025-05-09T21:29:31+00:00

I'm not gonna watch the video on principle, so I'm just gonna address the rest of the post - it's good to be grateful towards your friends and family, even if they didn't do anything truly exceptional. On the other hand, I'm not throwing anyone a party for being an okay friend/parent/partner. I'll appreciate their efforts, I'll reciprocate, but I'm not going to sing their praises. While some people are just looking for reasons to be ungrateful dicks to others, other people want to be treated like God's gift to humanity for being a decent enough person. Ideally, you should avoid both of these types of people.

pdoherty972 · 2025-05-10T13:52:48+00:00

And why is she entitled to anyone doing ANYTHING for her, even if those are things she could have done for herself? What a spoiled brat.

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Confident-Map-8726 · 2025-05-11T11:50:45+00:00

We lavished so much attention and remove so many barriers for the young, entitled, men and women of today.

I don’t blame them for having a warped sense of the world.

These are future adults, not perma-puppies

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-05-09T21:51:43+00:00

Men don’t thank me. Why should I thank them ?

OkFaithlessness2652 · 2025-05-10T13:06:39+00:00

Fantastic logic.

Minimum is a word she so struggles to understand she raised it by adding ‘bare’ to minimum.

Also fascinating that minimum levels get raised by good parents and great friends.

She is really killing it with romantic love that should be deeper. The single moms of Reddit would like a word here that their new BF maybe is not superior in terms of love to the kids.

Title	Stating that things are "the bare minimum" is just a way to get out of being grateful.
Author	KentuckyCriedFlickin
Upvotes	101
Comments	151
Date	May 9, 2025 9:03 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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