I think a lot of male specific anxieties arise when a man feels like he's second place in very important areas to a woman he's dating

wtknight · 2025-11-25T19:42:37+00:00

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Suddenfury · 2025-11-25T12:18:40+00:00

Lift. Each. Other. Up.

I promise though, if you're in a good relationship, you're not going to worry about these things. you'll be too busy having a great time together.

Axis_Control · 2025-11-25T06:27:03+00:00

That just sounds like she doesn't respect him honestly.

Solondthewookiee · 2025-11-25T07:08:03+00:00

Well the first thing to recognize is that there are aspects where you are not going to be the best she's ever dated, and vice versa. But obviously a partner throwing that in your face isn't ok and shouldn't be tolerated. But the question I'd have is if it bothers you because it's a rude, mean spirited thing to say or if it bothers you because it shatters the illusion that you were the best at everything she ever had?

Because the way a lot of dudes here talk, the latter is a much bigger factor for them.

TermAggravating8043 · 2025-11-25T06:54:28+00:00

It would be a horrible thing for anyone to find out your partner preferred their previously ones, and it would be an easily solve by telling them to go back to them.

That being said, it’s clear the Akaash is a perform meant to just get this reaction, it’s the red pill dream. Women are such slimy evil beings, they will never fully love or respect you.

If you ever actually listen to real woman’s conversations about their partners, their talking about problems they currently have, who (tf) remembers what you did with an ex to the point you compare it to all your next partners? It just doesn’t happen dude

Ranziel · 2025-11-25T08:17:41+00:00

But most guys will be second at something for a girl. Or third, or fifth. It's just inevitable, there is always a bigger fish. "At least she's with me right now and not those other guys" is only way to cope with things like that.

Outside_Memory5703 · 2025-11-25T06:35:23+00:00

Oh, so only women settle or have dated hotter people in the past?

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Green_Quiet1717 · 2025-11-25T06:43:32+00:00

I think many people have a more romanticised view on relationships than is healthy. When you make the mistake of prioritizing looks over character, this is what happens. It's not a gender specific thing.

y2kjanelle · 2025-11-25T12:59:49+00:00

I read your weird comments about requiring sexual favors. Men like this are easy to break because they never want to do the equivalent. I would never let a man like this near me because it’s coercive and insecure behavior… but in the event this happened, my response to him is below.

I will simply do the same thing. Baseline requirement will be a list or spreadsheet itemized by every gift, payment, and date he’s spent money on for every woman he’s ever dated or seen or paid for online (including porn, OF, any service including attention from a woman). He will then be expected to give me gifts of equivalent value any time I ask.

For every insecurity he has, I will create a similar structure to the one above for my own insecurities. Fair is fair.

berichorbeburied · 2025-11-25T06:00:52+00:00

What’s horrible about his situation

Is it APPEARS that he’s not even really having sex or sexual intimacy

And he’s just being used for his money and in return he’s recieving “love” (whatever the fuck that means). And he’s ok with it because he’s in love with her

But it’s clear on the outside looking in. That she’s not horny for him and that she doesn’t really find him attractive. Nor really wants to have sex with him.

So on the outside looking in. It’s like the worst situation

Because he’s getting nothing valuable out of it. He just comes off as stupid and naive

On top of the fact that she’s not even that attractive

It makes him seem like a loser

I know he has money and he has a family.

But as a man. You would think someone doing better in life. Would be smart enough to live better

He just seems like someone who has the means but lacks the wisdom and manliness

In another way. If he was poor he wouldn’t have the chance to be with her or even be in this situation

He should’ve understood that and made better decisions

He’s not acting like a man. He’s acting like a bitch

It’s his life

So idrc. But that’s going to be the main sentiment of men that lean towards masculinity

On top of the fact that he talks shit about other men’s relationships and how they are dumb for trying to avoid those type of things. And how he was so much smarter and didn’t need to do those things to have the “perfect” type of relationship

That’s also a factor in why this is being spammed everywhere

Nobody wants his life or his wife

If they could choose the type of woman and situation they’d be in

mourninganarchist · 2025-11-25T06:00:13+00:00

I think Aakash's situation is what will happen to you if you were a lvm who made it big. while completely believing in blue pill.

Bluee pills life mission is to give a many outs as possible to women for any and all behaviours. we cannot should not assume the worst of women because thats misogynistic. Never mind that women do exactly that wrt men

He was raised to belive that men need to pursue. That men need to provide always. That expecting basic reciprocation is bad because having standards of your S. O. behavior as a man is "giving incel loser vibes"

He thinks his wifes behaviour is normal because he has never experienced a woman who is into him. so h3 accepts the little he gives and is thankfull for it

He is the ideal blue pill man for women.

A worker drone to make her life easier, while she given him crumbs of the love & affection compared to what she is capable of pretending that this is who she has always been and He is crossing boundaries by asking more. Anche will thank you for it.

Jasleen just happened to get the meal ticket of a life time

the sad thing is, you think being broke will save you from predation? lol

bitches will curve even broke men for funded pedicures, they could not give a fuck if he goes bankrupt over them. Findom becoming more mainstream is only gonna raise the average entitlement of women

things will not get better

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Disastrous_Agent9307 · 2025-11-25T11:25:02+00:00

I don't think this is exclusive to men.

I think it is probably normal to miss fucking around. I haven't done it myself, but I can see for a certain type of human it being fun, adventurous, connected with irresponsible youth, etc.

I'm married and I love it, but even I have days where I wonder what if or catch a glance at another handsome fella. Not because my husband isn't number one, but because I'm a human and not every day with him is all a bucket of sunshine because he's human too. Is it a lot of days? No, probably a few times a year, but I think it's pretty normal especially when you're married or dating a long time to wonder about the grass on the other side, especially when your grass is being a real pain in the tush.

And, I don't think it's wrong to share this with a close confidant if the mood strikes because we need a place to air out those feelings in order to help them dissipate and to humanize monogamy and get advice etc.

What's wrong here isn't her having these thoughts or feelings, it's her sharing them with the entire world in a way that humiliates her man. And only if he cares. If he doesn't care, it's just the rest of you projecting your own insecurities about the idea of a woman who loves you, but doesn't think you hung the moon...which newsflash, that will be every woman someday on some level. Because you're a person and your poop will stink.

Dialectic-Compiler · 2025-11-25T13:41:06+00:00

Yeah, it sucks and it hurts, but what is there to do about it? You can only really keep going and looking until you find someone you want that wants you as you want them. But it's worth noting that you may never actually luck out like that, and so you just need to find other things to make it worth it in the meantime.

Don't listen to any idiots that tell you to accept just being useful to someone; you're not a fucking draft animal and I hope you respect yourself more than that.

Potential-Item5629 · 2025-11-25T14:02:29+00:00

If you’re very worried about that the obvious solution would seem to be to try date a girl without much prior relationship experience and not generally considered attractive by other men and shower her with your love, attention and affection.

Gilmoregirlin · 2025-11-25T13:49:57+00:00

So you are okay if she thinks this so long as she does not speak it? What if she wrote it in a personal diary? You are never going to be the best at everything. There are almost always people in the past that were better than you at things and that goes for men and women. Maturity is realizing this .

happybaby00 · 2025-11-25T07:45:51+00:00

Funniest one was when she said she had to show a black guy the ropes and took his virginiity despite him having good game and was still better than what she experienced with her husband 😭

Scary-Mouse4817 · 2025-11-25T06:39:01+00:00

Or one that I've run into is my ex telling me she likes huge dicks when I'm not exact a pornstar here lol I mean that was just rude.

The sad part is that shes just being honest. Most women are too afraid to say. Even if they don't like how it feels, they like the status symbol

Title	I think a lot of male specific anxieties arise when a man feels like he's second place in very important areas to a woman he's dating
Author	SurroundWide447
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Date	November 25, 2025 5:47 AM UTC (7 months ago)
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